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Speaker 2: Now. Look, ain't none of this shit gonna be you know,
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Speaker 1: I'm gonna get people out the audience to come up
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Speaker 1: Don't come with no heavy, deep ass stories and shit like.
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Speaker 1: the fuck.
Speaker 2: Going on with me. But yeah, y'all, I'm be very
Speaker 2: much pregnant.
Speaker 1: I'm even more pregnant, y'all, so I'm gonna be very emotional.
Speaker 1: Don't try to make me cry because I already do
Speaker 1: it at the drop of a fucking dime, all right,
Speaker 1: so please, all right, So we're gonna jump straight and
Speaker 1: so we got.
Speaker 2: Two long, long, long, long, long, long, long long stories,
Speaker 2: and we're gonna get to it right now.
Speaker 1: Hi, Jess, listen, I am twenty three years old, and
Speaker 1: I'm an extreme introvert.
Speaker 2: I know what that's like.
Speaker 1: I'm not really a big party person and I don't
Speaker 1: do large crowds, but my friends do. One of my
Speaker 1: good friends just throw a party for her twenty second birthday.
Speaker 2: Now.
Speaker 1: She's way more social than me and also have many
Speaker 1: other friends outside of me. The party was lit, all
Speaker 1: types of different music and all types of different people.
Speaker 1: I know you've scaate as fuck, shaking in the corner,
Speaker 1: all types. Yes, I'm a big energy person, and when
Speaker 1: I tell you I felt the energy shift before it's shifted,
Speaker 1: I really did. Her other friends started to get sloppy drunk,
Speaker 1: falling all over the place and getting extra loud with
Speaker 1: each other. Oh, girl, I was just at my birthday
Speaker 1: party and I ain't no introvert or nothing, but I
Speaker 1: wasn't able to drink and I'm pregnant, So yeah, I
Speaker 1: guess I'm an introvert while I'm pregnant. So I felt
Speaker 1: the same way, Lord Jesus, because everybody in my birthday button. No, man,
Speaker 1: let me finish the story. Girl, I started going on
Speaker 1: about my all right, so continue on, y'all. No, everyone
Speaker 1: was not like that, but these are her other main
Speaker 1: friends that we're talking about here. Mind you, these are
Speaker 1: not my friends. I'm just here for her. They were
Speaker 1: all bumming into me, spilling drinks on my shoe.
Speaker 2: And screaming in my ear.
Speaker 1: Oh lord, I allowed it for a little bit, but
Speaker 1: I can only take but so much, and I'm already
Speaker 1: not big on parties.
Speaker 2: So I told my friend that I was ready to go.
Speaker 1: It was already close to the end of the party anyway,
Speaker 1: but her other friends talked her into going to a
Speaker 1: club after crying after body, and it's her birthday, so
Speaker 1: I understand.
Speaker 2: I definitely wasn't going to that shit. Lol. She was
Speaker 2: a little said that I was leaving, but she understood.
Speaker 1: But girl, as I was telling her, her friends decided
Speaker 1: to come over and they heard me tell her that
Speaker 1: I was leaving. They started screaming, oh girl, you so stiff,
Speaker 1: You such a square? What was your point of even coming?
Speaker 1: First of all, y'all bitches is drunk and she is
Speaker 1: not calm to fucking down. I was like, oh, there's
Speaker 1: the energy I felt. I didn't let that stop me
Speaker 1: from leaving, nor did I let that mess with my character.
Speaker 1: But I did laugh in their face and told them
Speaker 1: to get out of my way. And proceeded to leave.
Speaker 1: The next day, I text my friend and asked her
Speaker 1: how was last night and also tell her that I
Speaker 1: had a good time with her. She tells me that
Speaker 1: she enjoyed her night, but she didn't like how I
Speaker 1: left early, and that she didn't feel like I even
Speaker 1: wanted to be there, and that I.
Speaker 2: Was also acting stiff. Oh, she didn't let her fucking
Speaker 2: friends get on her head, baby, like very much clownbed out,
Speaker 2: and she she was drunk. She was still drunk from
Speaker 2: the night before.
