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Speaker 4: Today's subject line football ruined my sex life and I'm
Speaker 4: gay in all caps? Hey kran, Christina and Mike have
Speaker 4: been listening to Guys We Fucked on and off since
Speaker 4: I was in high school and have loved y'all since
Speaker 4: a twenty five year old gay man. I really enjoyed
Speaker 4: hearing y'all talk about masculinity a few months ago. But
Speaker 4: to get on to why I'm writing, my boyfriend and
Speaker 4: I have been dating for a little over a year now.
Speaker 4: He's thirty one, but our coming out dates lineup, so
Speaker 4: we are about the same age in gay years. We
Speaker 4: moved in with each other in November and everything has
Speaker 4: been going extremely well. I feel like we balance each
Speaker 4: other out very well. He's extremely extroverted and brings me
Speaker 4: out of my shell, and I ground him when he
Speaker 4: needs it. The one thing that has fallen off in
Speaker 4: recent months is the sex. A little over a year okay,
Speaker 4: when we first started dating, we were having sex all
Speaker 4: the time, and it was amazing. I understand that sex
Speaker 4: in a relationship comes and goes, but I can't help
Speaker 4: but notice that the sex came to a screeching halt
Speaker 4: when football seasons started. We went from having sex at
Speaker 4: least two to three times a week to having sex
Speaker 4: once every four to five.
Speaker 2: Weeks if I was lucky.
Speaker 4: Oh, it has been about five months of this and
Speaker 4: I'm going crazy. The few times we have had sex
Speaker 4: since football started, I may myself finish, but he has
Speaker 4: not come once. Additionally, most of the times we have sex,
Speaker 4: at least he is drunk. I love blowing him, but
Speaker 4: he is even in But I love blowing him, but
Speaker 4: he isn't even in the.
Speaker 2: Mood for me to suck his dick.
Speaker 4: Every time I try to initiate sex, he is quote
Speaker 4: not in the mood and just says that his sex
Speaker 4: drive goes up and down, and I'm very understanding and
Speaker 4: do not push him. But at this point I have
Speaker 4: stopped initiating at all. Yeah, sometimes when we are out
Speaker 4: with friends, he will tell me quote, maybe we will
Speaker 4: have sex tonight, but I have stopped getting my hopes
Speaker 4: up for that as well.
Speaker 2: Oh that sucks that he says that and then doesn't.
Speaker 5: That sucks.
Speaker 4: I love him so much, and we have had conversations
Speaker 4: about how I am feeling, but he always says the
Speaker 4: same quote.
Speaker 2: I'm just not in the moon.
Speaker 4: I've told him that sex is not everything, but it
Speaker 4: is a big part of how I like to express
Speaker 4: my love and how I see love shown to me.
Speaker 4: He promises he is not cheating on me, but I
Speaker 4: have told him. But I have told him that for me,
Speaker 4: it would be so much worse for him to stop
Speaker 4: liking me altogether than to cheat on me. I've had
Speaker 4: exes in the past just leave me without giving a
Speaker 4: better reason than they did not like me anymore. Neither
Speaker 4: of us want to open our relationship, so I masturbate
Speaker 4: a lot on my days off, but even still I
Speaker 4: watch porn and sometimes I just want to be touched
Speaker 4: like that by him.
Speaker 2: Yeah, of course, he's a partner.
Speaker 4: As football season draws to a close, he jokes saying
Speaker 4: that we will start having sex again. But I'm nervous
Speaker 4: that he is just bless you, I'm nervous that he
Speaker 4: is just not interested in me anymore. And my own
Speaker 4: theory is that he's genuinely so invested in football Go Birds,
Speaker 4: Oh hell yeah, go Birds, that it exhausts him. Oh god,
Speaker 4: he's an Eagles fan too. That's even more all consuming
Speaker 4: that it exhausts him, or that he is not interested
Speaker 4: in me anymore. How do I get him to want
Speaker 4: to have sex with me. The only thing I have
Speaker 4: learned that will get him turned on is if we
Speaker 4: have someone staying with us, or we are staying with
Speaker 4: someone else. I think that slight exhibitionism turns him on.
Speaker 4: But I can't make that scenario happen just like that.
Speaker 4: Any advice would be amazing, Thank you.
Speaker 5: Love.
Speaker 4: Y'all touched a photo as well that I think perfectly
Speaker 4: depicts who we both are. I already know where alike
Speaker 4: because calls the stereotype. He's okay, I've got it.
Speaker 2: Was clear. It was clear that the one who likes
Speaker 2: football on the left.
Speaker 4: You guys are cute. Yeah, it's so funny when couples
Speaker 4: look alike.
Speaker 1: The problem is football season is incredibly long and happens
Speaker 1: every year. So is this gonna like this. I'm guessing
Speaker 1: this is your first football season that you're going through together. Yeah,
Speaker 1: because you've been together for a little over a year,
Speaker 1: so it must be.
Speaker 2: Yeah. I'm curious.
Speaker 6: Can they prove? Can he prove that it's uh football?
Speaker 2: He can't. I mean, I feel like he's just grasping
Speaker 2: at straws here, and it seems like they talked about
Speaker 2: it a little bit. Yeah, but I can't tell if
Speaker 2: his partner was being serious or not. I thought he
Speaker 2: was just joking.
Speaker 4: If you guys are out and he's like, maybe we'll
Speaker 4: hope secks later, and then you don't.
Speaker 2: That's a cruel fucking joke.
Speaker 1: Okay, but you've never been out, and then you're horny
Speaker 1: and you feel like you're gonna want to have sex
Speaker 1: when you get home, and then you get home and
Speaker 1: you're like, uh no, I just want to go to bed. Oh.
Speaker 1: I was like, that's like me every day, like cleaning
Speaker 1: my apartment or doing something. I'm like, I'm always like
Speaker 1: when I'm out in the streets. I always feel like
Speaker 1: I want to do all these things when I get home,
Speaker 1: and then when I get home, I'm like, yeah, I
Speaker 1: don't want to do any of these things. I mean
Speaker 1: it's not just sex, but civic, it's any of those things. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but you're on the hih, especially as like he's out
Speaker 1: and drinking. Like sometimes it's the alcohol talking. It's not
Speaker 1: going to say him talking. And then you get home
Speaker 1: and you're kind of like tired, especially because you're twenty
Speaker 1: five and he's thirty one. Thirty one is a little
Speaker 1: early to get to be getting that tired, but it
Speaker 1: starts creeping in.
Speaker 4: Yeah, there's so many Like I'm thinking back to our
Speaker 4: conversation with the urologist about like there's so many reasons,
Speaker 4: you know, getting turned on, getting hard, staying hard, and
Speaker 4: coming are all different systems and they're impacted by completely
Speaker 4: different things.
Speaker 2: So I would say, how's his diet? Is he how
Speaker 2: is his self esteem?
Speaker 5: You know what I mean?
Speaker 4: Because if you're feeling shitty about yourself, I think that
Speaker 4: would not make you want to have.
Speaker 2: Sex with your partner. That's one of the reasons.
Speaker 1: I also think this is a little gameplay, but you know,
Speaker 1: you have to do what you have to do in
Speaker 1: your twenty five So who the hell cares as far
Speaker 1: as like game playing, But like, I think, try making
Speaker 1: yourself a little less available, right, it seems like you're
Speaker 1: probably being very common, accommodating, being overly nice, wanting to
Speaker 1: talk about a lot.
Speaker 2: I don't think those things are helpful.
Speaker 1: Be a little aloof yeah yeah, be less available, will
Speaker 1: be less like what can I do for you?
Speaker 2: And just like don't be home? Yeah, cause I got
Speaker 2: to say that's what works. I am somebody.
Speaker 4: If i'm if if the sex isn't happening in my
Speaker 4: relationship and we're in like an off period, it drives
Speaker 4: me a little nuts. But I've trained myself to I mean,
Speaker 4: I can't trade myself to not care, but I just
Speaker 4: focus on other things. You take that energy and you
Speaker 4: focus on other things, but at the same time, you
Speaker 4: just you keep an eye on it. You check in
Speaker 4: with yourself and just say how long is this lasting?
Speaker 4: You know, you make observations and then you and then
Speaker 4: you assess how you want to move forward.
Speaker 1: Lating because it's it's only been a year, so right,
Speaker 1: But if the pattern continues where it's like these four
Speaker 1: to five week gaps.
Speaker 2: That's way too long, and then you just have to
Speaker 2: break up with them.
Speaker 1: You know, instead of sitting around with like you're like
Speaker 1: it seems like you're like sitting around worrying about is
Speaker 1: he gonna leave me? Well, you're the one who's unhappy
Speaker 1: if if it goes on for a long period of time. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and you've talked about it and nothing changes, you leave him.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, you can do that too. Yep. I
Speaker 2: don't know why people don't think about that.
Speaker 4: Two to three times a week is like perfect if
Speaker 4: you're living together, it's perfect.
Speaker 1: Well that was when he was like saying that it
Speaker 1: was that its height. No, you know right, that's true.
Speaker 1: Then it went to every four to five weeks, which
Speaker 1: is a very.
Speaker 2: Long Once a month is not No.
Speaker 1: Yeahs around, that's away. You're twenty five, so your sex
Speaker 1: trav is still but thirty one. Yeah it's not old.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it shouldn't be that low.
Speaker 1: Something else is happening, and like maybe it's like it's
Speaker 1: like he can maybe it worked out so that he
Speaker 1: can use.
Speaker 2: Football season as an excuse.
Speaker 1: Or maybe he really is genuinely that invested in how
Speaker 1: his team is playing.
Speaker 2: I don't it can be possible.
Speaker 1: And also I'm guessing like he's drinking a lot more
Speaker 1: during football season, right, so that definitely affects or ten
Speaker 1: definitely affects how your dick is performing.
Speaker 4: Also, yeah, you said additionally most of the times we
Speaker 4: have sex, at least he is drunk. That I'm curious
Speaker 4: about what does that mean, Like what's behind that? Because
Speaker 4: it could be just well, no, he's the one who's
Speaker 4: thirty one, because I'm like in your twenties.
Speaker 2: Yeah, a lot of times you have drug sex.
Speaker 1: But it sounds like he might just be depressed to
Speaker 1: drinking a lot and you don't want to fuck, Like, yeah,
Speaker 1: is he just depressed?
Speaker 2: Did you fall into under depression?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 2: The Birds that make it to the bowl this year
Speaker 2: maybe that's why.
Speaker 4: Yeah, But then he's got to get a handle on
Speaker 4: it so that a football team doesn't cause his mood
Speaker 4: to sway.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and then that's a little weird.
Speaker 4: Yeah, Birds for good this year though, they were good,
Speaker 4: but they didn't make it to the bowl.
Speaker 6: Yeah, but they never usually don't make it to the ball.
Speaker 2: They did that one time. We watched it your house
Speaker 2: and they failed. Miserable last year.
Speaker 6: Yeah, Yeah, two teams make it. There's thirty two teams
Speaker 6: in the league.
Speaker 2: Yeah, hey, you know, just get invested us all. I
Speaker 2: want to climb the grease stuff polls in Philadelphia.
Speaker 5: That's true. That's a good point.
Speaker 2: You want something to live for.
Speaker 1: Usually there's not much birds wah wah.
Speaker 4: Cool guys, if you're in Los Angeles, we added a
Speaker 4: late show on Valentine's Day.
Speaker 2: It's Wednesday, February fourteenth.
Speaker 4: Karna Fisher and myself are doing guys, we fucked the experience,
Speaker 4: uh ten thirty pm in the main room at the
Speaker 4: comedy Store. Look, it's LA it's been raining. Y'all got
Speaker 4: a lot of rain lately, a lot of rain, like
Speaker 4: floody rain. So it's not like I'm not going to
Speaker 4: call you a pussy for going.
Speaker 2: Oh no, it's missed.
Speaker 4: Like I hope you're all okay, But get those Valentine's
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Speaker 6: Want that fun.
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Speaker 1: Our next Guys We Fucked Experience show in the City
Speaker 1: at the MasterCard Midnight Theater is Thursday, March seventh, at
Speaker 1: seven pm. And at that show you will be seeing
Speaker 1: Eric in his first live performance, Yes with Guys we Fucked.
Speaker 2: Yes, his debut, his live debut with guy. Does that
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Speaker 2: He isn't like.
Speaker 6: Look at how quickly Eric hopped into the live shows.
Speaker 2: I mean we need the third person. Yeah, wow, okay,
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Speaker 1: Maybe we should have an element where they duel on
Speaker 1: a dance or a lip sync bottle.
Speaker 2: Oh my goodness, all right.
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Speaker 5: My gosh, I'm sure that's what the audience.
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Speaker 4: And then if you're listening to this, if you're if
Speaker 4: you're a Luminous subscriber, you're listening to this the.
Speaker 2: Week it comes out.
Speaker 4: February ninth and tenth, I am headlining Bananas Comedy Club
Speaker 4: in New Jersey with John Campanelli uh featuring. And then
Speaker 4: March twenty second and twenty third, I'll be in Springfield,
Speaker 4: Missouri headlining the Blue Room.
Speaker 2: So come on down and sorry.
Speaker 4: I also have a solo podcast, The Voices in Our Heads,
Speaker 4: that comes out every Monday on Mikey's podcast network that
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Speaker 2: Yeah. When it comes so hard, what happens.
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Speaker 1: And then if you want to listen to my podcast
Speaker 1: Without a Country, it is available every Wednesday on YouTube
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Speaker 1: about nine pm Easter Standard time or whatever. Really Mike
Speaker 1: Harrington decides to upload it. Sometimes he forgets and then goes,
Speaker 1: but I'm a new dad, I go, Okay.
