Betrayal Trauma Recovery

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3 Power Phrases You Need Today



When abusive manipulators get inside your head, it takes everything to stay in truth, hold to reality, and remember your worth.



Tom Pryde from Psalm 82 Initiative, joins Anne on the free BTR podcast to empower victims of abuse with three power phrases that you need today - to help you deliver yourself, safely, from the grip of oppressive, covert abuse. Listen to the free BTR podcast and read the full transcript below for more.



"I Will Not Comply"



"Withholding their compliance from the abuser is saying no, I'm not going to put up with the isolation, I'm not going to put up with the intimidation, I'm not going to respect your entitlements, I'm not going to be controlled, and I'm not going to be coerced anymore. That spirit of I will not comply is essential to breaking the abusive pattern."Tom Pryde, Psalm 82 Initiative



When victims adopt the power phrase, "I Will Not Comply", they are adopting a firm boundary against abuse.



Choosing to remove themselves from the "game" of abuse is an empowering stride toward safety.



"I Choose Community Over Isolation"



One of the most devastating tools of abusers is isolation. When abusers successfully isolate victims from family and friends, they are able to better manage the victim's perception of reality.



When victims choose community over isolation, they are actively choosing reality over distortion.



Tom Pryde explains that victims of abuse need a strong community in order to validate reality and have those "checks and balances" against the abuser's distorted reality that he may try to impose on the victim.




https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u1ZQFd772Hg




"I Honor My Emotions And Deal With Them in Healthy Ways"



Anger, fear, frustration, grief, joy, and delight.



Abusers condition victims to believe that emotions are dangerous, stupid, and weak.



It takes courage and dignity for victims to choose to honor their emotions and express them in healthy ways.



Specifically, victims can choose to honor their anger.



Anne shares:



"Someone might say, 'Well, you're so angry,' and that is true, you are angry. But the implied thing is there's something wrong with anger, and the truth is that anger is awesome. Your anger is welcome here at BTR and it's also welcome at Psalm 82 Initiative, because your anger is justified in this situation."Anne Blythe, founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery



How Can Victims Honor Their Emotions?



Honoring emotions may feel like learning a new language. It may feel awkward and uncomfortable, or even morally wrong.



However, as victims practice honoring their emotions and practice patience and self-compassion, it can become a beautiful experience.



Victims can honor their emotions by:



* Accepting what they are feeling without judgment* Journaling their experiences and accompanying feelings* Sharing their trauma and associated feelings with safe people* Expressing difficult feelings through creativity, exercise, or other physical activities* Reporting criminal behavior



Betrayal Trauma Recovery Is Here For You



At BTR, we understand how difficult it is to reclaim reality during and after abuse. Complying with abuse, living in isolation,


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 2021-09-28  28m