Speaker 1: Because, bitch, you already know as my friend that I'm
Speaker 1: a fucking introvert.
Speaker 2: But let me continue.
Speaker 1: Immediately, in my head, I got confused because, for one,
Speaker 1: she already knows I'm not a big party person, but
Speaker 1: I definitely did party with her last night.
Speaker 2: And for two, did she have her other friends get
Speaker 2: in her hair? Girl?
Speaker 1: I ain't even read your story, and I'm like all
Speaker 1: up in your head? Girl, yes, because I just said
Speaker 1: the same thing. That's why I need to shut up
Speaker 1: and finish the story before I do my commentary.
Speaker 2: This is crazy.
Speaker 1: I already know that they probably were talking about me
Speaker 1: when I left, because that's how they are. But I'm
Speaker 1: just hoping that this is her own personal opinion and
Speaker 1: that she's not letting her other friends make her feel
Speaker 1: away about me. I have yet to respond to her,
Speaker 1: and that's only because I'm usually a talker before I
Speaker 1: am a thinker, so I don't want to jump straight
Speaker 1: to something and that's not what it.
Speaker 2: But I would say this did throw me off a
Speaker 2: little bit.
Speaker 1: It's only been a few hours since she texted, but
Speaker 1: I had no idea when you would open this message.
Speaker 1: Just so, what do you think I would love a
Speaker 1: second opinion before I respond to this woman?
Speaker 2: Lol?
Speaker 1: Just also, I would not be thinking like this if
Speaker 1: this hasn't happened before. There was a situation previously where
Speaker 1: I felt like our friends were talking mad shit about
Speaker 1: me and influenced her decisions a little bit.
Speaker 2: So this is just a build up.
Speaker 1: Hold up, hold up, I know this shit getting good,
Speaker 1: But listen to just a couple seconds of a commercial.
Speaker 2: If you love me, you'll listen.
Speaker 1: Okay, Well, honey, listen. You got my attention, and I'm
Speaker 1: definitely gonna let you know. I mean, if you haven't
Speaker 1: already caught on by now, I am feeling the same
Speaker 1: exact way you're feeling, and then this is my thing.
Speaker 1: I can certainly relate to this because I just had
Speaker 1: a birthday party over the weekend for Cuba and Baltimore
Speaker 1: and my little sister, my cousins, my friends, all of
Speaker 1: them are extroverted when they're partying.
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: My little sister said, you know, to some point, she's
Speaker 1: to herself, but when she gets around people that she loves,
Speaker 1: you know, she comes out of her shell.
Speaker 2: You know. And our dad was there, and it's Baltimore.
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. Our dad ain't no little
Speaker 2: old nigga would have cane like this.
Speaker 1: Nigga be party and this is where we got our
Speaker 1: party animal side from, you know what I'm saying. But
Speaker 1: I couldn't drink, I couldn't smoke, I'm pregnant, But I
Speaker 1: just was happy to be around my loved ones. Now,
Speaker 1: my brother Dasi, he's an introvert, and he was sitting
Speaker 1: down all night and he barely correct the goddamn smile,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: And he was still just happy to be there.
Speaker 1: But we all know Dazsi, we all know he's an introvert,
Speaker 1: so we're not gonna expect for him to jump up
Speaker 1: doing the dougie and you know or whatever.
Speaker 2: He's not the type to go grab a fucking mic. Now.
Speaker 1: He is a stand up comedian, but that's when we're
Speaker 1: working on stage, you know, that's when we are called
Speaker 1: to action. We're called to do what we do for
Speaker 1: a living. You get what I'm saying. He's an introvert
Speaker 1: and everybody knows that. Ain't nobody say why does he
Speaker 1: over there being stuff like, uh, that's why he shouldn't
Speaker 1: even have came because, mind you, I went in the
Speaker 1: house after the party, but everybody else with their separate
Speaker 1: ways to other parties. Mind you' SEEUA a weekend, so
Speaker 1: it's parties all over the place, Dazzy, I guarantee you
Speaker 1: a home and his family, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: And then I went home to mine only because I'm pregnant,
Speaker 1: But I would have been right out with the rest
Speaker 1: of my friends and my sister and my family, you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. So I definitely understand where you're
Speaker 1: coming from. Them bitches got in her head, and I'm
Speaker 1: gonna call them them bitches because they were clearly fucking
Speaker 1: hating with the withoutloquor This is who these girls are, you.
