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episode 36: Igniting your inner voice and intuition. Lauren Jean's story on Inner Voice Facilitation and Rapid Transformational Therapy. [transcript]


Lauren Jean's is an Inner Voice Facilitator and Rapid Transformational Therapist. Her intuition has always pulled her to helping people. She helps women untangle their inner voice from their ego to live in a body they trust, have fun with  ease and joy in without self sabotage returning. She shares what her process looks like in her sessions and the benefits of inner voice work and RTT. She also gives tips on how people can get in tune with their inner voice and how to quiet down the ego.

Connect with Lauren Jean on IG: https://www.instagram.com/laurenjeansubconsciousy_stuff/

Email Lauren Jean: Laurenjeanivf@gmail.com
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 2021-06-08  1h7m
 
 
00:00  Lauren Jean
This is the path to
00:00
really trusting yourself, and
00:04
not letting your insane human
00:04
mind direct you because it's not
00:09
the minds job to lead your life,
00:09
it's the mind job to keep you
00:14
safe.
00:16  Melissa Bright
Welcome to the
00:16
bright side of life, a podcast
00:18
where people share their
00:18
personal stories of struggles,
00:22
pain and grief. But through all
00:22
of that, they are still able to
00:25
find the joys in life.
00:46
Hello, everyone, and welcome to
00:46
this week's episode of the
00:50
bright side of life. I am, of
00:50
course, your host, Melissa
00:54
Bright. And today on the show, I
00:54
have Lauren gene, who is an
00:59
inner voice facilitator and also
00:59
a rapid transformational
01:05
therapist. And I was not aware
01:05
of what either of these two
01:09
things were up until about a
01:09
month ago, when she came into my
01:15
life. And now I am intrigued
01:15
beyond belief. And so if you're
01:20
kind of wondering yourself, what
01:20
are these things? Well, don't
01:22
worry. That's exactly what we
01:22
are going to talk about today.
01:26
But first, of course, I would
01:26
like to introduce Lauren Lauren,
01:30
welcome to the show. How are you
01:30
doing today?
01:32  Lauren Jean
I'm wonderful.
01:32
Melissa, thank you so much for
01:35
this opportunity. I just love
01:35
love talking about anything
01:39
related to this. So let's let's
01:39
do it.
01:41  Melissa Bright
Yes, let's do
01:41
it. Okay, so let's, we're going
01:45
to kind of break it down into
01:45
two different parts, just to
01:48
better help my brain. So you're
01:48
two different things. The first
01:53
one is the inner voice
01:53
facilitator. And then the other
01:55
one is your the the RTT, which
01:55
I'll just save all this
01:59
abbreviate it to make our lives
01:59
a little bit easier. So how did
02:03
you originally and what was the
02:03
first thing that you got into
02:07
it? Whether it was the inner
02:07
voice facilitator or the other
02:10
stuff? Which one did you get
02:10
into? And how did you even come
02:14
across this line of work? Like
02:14
what were you doing to to get
02:18
here? Well, ultimately,
02:21  Lauren Jean
I started off like,
02:21
my younger years. So like my
02:25
early 20s, as a personal
02:25
trainer, and I was just getting
02:30
frustrated with people not
02:30
getting results. And it's funny,
02:34
because as I've gone through
02:34
life, I realized I was always
02:37
digging deeper, which is
02:37
literally what I do. And I
02:41
noticed people weren't getting
02:41
results. And I just wasn't happy
02:44
in taking money from people and
02:44
I'm not actually getting what
02:48
they wanted. So throughout my
02:48
life since my 20s, and I'm 42.
02:54
Now, I do this intuitive poll to
02:54
just help people and not out of
03:02
a, I have to feel good about
03:02
myself that was helping me like,
03:07
feel good, deep inside at a
03:07
deeper level. So I went through
03:11
that. And then I went through
03:11
nutrition training. And I found
03:16
that the career path that I had
03:16
picked prior to that, which was
03:22
I went to the Fashion Institute
03:22
of Technology in New York City.
03:25
And I graduated with graphic
03:25
design, advertising
03:27
communications, and I just, I
03:27
was just like, blot like, from
03:32
the beginning, I knew I was not
03:32
like a nine to five person, I
03:35
did not want to be behind a
03:35
desk. I didn't want to be in an
03:37
office that to me was like, just
03:37
fast forward and just like, just
03:42
throw 20 years on to me right
03:42
away. So I got out of that
03:46
pretty quickly got into the
03:46
training, and they just kept
03:48
going deeper and deeper to see,
03:48
okay, this isn't working, this
03:51
isn't working. This isn't
03:51
working. And I've never been
03:53
someone to stick to something if
03:53
I didn't like it. Right. And I
03:57
never like I've been married
03:57
twice. I didn't like them. I got
04:01
out. I didn't like my job. I got
04:01
out I always wanted to make
04:05
myself happy. Although, when
04:05
you're so young, you don't
04:07
realize this is what you're
04:07
doing. And you know, you're
04:10
getting older, you're like, Oh,
04:10
well, that's what I was doing
04:12
the whole time. So I just kept
04:12
going deeper and deeper. And I
04:16
found RTT in 2017 through
04:16
another podcast that I
04:21
absolutely love. And it took me
04:21
a year to dive into this because
04:26
it's scary. At that point. It
04:26
was a money thing. And I just
04:30
like I was like I want to do
04:30
this, but I don't know how so it
04:34
took me a year and I heard about
04:34
it again. And now I was like,
04:38
Alright, I'm gonna figure out a
04:38
way to do this. Regardless of
04:42
the money because you know, when
04:42
we want something so bad, we're
04:45
going to find a way to do it. If
04:45
we're meant to do it, we're
04:48
going to figure it out. And
04:48
that's how I did. So, that year
04:53
before RTT I got into
04:53
meditation. It was something I
04:56
always wanted to do. I would
04:56
love to be alone like I could
04:59
spend An entire month, probably
04:59
more in my own bedroom alone.
05:06
And like last year with a
05:06
pandemic, that was nothing to
05:09
me, I was like, This is great. I
05:09
don't have to be around people
05:12
and I can just still have
05:12
conversations, roll my eyes like
05:16
this. It was great to me. So I
05:16
started with meditation, I was
05:20
like, I really want to get into
05:20
this whole thought thing. Like,
05:23
what is your thoughts create
05:23
your reality? Like, what is that
05:26
crap? Yeah, I was intrigued. But
05:26
at the same time, I was like,
05:29
okay, whatever. But let me play
05:29
with it. So I got more into
05:34
meditation. And then in the end,
05:34
it was no, not the end, sorry,
05:38
in April, I started RT T. And I
05:38
was certified by the time
05:43
September rolled around. And it
05:43
took me a while to get the
05:46
confidence to like, get up and
05:46
do it, and know that I could
05:51
actually do this, right. It's
05:51
like, you know, when you have a
05:54
skill, and everyone else around
05:54
you is doing it. And you're
05:57
still doubting yourself like,
05:57
well, they can do it, but I
05:59
can't, which is crazy, because
05:59
you're trained the same exact
06:03
way. So that didn't make sense
06:03
to me. So I had to kind of throw
06:07
myself into it. And I started
06:07
that. In 2020. I just started
06:12
offering people, free sessions,
06:12
so that I can practice and get
06:15
testimonials. And after probably
06:15
about four or five sessions,
06:19
realizing the crazy results that
06:19
people were getting. I was like,
06:25
Oh my God, this, this works like
06:25
this really works. But I wasn't
06:30
at a point where I was trusting
06:30
myself yet. So I kept going. And
06:33
I kept going. And I kept going.
06:33
And I'm like, wow, this really
06:36
works, I had to just keep
06:36
repeating the process, to learn
06:40
how to actually trust myself
06:40
that I could do this, and that
06:44
people were getting crazy
06:44
results that I've never seen
06:47
anywhere else. And then this
06:47
year, in March, came up the
06:54
inner voice facilitator, and I'd
06:54
heard about it a while ago, like
06:57
I said, through another podcast.
06:57
And I had always been intrigued
07:01
with this podcast, and I'll even
07:01
mention, it's called the lively
07:03
show. Absolutely amazing. Like
07:03
That is my path. I've always
07:07
just felt so pulled to her work,
07:07
because she's more about the
07:13
flow of things. And she's into
07:13
abraham hicks and quantum
07:17
mechanics, and I followed her
07:17
entire path. And I still am like
07:22
I binge listened to her show. It
07:22
is just absolutely amazing. And
07:26
I got into inner voice
07:26
facilitator training with her.
07:29
And that's kind of where I am
07:29
right now. Putting the two
07:32
together naturally, and not even
07:32
realizing that it just works so
07:37
well together. So much fun, like
07:37
fun. That's all I really want to
07:42
do is have fun and help people.
07:42
That's it. Yeah, that's it.
07:45
Yeah.
07:46  Melissa Bright
And when we
07:46
originally talked, I could just
07:49
tell your passion and how
07:49
excited you were for it. Like I
07:54
was like, and it made me I'm
07:54
like, Oh my god, I cannot wait.
