Paging Dr. NerdLove

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      How To Avoid Self-Sabotage


      It’s hard to admit, but often we are our own worst enemies when it comes to solving our dating issues. We get torn between wanting to fix things and resenting that things need to be fixed in the first place. And that tension makes it almost impossible to improve because it keeps you from doing the things that you need to in order to progress. After all, it’s hard to accept that you need help… and even harder to admit that you’re the one who’s the author of your own hardships. B...


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      episode 40: How To Write A Perfect Online Dating Message


      Maybe this has happened to you: you get a match on Tinder or find someone on OKCupid who seems to be absolutely perfect for you. You message them… and get absolutely nothing in return. Or you might have a conversation that peters out within two to three exchanges or you’re left with shorter and shorter replies that take longer and longer to arrive.

      This has been the experience of a lot of men when it comes to online dating. And it can be incredibly frustrating ...


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      episode 39: Your Online Dating Story


      Online dating can be an amazing resource, regardless of the kind of relationship you’re looking for. Whether you’re looking for a lifetime commitment, a something a bit more relaxed or even just a quick hook-up, online dating sites and apps have streamlined the process and made it possible to meet people you might never otherwise encounter. 

      Part of what makes online dating tricky is that we don’t think about how we’re using it. The issue is that we never stop ...


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      Paging Dr. NerdLove Episode #38 - Making The WRONG First Impression


      It doesn’t matter whether it’s for a job interview, meeting new friends or trying to impress the cute woman in line with you at Starbucks - making the right first impression is incredibly important. The way you come across the first time you meet someone creates an idea of who you are that will last for years. It creates the filter that dictates whether they will see literally everything you do in a positive or negative light.

      But while we know a lot of what ma...


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      Paging Dr. NerdLove Episode #37 - The


      One pernicious idea surrounding sex is the commodity model or the "market value" of sex. The idea behind the “economy” of sex is a model of interaction between straight men and women based on the idea of supply and demand. It comes in a number of flavors - some of them more overtly misogynistic than others - but the basic premise is this: The price of something is balanced between the supply available and the demand for the item. Because men supposedly want sex more than women d...


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       2017-07-13

      Paging Dr. NerdLove Episode #36 - Finding Your Flirting Style


      Learning to flirt is important, because it’s a critical part of not just showing your interest but also building and generating chemistry and attraction with the person you’re interested in. But while mastering the basics of flirting is good, but you also want to make sure that your flirting style matches with your personality. After all, one of the issues that can screw up an otherwise great interaction is if the way you flirt clashes with who you are as a person. If you can fi...


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       2017-07-06

      Paging Dr. NerdLove Episode #35 - Overcoming Negativity


      this week, it’s time for a little tough love. Some of this may sting. Some of it may be upsetting… but it’s going to be important. And if you stick through the end, you’re going to have some tools that’ll make things better.

      Instead of talking about the things you should be doing… I want to talk about the thing that you’re doing that you desperately need to stop… because it’s killing your love life.

      Show Highlights:

      How one simple test reveals how y...


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       2017-06-29

      Paging Dr. NerdLove Episode #34 - Learning To Be Fearless With Attractive Women


      When you’re talking to someone you think is hot - whether you’re hoping to get a phone number or a date, to practice your flirting or lay the groundwork for future interactions, it can feel like you’re having to juggle while riding a unicycle. And the unicycle is on a tightrope. And the tightrope is also on fire.

      You’re trying to do a dozen things at once - you want to be witty and funny because you want them to laugh but you are also trying to be a bit flirty ...


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       2017-06-22

      Paging Dr. NerdLove Episode #33 - How To Develop Your Social Calibration


      How many times have you wondered why this person is able to do things that you believe you could never actually accomplish? Why does this person make a rude joke and everyone loves it, while someone else gets awkward silence and stares? Why does one person struggle to talk to people while somebody else can stroll into the party and leave with someone fifteen minutes later? The difference is that the more successful people tend to be better socially calibrated than the less...


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       2017-06-15

      Paging Dr. NerdLove Episode #32 - How To Handle Rejection Like A Man


      Normally, for the podcast I don’t go too much into current events but occasionally stories crop up that beg to be discussed. And this week, a story that began in the Relationships subreddit and ultimately ended in r/LegalAdvice is one that needs to get covered. To summarize: a young man asked a girl out he hung out with at work is told "Let's just be friends". This, in turn, leads to pleads for dates, drunk phone calls at 3 AM, stalking her social media, hanging around her do...


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       2017-06-08