Speaker 2: Can literally tell.
Speaker 1: And a lot of people just don't understand introverted people,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, And a lot of people
Speaker 1: don't understand that sometimes like y'all resting bitch face is
Speaker 1: literally y'all face every fucking time, y'all around people that
Speaker 1: y'all don't really know, you know what I mean. It
Speaker 1: had nothing to do with her friends being too loud. Yeah,
Speaker 1: they're too loud for you, but it wasn't personal. Everybody's
Speaker 1: too loud. It's a fucking party, and you came to
Speaker 1: support your friend, so I think her taking that into
Speaker 1: account would have been better. Like, at least you showed
Speaker 1: up for me. At least you came out. At least
Speaker 1: you came to me. And you don't even do parties, girl,
Speaker 1: I know you don't do parties, but thank you for
Speaker 1: showing up. Why would she even expect you to go
Speaker 1: to a second party with her other loud ass friends. Now,
Speaker 1: no shade to our friends, because I'm telling you they
Speaker 1: tald like my friends all up into the park when
Speaker 1: they were talking shit about you. You know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: Because my friends don't do that, you know, they let
Speaker 1: whoever be who they are.
Speaker 2: You get what I'm saying. So it is what it is.
Speaker 1: And I have all types of different friends, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, and different types of family members, extroverted,
Speaker 1: both introverted, you know what I mean. So I think
Speaker 1: you should have a conversation with her. I think you
Speaker 1: should call her. Actually, don't even respond via text. I
Speaker 1: think you should call it because to be honest, she
Speaker 1: should have called you if she really felt this way
Speaker 1: all that TEXI textie bullshit. Now you should call her
Speaker 1: and be like, hey, look, so I can't help but
Speaker 1: to think that your friends got in your head or whatever.
Speaker 2: I mean.
Speaker 1: I know they had a couple of remarks yesterday when
Speaker 1: they heard me tell you that I'm not going to
Speaker 1: the second party, you know, and I heard their remarks
Speaker 1: as well.
Speaker 2: You don't know if you heard them, but they.
Speaker 1: You know, and recite those remarks that you heard, like, oh,
Speaker 1: they asked me what was my point in even coming?
Speaker 1: And I shouldn't have came and a band stiff. No,
Speaker 1: I'm being who I am And if you can't take that,
Speaker 1: that's on you.
Speaker 2: That's why you're not my friends.
Speaker 1: This is my friend, and my friend I thought would
Speaker 1: understand me after so many years of us being friends,
Speaker 1: and you already know that I don't even do parties,
Speaker 1: but I was there to support you. I think that's
Speaker 1: how you have to explain it more in depth. Sometimes
Speaker 1: people need that. She may just be feeling away and
Speaker 1: may need that conversation from you. You get what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: And that ain't even to go back and see her
Speaker 1: other friends straight, but just to get y'all on a
Speaker 1: better record than that.
Speaker 2: Because I know how you feeling.
Speaker 1: I know that I hurt your feelings, and I know
Speaker 1: you don't want to jump out there and respond. I
Speaker 1: can tell you love your friend because I would have
Speaker 1: been jumped down her motherfucking throat even her being my friend,
Speaker 1: like I would a bitch. Don't play with me because
Speaker 1: you already know I ain't even that type of girl,
Speaker 1: Like the type of girl I am.
