Speaker 1: It's awkward.
Speaker 2: It's Tuesday.
Speaker 1: It's awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 3: What is the very best birthday gift that your significant
Speaker 3: other has ever given you?
Speaker 1: Alexis, what's your gift?
Speaker 4: Oh?
Speaker 1: They give me gift cards.
Speaker 4: I stated, I'm not having anything on them, but they
Speaker 4: were nice when I.
Speaker 5: Got to wear You're like the worst gold digger I've
Speaker 5: ever heard of.
Speaker 3: Okay, Okay, we're gonna skip Brooke in her twenty minute
Speaker 3: story about how a man disappointed.
Speaker 1: Her and right, Jo, you know, we don't want to
Speaker 1: hear the story.
Speaker 3: Jose best birthday gift from a girlfriend in your past?
Speaker 3: I would say it was the time where she gave
Speaker 3: me a sporting event tickets and told me she loved me.
Speaker 1: Oh, but wouldn't come to the game with you.
Speaker 2: I was like, that's the kind of a gift, isn't
Speaker 2: it for you?
Speaker 3: But what happens when you give your partner a special
Speaker 3: gift that's so good you immediately regret ever giving it.
Speaker 2: Why would you regret a good gift? That's hard.
Speaker 3: That's the situation with one of our listeners, Stephanie, who's
Speaker 3: emailed us for help today.
Speaker 1: Stephanie, Welcome to the show.
Speaker 6: Hi, guys, how are you?
Speaker 2: Are you the gift giver or receiver?
Speaker 7: Here?
Speaker 6: I'm the giver.
Speaker 2: Oh okay, so you're the one with regrets. Interesting?
Speaker 1: And this is a boyfriend or is this a husband?
Speaker 6: It's my boyfriend of almost three years, Kyle.
Speaker 2: Are you guys like living together? That's how serious it is?
Speaker 6: Yeah, okay?
Speaker 1: And what was the situation with the birthday gift?
Speaker 8: So?
Speaker 6: I asked my boyfriend a month ago what he wanted
Speaker 6: for his birthday? It was coming up, and I told
Speaker 6: him he could have anything.
Speaker 4: That's usually when you ask yeah, not the day of
Speaker 4: yea or eight months later.
Speaker 1: Yeah, did you want something today? Okay, okay, planning ahead?
Speaker 1: Did he want anything?
Speaker 6: Well, he was like can I have anything? And I
Speaker 6: was like yeah, And then he was thinking some silly
Speaker 6: things and I was like, oh my god, shut up,
Speaker 6: you're so dumb.
Speaker 1: What was the silly things he was saying?
Speaker 6: He told me he wanted a hall pass.
Speaker 2: What I was taking legs silly, would be like a
Speaker 2: ride on the draft. That's silly to believe is a
Speaker 2: little concern?
Speaker 1: Is that a joke? Maybe it's a joke.
Speaker 6: I could have been, but I thought it was a joke.
Speaker 6: That's why I said, oh my god, shut up, and
Speaker 6: he laughed and was like, you said anything, it's my birthday?
Speaker 4: Oh has he met a celebrity recently? Yeah?
Speaker 1: You did say anything, though.
Speaker 2: I mean, who is his hall pass?
Speaker 6: So we weren't really talking about celebrities.
Speaker 1: Oh you mean it was brooke.
Speaker 2: Okay, it's not so silly anymore.
Speaker 1: So what happened at the end of that?
Speaker 6: I disagree with him. I was like, okay, fine, and
Speaker 6: what you said, yes.
Speaker 1: You can have a hall pass.
Speaker 6: I never thought he was going to use it.
Speaker 1: Gave him permission, but was the tone of her voice
Speaker 1: was joke?
Speaker 2: Did he pull out his cell phone and start recording you?
Speaker 1: Yeah? What were you drinking? You must have been drunk
Speaker 1: when you said that.
Speaker 4: She thought he was just she was just being lighthearted, like,
Speaker 4: oh yeah, sure you can have it.
Speaker 2: You know, I understand that.
Speaker 1: Oh really, you don't.
Speaker 2: Believe he's actually asking if he woul cheat on you?
Speaker 3: Not cheating if you give them a hall pass.
Speaker 1: That's what a hall pass is. But there's joking.
Speaker 4: It's a joking conversation, right, that's how you took it.
Speaker 6: Well, it was a joking conversation, and then he made
Speaker 6: me promise that I can't take it back, and I'm like, yeah,
Speaker 6: that's fine.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, you said that's fine again.
Speaker 2: Why do you keep saying that's fine.
Speaker 1: That's the next level you doubled down.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I probably should have promised that.
Speaker 1: Oh my gods. He used to.
