Speaker 1: It's awkward. It's it's awkward Tuesday phone call dating.
Speaker 2: There's certain things that are hard to be honest about
Speaker 2: with your partner. Like just the other day, I had
Speaker 2: to tell my partner not to pass the nacho cheese
Speaker 2: to my other partner, and my other partner was holding
Speaker 2: hands with the guy who had the ladele, So I
Speaker 2: ended up having to tell the whole room. I just
Speaker 2: wish I had done that to begin with, because by
Speaker 2: the end there was nacho cheese everywhere.
Speaker 3: I think, I just want to know more about why
Speaker 3: you're ladeling like nacho cheese.
Speaker 2: We we could spend a whole segment about that, but
Speaker 2: I digress. Those are my sticky relationship problems. I'm sure
Speaker 2: they're different for our listener, Austin, who says he's in
Speaker 2: a little bit of a sticky pickle with a woman
Speaker 2: that he's been dating. And Austin, my question for you
Speaker 2: is you know what's really good with a sticky pickle?
Speaker 2: Nacho cheese. I guess that wasn't so much of a
Speaker 2: question as it was a suggestion.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but UH got and yeah did that help you
Speaker 1: at all?
Speaker 3: Austin, Uh, you can say no, it's Okay, you can
Speaker 3: just say no.
Speaker 2: How about we just get into the situation that you're in,
Speaker 2: Go ahead and tell us what's going on.
Speaker 4: So I've been dating it's a really great girl for
Speaker 4: like a month and a half now. Her name's Kelly. Yeah,
Speaker 4: and she's wonderful. I mean, she's super sweet, she's fun.
Speaker 4: Like I actually met her when we were volunteering together
Speaker 4: at a clothing drive.
Speaker 5: Nice.
Speaker 3: I mean that's always awesome when people meet a volunteer
Speaker 3: opportunity type of thing.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I mean you know, we started stocking
Speaker 4: and it's a clothing drive, so like there's a vending
Speaker 4: machine and I bought her a son chips in a
Speaker 4: bottle of water and.
Speaker 2: Oh did they not have nacho cheese and that vending
Speaker 2: machine because that really could have gotten places.
Speaker 4: That would have been good. Yeah no, but we did joke.
Speaker 4: That was like the first deal I ever treated her.
Speaker 5: Oh that's cute.
Speaker 3: So you guys even have like a couple jokes already,
Speaker 3: you're like to that point in your relationship.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, we have been. I joke. You know, it's
Speaker 4: been going great, and I asked out. We've been hanging out,
Speaker 4: you know, taking its flow.
Speaker 5: Okay, so where's the bunt come in?
Speaker 4: Okay. Look, I really do see a future with Kelly. Okay,
Speaker 4: but there's a big thing that she doesn't know about
Speaker 4: me yet, and I need to tell her before we
Speaker 4: get any further. It's embarrassing, but I mean it's important
Speaker 4: to me, which is I've I've been saving myself for marriage.
Speaker 3: Well you just let it out there like that, Okay, Okay,
Speaker 3: I mean it can't be that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's kind of important to know.
Speaker 3: I mean it doesn't sound like you're that embarrassed by it, though,
Speaker 3: Like no, you called the radio station, and I mean it's.
Speaker 4: Not like I've not had opportunities. I mean I made
Speaker 4: it's a choice I've made for personal reasons, you know,
Speaker 4: And I don't know why. I just get the sense
Speaker 4: that with Kelly it might be a big deal. And
Speaker 4: you know we've been you know, like quote unquote romantic
Speaker 4: a few times, but we don't really go any further
Speaker 4: than that.
Speaker 1: Oh okay, how do you stop it? Or has there
Speaker 1: anything happened where you're like whoa whoa?
Speaker 5: Whoas? Like, how do you do that? I mean I'm
Speaker 5: actually kind of with control. Yeah I don't and why
Speaker 5: But anyway, Sorry, those are questions from our side.
Speaker 1: I just thought maybe she also.
Speaker 2: Has standards I also doesn't want it is a good question, though,
Speaker 2: if you guys are being passionate, like how how do
Speaker 2: you slow it down?
Speaker 4: Well, I just keep telling her that I want to
Speaker 4: take it slup. Okay, yeah, yeah, yeah. I mean I
Speaker 4: think most people, if you tell them that, they understand.
Speaker 4: But you know, I mean, it's only been a month
Speaker 4: and a half, Like, this is obviously at some point
Speaker 4: going to become an issue. I think, oh god, haven't.
Speaker 3: Already Seriously, Like my husband and I we didn't do
Speaker 3: it for like, I don't know, it felt like forever, maybe.
Speaker 5: Two months, three months or something like that went wrong.
