The Art of Charm

By recognizing in our own behavior what keeps us from being resilient against life's obstacles, we're empowered to stop the cycle and focus on what it takes to become mentally stronger. "Every time you take your eyes off of your own goals and you start resenting somebody else, it's another minute that you didn't spend working towards whatever it is you want to achieve...

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #30! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode: Contrary to popular belief, a lot of intelligence agents have trouble pulling off the smooth James Bond routine when trying to genuinely interact with people in real life. Sometimes, being embarrassed by and hating your "old self" just means you've made progress...

Do you think of people who pursue their passions and make good money doing it as lucky? Chances are that Gary Vaynerchuk works a lot harder than you...

Corporate culture is only as boring and stagnant -- or exciting and thriving -- as the people who create it. "You can never really create culture...but you can design all these elements around it the same way you can design a house for the kind of interactions you want to have...

Stop worrying so much about where your inspiration is coming from and just create. "People think that authors are writing exactly what they know, but I think a lot of times, authors are writing what they're trying to figure out." -Austin Kleon The Cheat Sheet: Are you more proud of the things you're doing today than the things you were doing a year ago? (04:52) Is any creative work truly original? (06:40) Most of your favorite artists are shameless thieves -- and will freely admit it...

"What men and women did to each other was beyond comprehension." -Charles Bukowski Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #29! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode: A new listener wants to know why we even have Fan Mail Friday...

Meditation is for doers who seek personal top performance -- from entrepreneurs to professional athletes like Kobe Bryant. "If you hand a top performer a potential advantage, they're going to try it." -Tony Stubblebine The Cheat Sheet: What benefits will life coaching offer the high-performing person vs. the low-performing person? (02:30) Meditation is more than a spiritual haven -- it's a mental strength exercise for people from hedge fund managers to professional athletes...

Your talents, abilities, and intelligence aren't fixed traits -- they can be expanded and improved at any age with a mindset motivated toward growth. "It's exciting to be progressing and doing things you never thought you could do; it's less exciting to just keep proving yourself over and over -- often by staying in your comfort zone." -Dr. Carol Dweck The Cheat Sheet: Learn the differences between the fixed mindset and the growth mindset...

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #28! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode: If the pervasive drunken collegiate environment isn't offering any appealing friend/date prospects in your new town, you're probably playing below your league. Aim higher by considering these options you probably didn't realize you have...

Even if it seems like you've got the world figured out and you should be loving life, you might be among a surprising number of high-performing people who find happiness, confidence, and connection elusive. "The high performer only ever really sees the gap between themselves and everyone else -- and how much worse they are without realizing what's great about them." -Jason Connell The Cheat Sheet: Sleep deprivation isn't a status symbol...