Speaker 6: Well, his birthday's coming up this weekend, and he's brought
Speaker 6: it up a couple of times. You think he's gonna
Speaker 6: be out that night.
Speaker 4: You don't say, wait, are you guys going to be
Speaker 4: together on his birthday?
Speaker 2: Does he have plans to go out on his own?
Speaker 6: I think he's gonna go and his on it. And
Speaker 6: one time he told me he's gonna use it.
Speaker 3: What that's the polite thing to do. If somebody gives
Speaker 3: you a birthday gift, you're supposed.
Speaker 1: To use said gift. It's rude to not use the gift.
Speaker 4: It's like when you get a gift certificate and it
Speaker 4: just sits in a drawer.
Speaker 1: I know that helps the person's feelings that gave the gift.
Speaker 1: If he didn't do it, what type of boyfriend would
Speaker 1: he be?
Speaker 3: Imaginehim approaching a girl like, look, my girlfriend got me
Speaker 3: home best on my birthday.
Speaker 1: She's gonna be so mad if I don't use this.
Speaker 1: And the girl's like, oh, I totally understand. Where's your
Speaker 1: head at?
Speaker 3: Where's your head at there, Stephanie, Well, and I think
Speaker 3: he is.
Speaker 6: I don't want to give him that gift.
Speaker 2: No, you want to take it back.
Speaker 1: So here's where we're at.
Speaker 3: You've kind of put yourself in this position, Stephanie by
Speaker 3: agreeing twice to do.
Speaker 2: This, But I still blame your boyfriend for it. Just
Speaker 2: for the record record, it's fault.
Speaker 3: But she said yes and then agreed that she wouldn't
Speaker 3: take it back regrets. I'm just stating the facts here.
Speaker 3: I'm not on anybody's side. And the thing is we're
Speaker 3: now at a severe disadvantage because if this is poker,
Speaker 3: we basically turned our cards around to the table to
Speaker 3: show everybody in our hands, and now we're trying to
Speaker 3: get it either.
Speaker 2: All we need to do is tell him that this
Speaker 2: isn't going to happen. That's what we need to do.
Speaker 1: That our promises don't mean anything. Yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And you want advice on how to say that
Speaker 3: to him, Stephanie, Yeah.
Speaker 6: I mean I just I don't know, just like maybe
Speaker 6: help him understand that, Like now I'm kind of uncomfortable
Speaker 6: with it.
Speaker 2: Hey, I don't want to get to sleep with other people.
Speaker 1: I think that's pretty reasonable. Maybe that should have come
Speaker 1: up the first time.
Speaker 2: Well, you know that's why we say better late than never.
Speaker 1: Jeff, it's a hindsight situation. We're gonna have to call
Speaker 1: your boyfriend.
Speaker 2: I guess give you some advice on how to have
Speaker 2: a backbone here.
Speaker 1: Yeah, get on how to reverse your promise.
Speaker 3: Yes that he could have a hall pass, but now
Speaker 3: you're taking it away from him on his birthday.
Speaker 2: Yes? Good. Why does that sound crazy to you?
Speaker 1: That sounds totally only normal. Yeah to everybody. We're gonna
Speaker 1: do it with your awkward Tuesday phone call right after this.
Speaker 7: Thank you?
Speaker 1: All right, hold on, it's awkward. It's Tuesday. It's awkward
Speaker 1: Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 3: We are in a difficult situation today, and by we
Speaker 3: I mean Brooky.
Speaker 4: Are.
Speaker 3: One of our listeners had a conversation with their boyfriend
Speaker 3: of three years asking what he wanted for his birthday
Speaker 3: coming up. He responded, a hall pass.
Speaker 2: And he didn't say celebrity he met, just.
Speaker 1: A hall pass.
Speaker 3: Just a free day, right, which is basically a one
Speaker 3: night of unbridled passion with anybody who's not your partner.
Speaker 1: It has to be unbridled.
Speaker 2: I mean it sounds like you read that from a
Speaker 2: romance novel.
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm trying to put a little romance into it.
Speaker 2: But it's a little messier than that, Jeff, Okay.
Speaker 3: A messy night of passion with anybody who's not your partner.
Speaker 3: And not only did Stephanie say yeah, but she promised
Speaker 3: him she would not take it back, and now she
Speaker 3: wants our help to try and take it back today.
Speaker 3: So let's get some advice for her from the woman
Speaker 3: who blames the man for his girlfriend saying yes to
Speaker 3: his request.
Speaker 1: What are you thinking?
Speaker 3: How does she take back her own gift that she
Speaker 3: just gave him.
Speaker 5: I think this could easily devolve into a huge fight,
Speaker 5: big argument, you know, break up absolutely, Alexis.
