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episode 238: You Deserve Safety. Now.
Even when clergy counsels you to stay.
Even when family sides with the abuser.
Even when friends refuse to validate and support your truth.
You deserve safety. Now.
Regardless of what anyone else may tell you - your safety and your happiness are far more important than maintaining your marriage.
Rachel is back on the BTR.ORG podcast, sharing her heartfelt story and beautiful poetry. Listen to the BTR.ORG podcast and read the full transcript below for more.
Even When They Don't Believe You, You Deserve Safety
If you try to tell people they don't understand and you get invalidated so frequently that it's just terrorizing to think about trying to get help or they just flat out just don't believe you. And they believe your abuser. Anne Blythe, founder of BTR.ORG
Many members of the BTR.ORG community have had traumatizing experiences when they've tried to share their story or process their trauma outside of our community. Whether it's with friends, family, clergy, therapists, or others, they have experienced invalidation and even further abuse.
Regardless of whether or not others believe and/or validate you, you still deserve safety.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dol0pvVUrWQ&t=1s
Your Safety Is More Important Than Your Marriage
In faith communities especially, it's common for the sanctity of the marriage covenant to be prioritized over the victim's safety.
However, it's important to understand that abuse and betrayal violate and destroy marriage.
Your decision to seek safety is NOT ending or destroying your marriage. His decision to abuse and betray you ended the marriage.
How Do I Seek Safety?
Here at BTR.ORG, safety is more than just a physical condition.
We believe that women deserve emotional, psychological, spiritual, financial, and sexual safety - meaning that you feel free to be yourself, to make autonomous decisions about your body and sexuality, and to know that your needs will be met.
Seeking safety involves:
* Separating yourself from harm both physically and emotionally* Surrounding yourself with as much support as possible* Practicing self-care, including nutrition, hydration, and rest* Becoming educated about abuse and trauma
BTR.ORG Is Here For You
At BTR.ORG, we know how difficult it can be to identify abuse and then take steps toward safety.
We are here for you as you begin your journey toward healing.
Join our Group Sessions today. We love you.
Full Transcript:
Anne (00:00):Welcome to BTR. This is Anne. We have Rachel, back on today's episode, I have been talking with her for the past two weeks. So if you didn't hear the introduction to her story and then the middle part last week, go back two weeks,