Speaker 1: This is Intimate Knowledge with Megan King.
Speaker 2: It's a show about sex. Hi, everybody, and welcome back
Speaker 2: to Intimate Knowledge. I'm your host, Meghan King.
Speaker 3: You can find me on Instagram at Megan King or
Speaker 3: check out my retreat at Guyahn Experience dot com.
Speaker 2: Blots get to today.
Speaker 3: And I want to start first of all with an
Speaker 3: update on my life.
Speaker 2: I have a fun story for you guys.
Speaker 3: Then we're gonna chitchat just for a minute about Kim
Speaker 3: Zolziak and Kroy Berman breaking up Splitsville unfortunately for them.
Speaker 3: And then finally we're going to bring in Haley Desola Pinto.
Speaker 3: She is from Below Deck. She's the fiery redhead on
Speaker 3: the show, fiy in every way, so I'm excited to
Speaker 3: have her on in chitchat with her.
Speaker 2: So let's get started. So guess what.
Speaker 3: I met this guy on a dating app, kind of
Speaker 3: been chit chatting for a couple of weeks and he
Speaker 3: calls me the other day and we're like, yeah, we
Speaker 3: want to meet. He lives in Vegas and I said,
Speaker 3: just come in. Why don't you come into Saint Louis?
Speaker 3: I have this this?
Speaker 2: What did I do? A derby party? He did?
Speaker 3: I couldn't get will to fly into Saint Louis to
Speaker 3: save his life. He did come in one time, bless
Speaker 3: his little heart. But this guy flies in for a
Speaker 3: first date just for a few hours.
Speaker 2: I had my kids so didn't stay with him.
Speaker 3: He didn't stay at my house, got a hotel, just like,
Speaker 3: just like a regular first date, as if he lived
Speaker 3: in town. But y'all, you're gonna die. I totally screwed
Speaker 3: it up. So I have really had a I've struggled
Speaker 3: with trusting people for a little while, and I really
Speaker 3: just felt like I trusted this guy and I felt
Speaker 3: super comfortable with him a little too comfortable because I
Speaker 3: ended up spilling everything about all of my It's like
Speaker 3: the ultimate red flag things you don't do in the
Speaker 3: first date.
Speaker 2: I told him about my cop.
Speaker 3: Parenting situation with Jim and how it's not existent, how
Speaker 3: I all I want is a co parent in my life.
Speaker 3: I mean, it was how how like my job is
Speaker 3: kind of in flux right now, and dah lah lah
Speaker 3: like it was not good. Okay, So then the next
Speaker 3: morning it ended fine and everything. The next morning I
Speaker 3: wake up and I'm like, oh my god, what said
Speaker 3: I do? So I'm texting my best friend giving her
Speaker 3: the rundown scoop on what happened, and I texted her
Speaker 3: well in his defense, I said, in my defense, he
Speaker 3: basically said he misses his wife ex wife. I sent
Speaker 3: that text to him. I was mortified. I was in
Speaker 3: my shower and I was like because he responded right away,
Speaker 3: and he's like, I hope I didn't give you that impression.
Speaker 3: I don't think this text was meant for me. I
Speaker 3: was in the shower and I could see my phone
Speaker 3: and I started screaming, to the point where when my
Speaker 3: kids came in the bathroom, was like, Mommy, is everything okay.
Speaker 3: I'm like, oh my gosh, hayes, I just sent the
Speaker 3: text message to the wrong person. He goes, oh no, Mommy.
Speaker 3: I'm like, I know, tell me about it was so embarrassing.
Speaker 3: So anyways, things seem to be smoothed over. I mean,
Speaker 3: we've still been texting and we I think we still
Speaker 3: have plans to see each other.
Speaker 2: So I'll keep you posted on that. That's my latest.
Speaker 3: I want to talk about Kroybierman and Kim solziax So.
Speaker 3: She filed for divorce with she said due to irreconcilable differences.
Speaker 3: She's asking her for full custody, full or the main
Speaker 3: custody of the kids. They have four together, and then
Speaker 3: two he has two step kids that Kim has two
Speaker 3: older ones, and she went so shared legal custody and
Speaker 3: majority physical custody, primary physical custody.
Speaker 2: I don't know what.
Speaker 3: Happened here, So I do know that, you know, about
Speaker 3: a month ago, there was all that rumor that they
Speaker 3: were entering foreclosure on their house, and then like it
Speaker 3: ended up not happening, it was pulled off. So I
Speaker 3: I think that, you know, if there is financial stress, yes,
Speaker 3: of course that's one of like the killers of any relationship,
Speaker 3: especially your marriage.
Speaker 2: So maybe that's it. I don't know.
Speaker 3: I just got this weird feeling though when I read
Speaker 3: this story that he cheated and he seems like such
Speaker 3: a nice guy, and I hope I'm totally wrong. I
Speaker 3: just really got this weird feeling about it. So I
Speaker 3: was really surprised when I saw this. But I think,
Speaker 3: you know, if there is a financial struggle in any
Speaker 3: sort of way, that can lead people to make decisions
Speaker 3: that they wouldn't normally make, rash decisions, irrational decisions, and
Speaker 3: maybe that's what happened. I literally have no idea except
Speaker 3: that that.
Speaker 2: Was the feeling that I got.
