Speaker 1: It's awkward.
Speaker 2: It's Tuesday.
Speaker 1: It's awkward Tuesday phone call. How long should it take
Speaker 1: when you feel like you finally found your true love?
Speaker 1: How far into that relationship should you wait to propose?
Speaker 3: WHOA?
Speaker 1: That's crazy.
Speaker 3: I thought you're going to go with like Elbom or
Speaker 3: like whoa.
Speaker 1: I'm just asking it in general, like it should you
Speaker 1: wait ninety months? Ninety days? That's ninety seconds?
Speaker 3: No, okay, ninety seconds.
Speaker 1: I mean at subway just the other day, I felt
Speaker 1: like I was in love with the way that my
Speaker 1: sandwich artist built me that cold cut combo. And they're
Speaker 1: lucky it only took them eighty seven seconds to make it,
Speaker 1: because I almost got down on one knee right there.
Speaker 1: Three more seconds, you would have had me. You would
Speaker 1: have had me forever. I would have been changed. Man.
Speaker 1: But the reason that I bring it up is because
Speaker 1: one of our listeners says he knew pretty quickly when
Speaker 1: he met the right woman. Tim, welcome to the show.
Speaker 2: Hey, thanks for having me.
Speaker 3: My gosh, Jim, what a setup? Do you feel like
Speaker 3: more nervous? Are better after hearing all of that from.
Speaker 2: Jeffrey, I'll be honest, I feel a little bit better.
Speaker 2: So The situation is, I'm currently engaged. My fiance's name
Speaker 2: is Jessica.
Speaker 1: Already engaged. Okay, you've already asked her the question.
Speaker 4: Well, I thought you're going to do it on our show.
Speaker 1: Thanks a lot, all.
Speaker 3: Right, fine, what do you want from us?
Speaker 1: All the magic has gone. I think what Brook meant
Speaker 1: to say is congratulations on engagement, and it's really exciting.
Speaker 3: How long have you guys been engaged.
Speaker 2: We've been engaged a few weeks.
Speaker 3: Oh, it's so brand new. Wow, god, is it fun
Speaker 3: to start saying fiance?
Speaker 1: You are literally calling us from cloud nine? Right, Oh
Speaker 1: my god, your reception is great, my friend, So clearly
Speaker 1: there's some sort of issue you're dealing with. Kind of
Speaker 1: walk us through what's going on?
Speaker 2: All right? So the bad story is we got engaged.
Speaker 2: What it's felt like a good amount of time for us,
Speaker 2: but other people think it's quick. Okay, I proposed when
Speaker 2: we were only together for four months?
Speaker 3: Four months?
Speaker 1: Okay, oh the question.
Speaker 3: You know, some people are just ready in their life,
Speaker 3: you know, and and like it's a lot about timing.
Speaker 3: And she obviously said yes, so she was ready.
Speaker 1: Is she pregnant or something? Or you really love Jeffrey.
Speaker 3: And it doesn't matter, No, it's just asking.
Speaker 1: You're doing it for love.
Speaker 2: Yeah, literally since our first date. It feels like we've
Speaker 2: known each other for years, but our first date lasted
Speaker 2: like twelve hours. Like we went out for to grab
Speaker 2: a cup of coffee, we had lunch, we had dinner,
Speaker 2: and you know, like it feels strange when we say
Speaker 2: it out loud if we've only noticed other, you know,
Speaker 2: like just over five months at this point. If that, like,
Speaker 2: we have friends who will outright say we're crazy. Our
Speaker 2: family is not at all shy saying that we're rushing this.
Speaker 3: Okay, so they're like not fully on board, they're kind
Speaker 3: of criticizing you a little bit.
Speaker 1: Is that the issue we're dealing with?
Speaker 2: Not quite. So here's my main issue. We were just
Speaker 2: sitting around having dinner the other night, and completely unprompted,
Speaker 2: Jessica mentions, Hey, I read an article and apparently more
Speaker 2: and more young couples are doing prenups now.
Speaker 1: Interesting.
Speaker 3: Yeah, well, especially because people are getting married later. So
Speaker 3: you know, men and women are going into a relationship
Speaker 3: with some stuff established.
Speaker 1: And they're like, you know, responsibility. It's interesting that she
Speaker 1: just brought that up. Randomly out of the blue to you.