Speaker 2: I wouldn't even have fucking came. But I'm here and
Speaker 2: I love you. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: But I'm very much a little don't want to come
Speaker 1: to shit like that, you know. But my advice for
Speaker 1: you is call your friend, don't text. Things can get
Speaker 1: very lost in translation through text, and you are young
Speaker 1: you said you're twenty three, your friends twenty two. Y'all
Speaker 1: can get real reckless over them text messages. My little
Speaker 1: sister is twenty okay, and I listen. I know when
Speaker 1: me and her get into it, it'd be some things
Speaker 1: that she'd be saying, and I'd be like, oh, like
Speaker 1: you know, I'd be wanting to say, but like my
Speaker 1: thirty two year old self has to always remember, like damn,
Speaker 1: I was twenty as well before, and I was saying
Speaker 1: things that I know I didn't mean just to hurt
Speaker 1: the other person or whatever. But you know, you guys
Speaker 1: are young, and y'all got the rest of your fucking lives,
Speaker 1: and things like this do happen.
Speaker 2: Also, I'm gonna let you know while I was just
Speaker 2: you know.
Speaker 1: My delivery may be a bit negative towards the other
Speaker 1: friends or whatever, but things like this do happen.
Speaker 2: So don't throw your friend away. Just just talk to her,
Speaker 2: call and talk to her.
Speaker 1: You don't owe nothing to the other friends, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean, because that's not who your bond is
Speaker 1: with your bond and your loyalty is to your friend.
Speaker 1: And I would just hear her voice and she hear
Speaker 1: yours now if shit don't turn out, she's still getting
Speaker 1: all defensive, meet up with an ass and be like,
Speaker 1: what's up? So no, no, no, no no. But then
Speaker 1: then then you hang that shut up and then you
Speaker 1: see what she's saying.
Speaker 2: You know what I mean.
Speaker 1: But if y'all been friends for a long time, I
Speaker 1: think that she will receive it. Well if you call
Speaker 1: her versus you know, texting, because you checked on her,
Speaker 1: you ain't have to wake up and check on her ass.
Speaker 1: You know what you did because you're her friend. So
Speaker 1: that's what real friends do. They talk things out, keep
Speaker 1: me updated and let me know.
Speaker 2: I like that little story. That's nice. That's nice.
Speaker 1: But once somebody ain't cheating, getting shot, stabbing itself and
Speaker 1: it's a lot going on. Now, we got a commercial,
Speaker 1: and if you click off of this podcast, I swear
Speaker 1: I'm gonna beat your ass.
Speaker 2: Listen all right.
Speaker 1: Next, First of all, I want to start by saying,
Speaker 1: happy Woman's mouth. You are definitely a public figure that
Speaker 1: I'll look up to you. So thank you for being you.
Speaker 1: Oh thank you, baby girl.
Speaker 2: I love that.
Speaker 1: Okay, so let's get into it. I've been in a
Speaker 1: relationship with my boyfriend for about three years. And I'm
Speaker 1: ready to take things a little further. I've been bringing
Speaker 1: up the idea of us moving in with each other,
Speaker 1: but he's very very short when we talk about it,
Speaker 1: like everything could.
Speaker 2: Be completely fine and we would have.
Speaker 1: A normal conversation, but as soon as I talk about it,
Speaker 1: his whole demeanor changes. We've talked about this once before
Speaker 1: when we first started dating, and he did make it
Speaker 1: clear to me that moving in with each other is
Speaker 1: a big commitment, which it really is. Girl, But it's
Speaker 1: been three years now, Damn how much longer does he need?
Speaker 2: Exactly?
Speaker 1: It also starts to make me question myself, like am
Speaker 1: I doing everything right? Am I making him feel comfortable?
Speaker 1: Does he even really want to move in with me?
Speaker 1: Is he happy?
Speaker 2: Etc.
Speaker 1: See, that's when our mind started playing games on us.
Speaker 1: When we let these men play games on us. Do
Speaker 1: not do not? I mean the mind playing tricks on
Speaker 1: us when we let these men play games with us.
Speaker 2: I was going to drop that conversation.
Speaker 1: For a little while and revisit it another time, but
Speaker 1: I'm tired of not saying him as much as I
Speaker 1: want to see him, and I really feel like it's
Speaker 1: about Tom that I come home to him as You're right, Sis.
Speaker 2: You can tell he's.