Speaker 3: So Kim wants primary physical custody, and I have primary
Speaker 3: physical custody. But I think this is misleading because it's
Speaker 3: not saying she wants full custody. And also primary custody
Speaker 3: can still be fifty to fifty. But you like the
Speaker 3: residential parents address would be listed on things. It's kind
Speaker 3: of just like a you know, weird thing that people
Speaker 3: put to say, like where do where does the male
Speaker 3: go for the kid? So that could mean primary custody
Speaker 3: in the state of Texas. I think that's where they are.
Speaker 3: I have a friend there, and that's exactly what happened.
Speaker 3: It's it's like a residential address more than anything else,
Speaker 3: and I just feel I feel so terrible for the children.
Speaker 2: The kids.
Speaker 3: The youngest kids are eleven, ten and nine year old twins.
Speaker 3: That's young, and that's but that's old enough to recognize
Speaker 3: what's going on.
Speaker 2: They live with their parents. It's very sad. And then
Speaker 2: the older two they're twenty five and twenty one. I
Speaker 2: feel like they.
Speaker 3: Have established relationships with Croy that are probably just gonna
Speaker 3: remain you know the same. I doubt that there's gonna
Speaker 3: be much change there, since those girls are basically out
Speaker 3: of the house at this point.
Speaker 2: They're grown ups.
Speaker 3: Interesting though, that Kim said choosing to love a person
Speaker 3: day in and day out is a choice, and a
Speaker 3: lot of times people are quick to throw in the towel.
Speaker 3: I I don't want to throw shade on her saying
Speaker 3: this quote at all, because things can change quickly in relationships,
Speaker 3: as we saw from the last episode of Intimate Knowledge
Speaker 3: with the reunion of our two favorite Love Is Blind friends,
Speaker 3: Daniel Rule and Nick Thompson. But back to Kim, I
Speaker 3: think that you do have to I think that's very relatable.
Speaker 3: You do have to decide to choose to love your
Speaker 3: partner every single day. And she decided not to anymore.
Speaker 3: And I don't think that she seems like a person
Speaker 3: who's really just ready to give up on a relationship.
Speaker 2: But I don't know. I think there's more to.
Speaker 3: This story, So as this unfolds, I will keep you posted.
Speaker 3: You guys, I'm excited because we have Haley Dissola Pinto
Speaker 3: on the show with us. I have been watching her
Speaker 3: on Below Deck. She's so much fun. She really brings
Speaker 3: the energy to her home on Saint David, the yacht
Speaker 3: this beautiful, insane dot that I'm super jealous that I
Speaker 3: wasn't on now that I watched the show.
Speaker 2: We have Haley from below deck with us. Hello, Hailey,
Speaker 2: welcome to the show. Thank you for joining us.
Speaker 3: And we have Trosy from below deck with us. But
Speaker 3: this is a little bit of a unique combination because
Speaker 3: Haley is a crew member on the Saint David on
Speaker 3: on below deck and Trosy you were just a guest.
Speaker 2: How did how is tell me about this? What is
Speaker 2: going on here? How does work out?
Speaker 1: It was love at first time.
Speaker 4: Really, I got on the boat and I just saw
Speaker 4: Haley and I was like this fiery British, gorgeous redhead. Yeah,
Speaker 4: and I like as soon as like we got on
Speaker 4: the boat, I grabbed her and I go, okay, girl,
Speaker 4: let's go to the bar, Like give me all the tea.
Speaker 3: Like, I mean, you were with all the pageant queens
Speaker 3: and Haley, your hair is very pageant queenie and you're gorgeous,
Speaker 3: Like you look like you could have fit right it,
Speaker 3: like you would have fit right in with them, like
Speaker 3: but without the drama.
Speaker 5: Yeah for sure.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I would. I'd go with that. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: it was I would. I just got you drunk, didn't.
Speaker 5: I it was great. I mean it's just I was like,
Speaker 5: all right, girl, so are you like doing anyone on
Speaker 5: the boat? Do you have a boyfriend? Like? Tell me?
Speaker 5: Tell me?
Speaker 2: Is that?
Speaker 3: But like is that encouraged between the crew and the guests?
Speaker 1: Not really well getting with people.
Speaker 2: Well, like no, just becoming friends or whatever in general.
Speaker 1: Actually on Soupio it's quite You've got to be really professional,
Speaker 1: Like you can't like if you're seen to be having
Speaker 1: like too much fun guests, they don't really like it,
Speaker 1: if I'm honest, But he gives I didn't really care.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, I mean you could get fired. That would suck.
Speaker 4: But she was also just being really nice and like
Speaker 4: doing her job, I guess. But we just took it
Speaker 4: to another level.
Speaker 1: Like that I've ever had on boats. I think that's
Speaker 1: the only place, like that's time with you that I've
Speaker 1: ever been told off is because I speak to guests
Speaker 1: too much. Don't get jealous. Well that I love you.
Speaker 1: It's always been. I just build relationships with guests quickly
Speaker 1: because I'm just a very open person.
Speaker 3: And you know, yeah, you seem like it. Okay, so
Speaker 3: I need the whole rundown. I need the whole scoop
Speaker 3: on everybody in the boat. So fans were very vocal
Speaker 3: about Captain Sandy versus Captain Lee.
Speaker 2: So what was it like working with both of them?
Speaker 1: Amazing. I am lucky to have the opportunity to work
Speaker 1: with both those captains. I've watched Below Deck for years
Speaker 1: and I was actually a little bit of a fan
Speaker 1: before I went on the show. So, okay, it's to
Speaker 1: have both captains was incredible.
