Note: This is an OG episode of BFTB. For some of my older episodes, I’ve decided to archive them and make them available only for Premium Submarines. Enjoy this throwback episode.Original episode description: If you identify with the symptoms of borderline personality disorder (also known as BPD or EUPD), it’s likely you’ve heard of “splitting.” Splitting is a defense mechanism that causes a person to view something or someone in ‘black and white’ terms (i.e., “all good” or “all bad.) This episode is part one in a three-part deep dive series on BPD splitting behaviors. If you identify with BPD, it’s likely you’re not conscious of when you’re splitting or why it happens. This can be a very painful and isolating experience. By listening to this series, you'll finally become aware of these self-sabotaging patterns and become better connected to yourself and those around you...
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episode 2: 2. Splitting in Borderline Personality Disorder (PART 2)
This episode is part two of a three-part deep-dive on Splitting. If you haven't already, go back to episode 1 and listen to that part first.
“Splitting” is often considered a hallmark of BPD / EUPD. It is characterized by the propensity to completely idealize or devalue other people, places, ideas, or objects. To see them as all good or all bad. Splitting causes those of us with Borderline Personality Disorder to view life, ourselves, and others in extremes. Black and white thinking, no gray areas. In this episode, Mollie talks about the history of the term splitting, how the term is discussed in professional therapeutic circles, and her own experience with splitting after an unexpected breakup.
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Below is what's covered on this episode:
• 01:40 Intro - The importance of the concept of integration for those of us with BPD
• 07:01 What we can learn about making integrity our "one thing" (from Glennon Doyle)
• 11:30 How identifying with our Higher Self can reduce splitting and other coping / defense mechanisms
• 14:45 How the DSM defines splitting and mood reactivity
• 17:08 Splitting as a developmental stage: how splitting behavior begins in infancy
• 17:08 Object relations theory, our two primary "drives", and the "good breast" and "the bad breast"
• 20:57 Otto Kernberg's developmental model as it relates to splitting and integrating feelings of love and hate
• 24:40 The loop we get stuck in if splitting isn't resolved in childhood and the act of reparenting ourselves
• 25:56 How media attention is primarily focused high profile and extreme examples of splitting
• 27:00 Splitting across history and the resulting grand-scale generational trauma
• 30:00 How drawing a daily Tarot card (yes, really) became an important emotional regulation tool in my BPD recovery toolbox
• 32:22 Outro - The powerful messages about our Highest Self and integration that we can find in the Tarot card "The Lovers"
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