07:57
I cannot wait to talk to her
07:57
more about this. And we have
08:01
also talked that we are going to
08:01
do a session of RTT on me. So
08:06
very quickly, before we go any
08:06
further. Can you explain to the
08:10
listeners exactly what RTT is?
08:15  Lauren Jean
Yeah, well, I'll
08:15
explain it very simply, the
08:17
simple thing is it is a therapy
08:17
created by Marissa Pier. She's
08:21
known as like the UK is top
08:21
therapist. And she started like
08:27
way back in, I think the 80s she
08:27
was working like for Jane Fonda.
08:30
And she found out that through
08:30
her work as a fitness
08:34
instructor. She would do these
08:34
classes with all these women who
08:38
appeared to have like very high
08:38
confidence right about their
08:44
bodies, and they were taking
08:44
care of themselves and they were
08:46
working out. But then when she
08:46
went into the locker room with
08:49
them all they would talk about
08:49
food, and so many of them had
08:53
eating disorders. And they were
08:53
kind of covering up their eating
08:58
disorder with feeling good with
08:58
working out. And yet they were
09:01
all struggling like she said she
09:01
was very hard to come across a
09:05
woman who was actually confident
09:05
about her body. And she had
09:11
started to look more into it
09:11
because again, she was not happy
09:16
with people not getting what
09:16
they really wanted. So she
09:20
created her own therapy after
09:20
training and getting you know
09:24
her certification as a therapist
09:24
and going to school and all this
09:27
other stuff. She created her own
09:27
modality which combined a bunch
09:30
of other modalities
09:30
hypnotherapy, NLP, a couple of
09:35
others. So she put together her
09:35
own and over 30 years she
09:39
created her own modality rapid
09:39
transformational therapy. And
09:43
the whole point is that when you
09:43
are going to therapy like talk
09:48
therapy, you're not getting into
09:48
the subconscious mind. So it's
09:51
very hard to tap into those
09:51
hidden protective mechanism that
09:57
your mind holds for you. Right
09:57
like you I'm going to talk
10:00
therapy and talk about how
10:00
you're feeling. You can get
10:04
exercises and stuff to do, which
10:04
is Oh, great, everything is
10:07
great. But you can only talk so
10:07
much about how you're feeling.
10:11
And who wants to do that for
10:11
their entire lives. Because it's
10:16
not like you walk into therapy,
10:16
and it's be like, oh, you'll
10:18
have four sessions, and you'll
10:18
be, you'll be good. Now, people
10:21
go for 1020 3040 years, their
10:21
whole life. So she did not want
10:27
to have her clients feeling that
10:27
way. Like they needed to rely on
10:31
her. She wanted to help someone
10:31
quickly. And she was intrigued
10:35
by hypnotherapy. And, again, she
10:35
created her own modality based
10:40
on getting quick results. So I
10:40
mean, she's been doing this for
10:44
30 plus years, she can get
10:44
someone perfect, fixed,
10:48
whatever, depending on the issue
10:48
in one session, in one single
10:53
one and a half to two hour
10:53
session. So that was just like,
10:57
wow, and seeing the results that
10:57
she was getting, was just, it
11:01
was blowing my mind. So I was
11:01
just drawn to this. I'm like, I
11:05
need to know more, I need to do
11:05
this. Right. And I was just
11:09
naturally brought that way. I
11:09
was like a magnet to it. Right?
11:13
I just needed to know more like,
11:13
how does this work? And how the
11:16
heck could I possibly do it?
11:16
Like, I don't have training? I
11:20
don't have this stuff.
11:21  Melissa Bright
You know? Right.
11:21
So have you ever personally had
11:25
a session of your own of RTT?
11:28  Lauren Jean
Oh, many? Many,
11:28
many. Yeah, yeah. What was great
11:34
about the training is a whole,
11:34
you know, a group like there is
11:37
on Facebook everywhere, with
11:37
everyone who's studying it, or
11:40
who has studied it, and then we
11:40
just trade sessions for you
11:43
know, practice testimonials,
11:43
whatever it might be. So yeah,
11:47
I've, I've done it a lots of
11:47
times.
11:50  Melissa Bright
Okay. And
11:50
whenever, so something that just
11:53
jumped out at me is you said,
11:53
you know, depending on the
11:57
issue, you know, they can go
11:57
from like one to three sessions.
12:01
So, what does it when you first
12:01
meet with a client? What is it
12:07
that you try to, I guess, figure
12:07
out or ask them? Or what is that
12:11
initial like consultation? look
12:11
like? So then you can further I
12:16
guess, obviously, then go into
12:16
the session, like, what does
12:20
that all look like for you?
12:22  Lauren Jean
Well, that has
12:22
nothing to do with me, just so
12:25
you know, that has nothing to do
12:25
with me. It's all with what are
12:29
what, where are they wanting to
12:29
go? Like, why are you here,
12:32
that's not for me to determine
12:32
at all. Um, that's for them to
12:36
say, Okay, I have anxiety or
12:36
weight loss, or whatever it
12:40
might be. And I don't work with
12:40
everything I used to, but I
12:43
don't anymore. So that really
12:43
depends on the person. And as
12:49
far as how many sessions again,
12:49
that depends on how deep their
12:53
issue is like weight is
12:53
generally a deeper issue. And
12:58
I'm not going to bring someone
12:58
in and magically, they're going
13:02
to lose 10 pounds. Like it
13:02
doesn't work like that. There's
13:05
deeper reasons on why they're
13:05
holding that 10 pounds. And it
13:10
could take a while to actually
13:10
get to the root issue, which is
13:14
the whole point is we want to
13:14
get you to that root issue to
13:18
figure out why you're doing what
13:18
you're doing, or why you can't
13:23
get to a certain goal. So it's
13:23
the whole point is to dig, dig
13:28
deeper, which is what I've been
13:28
doing my whole life, which is
13:30
why this is perfect. digging
13:30
deeper, and deeper and deeper.
13:34
So if you go into a session with
13:34
a specific issue, let's say
13:39
weight loss just because and the
13:39
session goes and you're not
13:44
losing the weight, right? It
13:44
might not be about weight loss,
13:47
it might be about something you
13:47
need to let go of something that
13:51
your mind is holding on to to
13:51
protect you. So it could be
13:54
something like my mother when
13:54
she was younger, like this is an
13:58
example of like a scene that
13:58
could possibly come up your,
14:03
your child, right, you're
14:03
between five and six, let's just
14:07
say and you heard your mother
14:07
talking badly about her body.
14:12
That as a young child is being
14:12
programmed into you because from
14:16
the ages of zero to seven,
14:16
sometimes later, you are in a
14:21
constant hypnotic state. So if
14:21
you have children, this is also
14:25
a good thing to really think
14:25
about. Like if you have young
14:27
kids, you are programming them
14:27
as if they are like a little
14:32
computer. Their mind is a
14:32
supercomputer sucking up every
14:35
single word that you say. And I
14:35
hear all the time or I used to
14:41
hear all the time. The kids they
14:41
have no idea. Yes they do. They
14:45
are taking in every single word
14:45
that you say. And they are
14:48
making it their reality. Right.
14:48
That's just how it is.
14:53  Melissa Bright
Can you quickly
14:53
explain what you mean by
14:56
hypnotic state like that a kid
14:56
is in a hypnotic state.
15:00  Lauren Jean
So their mind is
15:00
very malleable, it's not, it's
15:04
not set at all it has, when when
15:04
the when a child is born, it has
15:09
no fears. It has no worries, it
15:09
has none of that. And as a
15:14
child, it's older and older and
15:14
older, depending on who's around
15:17
the child. Right? Those people
15:17
are programming this child. Now
15:22
when I mean a hypnotic state, I
15:22
mean, they're not in they are
15:26
conscious state like we are. And
15:26
I should say, there are, let me
15:30
go through this really quickly,
15:30
so I can break it down. So
15:33
there's different brain states,
15:33
right? Delta is when we're
15:37
sleeping, then there's alpha,
15:37
beta, and theta, I'm not going
15:40
to go through every single one
15:40
and explain because that can
15:42
take a lot of time, that could
15:42
be a whole other issue. So too
15:46
many things to worry about here.
15:46
Alright, so there's those other
15:49
brain states delta is sleep,
15:49
I'll explain that one. When
15:53
you're sleeping, you're in a
15:53
Delta brain states. So your
15:55
brainwaves are moving very, very
15:55
slowly. They're at rest, they're
15:58
peaceful, they're sleeping.
15:58
Alright. And as you grow, you're
16:02
going into a higher brainwave.