Speaker 2: No excuse, but this show is really good.
Speaker 1: Last week we talked a lot about the death penalty,
Speaker 1: some interesting things happening with a death penalty, including different
Speaker 1: new ways to kill people, uh use it basically using
Speaker 1: a human as a guinea pig with a gas that
Speaker 1: we've never used to kill someone before and watching them
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Speaker 1: around us that I don't really see a ton of
Speaker 1: people talking about in the way that I think we
Speaker 1: should be talking about it. Uh yeah, I believe so. Yes,
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Speaker 2: And and then.
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Speaker 1: a presidential race obviously. You know, if Joe Biden passes
Speaker 1: away or decides not to run, there is a little
Speaker 1: Michelle Obama talk. So this is going this is going on.
Speaker 1: We're kind of keeping an eye on that. But it
Speaker 1: definitely looks like Donald Trump is running for president again,
Speaker 1: and I gotta be honest, I think has a pretty
Speaker 1: good chance of winning this election. So you're gonna want
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Speaker 1: I'm announcing a big tour soon.
Speaker 2: But right now, what I can tell you is, you
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Speaker 1: At the DC Comedy Loft of February twenty ninth through
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Speaker 5: That's it.
Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't know how many how many
Speaker 1: other ways are there to promote the same thing over
Speaker 1: and over again.
Speaker 2: At a certain point, you're just like, come, don't come.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 5: I'll be there, right, nothing new for that. I'll be there.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Oh right, how are you. I'm good.
Speaker 1: Let me see what I was thinking about this week. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't know. I've been I've been trying this new
Speaker 1: thing where there's so much negative commentary online. And I
Speaker 1: don't really spend a ton of time online, but you know,
Speaker 1: I do like my celebrity gossip and when you go
Speaker 1: in the comments section on all these like celebrity gossip posts,
Speaker 1: they are just riddled with the most terrible things you
Speaker 1: could ever write about somebody. And I know most of
Speaker 1: these celebrities aren't reading these, but it's just bad energy out.
Speaker 2: In the air.
Speaker 1: So I've just been stopping by and writing nice things
Speaker 1: about celebrities, mostly female celebrity reviews. Like, for instance, last
Speaker 1: night after the Grammys, people were going on and on
Speaker 1: about how Blue Ivy she was showing cleavage in her
Speaker 1: dress and I was, and how it was inappropriate for
Speaker 1: a twelve year old all this stuff, and I was
Speaker 1: just like.
Speaker 2: So calm mouneing on a twelve year old's cleaving, That's.
Speaker 5: What I said.
Speaker 1: I said, guys, I was like, the weird thing that's
Speaker 1: happening here is not what her dress looks like. It's
Speaker 1: that the fact that a bunch of adults are sitting
Speaker 1: around on the internet talking about a twelve year old boobies.
Speaker 1: I was like, are you gonna start her having shame
Speaker 1: about her body at age twelve? I was like, I
Speaker 1: was like, you know, because they were saying, like, oh,
Speaker 1: she's promoting her boobs. I say, she's not promoting her boobs.
Speaker 1: She is having boobs. She has breasts and they are
Speaker 1: on her body, and she chose not to put a
Speaker 1: put layers of cloth around them and then and just
Speaker 1: have them in a dress.
Speaker 2: I thought she looked fucking awesome.
Speaker 1: She looked way cooler than any of these people will
Speaker 1: probably ever look in their entire lives. She was on
Speaker 1: stage supporting her dad, and also like for someone like her,
Speaker 1: she actually does read the comments because that's why she
Speaker 1: reads it.
Speaker 2: She practiced her day entire tour.
Speaker 4: She was only going to do one show, and she's like,
Speaker 4: show child.
Speaker 2: Insane, really insane behavior.
Speaker 1: That's just one example, but it's constant, Like, uh, you know,
Speaker 1: people people do with Taylor Swift all the time, people
Speaker 1: do with my Lee Cyrus. I saw people were doing
Speaker 1: it with like Noah Siris, who I love because she
Speaker 1: Noah Cyrus is a little weird and had definitely dressed
Speaker 1: is really strange. Also has a fucking banging body though,
Speaker 1: And I'm just I'm just tired of people constantly commenting
Speaker 1: on what people should or should not do, or you know,
Speaker 1: people going on and on about how Taylor's hair always
Speaker 1: looks bad at the football games. Who gives it's windy
Speaker 1: and cold literally maybe it's also like one moment of
Speaker 1: her life where she doesn't have to think about her
Speaker 1: hair and it's freeing to her.
Speaker 2: Get a life, everybody get a life, and also gives
Speaker 2: the person who comments these they.
Speaker 1: Just feelad about themselves cause I always go on the profiles.
Speaker 1: It's rarely a hot person saying it. You know, it's
Speaker 1: just someone trying to make their put a stamp on
Speaker 1: in the world.
Speaker 2: That one is never going to have a stamp on
Speaker 2: the world.
Speaker 4: Yeah, they see negatively affecting people as any That's fine,
Speaker 4: they'll take it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just sad.
Speaker 1: So I guess the lesson to learn from this is like,
Speaker 1: if you're gonna if you're going to leave a negative
Speaker 1: comment about someone you've never met, you don't know, You
Speaker 1: really don't know what the inner workings of their life are.
Speaker 1: Maybe take a second and stop and go, what like
Speaker 1: getting out of leaving this comment? What is the purpose
Speaker 1: of me leaving this comment? Am I adding to the
Speaker 1: trash of the internet? It just makes no sense to me.
Speaker 1: It just makes no sense. Who has the fucking time
Speaker 1: I get?
Speaker 2: I get like.
Speaker 1: Every once in a while, I'll come by a post
Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh fuck this, and I'll want to like, And.
Speaker 2: Then before I leave the comment, I go, is this
Speaker 2: just adding? Is this gonna do anything?
Speaker 5: No?
Speaker 1: And I don't post it. Yeah, there we go. That's
Speaker 1: what you could do. You don't know these people, guys.
Speaker 1: It's sad that you think you know them.
Speaker 2: You don't know them. I don't know them. You don't
Speaker 2: know them, none of us.
Speaker 4: And that's why all y'all, all these people can project
Speaker 4: on them.
Speaker 1: Well, not to mention happy celebrities are playing us all
Speaker 1: so hard, like they don't have a curated, manipulated way,
Speaker 1: Like don't you think like sometimes they're doing things to
Speaker 1: get a reaction out of the structure is just so
Speaker 1: much bigger than us, Like we think we know what's
Speaker 1: going on.
Speaker 2: We have no idea what's going on at this level.
Speaker 2: We have no celebrities with aliens, with all of it,
Speaker 2: we have no idea. Yeah, yeah, I've been trying to
Speaker 2: want to prep on go.
Speaker 4: There's this like four cleanse on that woman coatbook that
Speaker 4: I'm reading, and so I want to prep to before
Speaker 4: I go on it. I did not realize how much
Speaker 4: sugar I take in Oh my god, a chai latte.
Speaker 4: I would have a chi latte and her croissant every
Speaker 4: morning for this cafe and everything croissant so delicious, because
Speaker 4: you know, when I wake up, I just want to
Speaker 4: fucking eat right away and I want I want my
Speaker 4: biggest meals usually breakfast, but I stopped doing that just
Speaker 4: just that one thing is what are you pretty healthy
Speaker 4: throughout the day? But uh, oh my god, my personality
Speaker 4: is different. I'm like, it's better, clearheaded, a little more,
Speaker 4: a little more tired. But I'm also dealing with it
Speaker 4: being sick. But my head hurts. But that's because sick,
Speaker 4: not the sugar.
Speaker 1: But you didn't feel a drop off when you went
Speaker 1: off that much sugar.
Speaker 2: I felt a drop off.
Speaker 1: It was like usually like that, you'll feel like the
Speaker 1: sadness or anger of like almost like you're going into ketosis.
Speaker 2: I mean, you're sure anywhere near katosis.
Speaker 4: But yeah, I did feel like a cranky like when
Speaker 4: I when I the times that i've quit smoke, okaying
Speaker 4: like that, I truly got super, super fucking violently cranky.
Speaker 4: So a little bit of that but nothing, nothing too crazy,
Speaker 4: but it made me. The amount of sugar that you're
Speaker 4: supposed to eat in a day and the amount of
Speaker 4: sugar that you actually eat a lot of times are
Speaker 4: just so drastically different. You're like, oh my god, I've
Speaker 4: been fucking poisoning myself. Well, you don't need any sugar.
Speaker 4: You can go complete without your right yeah, and you
Speaker 4: can get it from you know, fruits, if you're gonna
Speaker 4: get it, get it from. So I'm trying to just
Speaker 4: get it from fruits and stuff, but it is, it's tough.
Speaker 4: You just have to cook for yourself basically. But my god,
Speaker 4: I didn't realize. And it's such a dep like I
Speaker 4: feel lighter without the sugar. It's wild how much of
Speaker 4: an impact that makes. And I've heard people say like
Speaker 4: sugar is poison and it's more poisonous than like hard drugs.
Speaker 2: Which I don't know. I'm not a scientist, but uh,
Speaker 2: the effects are wild.
Speaker 5: I think white sugar is yeah, it's sugar.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, all the processed sugar like fruit whatever.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 1: You could of course you can go into a diabetic
Speaker 1: coma with eating only fruit, but yeah, processed sugar.
Speaker 4: Trying to it out just slowly because I knew that's
Speaker 4: a that's a tough one to give up.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I mean it feels great when you go
Speaker 1: go without it, But then and then there's a certain
Speaker 1: point that I usually get to what I'm doing keto,
Speaker 1: where more pulse by the sugar, even the smell of
Speaker 1: like a piece of candy is like disgusting. But then
Speaker 1: after a certain while you're like, nah, I miss it,
Speaker 1: I'm going back, you know not.
Speaker 2: He tells, this is when.
Speaker 4: Your liver is making it's getting energy from your actual
Speaker 4: body through your organs instead of instead of the sugar
Speaker 4: that you're putting into it.
Speaker 1: I don't I actually can't explain to you that right
Speaker 1: now because I haven't done it in a while. But
Speaker 1: all I know is like, you know, your your body
Speaker 1: knows your smell, yeah, your pee you know yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: de nild yeah, put yeah.
Speaker 4: Managing what you put into your body food wise, like
Speaker 4: and really kind of getting strict with it.
Speaker 5: Oof.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm I'm really surprised at all the internal changes.
Speaker 2: Very surprised. That's where I'm at.
Speaker 1: But I'm not surprised that our guest was here, our
Speaker 1: an irotic angel. It was a Christian wigg on the plane.
Speaker 2: He's such a dear friend of ours.
Speaker 1: He he he saved dogs, he trains dogs.
Speaker 2: He makes you laugh on stage.
Speaker 4: You've heard him here before. He's back for his second return.
Speaker 4: Ladies and gentlemen, please welcome to the show.
Speaker 2: Justin Silver.
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Speaker 4: Guys, we are year with our dear friend and stand
Speaker 4: up comedian and savor and trainer of dogs, Justin Silver High.
Speaker 2: Ladies, Hello, welcome to the show.
Speaker 10: Welcome back. I'm so glad to be back.
Speaker 1: It's so nice to have somebody on that just it's like,
Speaker 1: did you just correct my intro to you on the show.
Speaker 10: Mood with me today?
Speaker 5: Not at all. I'm saying it's so good to be back.
Speaker 5: I recollect you saying you don't have repeat guests.
Speaker 2: Oh that is old us.
Speaker 1: Now. Now we're kind of just doing the thing where
Speaker 1: we have our friends on a lot because every other
Speaker 1: podcast does that.
Speaker 2: We're sick of the interview.
Speaker 10: Yeah, I'm still glad to be back.
Speaker 2: Yes, how are you doing?
Speaker 5: I'm good, I'm good. I'm a little underarrested. I'm trying
Speaker 5: to get off these fucking sleeping pills.
Speaker 1: Okay, so wait, so you have not taken a sleeping pills,
Speaker 1: so you didn't get a lot of sleep last night.
Speaker 5: I did not take a sleeping pill, so I did
Speaker 5: not get a lot of sleep less night.
Speaker 2: Okay, what is the same.
Speaker 1: I've never taken a sleep like a proper sleeping pill.
Speaker 5: You've taken like xanax. No, you never taking an ambien. No,
Speaker 5: you've never taking a lunesta.
Speaker 4: No, you've never You've never taken all three of the same.
Speaker 5: You ain't living.
Speaker 2: I have an uppers gal, I don't take doubt ruth.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I know I run anxious. So yeah, I'm never
Speaker 5: gonna have.
Speaker 2: Good sleep hygiene, you know.
Speaker 5: So you know like sleep hygen. You're like, yeah, put
Speaker 5: your like you know, start to wind down, no screens,
Speaker 5: get all the ship. Yeah, when I was in La
Speaker 5: things automatically. It was like my Arcadian rhythm was just
Speaker 5: I didn't have to do anything. It was in bed
Speaker 5: asleep by eleven up at seven boom because especially culture.
Speaker 5: Yeah here, I'm like, I'll me and Corin will be
Speaker 5: DM and it on Instagram at like fucking four o'clock
Speaker 5: in the morning.
Speaker 2: But I like that that works for me.
Speaker 1: So you because you always talk about how much you
Speaker 1: hate New York and I'm like, I don't understand.
Speaker 2: Just moved to La. No one's stopping you.
Speaker 5: You know what, viet No, no one's stopping me. Via
Speaker 5: my therapist suggestion, She's like, I choose to live in
Speaker 5: New York. I don't have to.