Speaker 2: So was there a dynamic different?
Speaker 1: Yeah, like absolutely that every single captain is going to
Speaker 1: have different style, but equally, like I I love both
Speaker 1: the way that they work. You know, they're just very very.
Speaker 2: Different, very different. I know, I was like.
Speaker 3: I got a little uncomfortable at times, you know watching
Speaker 3: the show, like oh my god, don't.
Speaker 5: Do that, or.
Speaker 3: Because I mean, they're captains. They're like, you know, they
Speaker 3: need their to run the tight ship. And and then
Speaker 3: you guys are out there all your personalities. Okay, this
Speaker 3: has nothing to do about the show, but Haley, I
Speaker 3: have to ask you a question. I am looking I'm
Speaker 3: looking at your screen, I'm looking at you, and I
Speaker 3: see a head in a mirror behind you?
Speaker 2: What is.
Speaker 1: Megan? Is a Barbara?
Speaker 5: Is it.
Speaker 1: Apisode for there? Don't worry, I'm not completely nuts, Well
Speaker 1: I am, but my clinic. This is my clinic room
Speaker 1: where I do askedet it?
Speaker 3: Oh right, yes, yes, your own class and aesthetics.
Speaker 1: Yes I do. I own. Now it makes a bit
Speaker 1: of sense. You probably thought what the hell is going
Speaker 1: on there?
Speaker 3: Now it's all Yes, it's all coming together, okay, I mean,
Speaker 3: and this is what and that's what you mainly do, right.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I do work on the boat still,
Speaker 1: but you know that's just temp stuff. It's like a
Speaker 1: week here, a week there. But I haven't done that
Speaker 1: for a while. I haven't done it since filming the show.
Speaker 1: So this is my bread and butter, the aesthetics.
Speaker 3: Has Has filming the show helped your aesthetic business?
Speaker 1: Yes a lot. Yeah, definitely. I'm a lot busier. I
Speaker 1: tend to get a lot of people messaging me on
Speaker 1: my custasthetics Instagram and I think like, oh right, okase
Speaker 1: a potential client. It's not. It's just someone that's wanting
Speaker 1: to talk to me. And they're in America for a start,
Speaker 1: so they're going to be coming to the South of
Speaker 1: England for Boat Ox anytime soon.
Speaker 3: So are you going to go back to blow Down
Speaker 3: because you, I mean, you have this big business that
Speaker 3: you're running, and you said you don't you know, you're
Speaker 3: not concerned about like, you know, if you they talk,
Speaker 3: if you talk to guests or whatever.
Speaker 2: So are you does that mean you're not going back?
Speaker 5: No?
Speaker 1: I mean I'd love to go back. I would absolutely
Speaker 1: love to go back. I I really enjoy most aspects
Speaker 1: of steward assing. I mean, obviously I'm not really that
Speaker 1: keen on some parts of the job, like laundry and
Speaker 1: cleaning like that, the traveling part, the meeting new people.
Speaker 1: They're just being impulsive and just being called away last minute,
Speaker 1: and I love that. That keeps cool. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Okay, so I was I was watching last night.
Speaker 3: I was getting all caught up and I was watching
Speaker 3: when they fired, when Captain Sandy fired.
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, help me out, Alissa.
Speaker 3: Okay, do you agree with that or not?
Speaker 2: I want she for firing. Yeah, yeah, I.
Speaker 1: Think it was the right move. I still I very
Speaker 1: much like Alyssa. I get on with a Lissa. There
Speaker 1: isn't actually anyone on the boat that I don't go
Speaker 1: on with but I do think it. You know, she
Speaker 1: did the right thing from a professional view, like it
Speaker 1: was the right move.
Speaker 3: To me, and you guys were seemed so much more
Speaker 3: cohesive after that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that just felt like there was less tension, happy
Speaker 1: because I was in a team with two gay men,
Speaker 1: so I was.
Speaker 4: Totally She comes to La and she's Queen of the Gaze.
Speaker 1: Honestly, there we go, there we go, queen of the gates.
Speaker 1: So that, you know, instantly did feel a lot calmer. Definitely.
Speaker 2: Okay, So Christie, I don't ask you something.
Speaker 3: So you you come on the show as a guest
Speaker 3: on below deck. You walk in with all of these
Speaker 3: pageant women, like stressed to the nines with the lashes
Speaker 3: and the every and the gowns and everything, and the
Speaker 3: fake hair and even the butt even the butt cutlets.
Speaker 4: Oh my god, that I forgot about that scene until
Speaker 4: I saw.
Speaker 3: Yeah, So what was it like for you? And then
Speaker 3: your story was so interesting you shared it. Can you
Speaker 3: tell us what that is?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 4: Yeah, So basically what happened is that all of the
Speaker 4: girls were on the boat.
Speaker 5: We all got on the boat at the same time.
Speaker 4: If you notice Susan who was in the red dress
Speaker 4: at dinner the night with the blonde hair. She wasn't
Speaker 4: in the intro with us because she got on the
Speaker 4: boat late okay, because she the flight got messed up
Speaker 4: or something, so she got on the boat and I
Speaker 4: didn't meet her actually until dinner, and all the girls
Speaker 4: already knew the story of.
Speaker 5: Like what happened.
Speaker 3: I was wondering about because I was like, was this
Speaker 3: is was this produced?
Speaker 2: Like was a producer like talk about this? Okay?
Speaker 5: So you were just came up totally random.