16:02
So your brain is starting to
16:06
move quicker, and quicker and
16:06
quicker. And by the time you get
16:09
to about seven, their brain is
16:09
not fully developed, not by any
16:14
chance. But now, they have had
16:14
enough experience in their life
16:18
where they have started to form
16:18
beliefs. So when they're in that
16:23
slower brainwave, that's lower
16:23
brain state, those words are
16:26
interchangeable, they are taking
16:26
in everything, so their brains
16:30
moving slower, creating beliefs,
16:30
creating thoughts, creating
16:35
reactions, whatever you want to
16:35
call them. And when you get to
16:39
about age seven, or eight, it's
16:39
like, your brain bumps up the
16:45
pace. And then you're in beta,
16:45
which is what we're in right
16:48
now. So there's beta, and
16:48
there's high beta, high beta is
16:51
like, anxiety, worry all the
16:51
time, like you're in this
16:55
constant stress. And just, you
16:55
know, throughout our, our day,
17:01
we bump in and out of different
17:01
brain states. So you got
17:04
sleeping, and then say you're
17:04
on. So you're watching Netflix,
17:08
or a TV show, right? You are in
17:08
a slower brain, state brain
17:12
state because you are focused,
17:12
and there's like nothing going
17:14
on around you, right? And if you
17:14
have a kid, if you have a kid
17:17
who is like, glued to a device,
17:17
right, as a prime example, glued
17:21
to a device, they don't hear
17:21
what you're saying, because
17:24
their brain has slowed down and
17:24
they're so hyper focused on what
17:30
they're watching. And it's the
17:30
same thing as if you're on a
17:32
highway, and you miss an exit,
17:32
because you are in a hypnotic
17:36
state. This is what a kid is in
17:36
all of the time. Okay. All of
17:42
the time. Does that make sense?
17:43  Melissa Bright
Yep. 100%?
17:43
Definitely, it does. Okay. Yes.
17:48
Okay, so back to Okay, so now
17:48
back to the weight loss. A kid
17:53
had heard her mom say something
17:53
negative about her body, she
17:58
continued from this point.
18:01  Lauren Jean
Okay, so, yes,
18:01
that's when the beliefs start to
18:05
form. So it doesn't have to be
18:05
like a traumatic event. We hear
18:10
this right. traumatic to us
18:10
adults is something like, Oh my
18:14
god, it's the worst thing in the
18:14
world. traumatic event is simply
18:18
something that creates a fear or
18:18
worry in someone. So it doesn't
18:23
have to be this major thing.
18:23
This is just trauma placed on
18:28
this little brain that has now
18:28
created a belief about
18:31
themselves, because they're not
18:31
saying five or six year old
18:34
little kid is not saying, oh,
18:34
mommy's believing this about
18:37
herself. This is like, Oh, this
18:37
is what this is. This is me to
18:42
like, it doesn't matter. It
18:42
doesn't need to be put on the
18:44
kid. It just needs to be in the
18:44
vicinity where they could hear,
18:48  Melissa Bright
right. Wow. So
18:48
then, when you go to do a
18:55
session, let's say about weight
18:55
loss, do you discover at that
19:02
point, and I'm sure it it can
19:02
vary. But do you go into it and
19:09
finally discover, like, Oh, this
19:09
wasn't about the 10 pounds at
19:12
all. This was about when, quote
19:12
unquote, Janice was six years
19:16
old. And her mom said something
19:16
and she heard it is that what
19:20
you those sessions kind of
19:20
finally reveal?
19:24  Lauren Jean
Just so you know,
19:24
it's never about the weight.
19:27
It's never the weight
19:29  Melissa Bright
now, do you tell
19:29
them going into your session
19:33
like or do you just kind of let
19:33
them discover that them discover
19:37
that for themselves? Like so if
19:37
I do a session and I say Laura,
19:41
Laura, Lauren Jean, I have
19:41
really bad anxiety. I think it's
19:45
because of this way if you have
19:45
your preconceived like opinions,
19:50
like okay, she's saying it's
19:50
about this, but more than
19:53
likely, it's about this will you
19:53
let me know Are you just going
19:57
to take me through that session
19:57
to kind of let it unfold. on its
20:00
own,
20:01  Lauren Jean
I always like to
20:01
have the conversation first.
20:04
Because a lot of times people
20:04
think they know where it's
20:07
coming from. Sometimes they do
20:07
know, like, if they've been
20:10
through therapy enough,
20:10
sometimes they do know. But then
20:14
when you going into it, maybe
20:14
it's something completely
20:18
different. It could be something
20:18
they didn't even remember.
20:20
Because when we're going into a
20:20
session, we're tapping into your
20:23
subconscious, what your
20:23
subconscious is, it's like a
20:26
vault that your mind is locked
20:26
up. So a lot of the times, most
20:33
of the times it is protecting
20:33
you. So if your mind is
20:37
protecting you, and that's the
20:37
whole point of it, it's not
20:40
going to allow these to come
20:40
into your life. Because if they
20:43
allow these these experiences to
20:43
be in your life all the time,
20:47
you will be even more of a mess
20:47
thinking about these. So these
20:51
are kind of scenes that you've
20:51
completely forgotten about, you
20:55
have in your subconscious,
20:55
they're completely locked away,
20:59
you have no idea that they're
20:59
there. So that's why we need to
21:03
get to that root issue so that
21:03
you're in your subconscious
21:06
state, not in your beta state,
21:06
which again, we're talking now,
21:10
in your subconscious state, we
21:10
can allow the mind to open up
21:15
and feel safe. Because when it's
21:15
feeling safe, it's going to open
21:20
up. And it's just going to allow
21:20
this to come out, which then
21:24
tells your subconscious mind,
21:24
Oh, now I get it. And it's
21:28
feeling safe. Because when
21:28
you're in a beta state, again,
21:32
like this, it doesn't feel safe.
21:32
That's why we block these
21:36
emotions. That's why we hide
21:36
things. That's why we cover up.
21:39
That's why we eat shop, rugs,
21:39
drink, whatever. Because if you
21:44
had these scenes, all the time
21:44
available to you, your your mind
21:49
would explode. Who knows what
21:49
you would actually do. So that's
21:53
why your mind is protecting you.
21:53
It's keeping you safe by locking
21:56
those away.
21:58  Melissa Bright
Yeah. And that
21:58
is something so whenever you and
22:02
I, I've told you this story
22:02
already, like when we became
22:05
Facebook friends, some of your
22:05
posts that you said, were so
22:11
different than anything I had
22:11
ever heard about the mind and
22:14
about the subconscious that I
22:14
was like, I have got to talk to
22:18
this girl, like I have to talk
22:18
to her. And I don't remember
22:22
what it was. But you said
22:22
something about the subconscious
22:25
mind and the mind. And I don't
22:25
want to say this, because I
22:30
don't want to butcher whatever
22:30
you had said. But the fact that
22:33
like the mind is always, always
22:33
always trying to keep you safe,
22:39
can then kind of make it really
22:39
hard for you to achieve things
22:43
or do things that you want,
22:43
like, because your mind is
22:48
always always trying to keep you
22:48
in this safe mode. Like that's
22:51
its full job. And I don't want
22:51
to say that's the minds full
22:54
job, but you could maybe correct
22:54
me and be like, no, that's
22:56
literally all it does. Um, so
22:56
can you can you explain a little
23:03
bit more about the mind
23:03
protecting you and why it's so
23:11
important to like, why is it so
23:11
important to maybe do one of
23:15
these, these sessions with RTT?
23:15
Like, whatever it is, I mean,
23:20
you've said everything from
23:20
weight loss to anxiety to
23:24
trauma, what really this this
23:24
could change and what this could
23:29
help. And I know, I just kind of
23:29
threw a lot of questions. But
23:32
ultimately, how how does this
23:32
help get cast your mind?
23:38  Lauren Jean
Well, I can kind of
23:38
sum this up in a way that most
23:44
of my clients have told me that
23:44
it's kind of like a mind blowing
23:47
moment for them. And I'll you
23:47
know, I'll use anxiety as an
23:50
example, because I've actually
23:50
had many of the women that I
23:53
work with, tell me about this,
23:53
and not even just anxiety and
23:57
I'm thinking about it's been in
23:57
other issues to where, you know,
24:01
when you have the thought,
24:01
right? And it creates that
24:04
feeling. And then it creates
24:04
whatever you're going to or not
24:08
do so. So you have the anxiety
24:08
issue. And you've had an RTT
24:14
session. It's almost as if you
24:14
are aware of the feeling. But
24:22
the thoughts don't make you do
24:22
anything. So it's kind of like,
24:26
you know that the anxiety is
24:26
there, or it should be there.
24:30
Right? What the thoughts are not
24:30
there. Yeah. So it's kind of
24:36
like it's shifting the way that
24:36
you're thinking. Right? And
24:40
sometimes it's the opposite.
24:40
It's like, Oh, I have the
24:43
thoughts but no feelings. So
24:43
it's shifting in your
24:47
subconscious. What the heck is
24:47
going on. So it's actually
24:52
changing the way that you're
24:52
thinking in the way that you're
24:54
feeling without actually having
24:54
to like take medication or go to
25:00
therapy, or even cover it up.
25:00
It's like, Huh, that's there.