Speaker 1: Comfortable with the way things are, but I'm definitely feeling away,
Speaker 1: and I know he recognizes it. Maybe he wants to
Speaker 1: wait until marriage. Well what if there's even someone else? Exactly?
Speaker 1: See your mind raising and everything. That's what I hate.
Speaker 1: I hate when we do this as women. I hate
Speaker 1: when we have to do this because we feel like
Speaker 1: the guy leaves us no other choice. I don't want
Speaker 1: to think like this, but how could I not? What
Speaker 1: is stopping him from moving in with me? I feel
Speaker 1: like he should make his feelings more visible when it
Speaker 1: comes down to that, because he can clearly tell how
Speaker 1: much I'm bothered about this. So my question for you is,
Speaker 1: how do you think I should go about our conversation
Speaker 1: the next time I revisit that topic. Do you think
Speaker 1: my approach is wrong? Let me know something, Jess girl, No,
Speaker 1: I don't think your approach is wrong. Okay, so you're
Speaker 1: asking me how you should approach the conversation this time
Speaker 1: going forward. I honestly but like you should start just
Speaker 1: letting him know how bothered you are. I mean, because
Speaker 1: you say you state how he sees it, and you
Speaker 1: state how you know I know he recognizes it, but
Speaker 1: I don't think you ever actually communicated with him that
Speaker 1: it does bother you. Okay, So most of the time,
Speaker 1: guys do need to hear it, you know what I'm
Speaker 1: saying to believe it, because I'm not gonna I'm not
Speaker 1: giving them any type of excuse or anything. But a
Speaker 1: lot of guys, not all men, but a lot of
Speaker 1: guys state don't pay attention in depth like that to
Speaker 1: know or it may be bothering her to wa ain't
Speaker 1: moving together yet, you know what I'm saying, Because you
Speaker 1: said he's comfortable with the way things are, and let's
Speaker 1: just say there is nobody else. Let's just like delete that,
Speaker 1: subtract that from the equation. He feels comfortable, So he
Speaker 1: may feel that you're comfortable as well because you haven't
Speaker 1: bought it up again because you're letting it, You're letting
Speaker 1: time go past, hoping that one day he just wakes
Speaker 1: up like, all right, this is the day we're gonna
Speaker 1: move in, or this is the day that I'm gonna
Speaker 1: tell her that we're gonna move in. You get what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, And you can't really do that with a man, honey.
Speaker 1: You we have to voice each and every feeling, each
Speaker 1: and every topic that we want to talk about, each
Speaker 1: and every time something bothers us, so they can see that.
Speaker 1: You know, that's also teaching a man how to communicate
Speaker 1: with you, whether you are conscious of that or not,
Speaker 1: that's teaching him. Okay, so she's being she gonna come
Speaker 1: no matter what, my baby gonna come to me about whatever.
Speaker 2: So let me do the same.
Speaker 1: Or not even let me do the same, because sometimes
Speaker 1: they don't learn how to reciprocate it, but they do
Speaker 1: learn that you are that type of person, so they
Speaker 1: handle you better going forward. You know, according to that,
Speaker 1: this is how I think you should approach it. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna let you know. I think you should start off
Speaker 1: very honest. You should say, babe, Okay, something has been
Speaker 1: bothering me, and I've been wanting to have this conversation
Speaker 1: with you for a few months now, or however realistically
Speaker 1: how long it is. Don't make no time up. Tell
Speaker 1: him the fucking truth. It's been bothering me four months now.
Speaker 1: You know, every time we visit the conversation of us
Speaker 1: moving in together, you get kind of short and all
Speaker 1: of that.
Speaker 2: Now.
Speaker 1: I know we talked about it before and I just
Speaker 1: kind of like left it alone because I didn't want
Speaker 1: to push you away, And that is the truth. I
Speaker 1: didn't want to push you away. However, it's been three years, okay,
Speaker 1: and you seem to be comfortable with the way things
Speaker 1: are now.
Speaker 2: If you are, that's you, but me, I am not.
Speaker 2: I'm not. I feel like now I should be coming
Speaker 2: home to you. I feel like that.
