Speaker 1: Dating is a mom. It's so funny because I was
Speaker 1: talking to someone who works with me and she was
Speaker 1: saying that she was worried to date and nervous today
Speaker 1: she has a new baby, and you know, et cetera.
Speaker 1: She has a child, a son. She's not a new baby.
Speaker 1: She has a very young son um and dating and
Speaker 1: it's gonna be weird because you know, how do people
Speaker 1: feel about that? I said, you have it so wrong.
Speaker 1: Dating with kids is the best. The reason dating with
Speaker 1: kids is the best is because you have an identity
Speaker 1: a single woman. And this is why single women have
Speaker 1: to have their own job, their own charity, their own purpose,
Speaker 1: not fake purpose where you pretend to have purpose. So
Speaker 1: you show the guy or girl you're dating that you
Speaker 1: have purpose, like internal, actual purpose that really really is
Speaker 1: strong and really compelling and matters. And why I say
Speaker 1: this is I was going through a gnarly horrible divorce
Speaker 1: and I cherished every single second with my her. There
Speaker 1: was no negotiating that time, so when I was dating,
Speaker 1: it was just black and white. These are the days
Speaker 1: I have, These are the days I don't. Paul makes
Speaker 1: a joke because the first day I met him, and
Speaker 1: Paul's a successful, handsome, wealthy, smart, funny guys. I'm a
Speaker 1: great family. And I told him I had I think
Speaker 1: it was between like two and four on a Monday
Speaker 1: afternoon or four and six. I didn't even think that
Speaker 1: was weird. It was the time that I had bright
Speaker 1: daughter was getting home or being transferred. I forget what.
Speaker 1: And I had wanted to be with her, but it
Speaker 1: gave me definition. And also like, who the funk is
Speaker 1: this girl? She's given me a Monday four to six
Speaker 1: slot or three or whatever it was. The point is
Speaker 1: I told her, no, no, no, you don't get it.
Speaker 1: Like when you date and you have a child or
Speaker 1: a serious career too, which she has both because she's
Speaker 1: the president of my company. You now have purpose, you
Speaker 1: have other ship, you have to do, you have places
Speaker 1: you have to be and they're non negotiable. And someone
Speaker 1: wants to date you, they have to understand that. But
Speaker 1: there's an energy within you that rises when this happens.
Speaker 1: And if you take your if you take your responsibilities seriously,
Speaker 1: you know, it's his biggest turn off. A woman who's like, oh,
Speaker 1: I could just cancel that, I could just get out
Speaker 1: of that, or I could just leave my kid with
Speaker 1: a babysitter, or I could his nanny up. Whatever, No,
Speaker 1: this is my this is I have a child and
Speaker 1: my time is very important. Or I don't want them
Speaker 1: to meet you yet until it's very serious, or it
Speaker 1: just defines you. And in fact, I remember dating someone
Speaker 1: really really player, handsome, never really had a serious girlfriend,
Speaker 1: you know, a real player, And he said to me
Speaker 1: that he didn't want a serious relationship. Now I didn't
Speaker 1: know if I wanted a serious relationship either, but I'm
Speaker 1: not in my twenties. I'm not you know, you're not
Speaker 1: deem ng me and saying want to hook up like
Speaker 1: I was an adult with a child. So I said, listen,
Speaker 1: I don't know that I want something serious either, but
Speaker 1: I will not participate in something that is not evolving.
Speaker 1: If I'm spending any time with you at all, it
Speaker 1: has to be evolving and moving forward. And so if
Speaker 1: that's not what you want, and he was like, well
Speaker 1: I don't want se se O great, so let's call it.
Speaker 1: I kept saying, let's call the fight, let's call the fight,
Speaker 1: and I called his bluff because he was like no, no no, no, okay,
Speaker 1: And it got very serious and we were together for years,
Speaker 1: meaning draw the line, figure out whether we we pad
Speaker 1: is and where it's not. But these firm stances while
Speaker 1: being loving and fun and amazing, you don't want to
Speaker 1: be the nag with baby vomit on your shirt when
Speaker 1: you go on a date, and you don't want to
Speaker 1: be talking about baby talk at all. Be present, be interesting,
Speaker 1: and be fun, and be yourself, but then go away
Speaker 1: and be the parent that you are, or be the
Speaker 1: you know employee that you are, or the career person
Speaker 1: that you are. It makes you more attractive, it makes
Speaker 1: you feel better about yourself, and it makes you understand
Speaker 1: where you're supposed to be. I used to call it
Speaker 1: the burner method, having multiple people on the burners, which
Speaker 1: is adjacent to this, but basically, if you focus all
Speaker 1: your energy on one person when you're first dating, even
Speaker 1: if that's the person you like most. And of course
Speaker 1: there are exceptions to every role. There are people that
Speaker 1: sleep with someone on the first date and get married.