25:05
And it's okay. Roar, or I didn't
25:05
feel anything like I didn't feel
25:11
any anxiety today. Or I didn't
25:11
want to, I didn't feel the need
25:15
to binge eat today. Like, isn't
25:15
that interesting? So it's like,
25:20
it's recreating the belief in
25:20
your head, because you're gonna
25:24
do whatever you believe you're
25:24
gonna make true, whatever you
25:28
believe. So if you're not
25:28
thinking about it, if your
25:31
beliefs are shifting, it's gonna
25:31
change what you're doing.
25:35  Melissa Bright
Yeah. And I told
25:35
you, whenever you kind of
25:39
explain that to me, I had told
25:39
you that I had just recently got
25:43
on Prozac for being diagnosed
25:43
with generalized anxiety
25:47
disorder. And I said, that is
25:47
exactly what is happening with
25:51
my medicine is that I know
25:51
usually, in this instance, I
25:54
would be having anxiety or I
25:54
would have already had anxiety
25:58
today about our session, because
25:58
I'm scared that I'm not going to
26:02
ask the right questions, or
26:02
something's gonna go wrong. And
26:05
I'm not doing my due diligence,
26:05
the way that I should, I would
26:07
have major anxiety around around
26:07
this. And then once I started
26:11
taking my medicine, it's like,
26:11
no, now I can walk into this
26:15
room, have this interview, know
26:15
that I could screw up, but it's
26:20
okay. And as soon as you explain
26:20
that, to me about that's kind of
26:24
what the RTT session is, it can
26:24
either go from from one side or
26:28
back to the other. It's either
26:28
the mind isn't thinking it, but
26:31
the body feels it or the body is
26:31
feeling it, but the mind
26:34
doesn't. And just to have that
26:34
kind of peace is incredible. And
26:40
I know, you know that I've been
26:40
doing the Prozac. But as we've
26:44
talked about, we are going to do
26:44
one of these sessions. And I
26:47
cannot even wait to see like,
26:47
you know, what comes up and what
26:51
gets solved and all those
26:51
things. But I just love the way
26:56
that you explain it of like how
26:56
it could be there. But then it
27:00
just kind of goes away.
27:02  Lauren Jean
Yeah. And this is
27:02
great for people who you know,
27:05
some people are okay with being
27:05
on medication, like some people
27:08
doesn't matter, and that's fine.
27:08
But some people don't want to be
27:11
on medication at all, even for a
27:11
little bit or for the rest of
27:14
their lives. So this helps those
27:14
people who just like, No, I want
27:19
to do this naturally, I want to
27:19
try something different. A lot
27:22
of people are just like really
27:22
intrigued on it. Or they're just
27:25
like done, like they just they
27:25
just can't handle their
27:29
situation anymore. So it's good
27:29
for really wherever you are. And
27:33
if this is calling you like if
27:33
your intuition is saying, Yes, I
27:36
want to do this, this sounds
27:36
exciting. Or I just want to get
27:39
off my medication. Like it's
27:39
good for anyone who feels like
27:43
it's a fit for them. Yeah,
27:43
there's no one telling you to do
27:47
it. But again, it's all on how
27:47
you're feeling and what you're
27:53
either tired of dealing with or
27:53
what you just want to try for
27:57
fun.
27:57  Melissa Bright
Right. Now. Can
27:57
I ask you what is a? Is there
28:01
something that more people come
28:01
to about like issues than
28:07
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28:07
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29:43  Lauren Jean
I've had a lot of
29:43
anxiety people a lot. And it's
29:48
not because I wasn't putting it
29:48
out there. It was kind of like
29:51
coming to me I was like hmm,
29:51
this is what people are dealing
29:54
with. And I have a feeling it
29:54
was a lot of last year the
29:56
pandemic It was really bringing
29:56
up heavy emotions for people So
30:00
like, I'm not stuck to one type
30:00
of issue, I find it interesting
30:06
to work with, like all different
30:06
types. And the great thing with
30:09
this is like, you can niche down
30:09
in this, but it's so vast, and
30:17
like, I don't have to know
30:17
anything about anxiety to help
30:21
someone, I don't have to know
30:21
anything about any particular
30:24
like medical disorder, nothing.
30:24
I just need to know where you
30:29
want to go to. That's it. It's
30:29
that simple. I don't need to
30:33
know your past. I don't need to
30:33
know what you don't want to
30:37
feel. All I need to know is, in
30:37
this moment, what do you want to
30:42
get out of this session? That's
30:42
it.
30:46  Melissa Bright
And how do you
30:46
make less is another loaded
30:49
question. But how do you make
30:49
that happen? Because that is
30:52
incredible. Because like, even
30:52
just me being this overthinker.
30:56
Now I would be like, Oh, she's
30:56
probably went to like 10 years
31:00
worth of schooling and had to
31:00
learn everything, from anxiety,
31:02
to depression to trauma to this
31:02
to that. And now you're telling
31:06
me that? No, I don't really need
31:06
to know anything. I just need to
31:09
know where you want to go. So
31:09
can you kind of explain how you
31:15
get somebody to where they want
31:15
to go?
31:18  Lauren Jean
I asked them.
31:21  Melissa Bright
Yeah, but then
31:21
how do you facilitate that?
31:25  Lauren Jean
All I need to do is
31:25
bring them into their past and
31:28
find out why they're dealing
31:28
with the issue. So why are
31:32
dealing with the anxiety? Let's
31:32
take you back. Bring me to a
31:36
scene. It's obviously you know,
31:36
more questions go involved. But
31:40
we're here now this is what you
31:40
want. Let's take you back to
31:43
your childhood. Let's find a
31:43
scene. Where are you first
31:46
started with that? Yeah, that's
31:46
where my answer is. I don't need
31:51
to know anything more. Now, I do
31:51
know more with certain things
31:54
because I'm a nerd. And I'm a
31:54
science nerd. And I love it. So
31:59
sometimes that's where my mind
31:59
takes me. I'm like, Oh, this is
32:01
really cool. Let me find out
32:01
about this. But generally, no, I
32:05
don't have to know anything.
32:07  Melissa Bright
Can you solve
32:07
more than one issue at a time?
32:11
So say somebody had a binge
32:11
eating disorder on top of
32:16
anxiety? Or do you just try to
32:16
address one issue per session,
32:21
or however it works?
32:24  Lauren Jean
Well, I do, excuse
32:24
me, do one set one thing at a
32:28
time. But the thing is, if we
32:28
deal with the anxiety, right?
32:34
And you're feeling better,
32:34
there's a good chance that
32:38
you're going to get other
32:38
benefits from it. Okay, many
32:43
other benefits, sleep, I've had
32:43
people stop eating sugar. I've
32:47
had people notice their mindset
32:47
around money has changed how
32:51
free they feel in their head. So
32:51
it's like you're going in for
32:54
one particular issue, because I
32:54
can't take you back to a scene
32:58
where we're trying to figure out
32:58
where your anxiety came from,
33:02
and then binge eating to your
33:02
mind is like, what are you
33:06
doing? That's too complicated.
33:06
Yeah, I can't do that. But then
33:09
you're going to get so many
33:09
other benefits from that one
33:11
session. So yes, you're going in
33:11
for one. But you could come out
33:15
with five other benefits as
33:15
well.
33:17  Melissa Bright
Okay, before our
33:17
session, do you have me do like
33:22
before we would even meet in our
33:22
session? Do you have me do any
33:26
kind of like homework in terms
33:26
of Melissa, I need to know
33:30
before we go into our session,
33:30
why you are here? Like what is
33:34
it exactly? Because I can think
33:34
of probably 10 things I would
33:38
want to fix. And it's like no
33:38
focus on one right now. Um, so
33:44
do you make sure that somebody
33:44
knows that before you is that
33:49
kind of like what your
33:49
introductory call is even about?
33:53  Lauren Jean
The introductory
33:53
call is just so they can see a
33:55
person face to face, and see
33:55
kind of what they're struggling
33:59
with and where they want to get
33:59
to. Now over the couple of years
34:03
that I've been doing this, I've
34:03
simplified the process I used
34:07
to, because now that when we'll
34:07
go into this the inner voice
34:10
stuff, too, I used to and
34:10
people's minds complicate
34:15
everything. We complicate
34:15
everything all the time for no
34:19
reason at all. So I even looked
34:19
back at my form a couple of
34:22
months ago. I'm like, this is so
34:22
unnecessary. I don't need all
34:26
this information. This is just
34:26
as what my mind is telling me,
34:28
this is what I should be doing.
34:28
But now that I'm doing the inner
34:31
voice stuff, it's like, No, you
34:31
don't need that. So I'm going to
34:36
be cutting down that form
34:36
majorly. So when I send that
34:39
over to you, it's going to be
34:39
very minimal. But yeah, we'll go
34:43
into that too. But there's not
34:43
really many things. It's like, I
34:47
like to ask like power words,
34:47
which are kind of like emotional
34:51
words emotion words that bring
34:51
up like excited emotions for you
34:54
happy emotions, joyful, because
34:54
then I'm going to be able to
34:57
create your recording for that.
