The Art of Charm

Kimberly Seltzer (@SeltzerKimberly) gives us her five-step process for finding a therapist who is right for you. The Cheat Sheet: We all need help from time to time; there's absolutely no shame in seeking therapy -- just as there's no shame in consulting a tutor if you need help getting through trigonometry or organic chemistry class. Finding a therapist is like finding a dentist or any other professional who will have a meaningful impact on your life...

Alex Kouts (@akouts) returns to The Art of Charm to talk about how to get hired at a startup (and if the startup life might -- or might not -- be a good fit for you)...

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #33! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode: Sometimes your partner will complain just to vent about something that's bothering them, and other times they want legitimate solutions to their problems. How do you tell one from the other? Emotional conditioning can be a powerful force...

Mark Manson (@iammarkmanson) is the author of Models: Attract Women Through Honesty, and he blogs to an audience of millions about psychology and personal development. The Cheat Sheet: Love is not enough; people prioritize love over other more important values, such as self-respect, trust, and boundaries. The relationship scorecard is toxic habit 1, where people feel as though they are always "owed" things by their partner...

Zachary Stockill (@zfstockill) shows us how overcoming retroactive jealousy and possessiveness is as easy as learning to let go. The Cheat Sheet: All jealousy is related to insecurity in some way. How should we deal with the complex cultural politics of social media in 2015 as they relate to retroactive jealousy? What are your values? Jealousy and possessiveness often cause us to stay in unhealthy relationships for far too long...

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #32! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode: While it might not be the end of the tunnel, it's good that you're seeing the light -- just make sure it's the right light. How do you practice genuine gratitude without coming across as a kiss-ass -- especially in the workplace? 25-year-old virgins aren't as uncommon as you may think...

Neil Strauss tells The Truth about past transgressions in his latest book, but it's more than just a head-cleaning confession -- it's an exploration of options most people probably haven't considered. "Nobody's making you do anything. You have complete freedom of choice at all times. You just have to accept the consequences of that choice...

If you can learn to tell a good story, you can captivate any audience -- whether as a public speaker, while interviewing for a job, or when you're on a date. "If there's one big piece of advice that I have -- albeit I have a lot of them -- it's: make sure that you are driven to tell the story that you're telling." -Amy Port The Cheat Sheet: Even the best, most personal story can be lost in the hands of a bad storyteller...

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #31! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode: How do you learn to trust yourself and your instincts (especially when it comes to money)? A doctor brings a medical perspective to some advice we gave a listener in a difficult relationship back in Fan Mail Friday #27...

Every interaction is a performance -- whether you're speaking up in a meeting, pitching a client, negotiating a raise, or walking into a job interview. Michael Port tells us how to steal the show. "There's a benefit to being chameleon-like." -Michael Port The Cheat Sheet: At its core, a good performance is genuine...