Speaker 2: So I think what you do is you try to
Speaker 2: take a positive.
Speaker 4: Angle and you say, okay, listen, I know we were
Speaker 4: using the hall Pass as like a placeholder for your gift,
Speaker 4: but I got you something so amazing and expensive that
Speaker 4: you are going to love it.
Speaker 1: So why.
Speaker 5: So you acknowledge that that hall Pass was there, but
Speaker 5: it's not his gift anymore.
Speaker 3: What do you think about that, Stephanie trying to one
Speaker 3: up your own gift with a better one.
Speaker 9: Well, I mean, I think maybe, But I think Kyle
Speaker 9: should know that I was kind of joking about the
Speaker 9: guests in general, So doesn't he It's not like even
Speaker 9: an existing gift that yeah, that's like, that's.
Speaker 3: Like coming back after signing the terms and agreements to
Speaker 3: being like, well, I didn't.
Speaker 1: Mean to sign it.
Speaker 4: It's not even that she's just not very good at
Speaker 4: saying no, Like I feel like he's just going to
Speaker 4: put you in another place where you suddenly agree again
Speaker 4: to it.
Speaker 1: But maybe Jose has a way for her to not
Speaker 1: do that.
Speaker 3: What do you think, Hose, He needs a taste of
Speaker 3: his own medicine, so he knows how it feels to
Speaker 3: be in your situation. So you ask for your own
Speaker 3: hall pass for your birthday.
Speaker 2: Coming up, that's gonna that's where the fight.
Speaker 3: Startspective Then he's gonna go I don't want my lady.
Speaker 5: I think he'll be okay, Yes, I didn't think of that.
Speaker 1: I don't think of that, Stephanie equal playing field for tat.
Speaker 7: I don't even know if I could do that.
Speaker 1: I don't think you could pull a man to use
Speaker 1: a hall pass on.
Speaker 7: No, I mean I could pull a man. Okay, Okay,
Speaker 7: you don't want to.
Speaker 2: You have to find someone hotter.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Sure, Well that's our advice for you, Stephanie. We wish
Speaker 3: you all the luck in the world that are going
Speaker 3: to be here in your corner. Thank you be here
Speaker 3: to support you. But I'm dialing your boyfriend's phone number
Speaker 3: right now.
Speaker 2: Okay, like we're sending a sheep out into the wolf town.
Speaker 1: You've got this, Stephanie. Good luck.
Speaker 7: Hello, Hey, mab, how are you?
Speaker 8: Oh hey, are you calling for work or something?
Speaker 6: Yeah?
Speaker 7: I mean I just want to check it in and
Speaker 7: see how your day is going. Yeah, it's yours. It's
Speaker 7: going pretty good.
Speaker 8: But check this out. Someone took a huge crap in
Speaker 8: my parking spot. I don't know, like a homeless guy
Speaker 8: or like what happened, but it was disgusting.
Speaker 7: Oh god, that is horrible.
Speaker 8: Yeah, yeah, it's sick. But you know, I'm just I've
Speaker 8: been dealing with that litteral crap all morning, but so yeah,
Speaker 8: I'm just I gotta get back soon. But what's what's
Speaker 8: going on?
Speaker 7: Well, I wanted to talk to you. About this weekend
Speaker 7: and your birthday.
Speaker 8: Yeah, so yeah, out Saturday night, but we can maybe
Speaker 8: do something Sunday late afternoon.
Speaker 7: I might be in bad shape, but we'll see. Oh
Speaker 7: sounds like you have something fun planned. Well yeah, I
Speaker 7: guess you could say that.
Speaker 6: Uh, do you want to tell me a little bit
Speaker 6: about it?
Speaker 8: Not?
Speaker 5: Really?
Speaker 7: No, I mean it doesn't have anything to do with
Speaker 7: what we talked about, does it.
Speaker 8: I don't know what you're referring to.
Speaker 6: Like, a few weeks ago, I gave you the Hall
Speaker 6: Pass quote unquoted.
Speaker 7: You know you brought it up again recently too.
Speaker 8: What's your what is your question? Give me a birthday gift?
Speaker 8: I plan to use it.
Speaker 9: Well that was just a placeholder gift because I actually
Speaker 9: got you a really nice present that's really pretty expensive.
Speaker 7: So you're gonna get that instead?
Speaker 8: Oh no, no, no, no, you can't take it back
Speaker 8: like I've already planned, my president.
Speaker 7: Are you messing with me?
Speaker 3: Like?
Speaker 7: Are you trying to make me this isn't funny?
Speaker 8: You said like I could have this, like you promised me,
Speaker 8: Like you can't. You can't take back a promise like
Speaker 8: we agreed on that.