34:57
There are things I'm trying to
35:03
think. I don't know, off the top
35:03
of my head. Like I said, it's
35:06
too hard right now, it doesn't
35:06
need to be that way. So I'm, I'm
35:10
trimming it down. But basically
35:10
it's like, Alright, and even a
35:14
day before, like, I'll have you
35:14
fill out that form. And you'll
35:17
have an answer. And then the day
35:17
before I like to check in, it's
35:20
like, Okay, what are we going in
35:20
for? And I repeat things just to
35:25
see like where you're at, right?
35:25
Because I want you to be
35:29
comfortable. I want you to be
35:29
going into the session, knowing
35:32
that you're getting what you
35:32
want, not like what you feel
35:35
like you have to stick to.
35:35
Because that's another thing we
35:38
think we need to like, make the
35:38
other person happy. Like, no,
35:41
this is about you. This is not
35:41
about what's going to make me
35:44
happy. It's not going to make me
35:44
happy. It's not It's not meant
35:47
to make me happy. It's meant to
35:47
make you get what you want.
35:51
Right? That's another thing we
35:51
do people please like, Oh, well,
35:54
I'll change my mind. But I don't
35:54
want to say anything. Because
35:56
what if she plan this? What if
35:56
it? No, I don't plan anything.
36:01  Melissa Bright
Right? Yeah. Oh,
36:01
my goodness. So okay, so you
36:05
mentioned something about a
36:05
recording. So can you explain to
36:08
people also what that means and
36:08
what happens in terms of the
36:12
recording?
36:13  Lauren Jean
Yes, so we do the
36:13
whole session, right. So it's
36:16
about figure that's about an
36:16
hour, the session that we go
36:20
through scenes and everything,
36:20
we go through about three to
36:23
four sessions, three to four
36:23
scenes in your past. And then
36:27
after we get all the information
36:27
we need your subconscious mind
36:30
understands, then we create a
36:30
recording for you that you will
36:34
listen to for three weeks or 21
36:34
days. And that's where the rapid
36:39
transformational therapy comes
36:39
from. It's rapid, because you're
36:42
listening to this recording. In
36:42
traditional hypnotherapy, you're
36:46
just having a session and
36:46
there's no recording, maybe some
36:50
modalities are are. But you're
36:50
not having a recording to
36:54
constantly rewire your mind.
36:54
With this, you're getting a
36:57
recording that you're taking
36:57
with you and you're going to
36:59
listen to for 21 days, then I
36:59
recommend either in the evening
37:03
when you're going to sleep, or
37:03
when you first wake up in the
37:06
morning, or even if you're
37:06
waking up in the middle of the
37:08
night to like use the bathroom.
37:08
Because that's when your
37:10
subconscious mind is like wide
37:10
awake. That's when your brain is
37:14
moving slow and can take in kind
37:14
of like when you're when you're
37:17
a kid and you're in this slow
37:17
brain state. If you get up to
37:20
use the bathroom in the middle
37:20
of the night, it's almost like
37:22
you're sleepwalking, right?
37:22
That's a perfect time, or as
37:26
you're dozing off to go to
37:26
sleep. And you can fall asleep
37:28
with this. Because when you're
37:28
sleeping, your brain is moving
37:32
slower, and you're in that brain
37:32
state that you could be in. Now,
37:36
I'm not saying that you have to
37:36
listen to it at this time. But
37:39
this is when it's the most
37:39
effective.
37:40  Melissa Bright
Yeah, I feel
37:40
like recently and tell me if
37:44
this is crazy, or there's
37:44
something to this, but I feel
37:49
like sometimes maybe I'm
37:49
assuming 3456 in the morning
37:54
that I have had some epiphanies,
37:54
about my podcast about how I
38:00
want to go forth with my
38:00
business, so on and so forth,
38:05
that it's just one or two
38:05
sentences. That's just like,
38:09
Melissa, stop doing that. Or
38:09
Melissa, you need to do this or
38:13
don't even keep bothering with
38:13
this. And it's like something is
38:17
speaking to me. It's not a it's
38:17
not a dream. But it's just like,
38:22
and I'm like, Yeah, you're
38:22
right, like, well, I don't I
38:24
kind of say it in my head like,
38:24
yeah, you're right. This is
38:26
right. And I'm like, Is this my
38:26
subconscious telling me like?
38:30
And it's usually because I think
38:30
a lot about my podcast and all
38:33
the time and trying to stay
38:33
aligned and serving my audience.
38:36
Is there something to that like
38:36
in those morning hours that
38:40
maybe your subconscious is
38:40
telling you things that might be
38:43
on your mind about business?
38:43
Let's just say my, my business?
38:48  Lauren Jean
Oh, absolutely,
38:48
absolutely. I even I would even
38:50
go deeper and say that that's
38:50
your inner voice that your
38:52
intuition right there, you're
38:52
not thinking, when you're not
38:56
thinking you can allow that
38:56
inner voice to come in. And it
38:59
could lead you to do anything.
38:59
It's kind of like a good way to
39:05
explain the inner voice which I
39:05
didn't fully understand until I
39:09
really started practicing this
39:09
is you ever go throughout your
39:12
day, and all of a sudden you get
39:12
like, something just drops in
39:17
your head? Like you're not
39:17
thinking you're not trying to
39:19
think about anything, but you
39:19
kind of get this pain or this
39:24
inspiration. Yeah. And you're
39:24
like, what, like, Where did that
39:27
come from? That's, that's your
39:27
intuition. That's your inner
39:30
voice speaking to you saying
39:30
Yeah, do this or not do this.
39:34
Okay. Oh, yeah. Those are the
39:34
kinds of things that that's why
39:39
I keep something next to my bed.
39:39
Like if I wake up in the
39:41
morning, and and that's a great
39:41
time to meditate too. Because
39:44
then you can even bring even
39:44
more into that, right? I mean,
39:46
there's so much more to talk
39:46
about on this. But yeah, that's
39:50
the stuff that you write down
39:50
and then you go back to sleep.
39:53  Melissa Bright
Yep. Oh, I have
39:53
a note like in my iPhone. My
39:58
notes are constant. And it's
39:58
usually like if I go to bed or
40:01
something. But I know that I
40:01
just told you even earlier, I'm
40:05
like, hey, if I have a question,
40:05
I gotta write it down, because
40:07
it will just go out of my brain
40:07
faster than it came in. And I
40:10
don't want to forget it. But
40:10
that's exactly what what has
40:14
definitely been happening to me.
40:14
So I think then this is just a
40:19
kind of a perfect transition
40:19
over into inner voice
40:23
facilitation. My saying that
40:23
yes, yes. Okay. So now if we, if
40:29
you can explain to me what
40:29
exactly that is, because you and
40:33
I haven't spoke a lot on this.
40:33
And I'm super excited to hear
40:37
hear about all this. Okay, so
40:41  Lauren Jean
for the purpose of
40:41
this podcast, will say that you
40:45
have two parts of you, right? If
40:45
that your ego, you got your
40:48
inner voice and your voice could
40:48
be intuition. It could be
40:51
universe, it could be God, like
40:51
whatever you want to call it,
40:54
whatever word works best for
40:54
you. And then you have the ego,
40:58
which is your protective minds,
40:58
the thinking line, the critical
41:02
mind, the I'm not enough mind
41:02
the I'm not worthy, or I can't
41:06
do this, or I should do that.
41:06
All those critical pieces, those
41:11
protective pieces, that's your
41:11
ego, I kind of like to compare
41:15
it to like, remember the older
41:15
cartoons with the devil and the
41:18
angel on your shoulder? Yep.
41:18
Right. And people can kind of
41:22
understand that. So it's like,
41:22
your inner voice is the angel.
41:26
And the ego is like the devil.
41:26
Right? So if you think of it,
41:31
that way, you can kind of
41:31
understand there are two parts
41:35
of you. Right? So you have this
41:35
intuition, like, something that
41:40
you wake up in the morning with,
41:40
right? You have that you're
41:43
going throughout your day,
41:43
you're you're thinking about it,
41:46
and then it's like something
41:46
stops you. Because then your ego
41:50
comes in, you're like, well, how
41:50
are you going to do that? It
41:53
wants to know, how when, where
41:53
it wants to know everything,
41:59
where your inner voice is like,
41:59
but everything's okay. Like,
42:03
it's like that happy, annoying
42:03
friend, that just keep just keep
42:07
saying like, but you're fine,
42:07
everything's fine, it's gonna be
42:10
okay. And, like, deep inside,
42:10
you know, everything's gonna be
42:15
okay. It's just like a knowing
42:15
piece of you. But then your ego
42:19
comes in. And it's like, well,
42:19
how, how are you going to do
42:23
this, like, it's this constant
42:23
battle between these two voices.
42:28
Like, I know, I should go to the
42:28
gym, I'll use that example. And
42:33
then your ego is like, but you
42:33
don't want to, but you're tired.