Speaker 10: You have to change your word. And it's like, I
Speaker 10: choose to live here. It's true.
Speaker 5: Listen, I sacrifice. I sacrifice for the things that I
Speaker 5: love to do and the art that I like to do.
Speaker 5: That is just more at my fingertips here.
Speaker 2: You're in a great apartment.
Speaker 10: Thank you.
Speaker 5: I appreciate that, so do you? So do you?
Speaker 2: Thank you all? Wow, it's a great apartment club.
Speaker 10: But no, I didn't sleep that great last night, so
Speaker 10: I'm working on it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, what are you gonna do. How how's
Speaker 2: your dating?
Speaker 10: How's my it's been?
Speaker 2: Do you are you dating?
Speaker 1: It?
Speaker 2: About you?
Speaker 5: I should be? No, I like should be?
Speaker 1: Why?
Speaker 5: But why should?
Speaker 2: Can you explain why.
Speaker 10: Why I should be?
Speaker 5: Because I'm not that I've been so much less motivated to.
Speaker 10: I've talked to you both about this. I've been so
Speaker 10: much less.
Speaker 5: Motivated to and why is that? I think it's a
Speaker 5: combination of thing. I think it's like, first of all,
Speaker 5: I remember hitting like I'm older than I look. I
Speaker 5: remember hitting this point, let's say, in this number on you,
Speaker 5: I remember hitting this point in age.
Speaker 10: I'm about the same as a chick and half a
Speaker 10: gay guy.
Speaker 5: That's I think what. I think that's inaccurate. I think
Speaker 5: that's an accurate appraisal. What Okay? No, I hit this
Speaker 5: thing where I was like, dudes are so like driven
Speaker 5: by sex to the point where it's like it's burden
Speaker 5: some like a man's a man's horniness is a fucking
Speaker 5: burden something twenties or and then I hit this point
Speaker 5: where it kind of dropped off and I was like,
Speaker 5: this is like I would take this a thousand times.
Speaker 5: I would take this every time. Not that I'm like
Speaker 5: not that I don't have one. It's just like it's
Speaker 5: significantly significantly dropped off, And I was like, this is
Speaker 5: such a better mental state. Yeah, the things that I
Speaker 5: used to the things that I would do, like what
Speaker 5: what does everybody do to get late? It's like I
Speaker 5: remember when like yeah, like I don't I've never No,
Speaker 5: I've never done any of those things.
Speaker 10: I've never done any of those things.
Speaker 2: You never cheated.
Speaker 5: We've talked about this, I've never cheated.
Speaker 2: Okay, what you have to say it on the air
Speaker 2: because that listeners don't know.
Speaker 5: The amount of the amount of time I would spend
Speaker 5: like on dating app sending messages. It was like it'll
Speaker 5: just like a game, you know, yeah.
Speaker 10: It just like drives you.
Speaker 5: And then it's like the things that I would do
Speaker 5: at like fuck, like it's Tuesday night, like of course
Speaker 5: I'll go meet this person at like whatever. Born say,
Speaker 5: like you just like go to the ends of the
Speaker 5: earth for it, like you're so sex driven, right, And
Speaker 5: then it like kind of dropped off, which is like
Speaker 5: more comfortable, But do you miss it? No? Is what
Speaker 5: I'm saying, Like I don't like I think this, this
Speaker 5: to me feels like what normals should feel like it's.
Speaker 1: So fascinating how much time men do spend, especially in
Speaker 1: their twenties, trying to fuck and how much they still
Speaker 1: accomplish in the workspace.
Speaker 2: I guess on the part where they're good well people. Yeah,
Speaker 2: that part. Also they don't got to get ready.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's a lot of time when you you're getting ready,
Speaker 4: our routine and your.
Speaker 2: Routine different times.
Speaker 1: I've been in a hotel room with Justin when he
Speaker 1: was getting ready, and honestly, it took a while.
Speaker 10: Definitely don't get I don't think no, no, no.
Speaker 2: Like air boxing.
Speaker 5: Though also, by the way, there was another day right
Speaker 5: in sleep and I was a little fucking delirious when
Speaker 5: we were in getting Maybe you should take I should
Speaker 5: take this. I should Yeah, well I got to the
Speaker 5: point where I have to take so many of them
Speaker 5: now they're like so many Yeah, because like they just
Speaker 5: stopped working at a certain point.
Speaker 2: He built up a tolerance drugs.
Speaker 5: Someone's gonna have to shoot me with a fucking elephant tranquilizer,
Speaker 5: Like I just can't.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, whoa.
Speaker 5: But no, you're right, I get you're right. It's uh,
Speaker 5: but I think that's what drives men to be successful. Anyway,
Speaker 5: like you think about anything. I mean, this is like
Speaker 5: so biological biology one one. Yeah.
Speaker 4: When I was walking into the building today, a homeless
Speaker 4: man was like, I'll pay a thousand dollars to eat
Speaker 4: your pussy.
Speaker 2: And he was like eighty.
Speaker 5: And I was like, whoa, wow, that's a good I
Speaker 5: gotta go.
Speaker 2: There a thousand. Oh he doesn't.
Speaker 5: The money.
Speaker 1: The old ass dude who doesn't have a home, just
Speaker 1: worry about eating pussy. If he was, if it was
Speaker 1: just like show me your titsredent, just say like I
Speaker 1: think you should do that, right, the homeless guy just
Speaker 1: one city, that's philanthropy.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't care. Yeah, yeah, yeah, city whatever.
Speaker 10: Yeah, i'd be into that. I'm not.
Speaker 2: I'm squares too clean these days. I must be real disappointed.
Speaker 5: You're a bit I don't care.
Speaker 10: What's the opposite of the voyer the person who likes
Speaker 10: to be seen?
Speaker 2: Oh I like that too. What's the opposite of someone
Speaker 2: who is the person.
Speaker 10: Who likes to what's the other No?
Speaker 5: No, no, no, The other thing was I'm exhibition You're you're
Speaker 5: a bit exhibitionisty.
Speaker 2: Yeah, a little bit. Yeah, I am too, not as
Speaker 2: much anymore.
Speaker 5: No, but I do like walking around like naked, like
Speaker 5: a big hotel, like I'll keep.
Speaker 2: Keep in the window with I would love at the window.
Speaker 10: Totally, like windows open. I would like to be watching whoever.
Speaker 4: Wants to see it have at it. Do you I
Speaker 4: had only hot people are watching that.
Speaker 5: I want to. I just want to get like the
Speaker 5: other guy's perspective on that, like you like enjoy being
Speaker 5: like if like you're in a hotel room you're naked,
Speaker 5: like you'd want the windows open, and if someone was
Speaker 5: to you, like across the building, you'd be like into that.
Speaker 11: And now I don't know, I'll tell you this, I
Speaker 11: don't know that something that I'm into necessarily.
Speaker 6: But there's construction going on right across from my.
Speaker 5: Uh you get no that I'm not getting called, but
Speaker 5: I walk around and whether the shades are open or not,
Speaker 5: like I don't really give a fuck.
Speaker 6: Yeah, and it is all guys.
Speaker 11: It's not like it's like women on the on the
Speaker 11: job like building the extension of this, did they offer.
Speaker 5: You a thousand dollars to eat your buzzy or now
Speaker 5: I wish god you would be doing it just like that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, time to answer your question. Yes, this is what
Speaker 2: made me nervous.
Speaker 5: I was like, listen, man, like you're getting older and
Speaker 5: like you should make like I want companionship, Like I
Speaker 5: don't like really.
Speaker 10: Want it, Like yeah, I don't.
Speaker 5: I don't know. I don't.
Speaker 10: I don't really give you.
Speaker 5: I don't really give you anymore. No, I really like
Speaker 5: I want like companionship. I'm like the only person in
Speaker 5: my family not married or without kids. Not that I
Speaker 5: want to have kids or not that.
Speaker 4: That, but I like, do all the people in your
Speaker 4: family have great marriages that you aspire to have?
Speaker 5: I don't know anybody who has like perfect There's a
Speaker 5: few people I know who they like great marriages, so
Speaker 5: lovely love. Yes, it's not necessarily that it's like companionship
Speaker 5: and sharing your life like I have like beautiful Brutus,
Speaker 5: who was like, I'm like, oh, you want to like
Speaker 5: share this like you guys both come over, we hang out.
Speaker 5: I'm like, I like, like there's like a connection I
Speaker 5: have that I have like with so many of my
Speaker 5: female friends. And I'm like, all right, it would be
Speaker 5: nice if, like, you know, you stuck your thing in
Speaker 5: there things right with one of these. So but I was,
Speaker 5: but I have to like force myself. I have to
Speaker 5: like force myself to do dating as I'm like, I'm like,
Speaker 5: you have to like put some work in on them.
Speaker 2: But have you ever tried not putting any work into
Speaker 2: it and seeing what happens?
Speaker 5: Yeah, but I feel like, yeah, of course, Like then
Speaker 5: I've did that the majority crickets for a year, but
Speaker 5: you know I remember that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Yeah, we hung out a lot, a lot.
Speaker 5: The majority of how I've met people has always been like, like,
Speaker 5: we do social things. Yeah, then we do with social
Speaker 5: so you meet, so we meet a ton of people.
Speaker 5: But I'm just like, if that has not, I don't
Speaker 5: go out as much as I like. I just like
Speaker 5: I've simmered down a little bit, which is like I
Speaker 5: feel like, here's what it is.
Speaker 10: It's like there's like a trade off. There's like a
Speaker 10: graph here.
Speaker 5: We're like because I've simmered down a little bit and
Speaker 5: I'm not running around, I'm so out and about the
Speaker 5: amount of people I'm going to meet running around being
Speaker 5: out and about is less. So you're gonna have to
Speaker 5: do something else to supplement that, right, right, you know
Speaker 5: what I mean, Like my testosterone injections, but of.
Speaker 2: Of you don't ever call my pussy.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I know that it's very harsh.
Speaker 2: I'm saying, like hard is like a little bit it's Sprench.
Speaker 5: Yeah, it could be. It's like saying yes, wait instead
Speaker 5: of target Yeah.
Speaker 1: Okay you no because it's so expensive. Now it's just
Speaker 1: you know, it's fancy. So yeah, that's it's interesting, like aging.
Speaker 4: Some people we were talking about this earlier, like, I
Speaker 4: think men like it less than women. Men have a
Speaker 4: harder time with aging than women do that society would
Speaker 4: paint the picture that women have a harder time because
Speaker 4: we aren't vocable, but we.
Speaker 2: Don't actually think that. Wait, wait, don't we feel great?
Speaker 2: All of our male friends are having a harder time
Speaker 2: with aging than we are.
Speaker 10: I don't think I'm having a hard time with aging
Speaker 10: because I.
Speaker 5: Don't. I'm not physically aging that much, so I don't
Speaker 5: think I'm having a hard time with that.
Speaker 2: I think it's more like the mental grasp of a yeah.
Speaker 10: But that's also part of it. You're like, you're like,
Speaker 10: holy like.
Speaker 6: But you don't feel like you're physically aging.
Speaker 10: I am, but I'm not feeling at like less.
Speaker 5: Athletic than you used to.
Speaker 10: So this is what I was just gonna say.
Speaker 5: I was like the aches and pains in my body
Speaker 5: just from like fitness and stuff and what I have
Speaker 5: to like, those things are different. There's like a tiredness.
Speaker 5: But at the same time, I'm like yeah, but I'm like,
Speaker 5: we just did funny for final my charity event. I'm
Speaker 5: sure likes mentioned on it, right, So we just and
Speaker 5: like some of my friends from camp came, like my
Speaker 5: Jewish sleep away camp friends. I'm like, you look like
Speaker 5: old fucking Jews man, oh for sure.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, yeah, Jesus Christ, I get that shout
Speaker 1: out thanks for coming to my really expensive charity.
Speaker 5: Then yeah, but you know what I'm saying. I was
Speaker 5: just like, Okay, this is like, oh.
Speaker 2: Yes, city people age slower.
Speaker 5: Do that think so?
Speaker 1: And it's also like if they they're married and have kids,
Speaker 1: they're gonna look older because it's a.
Speaker 5: Lot of yeah yeah. My sisters like every year they's like, yeah,
Speaker 5: we did, we did. There's like a freedom so.
Speaker 2: You can stay up till five.
Speaker 5: But wait, what was the thing? Wait you said that
Speaker 5: you are having a discussion or what you're talking about.
Speaker 4: How like you know, it's kind of like society's little
Speaker 4: trope that women like don't tell them your age. Ladies,
Speaker 4: he's gonna tick you're too old to fuck or whatever,
Speaker 4: and it's like, it's actually not like we don't feel
Speaker 4: that way.
Speaker 2: Like women feel like we're feeling great as we get older.
Speaker 10: Some do, some don't. Yeah, I think it's I think.
Speaker 1: It's surrounded by a lot of women that are older,
Speaker 1: like in their forties in there. I have a lot
Speaker 1: of I have some female friends that are in their
Speaker 1: fifties and they feel great. They don't look in their fifties.
Speaker 5: You're also different than the average both of you. The
Speaker 5: average woman is like you're these like successful artists to
Speaker 5: do things on their own terms, like you're the and
Speaker 5: you live in New York.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, say, like a city millennials
Speaker 1: as a group don't feel pretty young.
Speaker 10: Yeah, they are pretty young.
Speaker 2: I think jens Z feels older than us. Well that's yeah.
Speaker 1: That was just like an article that came out recently
Speaker 1: that gen Z feels like they're aging like milk that
Speaker 1: was going viral the other day.
