Podcast episode 66 is titled Understanding, Jealousy, Gaslighting. I debate if understanding is more important than communication, Andrey wants to get into a deeper depth on jealousy, and Ryan wants to explore gaslighting.
Understanding, Jealousy, Gaslighting Outline
J Topic: Is Understanding More Important Than Communication?
I saw one of those social media posts the other day that made me think about this topic. I could not find it again, but basically it said that understanding is more important than communication in relationships. You can communicate with someone frequently, but sometimes people just don’t get it; they don’t understand. I’m sure some of you have encountered this before in personal relationships or worked related situations.
A prime example of this is the situation with Moby and Natalie Portman. Moby came out with a book “Then It Fell Apart.” In the book, Moby asserted that he dated Natalie. However, she vehemently denies this. Natalie stated that they hung out a few times, but never dated.
So was Moby friendzoned in this situation? The debate between “dated” vs “we hung out.”
Do you think that understanding is more important than communication in relationships?
The flipside of this is maybe one person is doing a poor job of effectively communicating what they need. Do you guys have any suggestions on how one can effectively tell someone what they need?
A Topic: I Do Not Think You Are Ready For This Jelly.
I want to follow up on last week’s discussion. We touched very briefly on jealousy and it seemed like we had differing opinions on what jealousy is and how acceptable it is. So I came up with a few more questions to see if we can cover a little more ground.
One of the blogs on the dating site, Zoosk, defines jealousy as the fear of losing something, while envy is the desire to have something that someone else has. Would you agree with this definition? Why or why not?
In last week’s episode, I mentioned that jealousy is rooted in insecurity. Do you believe that’s the case or are there some situations where jealousy is reasonable?
Is there any advice you would give to someone who knows they’re the jealous type but wants to stop?
R Topic: What Should I Do About Gaslighting?
Gaslighting is a frequently searched term on Google Trends. Gaslighting is manipulating someone psychologically by questioning their own sanity. I personally have not heard of this term until most recently. So after doing some reading and reflecting, I wanted the rest of the team to chime in on this topic:
Have you ever experienced gaslighting?
Why does it seem that men gaslight women than the opposite?
How would you deal with someone who gaslights you in the workforce?
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