Speaker 4: And the way that the show did it, I mean
Speaker 4: they did it really well, but that it didn't like
Speaker 4: really show how we got into that conversation because it
Speaker 4: was basically like they were talking about their husbands and
Speaker 4: their families. And then Laura the primary, was like, well
Speaker 4: John was married to a woman, and I was like, yep, yep,
Speaker 4: I didn't. And I was like quiet. I was like
Speaker 4: that's all I'm saying. And then Susan was like, oh
Speaker 4: my god, did you have any kids or anything? And
Speaker 4: I was like, oh, here we go, no shit.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 4: And actually what the show also didn't really error anything
Speaker 4: is that our daughter when she was born in twenty sixteen,
Speaker 4: was born with a heart defect, and so literally like
Speaker 4: two days after birth, she basically died and they brought
Speaker 4: her back and we lived in Children's National and DC
Speaker 4: a year and a half or for a month, and
Speaker 4: then she came home on a feeding tube for four months,
Speaker 4: and you know that wasn't fun every single day, poor girl.
Speaker 5: And she had ripped it out.
Speaker 4: We had to take it put it back in, and
Speaker 4: we were basically like nurses at that point, and I
Speaker 4: knew exactly how to like handle and take care of her.
Speaker 4: And then when she was six months old, she had
Speaker 4: her open heart surgery, and then I stayed home with
Speaker 4: her to like nurse her back to health because my
Speaker 4: wife didn't have any maternity leave left. And then a
Speaker 4: month after her open heart surgery, my wife actually found
Speaker 4: out the news the same weekend that she told me,
Speaker 4: because her biological father had the results like kept them
Speaker 4: until then.
Speaker 2: So this wasn't your baby.
Speaker 4: And then she ended up she told me she wasn't
Speaker 4: my biological daughter.
Speaker 5: Yeah, but it was like it was.
Speaker 4: Amazing because like he had seen, he had been watching
Speaker 4: and saw me as a dad to her, and we
Speaker 4: all decided together that like I wanted to stay in
Speaker 4: her life. They wanted me to be in her life.
Speaker 4: So actually, for a year and a half after they
Speaker 4: moved to they left DC, I went and visited her
Speaker 4: every single month for a year and a half so
Speaker 4: that she wouldn't forget who I was.
Speaker 3: But wait a minute, hold on, back up. Did you
Speaker 3: guys just decide like they did? They decide, Okay, we're
Speaker 3: gonna try to be in a relationship with each other.
Speaker 4: Yeah, so they like were in love and they ended up.
Speaker 4: He divorced his wife.
Speaker 2: I mean, weren't you hurt?
Speaker 5: Though she's still cheering one hundred.
Speaker 4: I mean, you know, it was the hardest thing I'd
Speaker 4: ever gone through. And I'm so sorry, very touch and
Speaker 4: go for a little bit, but I'm just a very
Speaker 4: like positive person.
Speaker 5: And I woke up one day.
Speaker 4: I was so depressed for so many months, and I
Speaker 4: just woke up one day and I was like, you're
Speaker 4: not this person, Like you're not sad, Like you got
Speaker 4: to snap out of this. And I did somehow, And
Speaker 4: I just called my two best friends and I was like, listen,
Speaker 4: my ex wife didn't like to travel.
Speaker 5: I love traveling. I'm going to Italy for two weeks.
Speaker 5: You're coming with me or not.
Speaker 4: And I just started a new life and like revamped
Speaker 4: myself basically and revamped my thinking. And then it took
Speaker 4: a year, but I ended up finding myself more and
Speaker 4: then I came out a year later at DC Pride
Speaker 4: in twenty eighteen.
Speaker 3: No, okay, So when, at what point did you think
Speaker 3: about it, like exploring your sexuality or you know, whether
Speaker 3: it's deciding that you were gay or whatever figuring out out.
Speaker 4: No, I've actually always been with both men and women,
Speaker 4: and I actually lost my virginia to a man when
Speaker 4: I was fifteen.
Speaker 2: Okay, So did you consider yourself bisexual?
Speaker 5: You know, not really.
Speaker 4: I just like it was a suppressed thing that I
Speaker 4: didn't I have Irish Catholic growing up, Like yeah, so
Speaker 4: I just didn't really I didn't want to believe that
Speaker 4: like that was actually real, and so I just like
Speaker 4: always knew that I needed like the white picket fence
Speaker 4: and you know, the wife and everything.
Speaker 2: It's a great way to screw us up.
Speaker 4: Yeah, right, And then but I fell in love with
Speaker 4: her so in such a genuine real way, and she
Speaker 4: was such an amazing person and to this day she's
Speaker 4: still I mean, we talk all the time, and you know,
Speaker 4: I just fell in love with her as a person
Speaker 4: and everything was like normal marriage. And yeah, we just
Speaker 4: we loved each other.
Speaker 2: That's increditionally.
Speaker 5: We were just too opposite. They're they're amazing together.
Speaker 4: They're like perfect fit, like they they work together, and
Speaker 4: her and I just didn't work together.
Speaker 2: So if you had, if you could rewrite history, is
Speaker 2: there anything that you would change about that?
Speaker 5: Absolutely?
Speaker 4: Not, only because everything brought me to where I am
Speaker 4: today and it made me who I am.
Speaker 5: And I am literally stronger than anything.