Speaker 3: How else are you bringing it up? I mean, who
Speaker 3: else does it come up? It's not like it's definitely
Speaker 3: important to talk about and see where you both stand
Speaker 3: before you get married.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but she didn't go on with that line of thoughts.
Speaker 2: She didn't say should we get a prenup? How do
Speaker 2: you feel about a prenup? She literally said more people
Speaker 2: are doing it and then change the topic. So now
Speaker 2: I'm like, I think she brought it up because she
Speaker 2: thinks I'm going to ask her for one.
Speaker 1: Oh, that you're going to ask her for a prenup.
Speaker 2: I don't want to sound gross about this, but financially,
Speaker 2: I'm like, way more well off than she is. I
Speaker 2: have sell cars at a very high end dealership, and
Speaker 2: she's still very young in her career, and I'm happy
Speaker 2: to be the breadwinner. But you know, I just think
Speaker 2: financially it's responsible, and I think having a prenup it
Speaker 2: would look good for our families to show it's like, yes,
Speaker 2: we're doing this quickly, but we're not reckless about it.
Speaker 3: So were you already thinking of asking her to sign
Speaker 3: a prenup before she randomly brought it up?
Speaker 2: I mean, It's something that I assumed we would talk about.
Speaker 2: But you know, our wedding isn't for another year almost.
Speaker 2: I figured it would be like a few months from
Speaker 2: now at least.
Speaker 3: I mean, that's a wild thing about getting engaged so quickly,
Speaker 3: Like you don't even have time to have those type
Speaker 3: of conversations.
Speaker 1: Or judge, Yeah we're wanting to Yeah, you're just you
Speaker 1: want to get it done.
Speaker 3: So wait, you think that she doesn't want one.
Speaker 2: I'm ninety five percent sure she'd be okay with it.
Speaker 2: She's really progressive and open minded. But that five percent
Speaker 2: of uncertainty of not knowing exactly how sure she is,
Speaker 2: that's why you're here.
Speaker 1: Okay, what made you email us for help?
Speaker 3: Like?
Speaker 1: What are you looking to get out of this phone call? Well?
Speaker 2: I just know that prenups can sometimes create a lot
Speaker 2: of tension in a relationship if you don't do it
Speaker 2: in a tactful way. And I don't think we would
Speaker 2: break up over something like this.
Speaker 1: But you're good, thank you. What's not tactful about asking
Speaker 1: for a prenup over the radio? That's pretty classy if
Speaker 1: you asked me romantic, how did you ask your husband
Speaker 1: for a prenum?
Speaker 3: We don't have a prenup. I never signed a prenup.
Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, that's not what he wants to heart
Speaker 1: to a premum.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, my only girlfriend signed a prenup is
Speaker 3: now divorced. O, what are you doing.
Speaker 1: I'm sure just pretend that you didn't hear that, but
Speaker 1: it's true. It's a lie. Okay, she's definitely gonna say
Speaker 1: yes when we asked her for a prenup.
Speaker 2: I don't know. You guys are ready to be feeling
Speaker 2: a lot worse about You're good.
Speaker 1: Well yeah, and also, Book and her friends come from
Speaker 1: a very conservative group. Your girlfriend very progressive, forward looking.
Speaker 1: I'm sure she's going to be much more open to it.
Speaker 1: We'll come back give you a little bit of advice
Speaker 1: unless you ask your girl for a prenups on the
Speaker 1: radio when you're awkward Tuesday phone calls. It's coming up
Speaker 1: right after this hold on that it's awkward.
Speaker 2: It's Tuesday.
Speaker 1: It's awkward Tuesday phone call. I am really curious to
Speaker 1: know what advice my co hosts have for today's awkward
Speaker 1: Tuesday caller. Oh too, because anytime I've seen this scenario
Speaker 1: played out in movies or on TV, shows like when
Speaker 1: Bugs Bunny brought it up to Babs. It has always
Speaker 1: been very awkward that happened.
Speaker 3: Yeah it did. That's why Bugs never got married.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Babs went storming out of the after that. All
Speaker 1: they feel shocked, little feelings of betrayal, like oh, so
Speaker 1: you're planning to leave me. I'm just thankful that we
Speaker 1: have two experts here, Jose and Brooke, who can help
Speaker 1: our listener Tim today to broach the subject of a
Speaker 1: prenup because he's already engaged to Jessica after they've been
Speaker 1: dating for about four months.