Speaker 1: There are a million exceptions to rules, but the burner
Speaker 1: method was, you don't want to let that thing boil over.
Speaker 1: Meet someone it's amazing, you like them a lot. Take
Speaker 1: it down to medium, medium high. Put something on another burner.
Speaker 1: Put something on another burner. Maybe you like it, maybe
Speaker 1: you don't. Maybe it's on medium, maybe it's fine. Then
Speaker 1: maybe something else comes on. You meet somebody else you
Speaker 1: Once you get serious, the whole stove shuts down, So
Speaker 1: you might as well while you're dating, learn how to
Speaker 1: date and treat it like a Viking six burner stove.
Speaker 1: And something just you don't like, it's not working at all,
Speaker 1: take it off the goddamn stove. Some things need to
Speaker 1: simmer for a minute. Someone's not acting the way that
Speaker 1: they're supposed to act. You put them on simmer. But
Speaker 1: I have multiple burners, and the reason is because that
Speaker 1: one burner that if you could, you put it on boil.
Speaker 1: But because you have the other burners going, it means
Speaker 1: you're watching that pot, but not too much, not too
Speaker 1: not too hard. It means that that pot's cooking, that
Speaker 1: you've got other ship going on, and when you feel
Speaker 1: really safe and secure in that pot, that's your favorite pot,
Speaker 1: then you could turn everything off and go over there
Speaker 1: and get really serious. But it does work. It means
Speaker 1: the least interested party always wins. You have other ship
Speaker 1: going on. No one's better at getting a job than
Speaker 1: someone who has a good job. No one's better at
Speaker 1: meeting someone than someone who has someone. I mean, that's
Speaker 1: how it goes like. So just know that the energy
Speaker 1: you put out there is very important, and the energy
Speaker 1: you put out there as a single mom is very
Speaker 1: very important and if channels properly great energy when dating.
Speaker 1: I have never met a man who doesn't want to
Speaker 1: date me because I had a child. And also weed
Speaker 1: it out. Nothing is better than a kid weeding it out.
Speaker 1: You don't want to date a lepre con. You want
Speaker 1: to date a person that wants to be in a
Speaker 1: relationship with a person who's a good parent and who
Speaker 1: has a child. You know, you don't want to go
Speaker 1: date someone who's fucking in a garage band and you
Speaker 1: know a stoner like what? So at least you're shopping
Speaker 1: at the right store. So put out there exactly what
Speaker 1: it is and show you're crazy or show your story, earlie,
Speaker 1: and you'll attract what you're supposed to. So much bullshit
Speaker 1: and dating and know and literally I am excellent at dating,
Speaker 1: excellent to dating advice, but superb. I don't say that
Speaker 1: about myself about a lot of things. Excellent at the
Speaker 1: dating game. Oh my god, A girl farted on the view. God,
Speaker 1: I was. It's almost like TikTok. Knew that my daughter
Speaker 1: was sitting next to me because she unfortunately likes this
Speaker 1: type of humor. And there was a sound and I
Speaker 1: thought it was like a joke or something, but it
Speaker 1: was like and it's on Google as woman farts on
Speaker 1: the view And I don't know who it was. And
Speaker 1: I don't want to start, you know, I don't want
Speaker 1: to talk about the person. I don't know the person is.
Speaker 1: I didn't even look for their name. I don't need
Speaker 1: to know. I don't want to know. I just want
Speaker 1: you to know. Put me in the box, close the top,
Speaker 1: get the cheapest one you can get and fucking bury me.
Speaker 1: Or burn me in my fire pit in the backyard
Speaker 1: and throw me in the ocean, Okay, or no, just
Speaker 1: put the just keep me in the fire, but just
Speaker 1: just burn my ashes. I just want you to know.
Speaker 1: I don't think it's something I could recover from. I
Speaker 1: really don't. If you gave me the choice of a
Speaker 1: tenure run Kelly Ripper, a good friend of mine, high
Speaker 1: paid power bitch and a little body, amazing job, coveted
Speaker 1: job in New York. I mean coveted job in this
Speaker 1: morning show, really great fun hosted it. Love it, love her.