Speaker 4: I can go through anything, I can deal with anything,
Speaker 4: and I just know how to like deal with situations
Speaker 4: now way better than I did before. And you know,
Speaker 4: we we basically put our little girl first and like
Speaker 4: put our feelings and emotions to the side. And I
Speaker 4: don't think a lot of people can do that or
Speaker 4: know that they can do that, And I think that's
Speaker 4: a great life lesson for people to know that. Like
Speaker 4: sometimes like if you put the children first, if you
Speaker 4: like focus on other things other than yourself, there's amazing
Speaker 4: things that could come from it. And now we are
Speaker 4: literally like the most real modern family you could ever imagine.
Speaker 4: Because he had a wife and two kids and then
Speaker 4: they also had another daughter together, and well so they
Speaker 4: have four kids. And then I'm Papa John who comes
Speaker 4: in town and is like the.
Speaker 3: Fut Hailey, Has anybody any other guest ever gotten that
Speaker 3: vulnerable in the ship before.
Speaker 1: Trying to think definitely not not my season for sure.
Speaker 2: Well, so what did the crew think of his story?
Speaker 1: I remember I was actually on dinner service when I
Speaker 1: was telling a story, and I actually do remember like
Speaker 1: he's dropping a little bit as I do and thinking,
Speaker 1: oh my god, like I was so shocked to hear.
Speaker 1: And actually, when I came and stayed with you, John,
Speaker 1: you told me everything, didn't you in that bed?
Speaker 4: Actually yes, every morning She's like, good morning, darling, and
Speaker 4: I was like, oh my god, this is awesome.
Speaker 2: Agreed for it.
Speaker 1: Oh your room, I'm like please, Yeah, So you told
Speaker 1: me all about it, And actually you just never know,
Speaker 1: like the story, I have no idea what somebody has
Speaker 1: been through, and you are just so positive and just
Speaker 1: such an amazing, like colorful person. And just normally if
Speaker 1: someone has gone through something really bad, you can kind
Speaker 1: of like I kind of feel it from them a
Speaker 1: little bit, like they have a little bit of bad energy.
Speaker 1: But there is not like one ounce of energy on you.
Speaker 5: I just kind of with you.
Speaker 2: That's such a compliment.
Speaker 3: Well, so, so you guys slept together in that bed,
Speaker 3: so you're back to those tight quarters.
Speaker 2: What was it like sleeping on the ship in those
Speaker 2: close quarters?
Speaker 1: If I wanted to be megan, you get used to
Speaker 1: it like really quick. I'm honest, you get just having
Speaker 1: no sleep in general. All I'm going to say is
Speaker 1: when you get back to land and you get into
Speaker 1: a king sized bed, it's absolute heaven. I can't that feels.
Speaker 1: But actually being in a tiny, little bunk bed, it's
Speaker 1: especially if you're top bunk as well, because I'd always
Speaker 1: wake up and smack.
Speaker 2: My head on the Oh yeah, oh my gosh, I
Speaker 2: would too. I'm five eleven. I would smack my head
Speaker 2: on everything.
Speaker 1: We didn't see that, though, and I was really happy
Speaker 1: after it ed. I was just like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: they could have showed so much stuff. A really used
Speaker 1: to get Haley falling out of bed.
Speaker 2: So yeah, that's amazing.
Speaker 3: Okay, with you, so you were in a relationship on
Speaker 3: the show. Are you still in a relationship Ailey?
Speaker 2: Okay, I am.
Speaker 1: I've been with my boyfriend now for four and a
Speaker 1: half years.
Speaker 3: You guys seem really close from what they showed on
Speaker 3: the show, but we are.
Speaker 1: We've got like a very adult It's is gonna sound weird,
Speaker 1: like adult relationship, but like a mature relationship. Like he
Speaker 1: works away, I'm away a lot, so like we don't
Speaker 1: need to speak to each other every day. There's not
Speaker 1: like I should always be, you know, texting each other
Speaker 1: and checking in. It's a really cool it's it's a
Speaker 1: friendship as well. You know, it's a really cool, laid
Speaker 1: back relationship. And I think that's why it was so
Speaker 1: easy for me to go on to the show. I
Speaker 1: mean a lot of boyfriends would be like, how no,
Speaker 1: you're going on a reality TV show. But he's just
Speaker 1: so cool with all of it. He was so supportive,
Speaker 1: Like to have a boyfriend that support supportive.
Speaker 2: Of that Charzi. Have you met him?
Speaker 4: Well, I haven't met him, but I love him because
Speaker 4: I mean he lets he lets her come to LA
Speaker 4: and stay with me for ten days. So yes, yeah,
Speaker 4: he's really awesome.
Speaker 3: What does he do for work? Does he work in
Speaker 3: the business as well?
Speaker 1: No, but similar because he does work on boats. He
Speaker 1: works offshore as a as a driller. So I can't
Speaker 1: tell you exactly what he does. This is really bad?
Speaker 2: Why not?
Speaker 1: I just know that he does very well for himself,
Speaker 1: and he just is also has to live in tiny
Speaker 1: little spaces as well, so he gets the whole like cabin.
Speaker 3: See see if like one of those jazz was like
Speaker 3: two weeks on, two weeks off or something.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so it's one month on, one month off, which
Speaker 1: is actually really nice. And I think it's lovely to have,
Speaker 1: you know, a month away from each other because you
Speaker 1: come on like you appreciate the time that you have together.