Speaker 5: Yeah, that was in the article. I was just telling you, Like,
Speaker 5: just so the article I said about yourself about promoting
Speaker 5: yourself like artists promoting yourself and the whole thing and
Speaker 5: they talk about you know, of course, it goes into
Speaker 5: like how gen Z feels in their stress and their anxiety.
Speaker 1: Like, yeah, well, because I think gen Z has feels
Speaker 1: like they have the burden of all our mistakes on
Speaker 1: their shoulders, but everything every youngest generation has that what.
Speaker 2: Was they said? Where did we suck up?
Speaker 1: The environments did among other things?
Speaker 10: You were asking where your parents fucked up?
Speaker 4: I was talking to Yeah, they're blocked on my phone, no,
Speaker 4: but like where did Yeah, what did millennials do that
Speaker 4: was so fucked up?
Speaker 10: Millennials wouldn't have had kids yet?
Speaker 5: Really?
Speaker 10: Oh no, my sisters have kids.
Speaker 1: That's millennial about myos definitely would have kids that were
Speaker 1: like I'm literally thirty eight years old.
Speaker 2: It's almost too late for Yeah, those.
Speaker 5: Kids would be in single digits right now for the
Speaker 5: most part, so they're not like totally depressed yet. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, well I think that.
Speaker 4: Yeah, our generation, like I think was the first one
Speaker 4: to not really have kids and get married. I mean,
Speaker 4: I know that city life too, but it seems like
Speaker 4: even now the Midwest is like just because I'm twenty
Speaker 4: three doesn't mean I'm gonna get hitched. Yeah, you know,
Speaker 4: like people are getting married later in life, which is cool.
Speaker 10: I think it is cool.
Speaker 2: But companionship is nice, Like what do you like about companionship?
Speaker 5: Listen, man, I there's all these these nice things in
Speaker 5: my life that I love. I love being alone, like
Speaker 5: I love things on my own terms. Like like, listen,
Speaker 5: the same apartment that we were just talking about. I've
Speaker 5: lived with my ex girlfriends in there, and I've been like,
Speaker 5: oh you have Yeah, I live with my extra an
Speaker 5: eron in there, who was like at that event that
Speaker 5: you meta and I was just.
Speaker 10: Like, okay.
Speaker 5: The difficulty of like someone's just basic living habits and
Speaker 5: like still to square foot one bedroom where you're like,
Speaker 5: all right, we have to share this bath. Like those
Speaker 5: things make me fucking nuts. Yeah.
Speaker 1: That's why I'm gonna renew my Lise again and not
Speaker 1: move in with Calm, because I'm like.
Speaker 4: Next door, which is perfect home. It's perfect, you have
Speaker 4: your perfect home. It's boyish, it's gentlemanly. Mine is super girly,
Speaker 4: and there's pink flowers everywhere. I don't want to combine.
Speaker 5: Who's the guy who wrote that? There's this book shit,
Speaker 5: I'll find it, God damn it. But he writes this
Speaker 5: character where he's like it's just this true crime book
Speaker 5: and like he has this relationship where it's like they
Speaker 5: get married in it and their things Like he's like
Speaker 5: you keep She's like you keep your apartment.
Speaker 10: I'll keep mind. We'll just keep things the way they are.
Speaker 5: Yeah, And it was the first time I ever thought like,
Speaker 5: wait a second, you can have a copesetic relationship like
Speaker 5: that where you don't drive each other fucking crazy for
Speaker 5: the sound that they're breathing, because there's enough like space,
Speaker 5: and there's enough space to like be your own. See.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And I think that like a romantic partner, like
Speaker 1: to me, is such a precious thing.
Speaker 4: And I had a boss a while back. I've talked
Speaker 4: about like she treated her partner. She had a boyfriend,
Speaker 4: and she just treated him like like he was very special,
Speaker 4: Like their relationship was really special. And I remember witnessing
Speaker 4: it a lot, and I was like, wow, you like
Speaker 4: you're different around him, but like in a really good way,
Speaker 4: Like you save the best of yourself for him, not
Speaker 4: not that you're shitty in work or anything, but like
Speaker 4: you just have like a lovely thing.
Speaker 2: And I'm like, I would hate too.
Speaker 4: I don't want to foster an environment where it's but
Speaker 4: I could potentially be bitter and hate the way you breathe,
Speaker 4: and I think it's it's inevitable when you're living with somebody,
Speaker 4: no matter how great there.
Speaker 5: Especially in an apartment. Bakowski wrote that he wrote the
Speaker 5: first six months of the.
Speaker 10: Of a relationship with the.
Speaker 2: Asshole.
Speaker 5: Yes, because he's a psychopathic but he's right. He goes
Speaker 5: the first six months of a relationship with the best
Speaker 5: and then it's it. Then it's endless, revealing and unrevealing.
Speaker 2: No, Well, I yeah, I mean I I like, I
Speaker 2: like the I don't like the unraveling. I like the revealing.
Speaker 2: But yeah, you can't not get.
Speaker 5: Sick of I just yeah, and like that's your home
Speaker 5: is so beautiful.
Speaker 10: I appreciate that, I I but I do like I
Speaker 10: was just like to me. Also a lot of relationshipship
Speaker 10: like I'm so much of it also has to do.
Speaker 5: With like like with I think with men like so
Speaker 5: much of the way you feel about yourself also, relationship
Speaker 5: wise is tied to your success and tied to tie
Speaker 5: and touch here for women too though, I think so too,
Speaker 5: But like I spent I think men like historically more.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I I it doesn't really have any bearing on
Speaker 1: my work whether I'm in a or a relationship or
Speaker 1: not a relationship. When I'm in a relationship, maybe I'm
Speaker 1: more tired, so I have to like really like prioritize
Speaker 1: work in my head, whereas when I'm by myself, I
Speaker 1: can just kind of do it, you know, at five
Speaker 1: in the morning, little at five in the morning, a
Speaker 1: little at three in the morning.
Speaker 2: But the work ethic is there regardless.
Speaker 10: Yeah, I've also.
Speaker 1: I know you're you're I'm so interested by people who
Speaker 1: like yearn for companionship.
Speaker 2: I just don't have.
Speaker 5: I not have it at all. I'm not yearning for it.
Speaker 5: What I'm saying is I'm not like yearning for it.
Speaker 5: I'm telling you I know you do. I'm not saying
Speaker 5: I'm yearning for it. I'm like, I'm like this, this
Speaker 5: is important, and it's like this is something worth paying
Speaker 5: a little bit of attention to a little more than
Speaker 5: I have because you're like it'll just work out.
Speaker 10: Like I'm comfortable by myself.
Speaker 1: You're open to companionship without like the fire, and that
Speaker 1: to me is so companionship, like a companionship that was
Speaker 1: like fun and comfortable, but like without like the fire
Speaker 1: of like this, You're like, you don't have to be
Speaker 1: like wild these actually attracted to the person.
Speaker 2: I could never live with someone unless I wanted to.
Speaker 10: You know, That's exactly I feel the exact same way.
Speaker 2: Yeah, me to me, companionship implies that, like you're attracted,
Speaker 2: I couldn't. But I'm saying, like, from what Justin's told me.
Speaker 10: No, no, no, I could that that.
Speaker 1: That you were you would just be comfortable having like
Speaker 1: a nice life with someone who you weren't, like, didn't
Speaker 1: want to fuck their brains.
Speaker 5: Oh absolutely not. I'm saying the opposite is true. Anytime,
Speaker 5: and you know who all these people are. Anytime you've
Speaker 5: seen me head over heels for somebody, that's the thing
Speaker 5: where I'm like, fuck, then that's the thing that will
Speaker 5: kick it into where I'm like, Okay, now I want
Speaker 5: to be with this person.
Speaker 10: I'm saying when things are just.
Speaker 5: Kind of even like they are, and I meet somebody
Speaker 5: and they're nice and we'd be compatible, I'm like, I'm like,
Speaker 5: what's the difference, Like I have to want I have
Speaker 5: to be like my head has to want to explode
Speaker 5: for your pussy.
Speaker 2: For me to be able to be like, all right, five, you.
Speaker 5: Know now, I'm I'm gonna make this effort that I
Speaker 5: would have made otherwise. So many people I feel like, dude,
Speaker 5: I know so many people in these like I don't
Speaker 5: I can't say they're miserable, because you don't know what
Speaker 5: goes on in anybody's house. But it's like this was
Speaker 5: the right person and it seemed right, and like, you know,
Speaker 5: so they just go they go off and get married
Speaker 5: and have kids. I'm like, I think, like it seems
Speaker 5: so boring and average to me. And I know a
Speaker 5: lot of relationship get that way anyway, But if I
Speaker 5: look at everybody in my family, I'm like, how is
Speaker 5: it possible that, Like when you were like, it's time
Speaker 5: for me to go meet somebody to get married, and
Speaker 5: then it's like, I feel like they just picked the
Speaker 5: most convenient person, like picking apart, you know what I mean. Yeah,
Speaker 5: like they butted up.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and it's hard, Like it is hard to deal with,
Speaker 4: Like when the passion is not like fiery like it
Speaker 4: was in the beginning, You're like, all right, now, what
Speaker 4: are we doing?
Speaker 10: But what holds it together?
Speaker 2: Otherwise respect, mutual respect, I understand each other.
Speaker 5: Yeah, but you also need to be able to, like
Speaker 5: you're also going to fight, and you also need to
Speaker 5: be able to like fuck make up, and like there
Speaker 5: has to be like you have to have that physical
Speaker 5: physic is a short you can but you understand if
Speaker 5: you don't have that. Like, listen, we have a friend
Speaker 5: in common who's living with this person that they had
Speaker 5: a baby and they thought that, come on, I can't
Speaker 5: see it. It's a disaster. It's like you have to
Speaker 5: want to fuck the shit out of the other person,
Speaker 5: at least in the beginning at some point.
Speaker 10: Yeah, yeah, I think we're all in agreement with this.
Speaker 4: Yes, I think some people don't. Maybe if they've never
Speaker 4: experienced that, they don't think that that it's necessarily true.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that is nuts, because like, what the fuck's the
Speaker 1: point of a high sex drive? Though some people just
Speaker 1: aren't sex sexual. I don't think they're listening to the
Speaker 1: show most likely.
Speaker 2: But that's not true.
Speaker 1: Every now and then, like some we talk about like
Speaker 1: being like you know, not interested. Like part of sexuality
Speaker 1: is the choice to be like celibate for certain periods
Speaker 1: of life, and there are certainly many people, especially young women,
Speaker 1: who choose that quite often.
Speaker 2: That's part of your sexuality set.
Speaker 5: I also don't think there's like a woman I know
Speaker 5: who hasn't like, gotten pissed off or hated guys at
Speaker 5: some point and then tried to be gay and either
Speaker 5: stay that way.
Speaker 1: I have never tried to be gay, and I hate man.
Speaker 2: I have tried to be gain sex.
Speaker 5: Last night for the first time in a while.
Speaker 2: That the date that you were said was real?
Speaker 10: Which one?
Speaker 1: You said You're talking about a date on Instagram story
Speaker 1: and I didn't know if that was.
Speaker 2: A bit or if that was real?
Speaker 10: Which one?
Speaker 2: When did I say on Instagram Stories?
Speaker 10: Yes, I said, I said that.
Speaker 1: You said, daddy has a date tonight to brut us
Speaker 1: and you give him a nourishment pole.
Speaker 5: So that's right. I did do that.
Speaker 10: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I always watch your dog stories. I love dog information.
Speaker 10: He had a date, but you just got a nurishment pole.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, he's like where you posted on the instnet last night.
Speaker 5: I don't remember it. On a sleeping pill, you know what,
Speaker 5: here's the deal. To be honest with you, I'm always
Speaker 5: kind of half on a sleeping pill because of how
Speaker 5: they work, the half life of these things. I was
Speaker 5: walking around. I was walking around the other day and
Speaker 5: I was just like, oh man, I'm like half a zombie,
Speaker 5: so like I have to get off these the same
Speaker 5: way you had to fucking kick out all well man, Yeah, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 5: I understand in this body's not going to build a
Speaker 5: self baby, like I don't bunch look at me.
Speaker 2: That's what I'm asking.
Speaker 10: Yeah, yeah, I don't go as much as I used to.
Speaker 5: I work out more efficiently now, so you have to
Speaker 5: go less and just get to the point where you
Speaker 5: got to get a stimulate growth and get the fuck out.
Speaker 2: How many times a week do you.
Speaker 10: Four?
Speaker 1: Oh? Okay, which I feel like it is, like that's good,
Speaker 1: that's good, but not like taking over your.
Speaker 2: Life, not taking over my life.
Speaker 5: If you work out like, there's a there's a rule,
Speaker 5: there's a thing, no mediocre workouts. So if you work
Speaker 5: out like really hard to the point where you're like
Speaker 5: you I've worked out.
Speaker 2: I love a hard way, you can't be relaxed.
Speaker 10: Yeah you can't. You know it's crazy.
Speaker 5: I drag like almost every time I go, I drag
Speaker 5: myself there where I'm like I just don't Yeah, you
Speaker 5: don't want to do it. I used to love to. Okay,
Speaker 5: there's the point of like age saying there where I'm like,
Speaker 5: I have this like I have like this tiredness that
Speaker 5: I haven't had. I have this tiredness, and I'm like,
Speaker 5: I just and the second once I get started, I
Speaker 5: leave and I'm like, like, I just like I'm wide awake,
Speaker 5: I'm alert, I'm present like that endorphin ship like I
Speaker 5: have to, but I'm not.
Speaker 10: That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 5: I have to find a balance where it's like, why
Speaker 5: don't you do this first thing in the morning, justin
Speaker 5: so you feel like I have to. I don't have
Speaker 5: good I don't have good discipline in like the a
Speaker 5: few places that I should like, I don't have good
Speaker 5: sleep hygen and I'm like, you know, I'll sleep late
Speaker 5: if I want to, But I have good habits.
