The BTR.ORG Podcast - Betrayal Trauma Recovery

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episode 252: The Secret to Healthy Marriage



If you've left your abusive marriage hoping and wishing for the opportunity to be loved and cherished in a safe, healthy relationship, you're not alone.



Many women in our community have the perfectly normal and healthy desire for a loving relationship post-abuse.



Nora is back on the BTR.ORG podcast sharing the final installment of her 3-part story - as well as sharing the secret to healthy relationships (spoiler: it's something we've been saying all along).



HERE IT IS: Healthy Relationships Are NOT HARD



Victims of abuse and betrayal understand the relentless day-in, day-out trauma of the never-ending cycle of the abusive relationship. Even the most benign interactions feel like incredibly hard work.



Healthy relationships take time and energy, but they are not difficult.



Here on the BTR.ORG podcast, Anne has interviewed dozens of women who have entered into healthy relationships after abuse and they have all said the same thing - being in a relationship with a healthy man is easy.



If your relationship feels difficult and exhausting, you may be in an abusive relationship.



So Here's The Secret



I've met quite a few advocates who are now married to healthy men after an abusive relationship. And one of the things they tell me, "It's so easy." They didn't realize how easy it can be.Anne Blythe, Founder of BTR.ORG



The secret to healthy relationships is quite simple.



A marriage or partnership should be your place of refuge - a space where you are loved and supported. Your partner or husband should make life feel safer, more enjoyable, and more full. If life feels heavier and less safe with this person, then you may consider moving on and making space for the person who will be the healthy partner for your new life.



BTR.ORG Is Here For You



At BTR.ORG, we know the vulnerability of entering the dating field after divorcing an abuser. Please join our daily, live BTR.ORG Group Sessions for the support and validation that you need as you begin this new chapter.




https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N-dxt4_SCUI




Full Transcript:



Anne (00:00):Welcome to BTR.ORG. This is Anne. I have Nora back on today's episode to tell the ending of her story. We ended last week talking about the fact that our ex-husband will be released from jail and how stressful that is. Like knowing that that's coming up. We're gonna jump in at that point. Oh, it's really sad and disheartening to realize that the justice system is more about the rights of perpetrators, and then it is about protecting victims, making sure that their rights aren't harmed in, you know, sentencing them and, you know, all these things and the protection and making sure that the victims are safe is not high on the priority list. Or even believing the victims is really hard. So I am so sorry that you got that sort of hanging out there in space. It's not the same at all, but I had something similar with mine and it just, I dreaded it, you know, as it was coming up. So I just wanna empathize with you that, that that is really hard. When did you, when was your divorce final?



Nora (04:59):It took a while.


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