Speaker 1: If you gave me Kelly Ripper's job for her whole tenure,
Speaker 1: for the amount of money that she's made, but you
Speaker 1: told me I had to fart on live television one time.
Speaker 1: I don't think I take the deal. I don't think
Speaker 1: I take the deal. And I don't think you could
Speaker 1: sweeten up the deal. I don't what what okay, A
Speaker 1: hundred million dollars to fart on the view? I just
Speaker 1: I don't know what the number is. This is always
Speaker 1: a number. I just can't think of what the what's
Speaker 1: the number too fart in the view? Like? What's the number?
Speaker 1: A hundred million dollars, Bethany? But you have to fart
Speaker 1: on the view? Okay? Do I get to move my
Speaker 1: whole family to another planet? Like? What is what are
Speaker 1: the terms? Like? Do you have a fucking spaceship? What
Speaker 1: are we gonna do? Now? I'm gonna fart some where
Speaker 1: and everyone's gonna know and then they're gonna pull up
Speaker 1: this video and Bethanie was talking about it. She tested
Speaker 1: the gods, she tested faith, getting all oldert. I don't know,
Speaker 1: maybe we we fart more when we get older. I
Speaker 1: have no idea because they would say old people fart.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know, not like a big
Speaker 1: fart like some people are far I'm not like a
Speaker 1: massive farner, you know what I mean? Like I don't
Speaker 1: really just not, thank God, But I just don't know
Speaker 1: how i'd recover. I don't know. There's this lottery scam
Speaker 1: where Kim Kardashian and Scott is Sick and other people.
Speaker 1: I've been asked to do this, by the way, and
Speaker 1: decline because it feels so gross to stand in front
Speaker 1: of luxury handbags and like talk about a luxury a
Speaker 1: lottery giveaway. Chris Jenner I think has done them too. Um,
Speaker 1: But it came out to be a scam, and I
Speaker 1: commented on one of the posts that, um, the biggest
Speaker 1: crime was posting this when the Ukraine war are broke out,
Speaker 1: Like that was crazy, Like I just can't even imagine
Speaker 1: just posting that on that day. But if you get
Speaker 1: a million dollars in the deliverables or that day, you
Speaker 1: have to do it. But because of that a lot
Speaker 1: of people came out to me and said to me
Speaker 1: that Kim Zulziac has had online scams like different. It's
Speaker 1: not a lottery. You're supposed to buy these things and
Speaker 1: enter this like world of hers where you get things,
Speaker 1: but people aren't getting the things that they bought. Do
Speaker 1: you know anything about this? Is it's true because a
Speaker 1: lot of people have reached out to me about there's
Speaker 1: always some new business that people pop up and say
Speaker 1: this is a thing and enter this. I remember the
Speaker 1: Cardassians had a credit card that like when awry because
Speaker 1: people are joining the credit card and something went wrong.
Speaker 1: It happened with Russell Simmons years ago with a credit card.
Speaker 1: You join this credit card and it's like, really a scam. Um,
Speaker 1: you gotta be careful of all these online scams. Now,
Speaker 1: you gotta be careful of shop Now's because those a
Speaker 1: lot of those the products are scams. Um, the process
Speaker 1: is a scam, the payment is a scam, which you
Speaker 1: know the product is a scam. But also they steal
Speaker 1: people's content. There was a whole shop now for days
Speaker 1: of me without boring you, I was wearing the sweater
Speaker 1: in some content that I did on my own page.
Speaker 1: And this overseas brand you cannot find out who they are,
Speaker 1: where they do it from it's like this fucking Ponzi scheme.
Speaker 1: They were posting for days me and this cardigan sweater
Speaker 1: hawking this sweater. The sweater I was wearing wasn't the
Speaker 1: sweater they were selling, and they were selling this other
Speaker 1: cheap o sweater online all day every day. My fans
Speaker 1: were going crazy about it when I called it out
Speaker 1: to be a scam, with TikTok as the one profiting
Speaker 1: from this scam because TikTok, let's say, is the network,
Speaker 1: TikTok is the Bravo, and this company is the production company.
Speaker 1: So whoever this company is that stole this footage, they're
Speaker 1: pumping it through TikTok and selling to TikTok's customers that
Speaker 1: people watching the network, and TikTok's making the money. It
Speaker 1: went on for five days. I had to get vigilante
Speaker 1: like on my own social media posting about it, and
Speaker 1: then I posted about it on Instagram, and then I
Speaker 1: did a TikTok in code uh where I did the
Speaker 1: voice of mommy dear is saying don't funk with me, fellas.