Speaker 10: They just have to be like restruct yourself. This is
Speaker 10: why I need a woman in my life.
Speaker 5: Like I'm serious, this is like, this is one of
Speaker 5: the reasons I'm better.
Speaker 1: That bothers me so much. Though because it's your mom,
Speaker 1: she's not your mom.
Speaker 5: Are you saying that she's internal I know.
Speaker 2: I'm not internalizing this at all.
Speaker 5: I'm saying I'm better. I'm better when there's a person
Speaker 5: with me.
Speaker 2: And make sure you get up early.
Speaker 1: No, I don't need somebody to really act better when
Speaker 1: you're with a woman.
Speaker 5: I'm just a little bit more stable when I'm in
Speaker 5: a relationship, is what I'm saying. I wasn't saying it's
Speaker 5: on that person or they're to take care of me
Speaker 5: and set my fucking schedule. That's not what I meant.
Speaker 5: This is not what I meant. I'm better. I'm better.
Speaker 5: I'm better in those things in a relationship.
Speaker 4: There are certain like habits that I will just, yeah,
Speaker 4: automatically be much better with when I'm in a relationship
Speaker 4: because I feel it's like a safety thing. So I
Speaker 4: feel super safe, so I feel like, oh I have
Speaker 4: more energy to.
Speaker 2: Like do things.
Speaker 5: I'm less antsy in a way. Yeah, it's like that's
Speaker 5: my point. Like at night, I'm like, oh, ship, we
Speaker 5: watched this TV show we go to sleep. Yeah, that's nice.
Speaker 5: Like there's a there's a stabilizing aspect to it that
Speaker 5: like on my own, like I run a little bit,
Speaker 5: fucking same. Yeah, I run a little while and I
Speaker 5: went a little like nuts in my head. It stabilizes me.
Speaker 5: I don't think that's I don't think.
Speaker 2: That's Yeah, some people like that. I'm like that.
Speaker 5: I'm like that, Yeah, I don't need a mommy. Perfect cool, guys, that's.
Speaker 1: What I'm not gonna fight. Okay, It's just it's just funny.
Speaker 1: It just goes against a lot of things that you've
Speaker 1: said to me.
Speaker 10: Proud what you can say, what I've said, probably go ahead, you.
Speaker 1: Know well, I mean, first of all, the companionship. I
Speaker 1: mean you literally you literally you're like seriously asking me
Speaker 1: to marry you. And I was like, yes, I would
Speaker 1: marry you, but we're not what do you want?
Speaker 2: That's my point.
Speaker 1: That's my point, justin we're not like, we're not trying
Speaker 1: to like fuck each other's brains out, and so that's
Speaker 1: like it feels yucky for someone to just be like,
Speaker 1: oh uh yeah.
Speaker 10: I'm half teasing you when I asked that, and you know.
Speaker 2: That you're half teasing.
Speaker 5: That's the problem. I wanted to marry. I would get
Speaker 5: on a knee and propose to you properly. So now
Speaker 5: I'm not asking you. If you're going to say no, I'm.
Speaker 2: Gonna say no, really yes. And this is what bothers me, Like,
Speaker 2: don't you think that I don't know.
Speaker 5: I don't like teasing you when I say that, and
Speaker 5: it's my way also expressing love for you, because you
Speaker 5: know I love you, Okay.
Speaker 1: And then but then when I say please stop doing
Speaker 1: that doing multiple times, I don't.
Speaker 5: If you said no, I would I want this on camera.
Speaker 5: If you said no, I would stop.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: I mean it's like, it's not like you're you're raping me.
Speaker 1: It's fine, don't raper.
Speaker 5: No.
Speaker 2: That's just why I would.
Speaker 1: That's why I pushed back when you said that you
Speaker 1: want when you say can opanionship, you mean something like
Speaker 1: earth shattering, because that's just not what you've been.
Speaker 2: The past several months. Absolutely, you are one hundred so
Speaker 2: right about that.
Speaker 5: I'm agreeing with you.
Speaker 10: If you put those two things together, those are those
Speaker 10: do conflict.
Speaker 5: But when I say that, it's my way of being
Speaker 5: like teasingly affectionate with you.
Speaker 10: I don't literally want to.
Speaker 2: But what's funny about it.
Speaker 10: I'm just being I'm teasing, flirting with you the way
Speaker 10: I always do.
Speaker 2: But then I get annoyed sometimes, and then you.
Speaker 5: Know you got annoyed that you annoyed.
Speaker 2: It's pretty obvious that I was annoyed.
Speaker 1: When I'm like, when I like put up my phone
Speaker 1: on do not dis serve in the middle of a conversation.
Speaker 5: I don't feel like you ever do that. I don't
Speaker 5: feel that I ever do that.
Speaker 10: You never you never put your hand.
Speaker 2: I'm going to go now bye.
Speaker 5: You never say that, You never to do that.
Speaker 10: You never say that.
Speaker 2: Interesting.
Speaker 1: But I also, yeah, yeah, and it just also made
Speaker 1: me and I also it felt like you were like
Speaker 1: stunned that I wouldn't just want this, like like safety,
Speaker 1: and I was like, that's that's not who I am
Speaker 1: a person at all.
Speaker 5: I'm like teasing you when I say that, and being
Speaker 5: affectionate with you. Okay, I am. I'm teasing you when
Speaker 5: I say that, and I'm being affectioned.
Speaker 2: It's like not my language though, you're like not speaking
Speaker 2: my language.
Speaker 5: Okay, I apologize. I didn't realize that it like I didn't.
Speaker 5: I honestly didn't realize that bugged you. I thought you
Speaker 5: took it. I thought you took it as like in
Speaker 5: a complimentary way that I was telling you. It bothers
Speaker 5: me that I've been telling I adore you.
Speaker 1: That we've been friends for so long, and you think
Speaker 1: that that would be complementary to me.
Speaker 5: Really, Yeah, why because like.
Speaker 2: I don't think of male attention in that way. I'm
Speaker 2: thirty eight years old, sad.
Speaker 5: I know, you know, but I'm just I'm being silly.
Speaker 5: I'm being kind of silly with you.
Speaker 2: I just like when people like, you know, listen to
Speaker 2: what I'm saying.
Speaker 10: I do, don't we have?
Speaker 5: Isn't that ninety percent of our isn't that ninety percent
Speaker 5: of our interactions?
Speaker 2: No? Bullshit, I talk about dog stuff.
Speaker 10: This is not true. We talk about a lot of things.
Speaker 5: Okay, Okay, I won't. I won't say it anymore. How
Speaker 5: was your date last I won't say it was actually good?
Speaker 2: How did you meet this person?
Speaker 5: I've no, I'm not going to say it is no,
Speaker 5: you have no I known her for all.
Speaker 1: She's an ultimate single lady. Yeah, she's really into it.
Speaker 2: There have been so many rap songs where they insult
Speaker 2: her looks. Really she did. Head dancing was the high
Speaker 2: of the time.
Speaker 10: He was hair piece.
Speaker 1: They were in a really really long term, like they
Speaker 1: were in a long term serious relationships.
Speaker 2: Goldberg and head dances.
Speaker 10: When it comes to getting nookie, I'm not a rookie.
Speaker 10: I got bitch. I got girls that make that bitch.
Speaker 5: Tony Braxon look like whoopee bigl Yeah, dude.
Speaker 2: Well I think that's rude because I love.
Speaker 10: I love her too. I'm just saying there's a lot
Speaker 10: of insulting.
Speaker 2: Because she's not traditionally feminine.
Speaker 1: She has a lot of you know, she she kind
Speaker 1: of had that, you know, dressing in like masculine sportswear
Speaker 1: work where that Diane Keaton would do.
Speaker 2: She was she was into that as well.
Speaker 10: I don't remember what would be golfer wears.
Speaker 2: No, it's just like dance, yeah, yeah, show a bit.
Speaker 1: I love what so funny? Yeah, date was good though,
Speaker 1: Date was good. And you've known this person, Yeah, I've.
Speaker 5: Known her and we've always like fooled around a bit,
Speaker 5: but we've never put the thing.
Speaker 1: When you went to all the bases except home run yeah, which,
Speaker 1: by the way, it's fun so fun.
Speaker 2: Yeah you got to.
Speaker 5: Look forward to You could that too, but you can
Speaker 5: do there's like so there's so many like fun different
Speaker 5: things you could do besides that where you're like, I.
Speaker 4: Wish I knewed to like milk milk it up until
Speaker 4: the sex for as long as you possibly can.
Speaker 2: I wish I knew that. What do you mean, like
Speaker 2: like don't just fuck right away. It's fun. It's more
Speaker 2: fun when you wait. Yeah, but you know fun because
Speaker 2: it's just more interesting. Yeah, in the heat of the moment, though,
Speaker 2: good luck. I know for sure, that's why it's never happened.
Speaker 5: I think there are reasons. If I'm remembering, there were
Speaker 5: reasons why we didn't and did everything else.
Speaker 10: Not a rash.
Speaker 2: I was gonna say what the reason I can't remember
Speaker 2: was in a relationship, and I don't know.
Speaker 5: I can't remember what it was. I can't remember. I
Speaker 5: don't I can't remember this.
Speaker 2: Sometimes if you wait too too long, though, you can
Speaker 2: miss the boat.
Speaker 1: I've had that happened where it was like very very
Speaker 1: like hot and have you with this guy? We would
Speaker 1: like make out, you don't ruin it, And then when
Speaker 1: we finally fucked, it was just like anti climactic.
Speaker 10: Yeah, this no this.
Speaker 5: She was in a relationship and then moved away and
Speaker 5: then came back and I was like, oh, I'd love
Speaker 5: to see and then it was like it was like
Speaker 5: going back and forth, and finally we did.
Speaker 10: I was like, oh, ship, it was really nice to
Speaker 10: see you.
Speaker 1: Nice.
Speaker 2: It was nice, she is she was she almost forty nice? Nice?
Speaker 10: Yeah, proud of you.
Speaker 1: You dated a lot of younger women, don't do you
Speaker 1: notice a difference, Yeah, it's difference.
Speaker 5: The last one I feel like, No, I've not dated
Speaker 5: a lot your age.
Speaker 10: You know I've dated. Let me say it this way.
Speaker 5: I felt for somebody who was a lot younger too
Speaker 5: on which ended up being mistake. But you guys know
Speaker 5: that story.
Speaker 2: And then one before, but you gotta tell it.
Speaker 10: The one before, probably the one before.
Speaker 2: We've talked about this.
Speaker 5: No, one before. I generally, I generally wanted to date. Yeah,
Speaker 5: but we were just that was too we were two
Speaker 5: different coasts. Yeah, so that's like distant. Yeah, that's just
Speaker 5: that ship does not work. I thought you can make
Speaker 5: it work.
Speaker 1: And you and you, why would you just moved to
Speaker 1: California since you want to be there anyway?
Speaker 5: Because I like, because I choose, because you choose somebody, you.
Speaker 2: Choose New York. You were that woman, But that was
Speaker 2: like a conscious choice.
Speaker 5: No, no, no, no. At that point, I was going back
Speaker 5: and forth so much that I was like this could
Speaker 5: like I was like I would date, like if I'm
Speaker 5: on dating apps, I look at like New York and
Speaker 5: l A. Because I could kind of go back and
Speaker 5: forth a bunch, and I'm like I would, I would
Speaker 5: a hundred percent do that. But then that one I realized, like,
Speaker 5: you know what this is. It was in La was
Speaker 5: San Diego, so it's like remember and I was like.
Speaker 10: Ship, I don't.
Speaker 5: I was like this show. Yeah, yeah, I was like
Speaker 5: this one, this one, this one just didn't work. And
Speaker 5: I realized, you know what, that's not that's not the
Speaker 5: best idea. I thought, like it still might. Actually, I
Speaker 5: was like that one just San Diego and New York
Speaker 5: just didn't work for us. It just didn't work for us. Yeah. No,
Speaker 5: the other one was like way too young, but like
Speaker 5: forget about her age. There's like women that I've dated,
Speaker 5: I don't seek out like younger women. I don't like
Speaker 5: seek it that way. I kind of fall in like
Speaker 5: the mid thirdy, like the like the like with the
Speaker 5: friends fall I fall.
Speaker 10: I fall in the mid thirty drink I fall in
Speaker 10: the thirties range. Yeah, there's a lot there, there's a lot.
Speaker 3: There's a lot of women where there's a lot of
Speaker 3: there's a lot of women who are like in there
Speaker 3: even late twenties or were like you like, this person
Speaker 3: is surprisingly mature.
Speaker 5: So this is this one was surprisingly immature and I
Speaker 5: ended up being a fucking disaster.
Speaker 2: But that's like I should have revealed themselves.
Speaker 4: Actually, it's so funny because I think men, like straight men,
Speaker 4: revealed themselves pretty early on, and they'll let's just straight
Speaker 4: up to tell you something that you're like, wait what,
Speaker 4: and then you don't believe them, and then it proves
Speaker 4: to be true. Women, I feel like, will sneak, like
Speaker 4: they'll like they'll put on their best self.
Speaker 2: Sure pretty hard.
Speaker 10: You see their representative.
Speaker 4: Which is yeah, and it's like, yeah, this is not
Speaker 4: a good tactic.
Speaker 10: No, this was more like, uh, I've this is what
Speaker 10: I learned.
