Speaker 1: I give myself a permission to let power move. I
Speaker 1: wanted to be on a record saying that I don't
Speaker 1: think we should be outside working.
Speaker 2: Where is Kate Middleton?
Speaker 1: I know y'all don't care about the royal family, and
Speaker 1: I will be honest neither did.
Speaker 2: I also said what I said saying it's out there.
Speaker 1: If y'all never hear from you, agion, This podcast is
Speaker 1: what did it? Welcome to the Woman Evolve podcast. This
Speaker 1: is your host, Sarah James Roberts. How are you doing?
Speaker 1: What is happening in your world? Today's episode is going
Speaker 1: to be I want to prepare you before you even
Speaker 1: settle down into this podcast, to let you know that
Speaker 1: this week's episode is going to be called the Power
Speaker 1: to be Unhinged. Turn to your neighbor and say the Power.
Speaker 2: To be Unhinged? All right, are you ready?
Speaker 1: Because listen, I've had a very long week and the
Speaker 1: week is not over. It's Monday when I'm recording this.
Speaker 1: Yesterday I preached at the Potter's House Dallas. I preached
Speaker 1: a message called hazardous Conditions, which we'll get into it Saturday.
Speaker 1: I flew to Dallas from Los Angeles because we did Hey,
Speaker 1: you in Los Angeles and we had a phenomenal time
Speaker 1: with the women at One Online. We are still planning
Speaker 1: to host it in Dallas in May, but everyone who
Speaker 1: is in Dallas is currently working for the International Leadership
Speaker 1: Summit and they weren't able to have it in March. So, hey,
Speaker 1: you is supposed to be every other month, let's talk
Speaker 1: about it. Hey, you're supposed to be every other month
Speaker 1: until January, March, May, July, we're off in September up
Speaker 1: in October, the last one for the year. So when
Speaker 1: we couldn't do it in March, we were like, well,
Speaker 1: let's just wait till May. And I was like, no,
Speaker 1: that's going to throw the schedule Off'm cause I because
Speaker 1: once I said it, call it being made, and God's
Speaker 1: m Once I said it, I wanted to stay how
Speaker 1: we said it.
Speaker 2: And so we tried to do it early.
Speaker 1: Oh, we were going to do it March eighth, but
Speaker 1: my mom had knee replacement surgery and so we couldn't
Speaker 1: do it March eighth, and so I was like, can
Speaker 1: we do it the fifteenth For the fifteenth was like
Speaker 1: the week leading into ils Anders, like, there's no way
Speaker 1: we could pull it off. Then the next week is Eastern.
Speaker 1: I was like, well, can we do it in LA?
Speaker 1: Like low key? Though I've been trying to make it
Speaker 1: to LA because I am usually in Dallas on Sundays.
Speaker 1: I'm holding things down with the girls throughout the weekend,
Speaker 1: so I haven't been able to go to Los Angeles
Speaker 1: like the church that birth my ministry, okay, and so
Speaker 1: I love them that some of them probably don't even
Speaker 1: know who I am at this point because I haven't
Speaker 1: been there as much, but I love going there when
Speaker 1: I get you a chance here. So we had to
Speaker 1: hate you in LA on Friday. My girls were on
Speaker 1: spring break, so Monday through Thursday we were in Orange County.
Speaker 2: We did Disney. We stayed at a hotel.
Speaker 1: We're by the pool, and so I was determined to
Speaker 1: not be consumed with the fact that I have to
Speaker 1: hay you on Friday, and I would like to preach
Speaker 1: a message, and I like to sit down and study
Speaker 1: for hours on end. And then I'm also preaching on
Speaker 1: Sunday in Dallas with the travel day in between, and
Speaker 1: I like to sit down and study, like for endless
Speaker 1: amounts of time when I'm studying for a sermon. And
Speaker 1: so we spent the week in at Disney, or like
Speaker 1: four days, four or five days at the hotel in Disney,
Speaker 1: and you know, I wanted to be present with them.
Speaker 1: I did not want them to feel like, yeah, we're
Speaker 1: on spring break, but mom's on her laptop, she's got
Speaker 1: her Bible out. You know, it doesn't feel very fun.
