Betrayal Trauma Recovery - BTR.ORG

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Become Fearless, Free, and Uncontrollable



It may feel impossible right now when your partner has betrayed you, abused you, and devalued you, but you can become fearless, free, and uncontrollable.
Becoming Fearless
BTR.ORG is here to help you become "fearless". Yes, abusers manipulate our minds to instill fear and condition us to comply with their abuse. However, with support and education, you can see past the manipulation and create a safety plan to get out. 



Become Free



Victims become free from their abusers when they are able to make decisions based upon what is best for themselves, rather than making decisions out of fear or trying to guess what their abuser wants them to do.



When victims feel ownership of their own minds and thoughts, their own decisions and choices, they are free from their abusers.



Some power phrases that victims can use as they work toward freedom include:




* I am capable of making good decisions
* I know what is best for myself
* I give myself permission to take however long I need to when making decisions
* I am patient with myself when I struggle with making choices




Becoming Uncontrollable





Victims can and will become uncontrollable as they set safety boundaries that separate them from abuse. Support, self-care, and education about trauma and abuse can help victims work toward the safety they need to become uncontrollable.



BTR Is Here For You



At BTR we understand how overwhelming it can feel to work toward freedom from abuse.



That is why our BTR.ORG Group Sessions meet every single day in every time zone.



Join today and find the community that you need as you seek support on your journey to healing.
Full Transcript:

Welcome to Betrayal Trauma Recovery, this is Anne.

Today, I’m going to talk about boundaries because so many women are confused about what boundaries are and how to use them to be safe.

What Is The Purpose Of A Boundary?

The purpose of a boundary is to stop harm. If you think about boundaries in the traditional sense you’ve got a boundary line or maybe a fence and it stops someone from coming over the fence. But if the boundary does not stop the harm, then it’s not a good boundary or not a boundary at all.

A boundary is not something that doesn’t work. If you have a property line and someone can just cross over it with no problems, the boundary doesn’t do you a whole lot of good.

When I talk about boundaries, I want you to think of something that can actually stop the harm. If you then put up a fence and they climb over the fence, then you still don’t have a boundary. Then, if you put a lock on the fence but they still climb over the fence, you still don’t have a boundary.

Boundaries That Stop The Harm

What you can do to make a boundary that actually stops the harm is the topic of today’s discussion.

The reason so many women are confused about boundaries is because, traditionally-speaking, therapists and other “experts” have set up boundaries this way:

You set a boundary, meaning that you state what you will or will not accept, so you say something like, “I will not accept pornography in my home,” or “I will not be lied to.” That is your “boundary.” Then, if the boundary is crossed, you have to enforce your boundary.

Okay, that pattern of boundary, violation, and then having to enforce or hold your boundary is problemat...


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