Speaker 5: I was like, when your chemicals fire off, when you
Speaker 5: get the chemical like you get that like when the
Speaker 5: serotonin the oxytocin dose just spikes over somebody. Yeah, you're
Speaker 5: not thinking like I'm like, oh yeah, I can bend
Speaker 5: myself into these unnatural shapes to fit what this thing
Speaker 5: that does it that I don't fit into fit? And
Speaker 5: I was just like, and that's what I'm talking about
Speaker 5: that I gets so driven that I'm like, I know
Speaker 5: this thing is wrong, but I'm going to try to
Speaker 5: make this.
Speaker 10: I don't do this for a long time. Yeah, like
Speaker 10: I feel.
Speaker 5: Like like this this doesn't Like there's people who do
Speaker 5: this and like they keep going after the same person,
Speaker 5: same person of it, and it's a disaster and they're
Speaker 5: just like they never learned the lesson, like forget about
Speaker 5: red flags, like forest fires are going off, and they
Speaker 5: never learned a lesson. With me, I'm like, all right,
Speaker 5: this is not good, this is not healthy, Like just
Speaker 5: fucking rip this band aid off. This is gonna hurt
Speaker 5: for a while, and just go I can do that,
Speaker 5: Like there's blood in the water, I can fucking.
Speaker 10: Get out of the pool.
Speaker 5: But I'm therefore, I thought it was pretty sure I'm
Speaker 5: on sleeping pills right now, but I was. But this
Speaker 5: last one, just so with this last one, I was
Speaker 5: just like, all right, dude, this is just not gonna work.
Speaker 5: But I just had that like you get that fucking
Speaker 5: chemical addiction to somebody, which is I love that feeling,
Speaker 5: but I'm like.
Speaker 2: I know it's a great feeling.
Speaker 5: It is a great feeling, but don't structure your life
Speaker 5: around it. Justin like, I learned not to make that mistake.
Speaker 1: So how like you know, all the books I've read,
Speaker 1: like presumably we can feel that without another person, Like
Speaker 1: that's all the energy.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's energy that's in us. They didn't put the
Speaker 4: energy in us. That other person didn't plants the energy
Speaker 4: in our brains. That energy was just lying dormant. It's like,
Speaker 4: how do you how do you activate that energy without
Speaker 4: like a crush?
Speaker 10: I don't think.
Speaker 1: I mean I feel like that way when I write
Speaker 1: a good joke or actually, on the Grammys last night,
Speaker 1: she said like, this is a really you know, I'm
Speaker 1: paraphrasing here, but she said like, this is really exciting,
Speaker 1: but I feel just as much of a high when
Speaker 1: I write a song or.
Speaker 2: When I figure out a bridge. Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 5: And I was like that.
Speaker 2: I like that.
Speaker 1: She said that on the mic because I totally agree
Speaker 1: with her. It's not all about the accolades. It's really
Speaker 1: like if you're truly it's like the creative process, which
Speaker 1: is part of life.
Speaker 5: If you're an artist, you're when you're on stage and
Speaker 5: you're in this state of flow, It's like there's no
Speaker 5: other time where you know, we all get like stage health.
Speaker 5: You could have like the flu, and if you have
Speaker 5: to go perform, you're like fine while you're doing Just
Speaker 5: never a time where I'm like more present or I'm
Speaker 5: more like in my own skin, where I'm more like
Speaker 5: not even though you're doing something that's coming from not like,
Speaker 5: there's no like, uh, there's no self attention on yourself
Speaker 5: because even though you're the one talking, you're trying to
Speaker 5: connect with everybody in the audience. Like to me, it's
Speaker 5: like if I had to choose that or the best orgasm,
Speaker 5: I would choose, I would I would choose at every time. Yeah,
Speaker 5: I would choose performing and like that. The feeling of
Speaker 5: that flow state, I think, I think what you're referring
Speaker 5: to is like a flow state, which, yeah, I don't know,
Speaker 5: I don't know if you're gonna feel the same thing
Speaker 5: you feel when you're just like I want to fuck
Speaker 5: the ship out of someone. But they're certainly like you know,
Speaker 5: you're you're, you're like synaptic connections are firing off at
Speaker 5: a very positive high level.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that is the only the only, the only other
Speaker 4: close high I get to.
Speaker 2: That is, Yeah, leaving stage after.
Speaker 4: You just fucking destroyed, I think we all feel be Yeah,
Speaker 4: it's almost it's almost better than sex, really, I think,
Speaker 4: which I never thought i'd ever see anything, is better
Speaker 4: than sex.
Speaker 2: But yeah, it exists.
Speaker 10: Yeah, I think you know.
Speaker 5: Also what I'm saying part of the reason, like at
Speaker 5: a certain point you're like you've kind of.
Speaker 10: Fucked around, like you fucked enough.
Speaker 5: Yeah, you've done enough. All my I haven't.
Speaker 2: But I get that.
Speaker 10: I have my little brothers.
Speaker 5: I have too, Like one of them is like got
Speaker 5: married so much younger than the other one, and he's
Speaker 5: always got this like urine like he's like, fuck, I
Speaker 5: didn't like do the thing.
Speaker 10: I didn't get it at like it's not out of
Speaker 10: his system. So I get that.
Speaker 5: But it's like, you know, I think it's kind of
Speaker 5: like you know, like you were saying, like young, younger dudes,
Speaker 5: you're just so like driven to like it's like packed
Speaker 5: like consume, consume, consume, consume that.
Speaker 10: I think it's it's kind of cool when that settles
Speaker 10: down a little bit.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I mean, I I've fucked a good amount. I think
Speaker 1: I've not fucked enough. I've not I think I'm Yeah,
Speaker 1: people like my number super low for me. The quality, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I've had great quality, but I want more adventure.
Speaker 2: I want more Like.
Speaker 10: Now now you're a committed thing, yeah, but.
Speaker 2: You can still experience adventure.
Speaker 5: And a committed thing.
Speaker 2: Yeah, justin you can experience an adventure and a committed thing.
Speaker 10: Yeah, experience convention.
Speaker 1: What experience and a committed thing with another couple of
Speaker 1: yea experience each other.
Speaker 2: I said it. I said it again because I don't.
Speaker 1: I think maybe that's not the way you're looking at
Speaker 1: a relationship.
Speaker 10: So like an open relationship, I mean, like that.
Speaker 2: Not necessarily open. I'm not into open relationship. Like yeah,
Speaker 2: I think I don't think.
Speaker 5: I want to put a woman in a cage and
Speaker 5: then get the candle my phone and be like make
Speaker 5: my schedule because.
Speaker 2: You better when I have a wife.
Speaker 5: And it's like, did those words everything will be better
Speaker 5: when I have a wife?
Speaker 2: You said that. I didn't say that.
Speaker 5: You said I never said I don't even think that.
Speaker 1: No, but even like but like so do you think
Speaker 1: like you're you're kind of like I'm done fucking time
Speaker 1: to get married. And I think that is I think
Speaker 1: that's sentiment that many people share, and I think it's unfortunate.
Speaker 5: That's not what I'm saying. Let me, let me just
Speaker 5: chasing pussy. Let me I'm done chasing pussy, to be like,
Speaker 5: let me get this one. Then the next one. The
Speaker 5: next thing, I like, I'd be, like, I'd love to
Speaker 5: have somebody that I'm crazy about and also want to
Speaker 5: like spend a lot more time within give a shit
Speaker 5: a lot more about than their fucking vaginay chase. That's
Speaker 5: what I'm saying. Like, I'm like, i'd be I'd be
Speaker 5: good in a committed relationship. But yes, I have to
Speaker 5: want to fuck the ship out of that person, and
Speaker 5: that's not like a common thing to find. I don't really.
Speaker 5: That's why I think, like, like to what I was
Speaker 5: saying before, I was like, so many friends or people
Speaker 5: in my family are like, Okay, it's time to do
Speaker 5: this now, and like, oh my god, magically that person
Speaker 5: just showed up at the in the year you decided,
Speaker 5: and I'm like.
Speaker 10: Or did you fucking settle a little bit? Like, I
Speaker 10: don't want to. I don't want to settle.
Speaker 5: Otherwise I'll always be looking over their shoulder.
Speaker 2: Sounds terrible.
Speaker 5: I'll still like I still have a sex drive. It's
Speaker 5: just not it's just not that's so insane as it was.
Speaker 4: That's what people that don't mind settling, because they don't
Speaker 4: care about that part, they probably do get like a
Speaker 4: lot more.
Speaker 5: Done listen, how many people do you know? And this, this,
Speaker 5: this baffles me. Where they've never they say like, oh,
Speaker 5: I've never really been in love with anyone.
Speaker 10: I'm going you never loved anybody. It's like they've never
Speaker 10: had like that head.
Speaker 5: Over heels, that's like feeling of lust, and like I'm like,
Speaker 5: how is that possible?
Speaker 9: Yeah?
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, you know there's people who like will tell
Speaker 5: you they've never they've been in their mid thirties or
Speaker 5: for say like they've never been in love.
Speaker 10: But how is that possible?
Speaker 1: Well? I have a theory that some people don't have
Speaker 1: a soulmate. So that's how that's possible. There's a romantic
Speaker 1: person there so many as a friend or an animal
Speaker 1: or a person in their family. I'm sorry, I just
Speaker 1: I said I think some people don't have a soulmate,
Speaker 1: and especially.
Speaker 2: Not maybe not a romantic soulmate.
Speaker 5: How many times in your life have you had like
Speaker 5: you've been you've been crazy about somebody to them?
Speaker 10: How many times?
Speaker 2: So many times? Crazy and great sex? Like four three four?
Speaker 2: Can you be crazy about somebody you don't have great
Speaker 2: sex with?
Speaker 5: I was I was just sort of like, yeah, you know,
Speaker 5: I guess you could. Yeah, I mean, that's been what
Speaker 5: a tragedy. Probably, Like I would say, even if we're
Speaker 5: talking about like short like short versions of this that
Speaker 5: have not worked and lasted like four months or something,
Speaker 5: I would say like six times I felt that. Yeah,
Speaker 5: it's just odd to me that there's people who like
Speaker 5: have they're married to somebody and they're like, no, I
Speaker 5: love him, and yes we have said they seem I'm like,
Speaker 5: what the what are you a fucking robot?
Speaker 2: Yeah, they're looking just for me. I think they're just
Speaker 2: looking for something else. Also, too.
Speaker 1: Suburb life and city life are just so different.
Speaker 2: Your options are so much smaller.
Speaker 4: I feel like when you live in the suburbs and
Speaker 4: you find someone kind of like remotely a good option,
Speaker 4: maybe you get more excited than you normally would because
Speaker 4: you're like, I gotta I got a husband.
Speaker 5: What's it called, It's called like option paralysis.
Speaker 1: Well, yeah, that's the problem with within this city. We
Speaker 1: have too many options, so we're never we're like, it's
Speaker 1: like we'll never be satisfied. We always think we can
Speaker 1: get someone better, and then you're dead.
Speaker 5: And you know what that you see, you just articulated
Speaker 5: perfectly the thing that I was. You said the way
Speaker 5: I was thinking of earlier perfectly. Yeah, we're not fighting anywhere.
Speaker 2: You know what, I believe.
Speaker 1: I believe one there's a dating expert who talks about
Speaker 1: this a lot. I believe it's Patty Stanger who talks
Speaker 1: about it a lot. But yeah, it's like you have
Speaker 1: to at a certain point, you just it's not settling.
Speaker 1: You just have to decide this is the person who
Speaker 1: I'm going to make it work with, and I'm not
Speaker 1: going to keep asking myself is there someone better?
Speaker 5: All right? You know? I think also, but on a
Speaker 5: subconscious level, like if you think about like, okay, you
Speaker 5: live in New York City and now you add these
Speaker 5: dating apps in where it's like literally you're looking at
Speaker 5: somebody and in a second you're going you're other swiping
Speaker 5: to the left or swiping to the right, and you're
Speaker 5: you're projecting there.
Speaker 10: Yeah right, you're projected.
Speaker 5: So but you could also understand how that like it
Speaker 5: still affects your sub Like, it still affects your subconscious
Speaker 5: somehow if you like are on dating apps, even if
Speaker 5: you're not actively doing it, you're like, there's just people.
Speaker 5: There's images passing, passing, passing, passing, passing, yeah, you don't
Speaker 5: know any of these people, Like how many people have
Speaker 5: it been? Like, you know, like the what you think
Speaker 5: they're like is not what they're like. And then you're like,
Speaker 5: I didn't think I could ever fall for this person,
Speaker 5: or even if it's like a friendship, like I would
Speaker 5: hang out and be this close to this person, They're
Speaker 5: not my type of person. We're like, oh shit, like
Speaker 5: we just happen to be great together, whether it's like
Speaker 5: romantically or in a friendship or in a bit whatever
Speaker 5: it is. And I just think like it's between living
Speaker 5: in New York City, between being also performers who were
Speaker 5: in front of people a lot, and you had dating apps.
Speaker 5: You're like, it just makes like it's this it's this
Speaker 5: option paralysis. Like when they show you like like a
Speaker 5: hundred versions of your headshot, you can't pick which one.
Speaker 5: If I showed you three, you could easily pick it.
Speaker 5: It's like that same thing. So I think I've definitely
Speaker 5: that that's when you're in the suburbs, Like, that's definitely.
Speaker 4: I think normal humanity experience is option process with so
Speaker 4: many things, and then when you're in the city you
Speaker 4: experience it with people and that's like.
Speaker 5: Oh, yes, fucked.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well you have to like for me, an option
Speaker 1: paralysis is like you want to go with hottest? Do
Speaker 1: you want to go with most reliable? Do you want
Speaker 1: to go with smartest, most interesting? Like very few people
Speaker 1: possess all those qualities, So then you go, which was
Speaker 1: the one that I'm gonna.
