Does the word "feminist" make you uncomfortable?
Feminism isn't hating men or demanding special treatment: feminism is simply the belief that women are equal to men and should be treated like human beings.
Misogyny and entitlement to women and their bodies is at the core of pornography, betrayal, and relational abuse.
Anne Blythe, founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery, meets with Tracy, a member of the BTR community. Tracy shares her powerful experiences and captivating research on feminism and trauma to empower women to find safety and healing. Listen to the free BTR podcast and read the full transcript below for more.
What Is Feminism, Really?
Understanding and living the truths of feminism, helps women to reclaim their right as equals who can and should be treated with respect at all times. Anne describes feminism:
Betrayal Trauma Recovery is a women’s empowerment organization, and to me, the word 'feminist' simply means that women have equal rights, that women are seen as human.Anne Blythe, founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery
How Does Misogyny Harm Women?
Culturally, feminists and feminism are frowned upon and even feared by many. Why? Because feminism simply isn't understood.
The harm that misogyny causes to women and children is real and devastating; when women are not treated as equal human beings, they are victimized by men through violence, betrayal, sexual abuse and coercion, and emotional abuse.
What Does Misogyny Look Like?
In today's society, misogyny doesn't necessarily mean that women aren't allowed to vote, or are forced to wear certain clothing (though this is a sad reality in some parts of the world). Instead, misogyny rears its ugly head in the victimization of women, and the appalling aftermath:
Women are not believed. Women are not taken seriously when they experience this extreme victimhood, they are blamed for it. There is no ability for women to find justice; if we talk about [the betrayal and abuse], they say we shouldn’t talk about it in that way. If we complain about it, they say we’re complaining about it too much. If we stay silent about it, they say we were in denial. Anne Blythe, founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery
Pornography Use, Sexual Coercion, Emotional Abuse: Misogyny
When women can effectively understand the truths of feminism, they are more clearly able to understand that pornography, sexual coercion, and other forms of abuse are anti-woman and are literally keeping women oppressed.
Anne explains that sexual betrayal, coercion, and other forms of relational abuse are an indicator of men's entitlement to and objectification of, women:
Men feel entitled to be able to use women’s bodies how they choose to and they don’t really have to answer to any other women for their sexual misbehavior or their compulsive sexual acts.