Note: This is an OG episode of BFTB. For some of my older episodes, I’ve decided to archive them and make them available only for Premium Submarines. Enjoy this throwback episode.Original episode description: If you identify with the symptoms of borderline personality disorder (also known as BPD or EUPD), it’s likely you’ve heard of “splitting.” Splitting is a defense mechanism that causes a person to view something or someone in ‘black and white’ terms (i.e., “all good” or “all bad.) This episode is part one in a three-part deep dive series on BPD splitting behaviors. If you identify with BPD, it’s likely you’re not conscious of when you’re splitting or why it happens. This can be a very painful and isolating experience. By listening to this series, you'll finally become aware of these self-sabotaging patterns and become better connected to yourself and those around you...
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signs you lack personal boundaries (feeling used and drained by other people)
Having weak (or nonexistent) personal boundaries can lead to us feeling manipulated, exploited, drained and passive-aggressive. In this episode, we'll discuss how you can identify whether or not you have a serious boundary issue and how this may be playing out negatively in your life and relationships, likely leading to feelings of worthlessness & weakness and making it impossible to develop a healthy sense of self-worth and emotional stability.
Note that in the beginning of this episode, I answer a couple of listener questions. If you'd like to submit a question to the podcast, visit my website at www.backfromtheborderline.com. If you want to jump straight into the portion about boundaries, skip to around minute 16.
Questions answered and topics discussed in this episode:
■ What exactly are personal boundaries?
■ Why is it important to set boundaries?
■ Signs you have poor personal boundaries
■ How our lives are negatively impacted by a lack of boundaries with friends, family and intimate partners
■ How unhealthy boundaries are learned in childhood and the connection between weak & diffuse boundaries and codependency
■ Common myths about setting boundaries
■ Benefits & changes you'll experience in your life once you start setting healthy boundaries
On the full version of this episode (available for premium subscribers) we'll be doing an even deeper dive on boundaries where you'll learn exactly how to create and set personal boundaries that people can't ignore.
Questions answered and topics discussed in the *premium* episode:
■ How to understand that you have the right to have boundaries
■ Learn to explore your own needs more deeply to uncover exactly what your boundaries should be
■ How to say "no"
■ How to identify when people "cross the line" with you & overstep your boundaries (and what to do about it)
■ How to stop overcommitting yourself
■ Sample conversation frameworks that will help you set boundaries with friends, intimate partners and family
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Disclaimer: The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional.
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