Speaker 1: So I'm in the pool, I'm splash and like I
Speaker 1: went into it knowing that I was just going to
Speaker 1: be a sacrificial lamb of motherhood. Dude, someone knows what
Speaker 1: I'm talking about. Have you ever been the sacrificial lamb
Speaker 1: of motherhood? Like where you have just decided Like most
Speaker 1: of the time, y'all get on my nerves, but I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna let you do it this week. This week,
Speaker 1: I'm going to be the mom I see on TV.
Speaker 1: This week, I'm going to be the mom who the
Speaker 1: Arts and Crafts nailed it homemade me.
Speaker 2: Nara? Is that? Who is that?
Speaker 1: No, it's Sarah because I have decided to be that mom.
Speaker 1: That's how I went into spring break. You want me
Speaker 1: get in the pool with you, Let me change into
Speaker 1: my bathing suit. I'm getting you wanna splash around, You
Speaker 1: wanna run the life you wanna get on my back,
Speaker 1: let's do it. You wanna stay up and cuddle and
Speaker 1: watch movies, I'm your cuddle buddy. Okay, so unhinged, I
Speaker 1: already told you, and so I was very present, and
Speaker 1: let me tell you, God did what only God could do.
Speaker 1: Because I was studying at the end of the service,
Speaker 1: at the end of the at the end of spending
Speaker 1: time with them, I would get on uh my laptop,
Speaker 1: get on my phone, and I would study because that
Speaker 1: was the only time I had available, and so we
Speaker 1: had Hey, you, I preached a message specifically for women.
Speaker 1: It's called on the front Lines. It was it was powerful.
Speaker 1: I felt like it was powerful. You should watch it
Speaker 1: check it out. And then Sunday I preached hazardous Conditions
Speaker 1: and I thought that that was a powerful sermon as well,
Speaker 1: and I felt so I had to go onto My
Speaker 1: feelings will. I went onto My feelings will cause I
Speaker 1: was talking about what is this I'm feeling?
Speaker 2: I've never this? I turned it down.
Speaker 1: Okay, what is this I'm feeling? It does I haven't
Speaker 1: always felt this way? What is this feeling? And so
Speaker 1: I went then that's a nineteenth ninders.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: So I went onto my feelings well. And it started
Speaker 1: off with happy and I was like, I do feel happy.
Speaker 1: And then the second tier was like proud.
Speaker 2: I don't think. I think I feel a little proud.
Speaker 1: But I be careful about feeling proud and stuff that
Speaker 1: God really empowered me to do, because like, I don't
Speaker 1: want to take anything credit that only God could do.
Speaker 1: And then I went out and it was triumphant. Oh,
Speaker 1: holy ghosts, because you know what happened after that. Second
Speaker 1: Corinthians was brought to my mind. Second Corinthians two, verse fourteen.
Speaker 1: I feel it right now. It says, now, thanks be
Speaker 1: unto God, who always leads us in triumph in Christ
Speaker 1: and through us diffuses the fragrance of His knowledge. And
Speaker 1: every praise in every place let me. I said praise
Speaker 1: because it praise was in my spirit, because I felt triumphant,
Speaker 1: because I was able to release the fragrance of who
Speaker 1: Jesus is, not just when I preached, but when I
Speaker 1: was with my kids too. I got to show them
Speaker 1: the love of God through me. I got to show
Speaker 1: them the patience of God, the joy of God. I
Speaker 1: was able to release the fragrance of who God is
Speaker 1: for not just through the sermons, for Hey You, or
Speaker 1: for the Potters House Dallas and those who watch online,
Speaker 1: but also just in my role as a mother, like
Speaker 1: I wanted them to really have a good spring break.
Speaker 1: I wanted them to experience joy, and that scripture stood
Speaker 1: out in my mind. And so yeah, this episode, though,
Speaker 1: is unhinged because I was present with the kids, studied
Speaker 1: for Hey You, preached, Hey You, flew to Dallas, preached
Speaker 1: in Dallas, collapsed, me and my booth, celebrated our tenured
Speaker 1: date adversary, and then Monday came around and was like, boo,
Speaker 1: you got a podcast on Wednesday. Triumph that And I
Speaker 1: don't have a plan for it, but I do. You
Speaker 1: have some unhinged things that I want to say to you.
Speaker 1: So we're gonna call it the Power to be Unhinged.
