For women of faith, betrayal and abuse can lead to a faith crisis. Women may ask questions like: is God ignoring me? Why won't He answer my prayers? Does He even care?
Tom Pryde from Psalm 82 Initiative joins Anne on the free BTR podcast to empower victims to understand God's loving role in our lives - and how to access that love, mercy, and justice - even during dark times. Listen to the free BTR podcast and read the full transcript for more.
Clergy-Induced Trauma Can Cause a Faith Crisis
"If any woman reading has lost their faith that they really valued due to the secondary abuse from clergy, that breaks my heart. It really breaks my heart that they have lost faith in God because of their experience."Anne Blythe, founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery
Many victims experience a faith crisis after the trauma of clergy abuse. Church leaders traumatize victims when they:
* Blame victims for the abuser's behavior* Enable or excuse abuse* Refuse to believe the victim* Minimize or rationalize abuse* Cast out or ignore the victim* Ask the victim sexually inappropriate questions* Sexually abuse the victim* Cross physical and/or emotional boundaries of the victim* Refuse to offer resources to the victim* Betray the victim's trust
Is God Ignoring Me? When You Pray and Don't Get Answers
"I truly believe in God and I truly believe in His miracles. And so when I pray and I don't get an answer to my prayers instead of not believing in God, I just kind of get mad at him and I'm like, I know you can do this, why are you not doing this? And it makes me really mad."Anne Blythe, Founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery
Many victims of emotional abuse and intimate betrayal pray for answers, help, and discernment. And yet many feel that they don't get the divine help they desperately need.
Victims can find solace in choosing to express their honest, raw emotions through prayer - including anger.
Trauma can stunt a victim's ability to feel and think. This can lead to frustration, especially when victims seek divine guidance.
Choosing to express emotions, even difficult emotions, in real time, is a powerful way to stay present in your spirituality while being honest with yourself about your current reality.
When You Worry That God Is Ignoring You, Just Hold On
"In our ministry and in our work, we consistently see the life of those who trust in God defended and helped at every turn. Sometimes in ways you would never imagine, sometimes in ways that don't seem possible. The commitment to do right is always going to be a better way, even when it doesn't feel like it."Tom Pryde, Psalm 82 Initiative
When victims feel that God is ignoring them and begin to experience a crisis of faith, life may feel dark, scary, and pointless.
Betrayal and abuse are isolating experiences that lead many victims to feel completely alone.
If you have lost your faith or are questioning your beliefs, know that you are not alone. Hold on to hope and seek support.
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