We are Believers

We are Believers is a project run by Daria Hackenberg and Hollis P Monroe. This podcast is rooted in philosophical theory, as well as real world practice, to be affirmed or challenged throughout our conversations. We are believers in ideas, people, and the power of love. We are not trying to change your mind. We only express what we believe as we do not claim to know. Along the way, we try to show how wonderful you are, in case you forget it and share with you our doubts and wonderings. Disagree? Have other interesting topic or question? Write to us! www.instagram.com/wrbelievers


Eine durchschnittliche Folge dieses Podcasts dauert 50m. Bisher sind 33 Folge(n) erschienen. Dieser Podcast erscheint wöchentlich

Who should pay on the first date?

“Does a man have to pay on a first date?”

People on the street were asked this question by actors from a popular German comedy show but the answers they received in the actual segment were not nearly as interesting as comments under the video.

One man had such a particularly grandiose justification of his position that we had no choice but to devote an entire episode to giving our take on his premise...


 2020-10-07  45m

The 5 Languages of love or how to express and comprehend loving until death do us part

Imagine yourself deep in love.

You might want to tell your partner  "I love you" every 10 minutes to make sure that they know how you feel about them. You want them to have absolutely no doubt about being loved.

It's not quite realistic, is it?

Your partner might even think you're crazy.  But how else would you show your love?

Some people come home every day with flowers and gifts. Some cook exquisite dinner meals to please their other half...


 2020-09-16  43m


We have touched upon the importance of communication and open dialogue in quite a few of our past episodes.  In this episode, we decided to talk about it specifically and so we invited a professional linguist, Professor Tiffany Dyson (@tiffetzjiff) to inform the conversation.

Tiffany shares some of the knowledge she has gained about communication through the language research in which she is involved as well as through her personal life experiences and travels...


 2020-09-02  1h13m

Between Frienship and Attraction

"Hey, Daria, what's going on with you and Hollis?”

“Are you dating Hollis?”


“Why not?”

“It is not possible that there’s nothing going on.”

“After all, you met on Tinder!”

You are a man and a woman!

Clearly, you are deceiving yourselves and do not want to recognize the attraction between you!"

And on it goes......


 2020-08-25  43m

Daria Clarifies Her Answers

Wow! Thank you all for the huge response and great feedback to our previous episode "Blitz Round #1: Answering some OkCupid Questions."

We received many words of encouragement and gratitude for this Blitz-Round format. Almost everyone seemed to enjoy it, so obviously with approval and support like that, we will surely keep it going.

But along with this, it seems that some people were particularly struck by Daria's statement that she doesn’t need a “nice” man around her...


 2020-07-29  48m

Blitz Round #1: Answering some OkCupid questions

In this episode, we have replied to and discussed some of matching questions from the OkCupid dating app.

Listen to our answers to some of these questions and topics including:

1. How many dates do you wait to have sex with someone that you’re interested in?
2. Do you believe that you are more intelligent then most of the people around you?
3. Do you find intelligence more sexually appealing then physical beauty?


 2020-07-23  48m

Who's hidden behind the tattoo?

Do people really evaluate us based solely upon our appearance? 

Are we treated differently by others when we don’t appear to fit their description of “normal”? 

Could it be that this often negatively interpreted thought is most often rooted within our own minds?

In this episode, we welcome our very first guest: Tattoo artist Ina Bond (www.instagram.com/inabond)...


 2020-07-16  51m

Comparing yourself to others

Almost every day, we compare ourselves to other people. Often we take someone as an example of what we think we should be. We want to be able have what they have or do what they do.  And very often, we become upset or jealous because we are not as beautiful, successful, or happy as someone else seems to be...


 2020-07-09  1h3m

Dating a woman in her 20s versus her 40s

In this episode, we will try to understand why women in their twenties and women in their forties behave so differently on dates and within relationships.

We’ll touch on what a woman in her 20s seems to want, and why she doesn't need such things at 40 while other requirements becomes uncompromisingly necessary over this same period of time.

We will talk about power dynamics, sensitivity, natural inclinations and, as always, relationships...


 2020-07-02  40m

Optimist, Pessimist and Reality

What if what we think of as “real” isn't actually real?

What if we told that there is no such thing as reality?

What if we told you that you can change your reality?

Have you noticed that some people only see the good in things while others, even at the best of times, can always find something bad?

Why does one person always seem to be lucky and another always seem to be unfortunate?

Who can say that the way someone perceives a situation is actually seeing...


 2020-06-21  45m