Speaker 1: But can we talk for a minute. You all please
Speaker 1: go pre order Power Moves, ignite your confidence and become
Speaker 1: a force. I am so proud of this book. I
Speaker 1: didn't interview today, That's why I have on makeup. But
Speaker 1: I did an interview today about the book and the
Speaker 1: person had actually read the book. Sometimes when you do interviews,
Speaker 1: people are doing so many different interviews with so many
Speaker 1: different people that they haven't actually read the book yet.
Speaker 1: But this person had actually read the book, and as
Speaker 1: a result of them reading the book, we had a
Speaker 1: great conversation.
Speaker 2: She got it.
Speaker 1: So when you hear power Moves, you know, most people
Speaker 1: are thinking about like businesses that make like blockbuster deals,
Speaker 1: or someone who did something so strategic like I'm thinking
Speaker 1: about Monique Rodrigrez, who we're going to have on the podcast,
Speaker 1: who sold my yel Organics and a power move deal.
Speaker 1: So people who are making these big power move deals.
Speaker 1: And to be honest, I think most people are like one,
Speaker 1: I'm not in a position to make power moves, or
Speaker 1: two even if I was, I'm already tired making my
Speaker 1: life move, so I can't make power move and my
Speaker 1: life move. I got you because Power Moves is not
Speaker 1: just about doing things in the earth that feel big
Speaker 1: and important. Power moves is about allowing power to move
Speaker 1: through you. And this week I was so happy because
Speaker 1: I saw power move and my expression of motherhood and
Speaker 1: then move again and my expression of just speaking to women,
Speaker 1: and then move again as we made it through the
Speaker 1: airport with a flight delay, and power was patience in
Speaker 1: that moment and stillness and trust in God that I
Speaker 1: wouldn't be delayed that I would be able to preach
Speaker 1: the message God gave me. And then I saw power
Speaker 1: move on Sunday and then just my anniversary. So power moves,
Speaker 1: and being sensitive and attune to the moments where power
Speaker 1: is moving so that you can move when power moves.
Speaker 1: I slept for an hour after church. I wanted to
Speaker 1: see my mom. I want to say goodbye to someone
Speaker 1: who is transitioning out of a role. And I slept
Speaker 1: for an hour, and then my husband came home. He
Speaker 1: surprised me. He's supposed to be out of town, so
Speaker 1: he surprises me with the date. And I was so excited.
Speaker 1: And he knew I was tired, so it wasn't like
Speaker 1: I had to pretend like I wasn't tired. He knew
Speaker 1: that I was tired. But even having the acknowledgment of like,
Speaker 1: I'm tired, but I want to do this anyway, there
Speaker 1: used to be times where I would go and be
Speaker 1: resentful or I would not go and then be ashamed
Speaker 1: that he went out of his way to do something
Speaker 1: and I turned it down. But we were able to
Speaker 1: strike this balance of you know, she's tired, but she's
Speaker 1: also excited because it's our ten year date aniversary, and
Speaker 1: so there are no rules. Like I picked up the
Speaker 1: phone because I needed to send something to one of
Speaker 1: our team members in the middle of dinner, and I
Speaker 1: was like, I'm gonna put the phone down because I know,
Speaker 1: you know, we're on a date and I don't want
Speaker 1: to be the girl who's on the phone on the date.
Speaker 1: And he's like, there are no rules, there are no rules,
Speaker 1: just be free. So I want you guys to get
Speaker 1: this book so that you can experience an existence that
Speaker 1: does not have expectation and rules, that you would just
Speaker 1: allow yourself to move as power moves in your life.
Speaker 1: This episode, we just gonna kick it all right, I'm
Speaker 1: a mind your business still. I have a question from
Speaker 1: someone that was sent in and it's unhinged, so it
Speaker 1: goes with the theme of the podcast. And when I
Speaker 1: say unhinged, I mean it's unhinged. So let's hear it.
Speaker 3: Hey, Sarah, my name is Bree, and my question for
Speaker 3: you is how did you find sisters to match your fly.
Speaker 2: And fresh faith?
Speaker 3: Meaning that you're always super fly, your perspective is fresh,
Speaker 3: but you are of the faith. I just feel like
Speaker 3: I'm a little puzzle right now because the state of
Speaker 3: my friendships are rocky. I feel like I'm always reaching
Speaker 3: out to certain people for those connections, or I'm avoiding
Speaker 3: other friends because I'm in a space where I desire committed, healthy,
Speaker 3: reciprocal spaces.
