Hello, I am a marital therapist, communications trainer and author. I have thirty-five years helping couples and individuals make better relationships. I have written twenty-plus self-help books which include the international best-sellers ‘I love you but I’m not in love with you’ and ‘How can I ever trust you again?’ My books have been translated into twenty languages. I trained with RELATE the UK’s largest counselling charity. Perhaps it has been turning sixty but I have become interested in spiritual as well as psychological questions. Who am I? What are my values – as opposed to my parents, my teachers and the wider society? What makes my life meaningful? What do I believe about life, the universe and everything? Although my clients might come to me because of destructive arguments, falling out of love and infidelity, they are also interested in having more meaningful relationships and a more meaningful life. So what is the meaningful life? Why do we so easily lose our way and get lost in depression, anxiety, doubt, addictions and obsessions: the swamplands of the soul? One thing I know for sure is that there is not one answer...
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episode 74: Dr Mairi Macleod: Finding a Good Man in Midlife
“So he’s become the real love of my life. But if I’d been following my old ways of looking for men I wouldn’t have noticed him”.
If you’re following your heart and trusting to the universe in your search for midlife love, you may need to take a step back and rethink your approach.
This week’s guest, Dr Mairi Macleod, is the founder of Dating Evolved, a science-based dating consultancy. Mairi helps women look for partners in a more thoughtful and successful way. We are often told to “trust your gut” when it comes to relationships, but Mairi explains why this approach can be unrewarding.
In this episode, she describes to Andrew how her own love life was going somewhat disastrously, and how this inspired her to use her training as an evolutionary biologist to create a science-based strategy to find a partner.
Andrew and Mairi also discuss confidence, enjoying the journey and having a good hard think about why you’re attracted to a certain kind of person.
Dr Mairi Macleod is an evolutionary biologist, consultant, speaker, and science writer. She runs online programs and coaches women in small groups to help them build happy, loving relationships.
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Read Andrew’s book The Happy Couple’s Handbook: Powerful Life Hacks for a Successful Relationship
You may also enjoy Andrew’s conversation with Cate Mackenzie on the art of flirting
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