Speaker 3: I like he got that done. But it's more nerve
Speaker 3: racking to ask about the prenup than it is to
Speaker 3: ask about getting married.
Speaker 1: Well, it's so seeds of doubt in relation, for sure.
Speaker 1: I agree. But Brooke, you recently had to cut your
Speaker 1: husband out of his own will, so I don't know
Speaker 1: how you have that conversation with him. Maybe you'll have
Speaker 1: great advice for Tim here.
Speaker 3: What do you think hire a great attorney?
Speaker 2: I'm gidding.
Speaker 3: I think the thing is here is it's the approach
Speaker 3: Tim okay, And the great news is is that she's
Speaker 3: the one that's already brought it up. So that's your
Speaker 3: jumping off point. You're like, hey, remember when you were
Speaker 3: talking about that trend where couples are talking about prenups.
Speaker 1: She broke the ice.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so then it like lowers her defenses. Right, It's
Speaker 3: not gonna come off like it's aggressive.
Speaker 1: I'm thinking of this because you brought it up, accused
Speaker 1: her of it being her id. Yes, what do you
Speaker 1: think about that? Tim?
Speaker 2: I mean that sounds like a natural approach. I guess
Speaker 2: I demand this.
Speaker 1: Okay, there's one nugget of advice, Jose, what do you
Speaker 1: think Regardless of what you do or what you say,
Speaker 1: you have to reassure her throughout the call, saying, look,
Speaker 1: this is just in case we're never gonna need this,
Speaker 1: We're never gonna use this. This is literally a legal
Speaker 1: precaution wild emergencies on Now.
Speaker 3: Doth protest too much? Yeah?
Speaker 1: I think it's smart. It's like every building has an
Speaker 1: emergency fire extinguisher in it.
Speaker 3: If your building manager tells you four times also in
Speaker 3: you an apartment where the fire extinguisher.
Speaker 1: Then I feel extra safe whenever I step into this building, Tim,
Speaker 1: do you feel extra safe with us during this call?
Speaker 1: Where your emergency exit plan?
Speaker 2: I mean I feel as ray as I'm gonna be.
Speaker 2: But you guys, do me a favor if she just
Speaker 2: says yes that it's all cool to you, Please not
Speaker 2: play the awkward sound effect.
Speaker 1: Oh okay, we want to play the awkward noise. We'll
Speaker 1: play a bunch of crickets. Sounds rich crickets, though all
Speaker 1: these crickets have pre nuts. So here we go. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna dial your fiance, Jessica. We're gonna step away and
Speaker 1: let you do this. Man, good luck. We'll jump in
Speaker 1: if you feel like you need a little help. But
Speaker 1: here we go.
Speaker 4: Hello, Hey, babe, Hey, wait.
Speaker 3: A foot number.
Speaker 4: I recognize this number.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, you know I'm at work right now. I
Speaker 2: can't find my cell phone, so I just called you
Speaker 2: from one of the office phones. Did they doing so far?
Speaker 4: It's fine. Did you call the pharmacy and make sure
Speaker 4: that everything was good?
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I haven't done that yet, but i'll do
Speaker 2: it since I'm off the fun with you. So I
Speaker 2: hope I'm not bothering you or interrupting or anything. But
Speaker 2: I was just thinking about something and I wondered if
Speaker 2: you had like a quick second of talk.
Speaker 4: Yeah, no, you know you got You're good go ahead,
Speaker 4: what's up?
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just I wanted to say first of all,
Speaker 2: that you know I feel so safe in our relationships,
Speaker 2: and did you do you feel the same way you
Speaker 2: feel safe? Also?
Speaker 4: Should should I feel safe? I think I should?
Speaker 3: Right?
Speaker 4: Like I feel safe?
Speaker 2: Yeah? No, I mean of course, that's literally my only
Speaker 2: goal in life is to make sure you feel safe
Speaker 2: and happy.
Speaker 4: And yeah, no, I definitely feel safe. Like this is
Speaker 4: a weird call. What's going on?