Speaker 2: Want to like deal with?
Speaker 5: Go give me your order of that.
Speaker 2: I don't I don't know. I just haven't been thinking
Speaker 2: very much about it.
Speaker 1: I just like kind of like took dating off the
Speaker 1: table and things have been much better.
Speaker 2: It's just not really, it's just not interested.
Speaker 5: It's a lot of effort.
Speaker 2: It's just I just don't want it bad enough.
Speaker 1: And and there's so many other things I really want
Speaker 1: badly that I want to put my energy into.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm in the same I'm in the same position
Speaker 5: with it, But there's this voice in my head that's like,
Speaker 5: you know, it's just like what we said with Patti
Speaker 5: Stanger says is like you know you're thinking like that
Speaker 5: and then before you know, and I'm like, oh shit,
Speaker 5: justin your hair finally did turn gray?
Speaker 10: Like you gotta you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, but I never end up with anyone
Speaker 1: I'm fine with you, I know, yeah, but think about.
Speaker 4: Like you know, being like old and then living by yourself,
Speaker 4: like you just.
Speaker 2: You don't you got a you got money.
Speaker 1: I have this, do whatever the fuck you want. I
Speaker 1: would want animals, but I don't in humans.
Speaker 5: We're going to start a dog shelter. I know serious.
Speaker 5: I'm I'm not even joking about this.
Speaker 2: Everything else was a joke with that was serious.
Speaker 5: No, I have this fear. I have this thing called
Speaker 5: like this is like this looming thing that I have.
Speaker 5: Like city rats, like those people who live in like
Speaker 5: rent stabilized apartments in New York. Yeah, they're like single people.
Speaker 5: They're in their like sixties and sixties. They've always kind
Speaker 5: and they're like I think, like the way I think
Speaker 5: about I think.
Speaker 1: About the cool eyeglasses sixties also isn't old.
Speaker 5: I know that.
Speaker 10: I'm just telling you how.
Speaker 5: I'm telling you how this in my mind. They have
Speaker 5: like racketball. They have the old cabinet tree, and they're
Speaker 5: there's like I've been in there in their houses, like
Speaker 5: they're like older, and there's like papers everywhere, Like their
Speaker 5: apartment looks like the corner of the studio over there,
Speaker 5: and you're just like, oh my god, like that. This
Speaker 5: is what happens when you just like you're two alone
Speaker 5: in New York. They become city rats. And I'm like,
Speaker 5: like a spring cleaning.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's the choice. That's a choice.
Speaker 5: Do you understand what I mean by that?
Speaker 6: I share the fear. Okay, I completely get it.
Speaker 5: Yeah. Like the there's those people who live in my building.
Speaker 5: I'm like, do you like you fuck anyone? Or it's
Speaker 5: like they have the old computer, big computer.
Speaker 1: Those people are usually very interesting and those are the
Speaker 1: kind of people where you're gonna get like I once
Speaker 1: hang out with Andy Warhol story from Yeah, pretty much
Speaker 1: all the all the people with the piles of papers
Speaker 1: have hung out with Andy Warhol.
Speaker 10: Probably maybe, I mean.
Speaker 1: I've just met apartment like that. They always have an
Speaker 1: Andy Warhol story, and I live for an Andy Warhol story.
Speaker 2: No die right.
Speaker 1: He died in like nineteen eighty seven. So you didn't
Speaker 1: know answer your own question. Justin know you didn't meet work.
Speaker 5: Here's the problem.
Speaker 2: Unless you were like twelve, here's a problem.
Speaker 10: The sleeping pills make you hallucinate a little.
Speaker 5: Better, and you think you met sometimes I think I
Speaker 5: met Sometimes I walk around going sorry I can't hang
Speaker 5: out right now. I got to go meet Andy Wahry
Speaker 5: the Hills. I can't sleep.
Speaker 1: See that's what I'm talking about, though. I like someone
Speaker 1: like Andy Warhol. Like it's like not necessarily the most attractive,
Speaker 1: but it's a memorable person. You're gonna I think he's
Speaker 1: kind of cute actually, but he's gonna. He's gonna stick out,
Speaker 1: like you're going to stick out. I just think it's
Speaker 1: so much more interesting to stick out sure to be
Speaker 1: conventionally attractive. I love someone who sticks out, who dresses differently,
Speaker 1: who pierced up their face, tooth I'm talking about I'm
Speaker 1: down one right now.
Speaker 5: It's SMA.
Speaker 10: I just have a huge one.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you have a good you have a you have
Speaker 2: a good tooth.
Speaker 5: Good tooth.
Speaker 2: No like this this, I like.
Speaker 1: I like the space and the aig like Madona Andrew
Speaker 1: Bernard has a nice, big one. I know where she lives.
Speaker 1: I've been to her apartment, so work for her. Manager
Speaker 1: really delivered scripts script Yeah on.
Speaker 2: The floor, Okay, was going to meet you. She's a
Speaker 2: busy lady. Got to read scripts.
Speaker 10: Yeah, I want listen.
Speaker 5: I have to I have to go to l A
Speaker 5: And I was just like, oh, I should definite only
Speaker 5: get on this. The Rya app is pop have you
Speaker 5: ever seen? It's popping everywhere?
Speaker 9: Men?
Speaker 1: I went on to see his favorite ax boyfriend on
Speaker 1: there to tell me what Noah, yeah, fucking dimples. Oh
Speaker 1: my god, they don't. Those people aren't really connecting with
Speaker 1: anyone though, because they're just like they're just on there.
Speaker 1: My ex boyfriend matched with Scary Spice, and I was
Speaker 1: like and and.
Speaker 2: I was like, do it to do it and he
Speaker 2: was like, but we're dating.
Speaker 5: I go do.
Speaker 2: It right now. That's not order. We don't need to
Speaker 2: talk about these little details.
Speaker 10: What's your name from Uncut Gems, Juliet?
Speaker 2: What's your Julia Fox?
Speaker 5: So like my my friend, my friend Jane wanted to
Speaker 5: hook me up with her, like a few years ago,
Speaker 5: Julia Fox. And then I matched with her on Rya
Speaker 5: like recently, and I was just like, I'm remember when
Speaker 5: she was telling me about I'm like, this is too
Speaker 5: much heat, this is this is too much like she'd be.
Speaker 2: It's a little weirdo, but like way too much.
Speaker 10: I could never. I could never.
Speaker 4: When she came out with that like fucking rash food eyeliner,
Speaker 4: I was like.
Speaker 1: She was so she I think she's hot, but like,
Speaker 1: god damn, she was so hot in that movie.
Speaker 2: Hot movie. It was so astracting how hot it really was.
Speaker 2: But then like I was like, who is this? Yeah
Speaker 2: she does it. She's not in that way hot in
Speaker 2: that way, but.
Speaker 4: Like she's so weird and dresses so in her making
Speaker 4: she's not way like she's not that in the uncut
Speaker 4: gems way.
Speaker 2: I feel she's not because her I like her now,
Speaker 2: I like.
Speaker 1: Filler and she changed her face a little bit, but
Speaker 1: I think make us super weird.
Speaker 2: Yeah, she's a weirdo.
Speaker 5: That's what she was like. And she sounds seems fun. No, no, no,
Speaker 5: that's like she but that's like too much. Like it's
Speaker 5: like that, like that's like too much.
Speaker 1: She's like too I like on this episode, Justin's talking
Speaker 1: himself out of dating Julia Fox.
Speaker 5: If it's on the table, it was on the table.
Speaker 5: That's what I was trying to explain to you before
Speaker 5: you know.
Speaker 1: What I'm trying to explain to you is that playing
Speaker 1: people match with these big celebrities, they never actually need
Speaker 1: what I never.
Speaker 5: Want to I'm telling you my friend Jane wanted to
Speaker 5: hook me up with her because they were because they
Speaker 5: worked together. And then she's like, did you tell Julia, Yes,
Speaker 5: I'm saying, but I was like, this is a She's like,
Speaker 5: I showed her your picture. I told you she wants it,
Speaker 5: she would love to go out. And I was like,
Speaker 5: this is like we never met. I was like, this
Speaker 5: is like a little too much.
Speaker 1: You got immediate story.
Speaker 5: I didn't feel like.
Speaker 10: I would not feel comfortable. I wouldnt feel I wouldnt feel comfortable.
Speaker 5: I just went that would be a little bit too
Speaker 5: much that she It just feels like a little too
Speaker 5: much famous for you. No, I don't mean from like
Speaker 5: a fame factor. She seems like.
Speaker 2: She does seem like a lot.
Speaker 5: She seems like a lot and a handful and a favor.
Speaker 4: A best woman called a man a handful, of course.
Speaker 5: I'm going to start handfuls for sure. I got a
Speaker 5: handful for you right here. Get it, you're gonna punch me.
Speaker 5: Come on, you guys know I'm just joshing. Just Josh
Speaker 5: and I have an ex a handful for sure.
Speaker 1: I don't know if I've ever described him as such,
Speaker 1: but yeah, yeah, yeah, that would be.
Speaker 2: What do you what do you look for in a lady?
Speaker 2: Not box. He wants cut gems.
Speaker 10: I love a fucking just I do like a haughty.
Speaker 5: But I have to like.
Speaker 9: Hot.
Speaker 10: I love the chicken with I love a chicken like
Speaker 10: with calluses on our hands from weightlifting.
Speaker 5: Those are two different different I also but I like
Speaker 5: I need a nurturer. I like also creative people creative.
Speaker 5: I accidentally I gotta I gotta, I gotta colon skip
Speaker 5: the other day, how was it?
Speaker 2: Were you passed?
Speaker 5: So? I was like, then I asked my doctor out. Afterwards,
Speaker 5: I gotogist.
Speaker 2: Trust did get knocked out for it?
Speaker 5: We did, but we were like like we were teasing
Speaker 5: and being funny and before it. And then I was like,
Speaker 5: I noticed, I noticed doctor Greenbound doesn't have a ring
Speaker 5: on her finger. And they go, no, she doesn't.
Speaker 10: Can you call her back in here, please, that's the
Speaker 10: green But I know she don't have.
Speaker 5: A ring on your finger.
Speaker 10: She goes, I'm your doctor. I'm your doctor.
Speaker 5: I was like, go fucked up on? Uh? What did
Speaker 5: they give you? But those are great? I gotta start
Speaker 5: taking those nits side No no, no, no, no, they
Speaker 5: knocked you out. They Michael Jackson ship.
Speaker 9: Oh.
Speaker 10: Then I asked her out. I was like you know
Speaker 10: what she You know, I was like, doctor, you were
Speaker 10: inside of me?
Speaker 2: Did you say that to her?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 10: But we were teasing, like I was cool, charming and
Speaker 10: know how to handle.
Speaker 5: Myself in a social situation. Then when you were Then
Speaker 5: when she told me, she's like, you can get dressed,
Speaker 5: she just dropped the fucking rope off in front of her.
Speaker 2: That's a salt. No, it's not harassment.
Speaker 10: They dropped.
Speaker 2: That happened. Yeah, yeah, you you said you've been inside me?
Speaker 5: Yeah, I was joking. We were joking around the whole time.
Speaker 5: Like at one point I asked her, like, you know
Speaker 5: when they put the heart rate monitor thing on you? Yeah,
Speaker 5: I go, what's my heart rate at? And she goes,
Speaker 5: she goes fifty. She goes, is it because you're an athlete?
Speaker 5: Like we were like teasing like that. I'm like, no, spiking. No,
Speaker 5: I'm telling you. Don't think I know how to read
Speaker 5: a fucking room.
Speaker 2: No, sometimes no, I think you know how to read
Speaker 2: a room from when you were a boy.
Speaker 5: No no, no, no, no, no no no no, because no,
Speaker 5: because the nurse was just like.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you should ask her these No nurses?
Speaker 10: Was the nurse a man on our friendship?
Speaker 5: Yes, the nurse was a female, obviously, and she used
Speaker 5: to work obviously, she used to work at Carolines.
Speaker 2: Then can't be nurses, Karina, what do you mean? Wait,
Speaker 2: so she used to work at Caroline' now she's a nurse. Now,
Speaker 2: now you're concerned for that health.
Speaker 10: The nurse used to work at Carolines. Then I said,
Speaker 10: go called doctor Greenback.
Speaker 5: She goes, yes, nursing, she said yes, ask her out,
Speaker 5: and then I did. And then she's like, you can
Speaker 5: ask me in twenty four hours when you're not when
Speaker 5: you're not on their influence.
Speaker 10: I'm like, I'm clear headed, I'm asking you.
Speaker 5: But I don't think i'd be good with an antelogy.
Speaker 5: I think i'd be fucking bored. Oh you don't know
Speaker 5: that she did.
Speaker 2: So, Julia Fox is too much. Who's in the middle,
Speaker 2: You're like the princess.
Speaker 5: You see what I'm saying.
Speaker 10: This is the problem.
Speaker 5: Yeah, this is the problem. No ship, no ship. An
Speaker 5: anesthesiologist is not enough. I think that Julia Fox is
Speaker 5: too much.
Speaker 2: That's Justin's memoir and.
Speaker 5: Not enough. That's really a good album title.
Speaker 10: Actually anesthesiologist is not enough?
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, yeah, okay, And so.
Speaker 2: I want you to go out with Julia Fox.
Speaker 5: So no, no, no, I'm telling text us.
Speaker 1: With her.
Speaker 10: I don't listen.