Speaker 3: I could not agree more. I'm such a fan of
Speaker 3: long distance relationships. Like I think ultimately, you know, ending
Speaker 3: up or having the intention to end up in the
Speaker 3: same spot or like what I say, it doesn't even
Speaker 3: have to be the same like home base. It's like
Speaker 3: hopefully sleeping in the same bed the majority of the
Speaker 3: nights that you're like of your life, Like that would
Speaker 3: be the ultimate goal that I have. But that doesn't
Speaker 3: even necessarily have to mean living together.
Speaker 1: Right, I like that we don't live together on my
Speaker 1: own house. He's got his house and it works. He
Speaker 1: comes and stays here and you know, I spend time
Speaker 1: there and it's great, and actually, you know, by the
Speaker 1: time he leaves, I'm really quite happy to see the
Speaker 1: back of him.
Speaker 3: You love the side of the back of his head
Speaker 3: as he exits the door. How romantic, Kayley. But it's
Speaker 3: kind of a dichotomy that think about it, because here
Speaker 3: you are, You're on a ship, you're sleeping in these
Speaker 3: tight quarters, You're with people you literally cannot leave their side,
Speaker 3: you don't even know them when you go into the situation,
Speaker 3: and yet you're like, ah, I like my space away
Speaker 3: from my partner. So like, tell me about that dynamic
Speaker 3: with the being on this ship and like working with
Speaker 3: these people who you didn't choose to be in your life.
Speaker 1: Okay, So I was so happy to just be there.
Speaker 1: If I'm totally honest, I'm so happy.
Speaker 3: Do you have a great attitude or you like you
Speaker 3: can feel it on the show too?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I honestly, MAGNI I felt like, there's not a
Speaker 1: lot of people that get this opportunity, and I've got
Speaker 1: this opportunity. So actually, days that I started to feel
Speaker 1: a little bit, you know, a bit, I was tired,
Speaker 1: I was getting teasy. Obviously, there was quite a bit
Speaker 1: of drama on my season, and it started to get
Speaker 1: a little bit, you know, get a bit intense. When
Speaker 1: I was feeling like that, I kind of just like,
Speaker 1: have a little word with myself, have a little breather,
Speaker 1: and be like, hey, like, I've got no three weeks
Speaker 1: left on this boat. I can do this. This is fine.
Speaker 1: I have this, and I just to be honest. I
Speaker 1: learn a lot about myself being on the show because
Speaker 1: I realized that I'm a lot more patient than I
Speaker 1: ever gave myself credit for. And it is hard. It's
Speaker 1: very hard working and living in confined spaces because I'm
Speaker 1: one of those people that as soon as I wake up,
Speaker 1: and Chelsea, you'll tell me you agree with this. When
Speaker 1: I wake up, I like to have my like ten
Speaker 1: to fifteen minutes where I sit on my phone check
Speaker 1: all my SoC shirts the same way. Yeah, yeah, lovely,
Speaker 1: Well understanding when we were.
Speaker 5: Here, you should tell her what we do every morning
Speaker 5: with each other? Oh God, like, literally tell me I
Speaker 5: wake up because we're on such different time zones.
Speaker 4: So when I go to bed, I'm getting messages from
Speaker 4: her like when she's waking up, and so we send
Speaker 4: each other voice memos and dms every single like day basically,
Speaker 4: and we just catch up with each other.
Speaker 5: That way, You're coming.
Speaker 1: Party and I'm waking up and having breakfast and you're like, wow,
Speaker 1: six am here. I like it.
Speaker 3: I love it, La La and England. That's a that's
Speaker 3: a gap, it is.
Speaker 1: It's too much of a gap, to be very honest.
Speaker 3: Okay, So you're so you're in these tight quarters, You're
Speaker 3: you're feeling grateful for everything. But then there's like some
Speaker 3: moments on there where I felt like you really developed
Speaker 3: a more intense connection than just you know, a colleague,
Speaker 3: or more than just you know, know, somebody that you're
Speaker 3: sharing space with. Like, for instance, Tyler, you talked to
Speaker 3: you consult him about not, you know, having not come
Speaker 3: out to his parents yet.
Speaker 2: Can you tell me about that.
Speaker 1: I honestly think that I don't realize sometimes how confident
Speaker 1: I am and how sure of myself I am, because
Speaker 1: actually I do stuff like that with complete ease. I
Speaker 1: don't even think about it. To approach somebody, obviously I
Speaker 1: would have had to build a rapport with them. I
Speaker 1: would just come up to stranger and be like.
Speaker 5: Oh, I.
Speaker 2: Don't know, I feel like you might.
Speaker 5: I don't know.
Speaker 1: That I probably have to be fair. I'm that weird
Speaker 1: person that you try not to make eye contact with.
Speaker 2: Right, that is not true. That is the opposite of true.
Speaker 3: You're drappedat gorgeous people can help but stares straight at you,
Speaker 3: even if they don't.
Speaker 4: Want to to be seen person.
Speaker 3: You just like, that's a that's an objective fact, Hayley,
Speaker 3: So we can move on from that.
Speaker 2: That is the truth.
Speaker 1: Oh that's so sweet.
Speaker 5: And then she opens her mouth and it's just like,
Speaker 5: oh my god.
Speaker 2: Oh it's better.
Speaker 3: But okay, So you're talking to Tyler because you're you're
Speaker 3: just super confident about this love bug.
Speaker 1: Now, Tyler, you know, he's a lot. He's a lot
Speaker 1: younger than I am. And how old is he? He's
Speaker 1: twenty If I get this strong who go mentor.
Speaker 2: Three twenty three?
