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episode 66: Religious cult survival


"1) "You just need to work through your bitterness." -Teryn

Bitterness. It's a good idea to pretty much never use that word in particular. Bitterness, in fundie-speak, is a tool to silence anyone who is being critical. If you're accused of "bitterness," it means that you are incapable of viewing any situation or person "correctly," that you lack the capacity for love and grace, and what you actually need to work on is yourself. You're imagining things, nothing bad is happening, and you have a screw loose. This is actually a form of gaslighting -- convincing the person who's being attacked that they're just crazy -- and we've been beaten over the head with it for years. Just because we're saying things about the church that aren't pleasant doesn't make us bitter. Just because we sound angry doesn't mean we're bitter.

2) "Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater." -Lydia

There are a lot of variations on this one, but it all boils down to this idea that Christianity is fine, it's really just our personal experiences that we have to get over. And, I get why this one comes up a lot. For Christians who haven't experienced either a) fundamentalism or b) spiritual abuse, their religion is one of the best, most wonderful, spectacular things in their life and they couldn't imagine living without it. For us, though? It's not even remotely the same feeling. When Christianity has been the weapon used to beat you, sometimes, throwing the whole thing out is the only healthy thing left to do.

3) "You were never really a Christian." -Libby Anne

It's the teachings of "eternal security" and "by their fruits you shall know them" taken one step too far. And, frankly, it's codswallop. By any measure, people who grew up in Christian fundamentalism, prayed the sinner's prayer, loved God, loved Jesus... they were Christians any way you look at it. Just because they're not Christians now has absolutely zero bearing on if they were Christians then. The same thing goes if they don't fit your particular criteria for what you think a "Christian" is.

4) "If you're not currently attending a church, you have walked away from God." -KR Taylor

People usually come to me armed with Hebrews 10:25 -- "forsake not the assembling of yourselves together," which is really just code for "real Christians go to church." Which, seriously, asking some of us to go back to church is like asking a soldier with severe PTSD to go back to the battlefield, or asking a battered wife to go back to her abusive husband. You're telling us that the only way we can be a "True Christian" is if we go to a building where all the other "True Christians" are once a week, and aside from sounding ridiculous, it's inconsiderate and displays an astounding lack of compassion. If you're telling someone who you know has been spiritually abused to get their ass back in church, all it means is that you haven't been actually listening to us. If you were listening, you'd know exactly how hurtful and dismissive you sound."

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 October 11, 2021  47m