42:37
You I have the kids, I have to
42:37
do this and then suddenly go to
42:40
the gym, you finally get it, you
42:40
finally listen to that intuition
42:43
voice. And then your back starts
42:43
hurting. It's like you've
42:46
created a reason to not be
42:46
there, your egos doing that,
42:49
because it's like, oh, but I
42:49
really have other things to do.
42:51
So Oh, my back hurts, I should
42:51
leave. Right? It's this constant
42:55
back and forth battle. And a big
42:55
thing of what I love to teach
43:00
is, a lot of people don't
43:00
understand how to tell the
43:04
difference between the two. So
43:04
that's where the whole inner
43:07
voice facilitation comes in,
43:07
where we're in a session, and we
43:12
are strictly talking to your
43:12
inner voice the entire time,
43:15
like the entire time for a good
43:15
hour to an hour and a half,
43:19
where you are in a meditative
43:19
state. And it's kind of like,
43:25
like I said, before, your brain
43:25
is moving slower. And we're
43:28
pulling out the pieces from your
43:28
inner voice to give you the
43:32
answers the clarity that you're
43:32
looking for, no matter what
43:35
topic it could be. Sometimes we
43:35
go into a session and there is a
43:39
specific area like career,
43:39
relationships, health, those are
43:42
three major areas that people
43:42
are always worried about
43:46
thinking about struggling
43:46
around. And then it could just
43:50
be a session where someone wants
43:50
to go in and just smoke again,
43:52
wants to have fun, and see what
43:52
comes up. So yeah, there's, it's
43:58
just, it's just so much fun,
43:58
because this is the path to
44:04
really trusting yourself, and
44:04
not letting your insane human
44:10
mind direct you because it's not
44:10
the minds job. to lead your
44:16
life. It's the mind job to keep
44:16
you safe to keep you protected.
44:21
And to do analytical stuff, like
44:21
your mind is there to protect
44:26
you. Your mind is there to tell
44:26
you to not touch the stove
44:30
because it's hot or to get out
44:30
of the street. There's a car
44:33
coming to keep you safe to keep
44:33
you protected. It's not there to
44:37
tell you that you can't do
44:37
something because you're not
44:39
good enough. Right?
44:41  Melissa Bright
So is there
44:41
things exercises that people
44:47
could do? Let's even say
44:47
starting today to help shut down
44:54
the ego and more listen to that
44:54
inner voice because like you
44:58
said, one of the hardest things
44:58
is Telling which one is which I
45:01
think sometimes we think it
45:01
could be easy. We're like, oh,
45:04
the thing talking us out of this
45:04
or keeping us safe is our ego.
45:08
But we can't say and definitely
45:08
that that's always the case. So
45:12
are there things that people
45:12
could do on a daily basis that
45:15
could get them really more in
45:15
tune with their inner voice?
45:19  Lauren Jean
Oh, absolutely. I
45:19
would even switch it and say, if
45:22
you've never done this kind of
45:22
work before, I would say the way
45:26
I started, before I even knew
45:26
about inner voice work was I
45:30
started to notice the thoughts
45:30
that my ego was saying, how is
45:33
it bringing me down? Like, what
45:33
is this voice saying, Just
45:38
notice the thoughts that are
45:38
going through your head, notice
45:41
the patterns of the thoughts
45:41
that are going through your
45:44
head. It's like starting there,
45:44
it's like understanding each
45:48
side. Because if you've never
45:48
done inner voice work before,
45:52
you might not even be able to
45:52
hear it. Because there could be
45:56
so much chatter. Like if you're
45:56
dealing with anxiety, right,
46:00
there could be so much negative
46:00
chatter in your in your head,
46:04
that you could even say, I don't
46:04
even have an inner voice, I
46:07
can't even hear it. It's not
46:07
there. Because it's this other
46:12
voice that's like screaming at
46:12
you. And it's scared, and it's
46:16
frustrated. And it doesn't
46:16
understand why it can't hear.
46:20
Like if you go in and you're
46:20
just looking strictly for the
46:23
inner voice, and you get
46:23
frustrated, you're just going to
46:26
get more frustrated. So starting
46:26
with just noticing the thoughts
46:30
that you have, on a daily basis,
46:30
because most of those thoughts,
46:36
like 90% to 95% of those
46:36
thoughts are the same thoughts
46:40
that you had the day before and
46:40
the day before and the day
46:42
before. Because if it's one
46:42
thing that our mind likes, is to
46:46
be comfortable, even if it's
46:46
uncomfortable, it just wants to
46:49
know that it's safe, and that it
46:49
is comfortable. Think about
46:54
going into a new situation,
46:54
right? Think about the pandemic
46:57
last year, how many people
46:57
freaked out, right? Because we
47:00
don't know what's going to
47:00
happen. The mind does not like
47:03
anything unfamiliar, it's always
47:03
gonna bring you back to the
47:06
familiar, even if you're
47:06
miserable there. That's why
47:10
people stay in horrible
47:10
relationships, or they just
47:14
don't go to the gym, because
47:14
they're more comfortable not
47:16
going to the gym, they're more
47:16
comfortable making excuses than
47:20
actually doing the thing that's
47:20
going to make them happy.
47:23
Because your mind does not care
47:23
if you're happy. Just cares if
47:26
you're comfortable and safe.
47:26
That's it.
47:30  Melissa Bright
Do you feel that
47:30
most people these days are
47:35
listening to just their ego?
47:38  Lauren Jean
Oh, hell yeah.
47:41  Unknown
I mean, I figured that
47:41
was an obvious answer, or
47:44
question, whatever. But gosh,
47:44
that is so unfortunate. I mean,
47:49
I feel like as soon as you said
47:49
that, I'm like, I don't know
47:52
that I hear my inner voice a
47:52
lot. But lately, like I said,
47:56
I've been having those those
47:56
things had coming to me like
47:59
early on in the morning, and I'm
47:59
like, do not forget this, or
48:02
Melissa, this is what you need
48:02
to do. So on and so forth. Like,
48:06
I'm worried about one thing.
48:06
Let's say, I don't I can't even
48:11
think of an example. I'm worried
48:11
about this one thing. But then
48:15
two days later in the morning,
48:15
the answer comes, but it's
48:18
almost the answer of it's like,
48:18
most of you got this, don't
48:21
worry about it. But you just
48:21
need to focus on this one thing.
48:23
And I'm like, there we go.
48:23
There's my answer this whole
48:27
thing that I was worried about.
48:27
And that's just, it's crazy. So
48:32
his inner voice work that you do
48:32
those sessions like how what are
48:36
the similarities between the
48:36
sessions of RTT and inner voice
48:41
work that you do? And then what
48:41
are some differences?
48:44  Lauren Jean
I wouldn't say that
48:44
they're similar. Okay, really,
48:48
okay. They work together very
48:48
well. If it if I'm feeling it,
48:53
like it's not up to the person
48:53
that I'm working with, I work a
48:56
lot with my own intuition. If
48:56
I'm just feeling the pull to
49:00
bring this person in, and to
49:00
talk to them in their in their
49:04
inner voice, then I'll do that.
49:04
But if not, I won't I follow
49:08
pretty much the guidance now of
49:08
my own inner voice, because now
49:14
I understand what the hell, it's
49:14
saying. I can understand it, I
49:18
can hear it. But then a big
49:18
piece of that is in the inner
49:22
voice Sessions is there's a
49:22
couple of different ways to go
49:25
about it. There's like the
49:25
traditional inner voice session
49:28
where we're talking to an inner
49:28
voice. But then a lot of the
49:32
times, almost every single time.
49:32
I can't say there actually has
49:35
been a time where someone hasn't
49:35
had this. There's something
49:38
called like the emotional
49:38
beanbags or resistance or kind
49:42
of like, have you ever had a
49:42
feeling where you want to say
49:45
something, but it's like, stuck
49:45
in your throat. You're like,
49:49
you're thinking to yourself,
49:49
your ego is saying, Why can't
49:52
you say this? Yeah, like you're
49:52
holding back. That's like what
49:56
we would call like an emotional
49:56
baby. There is resistance there.
49:59
There is a Energy blockage in
49:59
your body. So a piece of the
50:03
inner voice work is to release
50:03
the energy that is trapping you
50:08
from saying what you want to
50:08
say. So this is where it gets
50:12
even deeper and more fun. And
50:12
there is a lot of energy release
50:16
in the session. So besides just
50:16
speaking to the inner voice,
50:19
you're releasing the resistance
50:19
behind whatever you're holding
50:24
in your body. Right? Because we
50:24
know we're we know we're all
50:27
energy. We hear this all the
50:27
time. We're full of it. We've
50:30
got the chakras. There's so
50:30
many, there's so much science
50:33
behind this. And I can tell you,
50:33
I've done many inner voice
50:37
sessions myself, and the very
50:37
first one I had, I had like a
50:41
pounding headache after because
50:41
I had something I was holding on
50:44
to for so long, that I just
50:44
cried the entire session. And
50:48
it's like that is an energy
50:48
release. Crying is energy
50:51
release. yawning is an energy
50:51
release sneezing, anything that
50:54
you are projecting from your
50:54
body. Yeah, the rolling up is an
50:57
energy release, like whatever it
50:57
is, you are releasing, you're
51:01
not holding things in burping,
51:01
farting, Anything? Anything,
51:07  Melissa Bright
right.