Speaker 1: It could be right, pretty young. When someone's in their twenties,
Speaker 1: I just assume they're just they're just young.
Speaker 2: They're just the same same.
Speaker 3: That's just I feel like twenty eight though twenty eight
Speaker 3: you're like, Okay, you're grown up now.
Speaker 5: Yeah, but I don't date anyone under thirty. I do
Speaker 5: other things with people.
Speaker 2: There good for other things, Yeah, exactly, who.
Speaker 1: Are Basically as soon as Tyler joined the boat. I
Speaker 1: tried to, you know, take him under my wing a
Speaker 1: little bit, because we were mid season, and I can't
Speaker 1: actually imagine how terrifying it is joining a boat which
Speaker 1: is actually a TV show with all the king that's
Speaker 1: already built these relationships. So I immediately became you know,
Speaker 1: I wanted to make him feel comfortable. I really wanted
Speaker 1: to be his friend, and not in a creepy way.
Speaker 1: I just wanted to be I'm here for you. You know,
Speaker 1: you've got me. If you've got you know, I hope
Speaker 1: you make other friends, but you've got me, So I
Speaker 1: just I guess I just made that very apparent very quickly.
Speaker 1: We spent a lot of time together because we were
Speaker 1: always on cabins together, and while we were doing cabins,
Speaker 1: we were obviously messing around in people's rooms and getting caught,
Speaker 1: but also we were talking a lot about his sexuality,
Speaker 1: about his boyfriend, him being a bit frightened about coming out,
Speaker 1: and I guess I was just so interested in helping
Speaker 1: him make this happen because I knew it was going
Speaker 1: to be what would make him feel happy, because he
Speaker 1: was very anxious.
Speaker 2: Yeah, authentically, you're good at that.
Speaker 1: He was anxious. He was clearly worried. It was clearly
Speaker 1: getting to him. So I just said look, And it
Speaker 1: did show a scene of me which actually made me
Speaker 1: look a little bit pushy where I'm like, oh, have
Speaker 1: you spoken to your mum? But that was literally just
Speaker 1: me asking have you spoken to your mom? In conversation?
Speaker 1: You know, it wasn't something.
Speaker 2: I was spliced it a little bit.
Speaker 1: I mean, I suppose it wouldn't. It wouldn't be entertaining
Speaker 1: if they didn't do that.
Speaker 2: You got to like sum it up somehow.
Speaker 3: So I wanted to ask you about because I was
Speaker 3: on the Real Housewives of Orange County for three years,
Speaker 3: I know a lot about you know, splicing and you know,
Speaker 3: moving the stuff around to make the storyline flow. So
Speaker 3: when there was a moment when you got caught in
Speaker 3: the bedroom with who were you with in there?
Speaker 1: So Susan walked in? So why what happened?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 2: I want to know what happened because I want to
Speaker 2: know if that was real or not.
Speaker 1: I'll tell you what happened. I was at this point,
Speaker 1: I think what will be there's six weeks of the season.
Speaker 1: I think we were on week five, so well, no,
Speaker 1: it was it week five, when was it?
Speaker 3: It was like, I think you had one more?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 1: So what anyway? Regardless, very tired. I was starting to
Speaker 1: lose the plot, and I used to find a little
Speaker 1: bit of entertainment in playing around with you know, if
Speaker 1: I saw something funny, I'd pick it up and I'd
Speaker 1: maybe put it on my head or whatever.
Speaker 2: The heir life you're getting thrill felt.
Speaker 1: Like doing exactly but this time, unfortunately Hayley got caught.
Speaker 2: But did you?
Speaker 1: Yeah? So I was rolling around basically like a complete
Speaker 1: mess on Susan's bed and then she just walked out.
Speaker 1: So it was like, oh shit, yeah, sorry about and
Speaker 1: just got up and just started slapping basically, and poor
Speaker 1: Susan was just good there.
Speaker 2: You were like we love you. I love you so much,
Speaker 2: We love you so much? That is true?
Speaker 1: Did you love her? That's a lovely person and a
Speaker 1: lighthearted bit of playing around, and she just happened to
Speaker 1: walk in. Of course, she walked in, of course, But
Speaker 1: so I think.
Speaker 2: Did the crew maker or did the yeah, did the
Speaker 2: crew like anybody make her walk in?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 2: No, no, no, that was organic.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I just walked It was just.
Speaker 3: Like funny, Okay, well what about Lakisha. Nobody liked Lakeisha.
Speaker 1: She was she was a character and a half, wasn't she?
Speaker 5: Now?
Speaker 2: Was that produced?
Speaker 1: Like?
Speaker 2: Was she doing that on purpose?
Speaker 1: What was the deal with?
Speaker 2: She was like low key needy.
Speaker 1: I believe greedy is probably a better description I was.
Speaker 3: I was like, there's no way this bitch is being
Speaker 3: so disrespectful.
Speaker 2: There's no way, like this is not to be a character.
Speaker 5: It was.
Speaker 1: The person on Breakfast when I saw a liquash on
Speaker 1: the on the sofa.
Speaker 2: Wait, so she did sleep there?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 2: I was okay, So that wasn't shown on the show.
Speaker 3: So I wasn't sure if maybe like she just did
Speaker 3: it to be like get more TV time or something
Speaker 3: and then like went back to her room.
Speaker 1: No, it's I mean, I'm pretty sure she did.
Speaker 5: I am not.