Speaker 5: It was a long time, and all my friends were like,
Speaker 5: I don't think he's interested in girls, Brook. I think
Speaker 5: that's what the problem is. I'm like, no, I think
Speaker 5: I think he likes me.
Speaker 2: It'd be different though, if he had already told her, like, hey,
Speaker 2: this is what my situation is, right, But the fact
Speaker 2: that he hasn't told her will make her think, oh,
Speaker 2: maybe he's really not that into me.
Speaker 5: Right, or there's something wrong with me.
Speaker 3: I mean, do you have a good drive, do you
Speaker 3: think you guys can be compatible.
Speaker 4: Oh my god. Yet once it happens, I'm going to
Speaker 4: be all about it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm going seventeen times a day once we start.
Speaker 4: Wow. Yeah. I just think that like having a lot
Speaker 4: of discipline and waiting, it shows that you're committed to
Speaker 4: like the soul of the person and not just in
Speaker 4: it for you know, like the pleasure.
Speaker 5: Well you think that, do you think? Well?
Speaker 3: I think both can happen at the same time. But
Speaker 3: that's just my opinion. It's fine that you feel that way.
Speaker 3: I mean, I think what matters is how Kelly's going
Speaker 3: to feel about that I'm not in a relationship with you.
Speaker 4: That's what I'm scared because this has been like a
Speaker 4: big problem for me in past relationships, Like as soon
Speaker 4: as I mentioned to the girl that I'm saving myself,
Speaker 4: they usually get kind of weird about it and the
Speaker 4: relationship and cerating it is a double standard.
Speaker 3: Like female virgins a lot more looked on with positivity
Speaker 3: than male versions.
Speaker 1: Very excepted to.
Speaker 5: A guy that was kind of like you but then
Speaker 5: we broke up.
Speaker 4: But sorry, that's very helpful, thank you.
Speaker 1: Okay, So what are you looking for from us today?
Speaker 4: I mean, how do I tell her, you know, how
Speaker 4: do I do this in a way that it doesn't
Speaker 4: make me seem weird and make her want to leave
Speaker 4: because I this is the person who I potentially see
Speaker 4: myself with for the long term.
Speaker 3: Oh, it's so hard, like because you're basically having like
Speaker 3: that marriage talk at the same time, and you're only
Speaker 3: a month and a half in, Like, that's scary.
Speaker 2: Plus I'm gonna sound so bad saying this, but I
Speaker 2: know a lot of people, including myself, that don't.
Speaker 1: Want to be someone's first.
Speaker 5: You know what I'm saying. It's like you got I
Speaker 5: don't want to first.
Speaker 1: It would just be weird.
Speaker 5: So a lot of pressure.
Speaker 1: She does like you a lot.
Speaker 2: Maybe we should stop talking this way in front of
Speaker 2: because we're going to be asked with coming up with
Speaker 2: some advice for you. Here, we're going to play a song.
Speaker 2: We'll come back, and then we'll let you make your
Speaker 2: awkward Tuesday phone call to Kelly to let her know
Speaker 2: that you've been saving yourself for marriage.
Speaker 5: All right, I'm getting let's get married tomorrow.
Speaker 1: We'll come up with better advice. We'll do it right
Speaker 1: after this. Hold on, it's awkward.
Speaker 4: It's Tuesday.
Speaker 1: It's awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 2: On this segment, I usually toss it over to my
Speaker 2: co hosts Brooke and Jose so that they can give advice.
Speaker 2: And I've been looking back wondering have I ever said
Speaker 2: anything helpful or I have ever been vulnerable with a listener
Speaker 2: in this segment.
Speaker 4: I'm not sure.
Speaker 1: I think that's why you started telling us because you
Speaker 1: didn't want to.
Speaker 5: We're going to go with no.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't think I have.
Speaker 5: You have a hard time being vulnerable.
Speaker 2: And that's why, Austin, I need to confess today you're
Speaker 2: going to be my first. I was saving myself for
Speaker 2: the right listener to finally give them no, no, no, my advice.
Speaker 5: I feel like he's Jeffery.
Speaker 1: This is this is really hard for me to open up.
Speaker 6: Stop.
Speaker 2: But now that you know that you're going to be
Speaker 2: my first, how does it make you feel, Austin?
Speaker 4: I feel pretty special.
Speaker 1: Oay, she takes it. I feel really bonded with you.
Speaker 6: Now.
Speaker 5: What's the advice, though, Well.
Speaker 2: Before I get to the advice, let's just fill all
Speaker 2: of our listeners in what's doing? Our friend Austin needs
Speaker 2: help to tell his month and a half long girlfriend
Speaker 2: that he's been saving himself for marriage. Could be something
Speaker 2: that he maybe should have brought up a little bit earlier,
Speaker 2: but he's in this situation now. And my advice, Austin
Speaker 2: is do it with a little bit of humor. Whenever
Speaker 2: you're having a hard conversation with somebody, it's usually easier
Speaker 2: if you can start it off with a joke. Get
Speaker 2: the mood a little bit lighter before you deliver something
Speaker 2: that might be a little heavier, awkward.