51:09  Lauren Jean
So like, that's a
51:09
piece of it. And I do just
51:11
beanbag sessions as well, to
51:11
help people release energy from
51:14
their bodies. And it's so
51:14
powerful.
51:18  Melissa Bright
Is it usually a
51:18
particular phrase that they're
51:22
holding on to in their body? In
51:22
terms of like, I just, I just
51:28
want to love myself? Like, is it
51:28
something as simple as that,
51:32
like, in terms of those
51:32
emotional beanbags? Or is it
51:34
usually just? I don't know, I'll
51:34
let you answer that question.
51:38
Well, it depends on the topic of
51:38
true,
51:42  Lauren Jean
it's really
51:42
anything. Like, I'll be on the
51:46
mind asking the universe
51:46
question. So say you're the
51:48
inner voice on the mind. Right?
51:48
I'm on the side asking your
51:53
inner voice question journal,
51:53
meditative state relaxed state.
51:57
And if I get to a question and
51:57
you're kind of like, silent, I
52:02
can go digging in deeper and be
52:02
like, is there resistance there?
52:06
Is there? You know, are you
52:06
feeling like there's a beanbag
52:10
there? And most of the time
52:10
person will say yes, or the be
52:13
silent. So that's when we then
52:13
go into it, and we begin that
52:17
release process. And then we
52:17
kind of continue. So it's kind
52:21
of like, if I asked you a
52:21
question that you're
52:24
uncomfortable with, you're gonna
52:24
feel an emotional reaction,
52:29
right? If there's no blockage
52:29
there, there's no beanbag there,
52:33
you're going to be able to
52:33
answer the question easily.
52:35
Right? So think about this, like
52:35
in everyday life, if something
52:40
that someone else says to you,
52:40
unintentionally irritates you,
52:46
that's a beanbag. That's not the
52:46
other person trying to come and
52:52
attack you. That's you feeling
52:52
attacked? That's something that
52:56
you've been holding on to for
52:56
probably your entire life.
52:59  Unknown
Yeah. Stop telling your
52:59
that that's exactly what happens
53:06
to me that literally my
53:06
boyfriend and I were, that's
53:09
what we fight about is he will
53:09
say something that is so not
53:12
intended to hurt my feelings,
53:12
but I'm the most sensitive human
53:15
being on this earth. And he's
53:15
like, how did you get what I
53:20
just said, turned into this. And
53:20
he's like, you have the world's
53:23
best filter. And by best filter,
53:23
I mean, worse filter, because,
53:27
and it's exactly that he's like,
53:27
I don't even know where to go
53:31
from here. And that's exactly
53:31
what it is. It's something else
53:34
that has happened. Yes, that
53:34
you're not even aware of. Yep.
53:39
You're
53:39  Lauren Jean
just like, why
53:39
would he say that? Why? Why
53:41
would you even say that? Why
53:41
would you do that to me?
53:45  Melissa Bright
Yep. Why would
53:45
you make me feel that way? Oh,
53:50
my God, not about the other
53:50
person. It's about you. Right.
53:54
So who is inner voice work for?
54:00  Lauren Jean
Anyone? Anyone who
54:00
is interested in it, anyone who
54:05
was intrigued by it? Because the
54:05
first question that I'll ask
54:08
someone who wants to do it is,
54:08
what does your inner voice say?
54:13
I have to have a yes. It can't
54:13
be like, I gotta think about it.
54:17
So it'd be like a yes. Because
54:17
then if I go into a session, and
54:21
the person was like, on the
54:21
fence, then they're gonna say,
54:24
Oh, I can't, I can't hear it.
54:24
You have to be open to it, you
54:27
have to be intrigued by it. It's
54:27
got to be a fun thing. And if
54:31
you're in this entrepreneurial
54:31
world where we're so open, or
54:36
you just want to connect with
54:36
yourself more, then this is a
54:42
great way to do it. Because this
54:42
is a modality that you can then
54:46
learn to do on your own. So it's
54:46
not like you're relying on a
54:50
therapist, you're not relying on
54:50
anyone, because it all comes
54:54
down to you. And once you can
54:54
learn this process, begin to
54:59
unravel. Lock all of those
54:59
beanbags, because we got
55:03
hundreds, I still got a ton to
55:03
work through relationships was
55:07
my thing. I'm like, forget that.
55:07
And every time I go into a
55:11
relationship session, I'm just
55:11
like, either angry or uptight,
55:16
or I want to like scream or cry.
55:16
It's like, that's the stuff to
55:22
deal with. So it's for anyone
55:22
who has interest in different
55:27
modalities and is tired of
55:27
trying to cover up their
55:30
feelings. And they want to just
55:30
like project this crap from
55:33
their body. Yeah, because it's
55:33
causing. Also, I mean, there's
55:37
so many other ways to look at
55:37
beanbags, think of beanbags
55:40
could be like a pain that you're
55:40
feeling in your neck. It could
55:43
be unexplained pains,
55:43
unexplained stomach aches,
55:49
headaches, anything. Yep. It
55:49
could go as deep as disease like
55:56
IBS, anything, you could be
55:56
anything.
56:02  Melissa Bright
I had something
56:02
really, really crazy happened to
56:05
me on Monday. So long story
56:05
short, my my dad passed away
56:11
back in January, and my brother
56:11
and I had to go down to his
56:16
house in on Thursday to go get
56:16
some of his stuff from his
56:20
house. And, you know, that's,
56:20
that's really, really emotional.
56:25
And we knew what was happening.
56:25
And Monday night, I woke up in
56:29
the middle of the night with the
56:29
worst stomach cramps I've I've
56:34
ever had. I literally thought I
56:34
was dying. And I'm like, was
56:37
this from drinking? Was this
56:37
from eating too much? Is this
56:40
from eating too much cheese?
56:40
Like, I'm like, there is no way
56:44
in hell, this could be just
56:44
strictly my emotions, could it
56:48
could this What is going on? And
56:48
I still don't have the answer. I
56:53
will tell you it lasted about 24
56:53
hours. But I there now that I
56:58
have went there and have done
56:58
the stuff and got my dad's
57:01
stuff, like I do feel like a
57:01
weight has been emotionally
57:05
lifted off of my shoulders
57:05
because I put so much around
57:09
that event going down there
57:09
facing you know, facing that
57:14
that sadness, you know, and one
57:14
thing I did try to at least tell
57:18
myself is Melissa, you can't run
57:18
from this, you're gonna have to
57:21
feel it, you're gonna have to go
57:21
and do this. But I do think
57:25
something that happened Monday
57:25
with my stomach has at least
57:29
been involved somewhat with with
57:29
the event that was about to
57:33
happen. And me finally, like
57:33
really thinking about it. And
57:37
it's just crazy. But everything
57:37
like you said from the
57:40
headaches, I know, mine is
57:40
always the tension in my
57:43
shoulders. I wake up like I'm
57:43
like this. And I'm like,
57:45
Melissa, calm down girl like
57:51  Lauren Jean
yeah, I mean, think
57:51
our heads, our stomachs are
57:55
connected. Yep. So when you're
57:55
thinking something, you're gonna
57:59
feel it in your stomach. Mm hmm.
58:02  Melissa Bright
And my anxiety I
58:02
will say before this my anxiety,
58:05
my worst symptom was stomach
58:05
cramps, like, I have went to the
58:08
doctor before, because I thought
58:08
something else was wrong with
58:11
me. And then finally, somewhere
58:11
along the line, I put two and
58:15
two together is no, there is
58:15
something surrounding this about
58:19
anxiety. I'm either trying to
58:19
make this situation perfect, or
58:23
I'm nervous about something I'm
58:23
trying to people, please, I
58:26
finally put the correlation of
58:26
No, this is just my anxiety now
58:29
that the stomach cramps didn't
58:29
happen that often. But when they
58:34
did, they're like a migraine,
58:34
you can't stop thinking about
58:37
them, which then that goes hand
58:37
in hand like Oh, God, now all I
58:40
can think about is my stomach
58:40
hurting so then it doesn't get
58:43
any better. And it's just a
58:43
freakin vicious cycle. It's just
58:47
crazy what our minds can do to
58:47
our bodies physically.
58:52  Lauren Jean
Let me also throw
58:52
this in here. I know, we're I
58:54
know we're getting close to the
58:54
end. But when you say my
58:57
anxiety, right, our minds create
58:57
an identity. This is a whole
59:02
This is a whole other topic, by
59:02
the way. But I'll throw this out
59:05
here. Because I want you to
59:05
think about this. When your
59:08
mind's going to create this
59:08
persona, this identity of who
59:13
you are. When you use the word
59:13
my with the anxiety, it makes it
59:17
yours, it makes it who you are,
59:17
and therefore your mind is going
59:21
to create that anxiety to make
59:21
it who you are.
