The Art of Charm

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #24! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode: Is hitting on women disrespectful? Listener JT has a funny (but possibly effective) solution to the "how do I disengage from the friends I've outgrown?" conundrum. Teaching kids value seems more important than the contrast between scarcity and abundance...

Don't let "success" get in the way of living a life that maximizes your impact and happiness...

Accomplish more of the things you want to do with the power of the hustle. "When I arrived here, I was so painfully clueless; I arrived at San Francisco International Airport asking someone how to get to Silicon Valley." -Steli Efti The Cheat Sheet: The formula of the hustle: show up, follow up, and follow through. Emotional alchemy: how to turn fear into courage...

Think like a negotiator in all aspects of life and create win-win results by understanding the pitfalls to avoid. "That's all negotiation is -- basically a technical term for discussions and conversations to reach an agreement." -Eldonna Lewis Fernandez The Cheat Sheet: Silence is a powerful weapon in negotiation. A negotiation is an agreement. Are the principles of persuasion the same across geography and culture? Go to garage sales to practice negotiation with almost no risk...

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #23 In this episode: You can give her enough space to fly a rocketship, but she's already moved on. You should, too. Another listener chimes in with some positive thoughts about the 9-5 routine we talked about last week. Barfights only look like a lot of fun in Burt Reynolds '80s movies. At least one listener came away from our Chris Edwards interview with a better understanding of transgender issues. For someone considering attending our program in L.A...

If you want to get, you've got to give. And if you want to give, you're already ahead in the game of true success. "I didn't know what I wanted to do, but I knew what I didn't want to do at an early age." -Aaron Walker The Cheat Sheet: When considering true success, it's important to aim for significance. A healthy balance between life and work isn't some far-fetched myth...

Entrepreneur or not, when it comes to seeking a path in life, ignoring the power of your own potential is downright criminal. "Entrepreneurs and founders are like chaotic Ferraris; we just know how to build and create at speeds that...do not make sense to big companies." -Dan Martell The Cheat Sheet: What does "hustle to help" mean? Failure is part of the road to success. Why shouldn't you seek business advice from your parents? Motivation trumps knowledge...

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #22 In this episode: How do you know when your own red flags are a problem? Why are so many people content with the 9-to-5? How do you kick a substance like Adderall (or caffeine) when it seems to maximize your brainpower? And more! Show notes at http://theartofcharm...

Technology is progressing so quickly that science fact is catching up with what was recently only imaginable as science fiction. Welcome to the 21st century. "The invention of the future is a war, make no mistake." -Steven Kotler The Cheat Sheet: The line between technology and biology is getting thinner and thinner. What is mind uploading? Biotechnology is now moving at five times the speed of Moore's Law -- in other words, it's doubling in power every four months...

Using techniques developed by the Marines makes reading nonverbal cues to identify potential threats very straightforward. "Somewhere between 60-90 percent of all communication is nonverbal...