Speaker 5: Rodic what like, what kind of joke?
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, I'm not going to give you a joke
Speaker 2: to tell, but just try.
Speaker 1: And be lighten.
Speaker 5: Sex.
Speaker 1: I don't hate it. I don't hate it, Austin.
Speaker 4: That sounds good. No, No, I got an idea. I
Speaker 4: got an Okay, are you serious?
Speaker 1: You like him?
Speaker 5: Is that what we're going to go with? Is that
Speaker 5: the advice?
Speaker 1: I don't know, unless brook you have something better.
Speaker 3: I mean, I'm fine with that. I didn't have any
Speaker 3: way for you to open the conversation. I was just
Speaker 3: going to tell you to try to leave off the
Speaker 3: marriage word as much as possible. I know that these
Speaker 3: things are already pretty tied together, but maybe if you
Speaker 3: could just say, like, I'm saving myself for the special person,
Speaker 3: and I'm hoping that's you.
Speaker 2: Okay, so you really don't have any good advice for him.
Speaker 2: Let's just move on to the thing. Yeah, Austin, how
Speaker 2: you feeling, man? You feel ready?
Speaker 4: Yeah? I mean, look, I've had this conversation before, but
Speaker 4: you know now I feel we have a plan. I
Speaker 4: have a plan.
Speaker 1: Okay. I don't want to make you feel bad, but
Speaker 1: there's a lot on the line.
Speaker 5: Good luck, good luck.
Speaker 2: No, we're not We're not going there. Yeah, zero on
Speaker 2: the line. Just be yourself, be cool, a little bit
Speaker 2: funny in the beginning. All right, here we go. I'm
Speaker 2: going to dial the number right now. Let you make
Speaker 2: your awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 1: Good luck?
Speaker 2: Man.
Speaker 4: Hello, Hey, honey, it's me.
Speaker 6: Hey. Hey, hey, Austin.
Speaker 4: Hey, how are you Hey? Hey, hey, how's it going good? Good?
Speaker 4: How's your day going?
Speaker 6: It's going good? Just at work? What about yourself?
Speaker 3: Ah?
Speaker 4: Same? You know, I've been a fipy day. But I'm
Speaker 4: glad I get to see you later.
Speaker 6: Okay, I'm excited.
Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, oh you know, I just I wanted to
Speaker 4: call today and just say I really like you and
Speaker 4: I think you're amazing and a really special woman, and
Speaker 4: I just say, like, I'm so glad that we met.
Speaker 6: Oh. Thanks, I think we have a really good thing
Speaker 6: on our right now.
Speaker 4: I agree, and I want to keep this good thing
Speaker 4: going cool.
Speaker 6: Is that the reason why you come?
Speaker 4: I mean yes, But in order for this good thing
Speaker 4: to keep going, I need to be honest with you
Speaker 4: about who I am.
Speaker 6: Who like you're not who you say you are.
Speaker 4: Well, I'm actually a wanted felon.
Speaker 6: Wait, excuse me.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I hould up a bank a few years ago.
Speaker 6: Are you serious?
Speaker 4: Gotcha? I just mess you with you That was a joke.
Speaker 4: Oh my god? Oh no, no, okaya, I'm just like
Speaker 4: a regular normal love adding citizens. But there is something
Speaker 4: that I that I do want to confess to you.
Speaker 6: Okay, what you're superman or something?
Speaker 4: No, but I mean you could probably confuse me with
Speaker 4: the with a man of feel right right? But yeah,
Speaker 4: I mean the truth is, you know, I'm telling you
Speaker 4: this because I really do like you, Kelly, and I
Speaker 4: want to show you the real me, And the honest
Speaker 4: truth is I'm actually a virgin and I've been saying
Speaker 4: to myself for marriage.
Speaker 6: So is this another joke? Are you for over time?
Speaker 4: No? This is for real.
Speaker 6: Oh wow, wow.
Speaker 4: Probably. Look, I'm sorry that I didn't tell you early.
Speaker 4: I mean, it's just it's in my experience it's not
Speaker 4: always easy to bring rocks.
Speaker 6: I mean, that's cool. I just I do you realize?
Speaker 4: I just I don't know. I've just had a really
Speaker 4: hard time trying to figure this out, you know, like
Speaker 4: I had this whole game plan, but then this friend
Speaker 4: told me, like, I gotta be funny. So I was like,
Speaker 4: you know, not not. They don't affect me, you know
Speaker 4: what I mean. So I don't know, Kelly, I'm a normal.
Speaker 5: God was a joke.
Speaker 4: Joke.
Speaker 5: You saw that joke.