Speaker 2: Well? On that topic of safety, I remember the other
Speaker 2: night you were talking about that article you read and
Speaker 2: how troubles our age are getting prenups before their wedding. Yeah, well,
Speaker 2: I've been thinking a lot about that since you said it,
Speaker 2: and not that we would ever need it, but just
Speaker 2: in case, I think it might make us safe if
Speaker 2: maybe we got one. Are you serious? I yeah, I
Speaker 2: mean you know, you mentioned it and I thought it
Speaker 2: was a pretty good idea. Like, I just I'll just
Speaker 2: say it. Do you want to get a prenup?
Speaker 4: Uh? Okay, I guess so?
Speaker 2: Oh really?
Speaker 4: I yeah, yeah, I'm actually glad glad you brought it
Speaker 4: up because, like my dad was asking me to bring
Speaker 4: it up with you.
Speaker 2: What wait, why was why was he Why was he
Speaker 2: asking you to bring it up to me.
Speaker 4: I mean, we've been dating for four months and we're engaged,
Speaker 4: so we haven't really crossed all of the boundaries and information. So, uh,
Speaker 4: there's my great grandfather was like an early investor in
Speaker 4: oil trades. It's to my families like tilsa rich, so
Speaker 4: this could be great. Oh what's going on?
Speaker 3: Oh, a couple of financial advisors on the phone.
Speaker 1: Jessica, welcome to our show. You're on with Broken Jeffrey
Speaker 1: in the morning.
Speaker 5: No, no, my name.
Speaker 2: Sorry, Sorry, I tricked you. I needed to ask you
Speaker 2: this question. I've just been stressing out about how to
Speaker 2: do it.
Speaker 1: Bro, you're the one that got tricked itself.
Speaker 3: Yeah, tricking.
Speaker 1: Just so you know, Jessica, this is called an awkward
Speaker 1: Tuesday phone call. We were really expecting a lot more
Speaker 1: pushback on the pre map question.
Speaker 4: Yeah, this is awkward.
Speaker 3: We're so good.
Speaker 2: I mean, Babe, why is this the first time I'm
Speaker 2: hearing about this?
Speaker 3: Oh my god, because you've only been together four months?
Speaker 1: The first thing you say, hi, we're billionaires. Oh my god.
Speaker 4: I really didn't know when the right time to bring
Speaker 4: this up, but my dad was definitely pressuring me yeah, Oh.
Speaker 3: My gosh, well, I mean it's great news Jessica because
Speaker 3: he's so on.
Speaker 1: Board where he was. Does that mean that I wouldn't
Speaker 1: be any more? Don't change your mind? What bro, she's rich?
Speaker 2: What now?
Speaker 3: Because she's rich? So the prenup is only to protect
Speaker 3: you if you're rich.
Speaker 1: Well, it sounds like Jessica's father isn't one hundred percent
Speaker 1: certain that this relationship is going to work out. Oh,
Speaker 1: tue of doubt.
Speaker 4: He's never ever like any of my four months.
Speaker 1: Okay, you're joking.
Speaker 3: I don't think she is.
Speaker 1: Are you kidding? Have you been engaged before, Jessica?
Speaker 3: Which is fine, I mean never married, but yeah, I'm
Speaker 3: engaged and Tim.
Speaker 1: You knew about that, right or is this the first
Speaker 1: time you're finding out that too?
Speaker 2: I'm you might need to hit that awkward button again.
Speaker 1: Talking to do.
Speaker 2: There's a lot we obviously need to talk about. Maybe
Speaker 2: we didn't like hash this all that one. Get home tonight,
Speaker 2: and maybe maybe you could pay for dinner for a change.
Speaker 3: Oh, my tables, you know that's totally fair, my treat.
Speaker 2: Let's talk about it.
Speaker 4: There's a lot of ground to cover.
Speaker 3: It sounds like more than one ex fiance.
Speaker 1: Okay, well, yeah, we we aimed to get her to
Speaker 1: agree to a prenup and we did it, aggressively agreed
Speaker 1: to it. And not only did she agree, she forced
Speaker 1: him to agree back to another person double prenups today.
Speaker 2: Okay, hey, babe, just to be clear, we're never gonna
Speaker 2: need this. I will love you forever. So if you
Speaker 2: don't want to get a prenups after all and go
Speaker 2: through all of it, I'm cool with that.
Speaker 5: Oh what a sweet thing to say to love Israel.
Speaker 3: It's brooking Jeffrey in the morning.