Speaker 4: Yeah, no, I asked her, I said, did you like
Speaker 4: you slept upstairs? Why don't you sleep in the bed?
Speaker 4: And she goes, oh, I just have I'm like claustrophobic.
Speaker 4: And I was like, oh, okay, I didn't think anything
Speaker 4: of it.
Speaker 3: Charlsie, how are you friends with this person? And you're
Speaker 3: such a nice guy, You're so respectful.
Speaker 5: She's so she was so sweet.
Speaker 4: I mean I didn't see her act this way once,
Speaker 4: Like that's the crap easiest part, Like I didn't hear,
Speaker 4: you know, even when we got like the gold on
Speaker 4: her steak dinner and stuff, I didn't know she requested that.
Speaker 4: I was like, oh wow, Rachel made us like gold
Speaker 4: flakes on this this is nice. Like I literally was
Speaker 4: so oblivious to any of that, And when I watched
Speaker 4: the show, I was shocked.
Speaker 3: So I casted for below Deck. This is a fun fact.
Speaker 2: You've heard it here. You heard it first year, folks.
Speaker 3: So I cast it for Below Deck as a as
Speaker 3: a guest, and I was the what is it called,
Speaker 3: like the main person or something, the primary.
Speaker 2: I was the primary.
Speaker 3: And so I got like a girls group together and
Speaker 3: we're gonna go to Norway, and we like were locked
Speaker 3: in and everything. We were signing contracts. I like put
Speaker 3: my contract ACKed in. It was all like sign, sealed, delivered.
Speaker 3: It's gonna be a girls trip with like my friends
Speaker 3: from Saint Louis. And then it fell apart because these
Speaker 3: bitches here in Saint Louis thought like got these real
Speaker 3: big heads and thought that the cameras were gonna be
Speaker 3: like so interested in their story and like it's not
Speaker 3: about you, it's about the crew, it's not about the guests.
Speaker 2: Like we're there to go have fun.
Speaker 3: Like, believe me, you might not even be Mike the
Speaker 3: whole time, Like no one cares about your your son's
Speaker 3: grades at school, Like that's not gonna be aired.
Speaker 2: It doesn't make any sense. But I'm not kidding.
Speaker 3: Like they got so into their heads like they're gonna
Speaker 3: be famous from this and they just don't want to
Speaker 3: be famous for the wrong reasons kind of thing.
Speaker 2: I couldn't handle it, So I'm like, I'm I'm done.
Speaker 2: I'm done.
Speaker 3: But that's how close I wastime.
Speaker 2: It would have been amazing, amazing, annoying.
Speaker 1: Maybe you should go and get people to come back,
Speaker 1: because I might be there when you are. You never know.
Speaker 1: That would be cool, wouldn't it be fun?
Speaker 2: Okay, let's go.
Speaker 5: Well, let's go. Let's do Mediterranean this September. Sign me up,
Speaker 5: Haley can. Maybe Haley will be working it for us.
Speaker 5: We'll be like, what's.
Speaker 2: Up, Yeah, Hailey, when are you going back? Which one
Speaker 2: are you doing next?
Speaker 1: Okay, So I don't actually know if I am going back.
Speaker 5: No one ever knows.
Speaker 1: Until kind of quite it because there's quite a big
Speaker 1: process that goes through, you know, with the casting. So
Speaker 1: they've got so many shows going on at all times.
Speaker 1: They've got like four.
Speaker 2: Shows, you really do, Yeah.
Speaker 1: So they're constantly having to cast. So really it's quite
Speaker 1: a last minute thing. And I do understand that because
Speaker 1: they've just got so much going on with casting. So
Speaker 1: it isn't something that I'm going to know anytime soon,
Speaker 1: I don't think, but I'll.
Speaker 2: Keep me posted.
Speaker 1: I will mage you guys.
Speaker 2: Thank you so much for coming on today. I love
Speaker 2: your friendship.
Speaker 3: I love how you met and this has been so
Speaker 3: much fun to chat about the insider info, and I.
Speaker 2: Hope that we get to meet in person. Look, I'm
Speaker 2: in the middle.
Speaker 3: I'm in sane, so like to stop here when you
Speaker 3: guys go see each other. Okay, welcome anytime. Saint Louis,
Speaker 3: Missouri the middle of the country, and you.
Speaker 5: Guys are always welcome to come to LA anytime. Obviously.
Speaker 3: Well I'm coming next week, baby, let me know, all right, guys,
Speaker 3: thank you so much.
Speaker 2: Let's be in touch.
Speaker 3: Okay, thanks.
Speaker 2: So cute. That was so much fun talking to them.
Speaker 3: I had so many questions that I wanted to get
Speaker 3: down to like, for instance, did Haley really get caught
Speaker 3: on the ship when she was in the guest bedroom.
Speaker 2: Yes she did.
Speaker 3: And was that that asshole guest really an asshole?
Speaker 2: Yes she was so. And by the way, their relationship
Speaker 2: is so cool. That was not shown on below Deck
Speaker 2: at all.
Speaker 3: So it's really cool to kind of get the insider
Speaker 3: info here on Intimate Knowledge and see how the behind
Speaker 3: the scenes things work because having been on a reality
Speaker 3: show myself, I know that things can be spliced in dice,
Speaker 3: but it sounds like from below Deck everything.
Speaker 2: Is pretty much as it seems.
Speaker 3: All right, guys, you heard it here first, because if
Speaker 3: I know, you know, Okay, Bye, see you next week.
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