Speaker 2: But I am not one for the things.
Speaker 3: That pull me away from God, well not too far
Speaker 3: at least.
Speaker 2: And let me explain. This is what I mean.
Speaker 3: If we go out and y'all drinking, y'all drinking. But
Speaker 3: if we go out and we twerking, we twerking. So
Speaker 3: I guess I'm kind of looking for friends who want
Speaker 3: to pray and fast and read the Bible and dig
Speaker 3: into the scriptures and uplift each other and encourage each other,
Speaker 3: hold space for each other, get therapy together, but still
Speaker 3: to work. I don't know how to explain it well. Culturally,
Speaker 3: I feel like my ancestors be like, it's okay to twork,
Speaker 3: but make sure you're praying and that you're close to God.
Speaker 3: That's the only advice that I can truly think of,
Speaker 3: And I'm sure other people have some so without like
Speaker 3: losing yourself and striving for perfection. But I'm striving to
Speaker 3: grow in Christ with friends who are also trying to
Speaker 3: grow in Christ because I find that many people are
Speaker 3: either or like they're all the way in the world
Speaker 3: or something. Okay, thank you for listening.
Speaker 1: Ran. Didn I tell you that this episode was on here?
Speaker 1: Just like someone is literally probably wondering, like, how is
Speaker 1: Sarah going to answer this question? And you've never seen
Speaker 1: someone beat around the bush the way I'm about to
Speaker 1: beat around the bush, like Mike Tyson couldn't beat around
Speaker 1: this bush the way I'm about to be around this bush.
Speaker 1: Because I want to tell you what I hear her saying.
Speaker 1: I know what she said, but what I hear her
Speaker 1: saying is how do I have an authentic faith that
Speaker 1: doesn't have superiority, judgment or the spirit of religion connected
Speaker 1: to it? Is it possible? I want to say foundationally
Speaker 1: that I do not believe that twerking and the forms
Speaker 1: that I have seen it is outdoor behavior.
Speaker 2: Oh God, I know, logging off.
Speaker 1: Logging off, you know, let me go deeper before you judge,
Speaker 1: you know, for me, the way that my life now,
Speaker 1: I want to tell you perspective. My worldview grew up
Speaker 1: during purity culture hadakuated at fourteen. Respectability politics steeped in
Speaker 1: them Okay, so take this with the grain of salt
Speaker 1: if you'd like. But I just want to offer and
Speaker 1: my husband definitely not in that shake that tale territory
Speaker 1: publicly heavy on the publicly. I think that there is
Speaker 1: something to be said about giving a woman the freedom
Speaker 1: to experience and express the movement of her body and
Speaker 1: the context of her marriage or in the context of
Speaker 1: her mirror. Okay, because I'm probably failing at this, because
Speaker 1: at the end of the day, I think it is
Speaker 1: important that a woman be able to express the full
Speaker 1: dimensions of what it means to be a woman. And
Speaker 1: I will tell you, as a woman who has had
Speaker 1: promiscuity in her past, that I think it is also
Speaker 1: irresponsible to fall into the philosophy that, oh gosh, am
Speaker 1: I and I've already said it. I think it is
Speaker 1: dangerous to subscribe to a philosophy that a woman can
Speaker 1: only I think a woman.
Speaker 2: I think a woman.
Speaker 1: I think a woman should be able to know her
Speaker 1: body well enough to understand the effect and power that
Speaker 1: it has on other people in the world, to be
Speaker 1: a good steward of those effects and powers, to recognize
Speaker 1: that she is more than her body, and to also
Speaker 1: not give over the responsibility of pleasure enjoyment to whoever
Speaker 1: her partner is. And so I think in order to
Speaker 1: get to that place in a healthy way, that it
Speaker 1: requires a perspective on the fullness of who you are
Speaker 1: outside of your body. I will say, even culturally as
Speaker 1: a black woman, and somebody may be wondering, like, what
Speaker 1: did you mean a black woman have.
Speaker 2: To do with this?
Speaker 1: The reality that the black body has been used for labor,
Speaker 1: for entertainment, for pleasure, whether that pleasure was sexual or leisure.
