This podcast is for you if you’ve spent years secretly seeking reassurance and approval in your relationships. Now you’re in a period of transition – kids leaving, parents aging, job changing, career shifting, relationship stagnation, identity questioning. You feel like you CAN’T DO IT anymore, but you’re afraid of what happens if you aren’t what others need and expect you to be.You’re in a Midlife Tectonic Shift.Hey there, I’m EZ martin-chan. I midwife female identified and socialized humans through their Midlife Tectonic Shifts. I help you unlearn and disassemble the internalized people pleasing scaffolding – a paradigm culture gifted you. So you can wake up every morning confidently grounded in who the fq you are, and so you can unapologetically step into your rebellious power and BEcome who you are meant to BE. If you want to tame your fears so you can claim your worth and enoughness, and know you are everything the world needs right now …Hit subscribe and be sure to listen weekly.
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Gesamtlänge aller Episoden: 8 hours 20 minutes
Hey, I'm back!
Hey! I'm coming back - coming in hot and messy. I'm working on a total reboot - tearing it down and starting fresh.
Watch me play in the discomfort of visibility through December.
- Releasing No People Pleasing Zone episodes
- Posting on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ez.martin.chan/
- Posting on IG: https://www.instagram.com/ez.martinchan/
Ok. That’s all
First outro for season 2...
episode 1: Are you doing this one thing to build self trust?
Welcome to season 2!
In this episode I explore what caused me to burn out in 2021 – resulting in an abrupt ending to season 1 of No People Pleasing Zone. And discuss how I had to double down, and lean into, the one essential thing that helps build and maintain self-trust.
Self-trust is essential for overcoming fears and achieving goals. Relying on external push-culture sources for motivation is not only unhelpful, but can be down-right detrimental...
episode 18: How Do You Love Thee? Exploring What You Need to Know About Self-Love
What is the single most important thing my audience needs to know about self-love? That’s the question I asked fellow presenters at last year’s Women Inspiring Women Conference. With the theme of Self Love: I am Enough You are Enough, it seemed a great opportunity to collect some thoughts on a topic that can be a bit difficult to clearly define.
Today’s episode is from my interview vault...
episode 17: Is It Always Wrong to Be a People Pleaser?
Asked recently if it is always wrong to be a People Pleaser – I realized that the question provides an opportunity to dive deep. In this episode, I explore motivation, how People Pleasing isn’t who we are, and the self-judgment of the inner critic.
The motivation behind People Pleasing action is important. We can either be seeking acceptance or come from a place that resonates with the core of who we are...
episode 16: Feeling the Feels: Finding the Sweet Spot
Do you ever find yourself returning to the same painful feelings over and over? It’s your very own version of Ground Hog Day. Maybe you find yourself using the common coping mechanism of numbing out just to avoid those feelings. In today’s episode, we learn about the differences between emotions and feelings, and we identify the sweet spot where we can play with influencing our feelings.
Emotions are physiological sensations experienced in the body...
episode 15: Tired of Being Tired
How does one approach those things that are desires, but drain energy levels? In today’s episode, I get vulnerable and explore how I’ve entered a pattern of allowing the No People Pleasing Zone to drain my energy and inhibit my ability to show up in my fullness. I identify what I desire, and struggle through the drawbacks to my current approach. Over the years, the most important lesson I’ve learned about the People Pleasing Rabbit Hole is the need to shift perspective...
episode 14: How to Set Boundaries You Can Stick To
The holidays are quickly approaching – or if you are in the US – they’re here. Humans stuck down, what I call, The People Pleasing Rabbit Hole are often stressed, depressed, angry, frustrated, filled with resentment, and neglect self-care. Experts suggest setting boundaries. But, setting boundaries can be really difficult when what we desire most is connection and belonging. Boundaries can feel counter to our desires...
episode 13: What the Heck are Microaggressions Anyway?
Microaggressions aren’t just found in racism, sexism, or towards LGBTQ2 communities. Found anywhere power structures place one group of people above others, microaggressions are based in community biases. They are accumulative and help to enforce status quos. Humans stuck down, what I call, The People Pleasing Rabbit Hole understand microaggressions as cues to how they should BE in the world...
episode 12: How to Deal with Energy Vampires
Energy Vampires seek out your energy to uplift their self-esteem, and they can show up anywhere. Humans stuck down, what I call, The People Pleasing Rabbit Hole are often empaths and can find themselves prime targets for Energy Vampires. We don’t always realize that Energy Vampires exist – but they do – they are very real. Long-term relationships with Energy Vampires can cause chronic stress, which has real-world health consequences...
episode 11: Let’s Talk about Resilience
What is “resilience”? When we take a look at the meaning of resilience in the context of physics, we begin to really tease out the nuance of what resilience is. So often when we talk about resilience, we are really talking about something else – survival. There is a significant difference between resilience and survival – and the two often get wrapped up into one...