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In today's fast-paced and digitally driven world, many of us find ourselves constantly navigating between reality and the realm of fantasy. For some, this internal struggle can lead to addiction and compulsion, particularly in the context of pornography and romantic fantasies. Lacey, the founder and CEO of the Women United Recovery Coalition (WURC), sheds light on the unique challenges that women face in this regard and offers insights on how to break free from the allure of fantasy and regain a deeper connection with reality. Tune in The BTR.ORG Podcast and read the full transcript below for more.
Understanding Fantasy
Fantasy, in its essence, is a natural part of the human experience. It is our imaginative capacity that fuels creativity, innovation, and our desire to improve our lives. However, when fantasy becomes a distraction, a means of escape, or an unrealistic comparison to the real world, it can turn into a problem.
The Impact on Women
Lacey emphasizes that many women grapple with compulsive fantasies, often driven by societal pressures and perfectionism. She points out that when women are trapped in these fantasy worlds, it can have a significant impact on their lives and relationships. Expectations of perfection, both in personal appearance and the appearance of their lives, can lead to feelings of inadequacy, which can affect not only their emotional well-being but also their relationships with their children and partners.
Reconnecting with Reality
Breaking free from the shackles of compulsive fantasy is a challenging but rewarding journey. Lacey and Anne suggest that the first step is to recognize when you're trapped in the world of fantasy. Ask yourself tough questions, be curious about your behavior, and acknowledge when you're being judgmental or comparing yourself unfairly to others.
BTR.ORG Is Here For You
As you begin your journey to safety, we are here for you. Consider attending a BTR.ORG Group Session today.
Full Transcript:
Anne (00:00): I have Lacey with me today. She's the founder and CEO of Women United Recovery Coalition. The acronym is WURC. It's an organization dedicated to raising awareness of female pornography addiction, how fantasy feeds sex-based compulsions and women's unique recovery needs. She's been working with women in addiction and self-destructive compulsive behavior since 2000. And as an author, mentor, coach, and speaker Lacey focuses on releasing perfectionism and recovery while learning honesty and personal accountability. She's written articles and blogs for numerous magazines, women's recovery sites in the movement toward ending exploitation and fighting the harms of pornography. As a former hentai, which is sexualized anime user and a relationship and love addict, Lacey has seen firsthand the destructive patterns fantasy can cause individuals and families. She also knows from personal experience that fantasy is the root of the sex addiction tree. Her hope is to better inform people about the very vulnerable population of women and girls trapped in their own pornography usage and fantasy worlds and their compulsive sexual or relationship behaviors. So welcome, Lacey.

Lacey (01:15): Hey Anne. I'm glad to be here.
Women United Recovery Coalition
Anne (01:17): We've met at some of the anti pornography movement events and I'm grateful for the work that Lacey does. So what is Women United Recovery Coalition and why did you start it?

Lacey (01:28): Women United actually came out of my research at UVU and based on my own experience, so like you had mentioned, I used Hentai as a young woman and it really impacted my life, the way I saw myself, the way I saw men and relationships. Put those two things together. I realized that nobody was educating on the population of women and girls ...