Speaker 1: But these shop now sites, they steal other people's comment content,
Speaker 1: They steal people's content, present a whole new product that
Speaker 1: they're making in China with a name that sounds similar
Speaker 1: to the product that the original person was promoting, and
Speaker 1: then they just pump it through to your followers. So
Speaker 1: me like to my followers because it's me and the ad.
Speaker 1: So all my followers were getting this ad. They were
Speaker 1: being assaulted. It's terrible for me because it looks like
Speaker 1: I'm bombarding people with these ads when I don't do
Speaker 1: these ads. It looked terrible for me. It's terrible for
Speaker 1: my brand, damages my reputation. And it's terrible because people
Speaker 1: are buying this sweater thinking it's a sweater that I endorsed,
Speaker 1: which I didn't. I've never seen this sweater and it's
Speaker 1: a scam company. So when I started talking about this,
Speaker 1: people were talking about the scam Kim Kardashian and Scott
Speaker 1: Disick luxury giveaways where Chris Jenner and I think they're
Speaker 1: standing in front of all these luxury bags and it's
Speaker 1: the sweepstakes, but the people never get the money. I guess,
Speaker 1: I don't know. I was asked to do it. I
Speaker 1: did not do it. It was like dollars from me,
Speaker 1: the like Hawk luxury goods. It's gross. I can't justify
Speaker 1: it. It It sounds which just wrong. So now, but Kim
Speaker 1: probably got paid, you know, million dollars to do it,
Speaker 1: and she posted right around Ukraine war breaking out, so
Speaker 1: utterly toned death. Then people are sending me messages about
Speaker 1: Kim Zulziac that she sells people all these different things
Speaker 1: in these different clubs, like enter the hair club or
Speaker 1: this club or the be Powerful club, and people join
Speaker 1: and then they got scam because they said they never
Speaker 1: got whatever they paid for. So maybe it's a learning
Speaker 1: thing or it's hair thing, whatever the thing is. People
Speaker 1: are writing to me saying that it's a scam. So
Speaker 1: I didn't know if any of you knew about that.
Speaker 1: But that's crazy too. This is one of the several
Speaker 1: d ms that I received about Kim. Kim starts businesses
Speaker 1: and she takes the money from the customer and they
Speaker 1: never received the product. That's not unlike the luxury good scam.
Speaker 1: You enter but you don't, but that's not really the same.
Speaker 1: But no one wins. This is they never received the product.
Speaker 1: She started something called the b Box, which was supposed
Speaker 1: to be a subscription box. She has people pay in advance.
Speaker 1: They were supposed to receive the box. In May, no
Speaker 1: one has received their box and they can't get in
Speaker 1: contact with anyone for a refund. The website no longer exists.
Speaker 1: She started swim line, showed product that said coming soon,
Speaker 1: the product would never come out. That site is now
Speaker 1: closed down to uh wow, there was an influencer. We
Speaker 1: found out about it and ask people to contact her
Speaker 1: with their personal stories. Now her daughter claim they're going
Speaker 1: to do alive and the stuff we don't know and
Speaker 1: they'll address. Okay, so let's not let's not know if
Speaker 1: Kim Zolsiac is she's innocent and proved to proven guilty.
Speaker 1: Another unrelated Housewives news, I think Lisa Rinna posted that
Speaker 1: she's the lebron of Housewives. Okay, you can't like you
Speaker 1: don't cover Barber strike Sam when you're singing and you
Speaker 1: don't say things like that about yourself other people. You
Speaker 1: wait for other well to say that stuff about you.
Speaker 1: Years ago, the basketball player reference began because Michael Rapp
Speaker 1: report referred to me as the Michael Jordan of Housewives.
Speaker 1: I don't refer to myself as that. People watching the
Speaker 1: initial seasons of Housewives called me their Carrie Bradshaw. What's
Speaker 1: going to happen to her. I don't refer to myself
Speaker 1: like that. You don't refer to yourself as Carrie brad
Speaker 1: Bradshaw or Lebron or Michael Jordan's. It's just let other
Speaker 1: people do that for you. It loses the luster, just
Speaker 1: a little piece of Housewives adjacent advice cringe and Michael
Speaker 1: Rappaport takes full credit for the initiation of the NBA
Speaker 1: basketball reference to housewives being me