Speaker 6: You know, I was saying whatever because it would make
Speaker 6: you happy, and I thought it was funny conversation.
Speaker 8: Is it gonna make me really happy?
Speaker 7: Wow?
Speaker 9: Wow?
Speaker 7: Okay, So who is it? Then?
Speaker 8: I'm not going to tell you this me all bit
Speaker 8: out of shape.
Speaker 7: I'm already been out of shape. You're basically telling me
Speaker 7: that you're about to cheat on me.
Speaker 8: I'm not cheating on you. You gave me permission, which
Speaker 8: you like you gave me permission?
Speaker 2: You did?
Speaker 7: This isn't funny, Kyle, tell me who it is?
Speaker 1: Fine?
Speaker 7: You remember the waitress at Chili the Brunette?
Speaker 8: What? Yeah, I'm thinking about her.
Speaker 7: She didn't know it yet, but you are you kidding me?
Speaker 4: Her?
Speaker 6: Kyle?
Speaker 5: Her?
Speaker 1: Why?
Speaker 4: What she is?
Speaker 7: Exactly?
Speaker 1: Exactly?
Speaker 4: Is he joking?
Speaker 8: Well? I don't know what is happening?
Speaker 1: What did?
Speaker 3: You're on the radio right now with a show called
Speaker 3: Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning's called Awkward Tuesday phone Call.
Speaker 2: God, that was hard to listen to, Kyle. That was
Speaker 2: that was difficult?
Speaker 6: Why am I?
Speaker 8: Why would you? I am so confused?
Speaker 2: Like? Why?
Speaker 7: Yeah?
Speaker 3: We've been asked to help and join in on this
Speaker 3: conversation by your girlfriend, Stephanie, who wanted to talk about
Speaker 3: this so called birthday present.
Speaker 1: She doesn't wanting to cheat on her.
Speaker 8: I'm not cheating on her. I mean she gave me
Speaker 8: the hall Path again.
Speaker 9: File Are you serious? I just told you it was
Speaker 9: not a real gift.
Speaker 8: They're serious. You did promise, So how am I supposed
Speaker 8: to take that?
Speaker 2: You're actually like a second grader right now.
Speaker 1: You can't see how it's a little bit confusing.
Speaker 3: The informal question here, Like the girl on Chili's doesn't
Speaker 3: even know what was your plan.
Speaker 1: I thought you set it.
Speaker 5: Up like you're gonna hol over you've got a rizz
Speaker 5: or down.
Speaker 4: Still, bro, I don't know that you do.
Speaker 2: I don't know that you do what.
Speaker 1: Your bras are gonna go to Chili's and try to
Speaker 1: game down a.
Speaker 5: Certain Why do I feel like it was just gonna
Speaker 5: be him saying at the Chili's bar alone?
Speaker 1: Is it by yourself?
Speaker 4: Doesn't matter?
Speaker 3: I think he's just gonna go there and see what happened.
Speaker 1: And you have you have a thing a thing for
Speaker 1: girl with no teeth in the front.
Speaker 8: She has one tooth that's easily fixed. And I haven't
Speaker 8: even flirted with anybody for a long time, so like
Speaker 8: it's a chance to like put myself out there. I haven't.
Speaker 4: Well, here's okay, this is not a healthy relationship.
Speaker 2: But Stephanie, I don't think you have anything to be
Speaker 2: worried about either.
Speaker 3: Let's ask her, Stephanie, how do you feel about him
Speaker 3: going to Chili's and spitting some game.
Speaker 6: Well, I mean it's actually kind of funny now knowing
Speaker 6: who he's gonna try.
Speaker 7: To ask out. Really, it's still like it still hurts
Speaker 7: my feelings. I still don't want him to do it.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I just really wish that he understood how I
Speaker 6: felt and.
Speaker 3: Like took me like, yeah, I mean you got to
Speaker 3: hear that, right, Kyle, I mean you understand now, Ky,
Speaker 3: like that it hurts her that you're trying to go
Speaker 3: through with this and kind of throwing it in her face.
Speaker 1: And is that making you like change how you feel
Speaker 1: about it?
Speaker 8: Well, yeah, I mean obviously I care about her. If
Speaker 8: it really makes you feel that way, I didn't, like,
Speaker 8: I don't want to I don't.
Speaker 1: Feeling so what an understanding boyfriend?
Speaker 2: What do I still feel like I'm here in the
Speaker 2: end of her relationship.
Speaker 7: I still would like to.
Speaker 8: Get that expensive give you're talking about.
Speaker 3: Oh oh yeah, she has something really big playing for you, bro,
Speaker 3: don't worry. Isn't that right Stephanie, Yeah, yeah, yes yes.
Speaker 1: Jeffrey in the Morning,