Speaker 5: Let me tell you. That's just too much. It's like
Speaker 5: i'd be so I feel like, yeah, but it's like,
Speaker 5: that's what I'm saying. I've dated like chicks who are
Speaker 5: like a little high profile like that. I have a
Speaker 5: little high profile like that. You're like, this makes it
Speaker 5: just like makes me uncomfortable. She seems like such an
Speaker 5: attention seeker and away, but like you met, I would
Speaker 5: know both of you. I would not.
Speaker 10: No, No, seems like careers. She seems like so much
Speaker 10: she seemed Do you get what I'm.
Speaker 1: Saying, Dude, doesn't she seem like acts weird for attention
Speaker 1: And I'm for that.
Speaker 6: I mean, if it's if it's this Julian Fox specifically, yeah,
Speaker 6: I could see that being a difficult you see.
Speaker 5: What I'm saying. Yeah, that's a lot of handful a
Speaker 5: lot of people like that.
Speaker 11: In general, men too, like famous men of that level
Speaker 11: tend to be more single because I think it's a lot.
Speaker 5: It's the stage is not big enough for two people.
Speaker 10: But Bobby Kelly has that great thing is like one
Speaker 10: headshot per relationship. I get I get that. I get that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you don't have to I mean head shots like
Speaker 1: I like that you We brought that up many times
Speaker 1: on the show, but Bobby Kelly didn't coin that phrase.
Speaker 10: You know that, right, that's like the person he's the.
Speaker 5: Person I heard. He's the person I heard it from. Okay, yeah,
Speaker 5: Bobby Kelly said it first. No, he's the person I
Speaker 5: heard it from. I don't know who originated, but I.
Speaker 4: Feel like I don't I don't want it going off
Speaker 4: of the antist theologists is too boring.
Speaker 5: Like I feel like you need somebody fun, that's what. Yeah,
Speaker 5: I need somebody fun, but not Julia Fox fun. Julia.
Speaker 5: Julia Fox is like a like I souped up Lamborghini.
Speaker 5: Give me like a sports car here. That's not that's
Speaker 5: she's too fast, too much. I don't know about Julia
Speaker 5: Fox as a kid too.
Speaker 10: She really she has a kid? Mom, how old your kid?
Speaker 10: Stepdad to a kid?
Speaker 5: Getsiologist in the next.
Speaker 2: Would you take a woman with a child, that'd be fun.
Speaker 2: I've never done it, that'd be fun a kid.
Speaker 5: I don't know.
Speaker 10: Here's what I think about.
Speaker 2: You think about like, then you're not going to be
Speaker 2: the number one priority. But that's kind of relaxing.
Speaker 10: But here's what I think about.
Speaker 5: I think about like, uh, she's thirty the dude, she's
Speaker 5: thirty four. Yeah, and then the father, You're like, how
Speaker 5: is there? Like, what's this relationship to be? Like you
Speaker 5: hate the dad?
Speaker 10: Sometimes I know a lot of like stories where you're
Speaker 10: like this, I love like my step son's father.
Speaker 2: Yeah, the kids like three. He was born in twenty
Speaker 2: twenty one.
Speaker 5: Wait is it Connie?
Speaker 2: No, no, no, no, it's not. It's not Connie's kid.
Speaker 1: It's it's She was married in twenty eighteen for a
Speaker 1: short which is now kill, to a private pilot named
Speaker 1: Peter r t mea yea who I'd ask Peter. Their
Speaker 1: divorce was finalized in July twenty twenty. They resided together
Speaker 1: in New Yorkville, Manhattan. Their son, Valentino, was born on
Speaker 1: January seventeenth, twenty twenty one.
Speaker 2: Fox announced the birth on February fourth.
Speaker 10: That kid's name even sounds too hot.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Valentino, that sounds like a lot.
Speaker 5: That's an Argentino, Fox, Valentino.
Speaker 1: Famous, Well, Valentino the dad Yeah, R to me of David,
Speaker 1: the woman wanted to marry you, and you wanted to
Speaker 1: marry her, but she didn't want to take your last name.
Speaker 5: What are your thoughts? I would prefer she do not
Speaker 5: take my last You're two individuals. Yeah, okay, Like unless
Speaker 5: she was like, I really like your last name? Can
Speaker 5: I be blank my last name? I could do whatever
Speaker 5: the fuck you want, but I wouldn't be like, you
Speaker 5: have to walk around with my brand on you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a weird thing.
Speaker 5: Stamper ass like a whrse. So I'm like, and then
Speaker 5: get back in your cage and run my schedule for
Speaker 5: things I need.
Speaker 2: To make me super. I don't know what she's talking
Speaker 2: The man protest too much.
Speaker 5: I don't know what you're talking about. Have I ever
Speaker 5: dated I've I've been with famous people. I've never liked
Speaker 5: long term data famous. Yeah, it's fun, is it?
Speaker 4: Not that I've never dated a famous person, but I've
Speaker 4: been with them. That's why I'm like, how are you
Speaker 4: not trying to thank you?
Speaker 2: I just feel like it's like too much, which is
Speaker 2: so interesting? Like I like fucking people because I'm like,
Speaker 2: this would be interesting. I don't know what it's going
Speaker 2: to be like, I don't have.
Speaker 5: Yeah, but you're on the other side of the masculine
Speaker 5: feminine energy thing where you don't have like the fucking
Speaker 5: male ego where you feel threatened by.
Speaker 10: Things like making more money than you and things like that.
Speaker 1: The way we do, like you know, like we have
Speaker 1: she's too big of her light is too Bright's I
Speaker 1: make more money? We just wanted to a mat on
Speaker 1: the mic.
Speaker 2: We know we know the problem.
Speaker 5: Why would I admit that?
Speaker 2: I don't know?
Speaker 5: That wasn't necessarily what I was thinking about with her? No,
Speaker 5: what I date when you made more money than me? Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 5: I don't think it's like I don't think it's necessarily
Speaker 5: like the dollar amount. Like sometimes you don't fit with
Speaker 5: someone whose lifestyle if they make so much more, right,
Speaker 5: and they both make more money than me, Like if you.
Speaker 1: Know there are some people who are rich who like
Speaker 1: make it like they live in a different universe, And
Speaker 1: no matter how much money I had, I don't want
Speaker 1: to live in that universe.
Speaker 2: I don't think it's fun. Well, I would love to
Speaker 2: have a driver, but other than that, I just.
Speaker 1: Don't want to be ready because you can do stuff
Speaker 1: in the back of the car when someone's driving you.
Speaker 2: It's honest, I'll be so much idea she does.
Speaker 4: Uh, I spend a lot of time in my car,
Speaker 4: and I'm like, whenever I do take an uber, which
Speaker 4: is rare, I'm.
Speaker 2: Like, oh my god, all this time to answer emails,
Speaker 2: fuck audition.
Speaker 10: Yeah, I'm gonna go. I'm going to rehearse in the.
Speaker 2: Yeah, a lot of stuff when you're being driven around.
Speaker 1: Well that's what we used to do when we when
Speaker 1: we would go to l all that time you would drive,
Speaker 1: but then I would do all the email, the emails for.
Speaker 5: Guys, that's the best when when someone's drive, when you're
Speaker 5: on the road and it's a road gig that you
Speaker 5: can drive to here and you bring somebody that can drive,
Speaker 5: that's the best time to like prep shit because you're
Speaker 5: like there's an immediacy to it. Yeah, yeah, shit, I
Speaker 5: got to get these. Yeah I gotta get the but
Speaker 5: uh no, yeah, when I did somebody who made more
Speaker 5: money than me, Yeah, unless it was just like it.
Speaker 10: Was like, yes, it was too much us. Unless it
Speaker 10: was too much it was like interferen with like she's.
Speaker 2: Like, well, you know, why can't you buy these, Louise?
Speaker 5: Would you go on a vacation. Here's the thing that
Speaker 5: would it's this is this my instinct and let me
Speaker 5: let me really clarify this. My instinct is to first
Speaker 5: say no, that would not make me comfortable. But then
Speaker 5: I'm like, wait a second, you say that you say
Speaker 5: things when you're looking at things from a distance in
Speaker 5: terms of these like preferential like checklists that you have,
Speaker 5: Like my preferences would be no, But like I like
Speaker 5: when I'm in La I stay with my friend Whitney,
Speaker 5: and like there's so many times were's just like I'm
Speaker 5: staying at her house and I totally feel comfortable with her,
Speaker 5: and like you know what I mean, like when it's
Speaker 5: an individual and you guys, you don't know how you
Speaker 5: would feel with that specific individual, right, But like would
Speaker 5: that would my preference be that? No, my preference would
Speaker 5: be like I like, I'd like I like to be
Speaker 5: a bit of a caretaker.
Speaker 10: Not I don't.
Speaker 5: I don't mean, like in such a traditional way where
Speaker 5: it's like the woman never puts her hand in her pocket.
Speaker 5: Then you're like, then you're like also like blowing out
Speaker 5: their light. Yeah, you know what I mean. You have
Speaker 5: to let like you have to let like them take
Speaker 5: care of you also because people like to do that,
Speaker 5: you know what I mean, people like to love you back, right.
Speaker 1: But what if she wants to go on a vacation
Speaker 1: that she can easily afford and you can't, and so
Speaker 1: like you don't want to and she's not gonna want
Speaker 1: to like downgrade to the kind of vacation that you
Speaker 1: want to, right, that you should afford.
Speaker 10: Right, So what I'm saying is those all become like.
Speaker 2: Because like that's my thing.
Speaker 1: So my thing is like, right when people feel uncomfortable,
Speaker 1: if I'm going to pay for a education, I go,
Speaker 1: I hear you, but I go, please know this is
Speaker 1: really for me.
Speaker 10: I understand that.
Speaker 1: And I'm just your You're just coming along, and I'm like,
Speaker 1: I don't want to go to a lesser place to
Speaker 1: make you feel comfortable when I've worked really hard and
Speaker 1: I can afford to go to that.
Speaker 5: It's individual to individual. Like if I imagine myself being
Speaker 5: your boyfriend you said that just like that, I'd be like, yeah,
Speaker 5: that's of course, yeah, but another one otherwise you're yeah,
Speaker 5: otherwise you're being like you're kind of like, can you
Speaker 5: get over your own ship? And like then you're like not,
Speaker 5: because you can't get over your own ship. Yeah, that's
Speaker 5: like that that to me is like that would be
Speaker 5: like you're more affected than you are, you know.
Speaker 1: Right, because I don't expect anything in return except for
Speaker 1: the person to have a good time. My favorite is
Speaker 1: going to pay for something and then someone complains, I,
Speaker 1: oh for the free trip you're on.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's balls.
Speaker 5: Yeah, it would be another thing if, like, you know,
Speaker 5: there's plenty of women who would also do that. And
Speaker 5: then I'm not saying you're this type at all, but
Speaker 5: there are plenty of women who would do that and
Speaker 5: men probably that would do that and then throw it
Speaker 5: back in your face, like oh yeah, and I you know,
Speaker 5: we all know materialistic like dickheads and cunts that would
Speaker 5: both do that kind of thing and throw it back
Speaker 5: in someone.
Speaker 1: Because people you weaponize like a finance, you know, and
Speaker 1: usual to keep people in abusive situation.
Speaker 5: Right, So when you ask me that, I'm like, in
Speaker 5: my mind, I'm like, looking at it a distance, I'm like, oh,
Speaker 5: what the thing you'd have to be careful of is
Speaker 5: someone weaponizing thing? And then I'm like, wait a second.
Speaker 5: You wouldn't date somebody who did that anyways, right, you know,
Speaker 5: So the answer is, yeah, that probably wouldn't get in
Speaker 5: my way. Although it wouldn't be like my preference wouldn't
Speaker 5: be you know, there's dudes I find this show weak.
Speaker 5: There's dudes who it's like they want like a sugar mama.
Speaker 5: They're like, I want a woman who like I love
Speaker 5: to date a rich chick. So I'm like, how could
Speaker 5: you like? How wow?
Speaker 1: Like that?
Speaker 10: That's so like a masculated It's like, it's.
Speaker 1: Like, I don't like it when either gender wants to
Speaker 1: just date a sugar mama or sugar daddy.
Speaker 2: You just see, I don't like.
Speaker 10: I don't like that.
Speaker 2: What's what's the cut?
Speaker 1: Is it?
Speaker 2: Well? The fun is you don't got to work and
Speaker 2: get to do nice things all the time. That doesn't
Speaker 2: have fun, don't got to work. It's a little fun.
Speaker 2: Now I'm tired.
Speaker 4: It sounds like it sounds like a vacation, but like
Speaker 4: I can't go like on a tropical vacation five six days.
Speaker 2: Max are also bored as fuck? Like I just feel
Speaker 2: like I would be bored, but I can't.
Speaker 1: Just can you just can you just like lay on
Speaker 1: the beach all day? Can you do that a couple
Speaker 1: of days? I could do it a couple of days,
Speaker 1: masks maybe one. Yeah, the Sun's so good for you
Speaker 1: if you don't have especially when you don't have it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's true. Justin Where can we find you online?
Speaker 2: What would you like to promote?
Speaker 9: Uh?
Speaker 5: I buy a bunch of roadie I'll just hear. My
Speaker 5: Instagram page is at I am Justin Silver on all
Speaker 5: social media platforms, and I also have this cool dog
Speaker 5: charity thing that I do call Funny for Fido, and
Speaker 5: you can see all the cool stuff we do to
Speaker 5: throw comedy benefits to raise money for homeless animals.
Speaker 2: As a current just joined me on and we raised
Speaker 2: a bunch of money.
Speaker 10: So just those two, just those two social media platforms
Speaker 10: and you'll find everything else from there.
Speaker 1: Yay, all right, thank you so much for the return
Speaker 1: of Justin Silver. This has been at Guys We Fucked,
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