Speaker 6: What's going on?
Speaker 1: Hey, Kelly, knock not guess who? It's the radio show
Speaker 1: Broke and Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 6: Oh my god, Hi, Hi, I gotta say.
Speaker 5: You're handling this pretty well.
Speaker 6: Yeah, so you guys heard all of that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we we helped Austin set up this phone call.
Speaker 5: Did we help someone?
Speaker 4: You know?
Speaker 1: Actually that was right, That was the wrong word.
Speaker 2: We're doing something called an Awkward Tuesday phone call, and
Speaker 2: that's where we help out our listeners who need to
Speaker 2: have an awkward conversation with someone, and the awkward conversation
Speaker 2: Austin needed to have with you was to let you
Speaker 2: know that he's saving himself for marriage.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and look, I know it's not typical for a
Speaker 4: lot of guys, but it's something that I believe in
Speaker 4: and I just want to save myself or someone special.
Speaker 4: And that's why I've been taking it so slow with you, Kelly. Yeah.
Speaker 2: And I'm going to take the blame for the way
Speaker 2: that he delivered it because I was the one that
Speaker 2: told him he should include humor. I didn't realize it
Speaker 2: was going to be that type.
Speaker 1: Of humor.
Speaker 5: To God.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we should have vetted Austin's humor before we let him.
Speaker 1: Make the call. But advice, Yeah, actually, I will be done.
Speaker 1: This will be my last time ever giving advice.
Speaker 2: One we do vouch for Austin.
Speaker 1: He seems like a really good guy, Kelly.
Speaker 6: Oh yeah, well you telling me. I know it's probably
Speaker 6: not the easiest thing to say to someone you're feeling.
Speaker 4: For, Kelly. Kelly, if it doesn't work for you, I
Speaker 4: totally understand. I just want you to find out. Now
Speaker 4: you have four things go any further with us?
Speaker 5: Well, how much further can they go? I'm not trying
Speaker 5: to be a jerk.
Speaker 3: Here, But I also understand Kelly, you're probably having a
Speaker 3: lot of different feelings right now about this.
Speaker 6: Oh my god, Like there's a lot of stuff going
Speaker 6: through my body right now of feelings. And I respect
Speaker 6: that so much, and I think it's really cool you
Speaker 6: believe and something so deeply. Okay, but I could probably
Speaker 6: totally look.
Speaker 4: I mean, just so you know, I mean, it doesn't
Speaker 4: mean that we can't do other stuff.
Speaker 5: Oh, I know your type. Yeah, here we go.
Speaker 4: No, I mean to be clear, like we can do
Speaker 4: other things, like with each other or like you know,
Speaker 4: you can be with another woman, or like I can
Speaker 4: be with a guy, or we can figure it out.
Speaker 4: Waita wait, wait, wait wait.
Speaker 3: I mean yeah, that's cool too, Austin. But that's a
Speaker 3: different conversation and not one that usually involves virginity.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's advanced stuff.
Speaker 3: He just went from like elementary education to a doctorate degree.
Speaker 1: Yeah, who's there? Three dudes naked.
Speaker 5: Again? It's very cool, Austin. But are you saying that
Speaker 5: you want to open relationship with her?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 6: What do you want to be with another guy?
Speaker 4: No? No, I'm just saying that doesn't break the rules.
Speaker 4: I just can't be with a woman. That's what the
Speaker 4: rule is.
Speaker 5: Oh my god, another guy happens.
Speaker 1: It's not a big deal. But you're not pursuing that.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean I'm not pursuing that currently.
Speaker 3: You have a really limited vision of what virgin is.
Speaker 3: I think, like, so you are just talking male. The
Speaker 3: female is the only virginity that you're saving for marriage.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm thinking myself for a woman. That's exactly right.
Speaker 4: I don't I don't want to be confusing about that.
Speaker 5: Okay, So Bill you everything else.
Speaker 4: Yes, it's like the freakiest version I've ever met, because
Speaker 4: I don't know if I see a badger.
Speaker 1: That doesn't break the.
Speaker 5: Rules, I see the rule book here.
Speaker 2: This isn't for us to decide. This is for the
Speaker 2: two of them, for Kelly and Austin to figure out.
Speaker 2: So maybe it's better if we just wrap up this
Speaker 2: call where it is before it gets any weirder.
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's true. Absolutely. I mean, Kelly, where are you
Speaker 5: at right now?
Speaker 6: I think I need a drink like a cod.
Speaker 5: Okay, I feel that's also fair. All of this is fair.
Speaker 3: These are big relationship talks that you're about to have.
Speaker 1: Well, maybe you and Austin and a bunch of dudes
Speaker 1: can sit down to have a drink together and work
Speaker 1: it out. Too many
Speaker 5: You know, freaking Jeffrey in the morning,