The Upgrade by Lifehacker

This week we're talking about psychopaths: what exactly is a psychopath, how to identify them and what to do if you suspect you might be dating one. We talk with Jen Waite, author of A Beautiful, Terrible Thing: A Memoir of Marriage and Betrayal about her marriage to someone who turned out to embody the textbook definition of a psychopath, as well Columbia University professor of psychiatry Michael Stone about the clinical and forensic applications of the psychopathy spectrum...

Ty Tashiro, relationship expert and author of Awkward: The Science of Why We’re Socially Awkward and Why That’s Awesome, joins us in the studio to talk about how the same traits that make us socially anxious and cause embarrassing faux pas can actually be beneficial. We also get people to spill about their most awkward moments, and take a look at the ways that technology has made things awkward (and what we can do about it) in the digital age. See Privacy Policy at https://art19...

Marissa Ross, the official wine columnist for Bon Appétit and author of the book “Wine. All the Time: The Casual Guide to Confident Drinking,” joins us in the studio to talk about (what else?) wine: how to buy it, how to talk about it, and most importantly, how to enjoy drinking it. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We’re living in a time of secrets. Whether it’s the health-care bill, Russia’s secret connection with our recent election, or the lies we all tell, secrets plague all of us. Seth Stephens-Davidowitz, author of “Everybody Lies: Big Data, New Data, and What the Internet Can Tell Us About Who We Really Are” explains what the Internet can tell us about the prejudices, fears, and fetishes we’re hiding...

Sally Kohn, political commentator, columnist, and one of our leading progressive voices, joins us in the studio to discuss the state of our (deeply divided) union—and how we can come together despite our differences. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week we chatted with Samantha Irby, comedian, writer, the mastermind behind the blog “Bitches Gotta Eat” and the author of the new collection of essays “We Are Never Meeting in Real Life,” as well as the collection “Meaty.” We crowned her as the voice of her generation, talked marriage and the Bachelorette, and found out why she dedicated her book to Klonopin. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Sharon Salzberg is one of the people who brought Buddhist meditation and mindfulness practice to the West and into mainstream culture. She co-founded the Insight Meditation Society in Barre, Massachusetts, and is the  author of nine books, including the New York Times best seller Real Happiness, her seminal work, Lovingkindness, and her new book, which comes out tomorrow, Real Love: The Art of Mindful Connection...

Andy Boyle is a writer, comedian, and web developer who has gone viral on the Internet multiple times. He’s also the author of the new book “Adulthood for Beginners: All the Life Secrets Nobody Bothered to Tell You.” Andy joined us in the studio to talk about how he went viral, and all of the things he wished he knew as a young adult to make him a better and fuller person. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19...

Hector Monsegur is a reformed black-hat hacker. Under the alias Sabu, he hacked corporations, news organizations, and Middle Eastern governments. After he was caught, Hector became an informant for the FBI; now he makes a living helping companies avoid getting hacked. Hector joined us in the studio to talk about all the ways we put ourselves at risk of being the next hacking victim, and how we can protect ourselves and our data. See Privacy Policy at https://art19...

Legendary tech guru Leo Laporte joins us to discuss what it means to be a geek, the mainstreaming of geek culture, why we must fight for our (geek) rights, and how he built an enormous—and enormously successful—podcast network. You can find the show notes and all episodes at http://www.lifehacker.com/theshow.  See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.