Betrayal Trauma Recovery - BTR.ORG

I'm so amazed and grateful to have come across your podcast. I've experienced your devastating sadness at not only the abuse, but the loss and subsequent emotional confusion and inconsolable emotional pain.

I'm a 57-year-old woman. I was married for 28 years. My marriage fell apart. I have three daughters: 36, 26, 25.

I can't write anymore, as its too painful and I've been crying for three days non-stop. Today I've been a bit more together. Finally aware now that my husband abused me. I have no idea how I come across your beautiful courageous podcast. Thank you !!! God Bless !!!

Thanks for this podcast. You are not alone in your grief. I just want to let you know that in the podcast when you say you cried and cried and felt like no one came to help you, God heard you. I am going through the trauma side by side with you. Although it's a different situation, it's similar, and it all leads to betrayal.

Betrayal hurts.

The thought of my husband doing this to me has taken time to grasp. Once light is shone on the darkness that lingered in my marriage it all began to make sense. In my despair, I cried to God and He opened my eyes. Lifted the blame and guilt that my husband was transferring to me and He allowed me see what was really going on.

I thought I could make my marriage work. Not break our family. I thought I could stick it out. But as I tried harder to get through to my husband, to make him understand how his behavior hurt me - the coldness in my husband made me realize this was not ok.

15 years of marriage and God lead me to discover the truth. Painful and difficult to come to terms with seeing my marriage and family falling apart. I too have cried many nights days in a state of disbelief and pain unlike anything I have ever experienced. The man I thought cared loved and understood me, my husband, has caused me so much pain.

It all make sense now. His lack of empathy. His dishonesty. His indifference. As reality as been brought to light, so to has pain. A pain that seems too painful at times to bear. Loneliness, despair accompany it. However, mighty is our Heavenly Father who does not forsake us. Who comforts us. 

 1 The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want.

 2 He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters.

 3 He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name’s sake.

 4 Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.

 5 Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over.

 6 Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life: and I will dwell in the house of the Lord for ever.

Somehow I found your podcast. To hear someone me else going through this trauma at the same time as me brings me comfort that I am not alone. Neither are you. God is there with you
through His guidance you inspire me. I feel your pain. You are not alone. Through the strength He is giving you, you are comforting others.

I just wanted to say thank you for creating this podcast!

This is exactly what I've been needing. Your story is similar to mine. After promising myself if he ever hurt me again I'd call the police, I called when my husband threw me across the room.

He broke my trust again. I was trying to talk to him about it, expressing my pain, and he responded by throwing me across the room.

I don't know why things have played out the way they have, but all I know is that God's hand is in this somehow. I think God knew I would always stay no matter what, and now He has given me an opportunity for a way out. I am seeing now that the way my husband chooses to deal with the situation has caused further damage to my children and me. He has caused us so much more pain.

I too have been given the answer to wait as I ask God what I should do. I don't know how it's all going to end, but I know if I trust in God, He will take care of me.

Thank you again! 

Righteous women across the globe are feeling the weight and suffering the consequences of their husband's sad choices. The following scriptures give me comfort that in the end, God will give us rest from our worries and troubles.

If it's not fine, it's not the end:).

41 Behold, the sword of vengeance hangeth over you; and the time soon cometh that he avengeth the blood of the saints upon you, for he will not suffer their cries any longer.