59:24  Unknown
Oh,
59:24  Lauren Jean
so you need to stop
59:24
identifying with anxiety. Yeah,
59:30
changing the words on how you
59:30
speak to yourself and about
59:34
yourself. That's also a way to
59:34
be more aware. Right? When you
59:40
say my be like, nope, correct
59:40
yourself immediately. Don't
59:44
shame yourself for saying it be
59:44
like, Oh, crap, I said it again.
59:47
Just be like, Oh, just correct
59:47
it. Because it's the identity of
59:52
who we believe we are. Right
59:52
when we believe something about
59:56
us. Yeah, it's gonna be who we
59:56
are. We're gonna have a bad day.
59:59
I'm gonna say oh, that's That's
59:59
just the kind of day I'm going
1:00:01
to have. Yeah, you're gonna have
1:00:01
a crappy day. So if you identify
1:00:05
with anxiety, if it's mine,
1:00:05
yeah, it's gonna be yours. It's
1:00:11
so easy as that.
1:00:12  Melissa Bright
Right? It's so
1:00:12
crazy. Like, I've been thinking
1:00:16
a lot lately, like, just about
1:00:16
cliche phrases, like, if you
1:00:19
think you can, you can, if you
1:00:19
think you can't, you can't. And
1:00:21
it's like, God, these are so
1:00:21
freakin true. But people don't
1:00:25
want to like, hear them or
1:00:25
listen to them. And then as soon
1:00:28
as it is that thing, and you're
1:00:28
like, wait, I didn't believe in
1:00:33
myself in this instance. And I
1:00:33
did do this thing. Oh, my God, I
1:00:36
do believe. But it's all these
1:00:36
dumb, stupid cliche phrases, but
1:00:41
it's like, no, they really are.
1:00:41
So true. And I just think it's
1:00:47
so so fascinating with with what
1:00:47
you do. Now, can I ask you, is
1:00:52
this anything that society looks
1:00:52
at as being weird or awkward? Or
1:01:00
they're like, Yeah, I don't know
1:01:00
if that inner voice stuff is for
1:01:04
me, or I don't know if RTT is
1:01:04
for me. Because for me, and
1:01:08
where I am in my life, I'm like,
1:01:08
give me anything that's going to
1:01:11
get me better and to get me to
1:01:11
my true authentic self, where
1:01:14
other people might not be ready
1:01:14
to face the real truths. Yeah,
1:01:18
what do you think society looks
1:01:18
like the looks at these things?
1:01:22  Lauren Jean
I think it's
1:01:22
definitely more open. However,
1:01:25
you have to be to a point where
1:01:25
nothing has helped you. Or you
1:01:30
truly are intrigued by it. And
1:01:30
you're someone who wants to
1:01:34
constantly learn about yourself.
1:01:34
So it's like, if you're just
1:01:38
going to toss this out to any
1:01:38
random person out there. No,
1:01:42
they're not going to really come
1:01:42
back and say, Oh, yeah, but on
1:01:47
the other hand, everyone knows
1:01:47
about intuition. Everyone knows
1:01:52
that they have something inside
1:01:52
of them, whether they talk about
1:01:55
it or not. Everyone has a
1:01:55
knowing or a feeling a sensing,
1:02:00
because that's who we are as
1:02:00
humans. So they can relate to
1:02:04
that. Definitely, I would say a
1:02:04
lot better than our tea tea.
1:02:10
Okay, because it's just
1:02:10
something that we all know,
1:02:14
like, if you put a bunch of
1:02:14
women in a group, right? One
1:02:18
person says something about an
1:02:18
experience they had, and then
1:02:21
someone else would be like, wow,
1:02:21
yeah, that happened to me, too.
1:02:24
And then it's just like,
1:02:24
everyone's talking about it.
1:02:27  Melissa Bright
Right? It's
1:02:27
incredible. It's incredible. So
1:02:31
I do since you obviously, this
1:02:31
is what you do. And you are open
1:02:36
to you know, you taking more
1:02:36
clients, can you please tell
1:02:39
people where they can find you
1:02:39
where they can set up an
1:02:43
interview or a consultation, or
1:02:43
whatever it is that you call it?
1:02:46
Because I would love for if
1:02:46
anybody's interested in learning
1:02:49
more about what you do to be
1:02:49
able to contact you. Oh, my God,
1:02:53
you
1:02:53  Lauren Jean
know what I've
1:02:53
spent, I've been working on
1:02:55
doing less on social media. So
1:02:55
much less. And so Instagram
1:03:02
really right now. Because I kind
1:03:02
of flow in and out of things.
1:03:06
Instagram right now is the best
1:03:06
place and i've i've actually
1:03:10
recently changed my handle,
1:03:10
because instead of just being
1:03:13
known for hypnotherapy, I've
1:03:13
changed it. So I'll have to get
1:03:17
you the exact handle for what
1:03:17
that is. It's like Lauren Jean,
1:03:21
I think I named it
1:03:21
subconsciously stuff because
1:03:23
it's fun to me. And it could be
1:03:23
anything, but I will get you the
1:03:26
direct link to that. Otherwise,
1:03:26
they can always people can
1:03:30
always email me at Lauren Jean
1:03:30
IVF stones for inner voice
1:03:35
facilitator. So Lauren, Gene
1:03:35
ivf@gmail.com, that is really
1:03:41
the best two places. And then
1:03:41
I'm starting my podcast up again
1:03:46
in the summer, which will be a
1:03:46
lot of fun. So I mean, there are
1:03:49
two and I'll share that once I
1:03:49
have that going.
1:03:51  Melissa Bright
Perfect. And for
1:03:51
your Instagram. It's at Lauren,
1:03:55
Jeanne. subconscious See,
1:03:55
underscore stuff. Right. Is that
1:04:01
what it is? I don't even know. I
1:04:01
don't know for this. So I
1:04:04
wouldn't distract me. Yep,
1:04:04
that's, that's what it is. I was
1:04:07
just I was just looking it up.
1:04:07
So Lauren, thank you. And you
1:04:12
didn't know this. But I have a
1:04:12
question for all of my guests.
1:04:18
At the very end of the show. I
1:04:18
asked them all this question. So
1:04:21
Lauren, in your own words, what
1:04:21
does this bright side of life
1:04:26
mean to you? The bright
1:04:28  Lauren Jean
side of life to me
1:04:28
is just having fun. Just like
1:04:35
just fun, just plain fun. Like,
1:04:35
no hustle. No having to try for
1:04:41
anything, just having fun. And
1:04:41
realizing that that's a choice
1:04:46
and you're not stuck in
1:04:46
anything. You don't have to
1:04:48
listen to what anyone else is
1:04:48
telling you. Just have fun,
1:04:53
because that's just to me,
1:04:53
that's bright, that's happy.
1:04:56
That's exciting. Just have fun.
1:04:56
That's really what life is
1:04:59
about. We all do things we're
1:04:59
feeling. And for me, that's
1:05:04
that's having fun.
1:05:05  Melissa Bright
That is such a
1:05:05
great answer. I love that
1:05:08
answer. I love it. I love it. I
1:05:08
love it. Well, Lauren, thank you
1:05:11
so, so much for coming on here
1:05:11
to share all your knowledge
1:05:14
about what it is that you do.
1:05:14
And I'm going to keep everyone
1:05:18
updated about our RTT session
1:05:18
that Lauren and I are going to
1:05:24
be doing I do plan on making
1:05:24
that a episode, so long as
1:05:30
nothing crazy comes out and I I
1:05:30
don't want it to go public. But
1:05:35
um, yeah, that's the plan and we
1:05:35
will keep you updated. So thank
1:05:39
you very much.
1:05:40  Lauren Jean
Thank you.
1:05:43  Melissa Bright
Thank you for
1:05:43
listening to this week's episode
1:05:45
of the bright side of life. I
1:05:45
hope you guys enjoyed Lauren
1:05:49
jeans, episode eight. When I
1:05:49
came across her about a month
1:05:54
ago, I just started reading all
1:05:54
of our stuff about the
1:05:57
subconscious mind and how our
1:05:57
ego takes control of us and
1:06:02
holds us back to our from our
1:06:02
full potential and I just had to
1:06:06
talk to her. So I really hope
1:06:06
that you guys found it as
1:06:09
fascinating as I did. And once
1:06:09
again, if you would like to
1:06:13
connect with Lauren, her
1:06:13
information will be in the show
1:06:15
notes of this episode. So guys,
1:06:15
thank you very, very much and if
1:06:19
you know of anybody else that
1:06:19
might be interested in the work
1:06:23
that she does and this episode,
1:06:23
please please share it with them
1:06:27
because we never know if this is
1:06:27
the one that puts hope back in
1:06:31
their heart.