Speaker 1: I don't know if you want to wait till marriage
Speaker 1: or whatever, but I don't feel like we should have
Speaker 1: to wait until marriage to move in.
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying, Like, I feel like I
Speaker 2: should be coming home to you.
Speaker 1: And if you just don't flat out agree with that,
Speaker 1: if you don't want to move, I think that you
Speaker 1: should be mad enough to tell me. You should be
Speaker 1: at least open and honest enough to tell me moving
Speaker 1: together is not a good idea. I don't like that,
Speaker 1: and then try to see why because it may be
Speaker 1: reasons that he don't want to. Maybe he moved with
Speaker 1: someone in the past and it didn't work. Maybe you know,
Speaker 1: it could be all sorts of reasons why this man
Speaker 1: really don't want to move with you.
Speaker 2: You get what I'm saying. And if you can't let
Speaker 2: it hurt you.
Speaker 1: You can't let it get to you because it may
Speaker 1: very well be his truth, but we don't know the
Speaker 1: truth because you haven't sat down with him again and
Speaker 1: told him your whole truth.
Speaker 2: So makers adds tell the truth to you? What is it?
Speaker 1: And you can even tell him. You had me even
Speaker 1: questioning myself like what am I not doing?
Speaker 2: Right?
Speaker 1: Like?
Speaker 2: What is it?
Speaker 1: Do you even want to move in with me? And
Speaker 1: then the last question, the big boom, the big bang theory.
Speaker 1: Is there someone else? I hate feeling like this, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean? And I would like for you
Speaker 1: to answer these questions like are you seeing someone else?
Speaker 1: Are you scared to move with me because you're dealing
Speaker 1: with somebody else? Are you living with somebody else? Like
Speaker 1: you know, I don't know, I don't know, but I
Speaker 1: know that I feel that it's time that we come
Speaker 1: home to each other. And that's that, straight up, point
Speaker 1: blank girl. And then you will get the reaction problem
Speaker 1: not I mean, I ain't gonna say that you're looking for,
Speaker 1: but you're gonna get a reaction, and you're more than
Speaker 1: likely you're gonna get the truth, you know, because when
Speaker 1: you put everything.
Speaker 2: Out there and you are level with the guy.
Speaker 1: You're looking in his eyes and he ain't got nowhere
Speaker 1: to run, he ain't looking at his phone. They fill
Speaker 1: back into a corner, and he will more than likely
Speaker 1: tell you to choose. And the reason why I'm saying
Speaker 1: more than likely because less than likely he could lie too,
Speaker 1: Like you know, when gods fell back into a corner,
Speaker 1: they lie to they lie their way out. Oh babe,
Speaker 1: I was just thinking about that, or you know, I
Speaker 1: don't know. I got to take care of my moms,
Speaker 1: or I don't know. I just I have anxiety when
Speaker 1: it comes to moving, you know, because you said, as
Speaker 1: he stated earlier, that's a big commitment. And if he's
Speaker 1: saying he is aware of how big of a commitment
Speaker 1: that is, then he could get cold feet. You know,
Speaker 1: he could be nervous, he could be scared, he could
Speaker 1: be that could mean marriage for him, like, oh shit,
Speaker 1: that's kind of like marrying somebody. But the fact that
Speaker 1: you let three years go by, he ain't had nothing
Speaker 1: else to do but to get comfortable.
Speaker 2: Boo.
Speaker 1: This is kind of an equal fault, you know, if
Speaker 1: you and him, I do blame you because men will
Speaker 1: only do to us what we allow.
Speaker 2: But I love you, so my sister looking like, how
Speaker 2: you gonna just blame her?
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm just saying I do blame you a
Speaker 1: lot because you let a lot of time will pass
Speaker 1: and you ain't even been happy with this part of it.
Speaker 1: You know, we can't keep putting ourselves in these miserable
Speaker 1: situations to save a nigga feelings, Okay, because relationship is
Speaker 1: communication amongst other things. But communication don't hold nothing in.
Speaker 1: That's why half of us be single out here for
Speaker 1: a while, hurt, carrying hate for x'es and shit, because
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