Is Perfectionism the new ADHD? How do I stop living in fear of failure? How to get out of my own way? Why am I so hard on myself? Why do I self-sabotage? Will ruminating + catastrophizing ever end? There's a BETTER Way to Perfectionism, that's empowering highly driven, Type-A, ambitious perfectionists to OWN their perfectionism instead of owned by it. Perfectionism Rewired host Courtney Love Gavin (CLG) shows you that way in every episode. Perfectionism Rewired is committed to neuroscience truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, neuroplasticity + interoception techniques for the practical-perfectionist who wants that extra edge over obsolete advice to "overcome your perfectionism" Listen for fierce insights on exiting victim mentality, what self-sabotage *really is*, how to stop: people pleasing without compromising kindness, catastrophizing, ruminating, overthinking and upgrading all-or-nothing mindset, so you can quit fighting against your perfectionistic tendencies and feel as put together as your life looks...
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Gesamtlänge aller Episoden: 2 days 9 hours 45 minutes
episode 200: Feeling Inadequate? When it feels like you're falling short (+ how to change it today)
It’s our 200th episode and I’m sharing what *really* happens when you upgrade from control to power, the suck of growth as a perfectionist and ultimately finding empowerment in what initially seemed like total ruin. Join me in choosing to rise to the occasion of being a perfectionist as I unravel the messy striving, intrusive thoughts, why we hold so tightly to things that matter the least and how to let go...
BACK ONLINE: When Perfectionists Broke The Internet
Big News: Website Is Back! After crashing on NYE and being down for 6 days, courtneylovegavin.com is back online. If you've been trying to get in touch about Perfectionism Leveraged 1-1 coaching, now's your chance! Go to courtneylovegavin.com/contact
episode 199: Medical Gaslighting: It’s Not You, It’s Your Misdiagnosis
Medical Gaslighting Exposed. You’ve been going to psychotherapy for months, doing everything your doctor tells you, but it’s 5 steps forward, 5 steps back. When you voice your concerns, they’re brushed off or quick to prescribe a symptom suppressor???? It's not just you – medical gaslighting occurs universally with high—functioning perfectionists especially if you identify as a woman, trans, non-binary or person of color...
episode 198: Perfectionist Sunk Cost Fallacy: When Loyalty Becomes Lethal
Discover how the perfectionist sunk cost fallacy could be holding you back and learn how to break free from its grip. From wearing clothes you hate, to staying in relationships or careers way past their expiration date, Sunk Cost fallacy is a lethal landmine for perfectionistic people...
episode 197: When You Get Support & It *Sucks* Navigating Advocating as a Perfectionist
Sometimes, support sucks. As a perfectionist this gets especially tricky when you're also wobbly on advocating for yourself. If you've ever felt trapped by your own high expectations this episode breaks down the barriers that perfectionists often face when it comes to asking for and receiving support, illuminating the internal struggles and external pressures that's enormously misunderstood by non-perfectionistic people...
episode 196: Upgrading Panic + Control to Power + Presence: Nurturing Your Perfectionistic Brain
More you control, Less powerful you feel? Control causes Panic. Power creates Presence. In this episode CLG lays out the shortest, simplest pathway to the result perfectionists actually want: power, peace and presence with a special focus on parenting and daily life. Discover the root of control versus power, the outdated strategies not designed for perfectionistic brains very widely used in psychotherapy and why they’re ultimately harmful to perfectionists in the long-run...
episode 195: Not A Popularity Contest but if it was...You're Winning!
When you stop trying to get people to like you or validate you (or listen to your podcast) this wild phenomenon occurs: You become popular! Plot twist that makes you pause as to why for sooooo long you tried soooo hard and cared soooo much about being well received it never happened. Happy surprises + insights inside. In a world of quick fixes, you deserve lasting change...
episode 194: Everything You Need to Know About Self Regulation as a Perfectionist
Can’t seem to calm down despite taking deep breaths, memorizing ALL the coping skills + “knowing” what to do? Forget about those dusty generic strategies. Discover the HIDDEN self-regulation skill that no one's told you about until now! Get the relief, control and answers you’ve been longing for with tailored, effective emotional resilience methods that work for YOU. You’ll learn to recognize those subtle, personal cues that tell you stress is creeping in so you can take control...
episode 193: What Perfectionists Worry About Isn't The Problem *This* Is
Your Perfectionistic Brain does NOT work the way you think it does. Your brain predicts *almost* everything you feel, think, do, and when it gets it wrong, it's called a prediction error. Get up to speed on prediction errors and how speaking Interoception will save your sanity as a perfectionist and might just change your life. 9.5 out of 10 Perfectionists can't easily move on from mistakes...
episode 192: When Taking A Few Deep Breaths Isn't Enough
NONE of the strategies for overcoming perfectionism worked for me. Perfectionism Recovery made me feel even worse (I l????ve giving my ALL!). Changing my thoughts was impossible bc I had SO MANY. Meditation made me feel incompetent bc it was so hard to quiet my mind. Therapy left me feeling better in the moment but then anxious AF when reality hits + IDK the ‘correct’ tool to use. For decades I believed I was defective. It was ALL.my...