Speaker 1: That systemically in America, that it can be very difficult
Speaker 1: to separate our worth and value outside of the outside
Speaker 1: of the nature of what our bodies can do, which
Speaker 1: is why I believe we see a lot of entertainers,
Speaker 1: Oh gosh, this is I don't even should I I'm
Speaker 1: in I'm open for correction. I have a limited perspective whatever,
Speaker 1: but I'm saying this especially as a I see now
Speaker 1: as a grown woman, how I grew up listening to R.
Speaker 2: Kelly's music.
Speaker 1: I wanted nothing more than to act out the lyrics
Speaker 1: of those songs, and the music today has very similar
Speaker 1: themes and connotations. And when I turn on certain music,
Speaker 1: I just don't certain when I turn on music from
Speaker 1: artists that are of another ethnicity. You know, I don't
Speaker 1: see it being as sexualized, bodies being as sexualized as
Speaker 1: I do in some of the music and entertainment that
Speaker 1: we come to expect from some of our faves, like
Speaker 1: and they in Saves Present, you know, parties included, Like
Speaker 1: I understand, you know, the beats and music and how
Speaker 1: we got there. But I do think that as I
Speaker 1: have grown and deepened in my relationship with God, imagine
Speaker 1: never answering the question. As I've grown in my relationship
Speaker 1: with God, I've come to see myself outside of the
Speaker 1: worth of my body, whether it's from purity or from
Speaker 1: being exploited, and to really see myself as a whole
Speaker 1: person and as a result from me, you know, I
Speaker 1: try to be a good steward of my body by
Speaker 1: the way that I try to protect it and the
Speaker 1: way that I will allow it to be viewed and
Speaker 1: taken in from outside Atlantis. So I will say, in
Speaker 1: all transparency, I don't necessarily know that there's going to
Speaker 1: be how what's the best way for you to find
Speaker 1: the torch and friends? The friends who if we outside talking,
Speaker 1: we outside working, but if we praying, we also praying.
Speaker 1: I wanted to be on a record saying that I
Speaker 1: don't think we should be outside tworking.
Speaker 2: I don't unless it's your shoulders do it had to end?
Speaker 1: I will also say that when I hear tworking, I
Speaker 1: hear popped over down?
Speaker 2: You know what I mean?
Speaker 1: Are other things? Are there other things that are do
Speaker 1: fingers to work? Correct me?
Speaker 2: Whoever? Unsubscribed? I understand.
Speaker 1: So I want to be on record saying that, and
Speaker 1: then I want to answer what I think you're saying
Speaker 1: is how do I have these friendships that feel real.
Speaker 2: And down to earth.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you, I believe that woman evolved events
Speaker 1: are probably gonna give you the girls outside tworking and
Speaker 1: the girls praying. I believe that they're going to be
Speaker 1: both of them. You know what I mean, Like, I
Speaker 1: think the girls are going to be there. I think
Speaker 1: you have the girls who ain never talked today in
Speaker 1: their life, don't believe in twarking, and you have the
Speaker 1: girls who work at home and closet. I believe that
Speaker 1: they gonna all become or at womanivolve events. I think
Speaker 1: part of the reason why womanivolve events feel so connected
Speaker 1: is because there is a similar spirit amongst the women
Speaker 1: in the room. Additionally, I will say that you may
Speaker 1: have to really determine what kind of person do I
Speaker 1: want to be, and will I be able to find
Speaker 1: connecting points for every part of who I am? Or
Speaker 1: will I have to categorize my friendships to fit certain
Speaker 1: parts of who I am? In other words, you may
Speaker 1: find friends that are just your faith friends. They challenge
Speaker 1: you in the word, They hold you accountable to your prayer.
Speaker 1: You know, they know scripture. You can call them in
Speaker 1: a hard time. You guys listen to the same sermons.
Speaker 1: And maybe that person too, is a person who's like, Hey,
Speaker 1: did you see the new TikTok dance? We should have
Speaker 1: a pajama party and see if we can figure this
Speaker 1: dance out. Even if dance that a little pop in
Speaker 1: it because it's just us and you know, we kicking
Speaker 1: it and we just trying to see what's what's happening.
Speaker 2: We practice it. But there's a.
Speaker 1: Possibility that that's a completely different friend. That may be
Speaker 1: a work friend. That may be you may be your
Speaker 1: only your only to work buddy in this season. That's possible,
Speaker 1: But be open to the possibilities that you are multifaceted,
Speaker 1: and that not everyone will be able to live in
Speaker 1: every facet of who you are. But that doesn't mean
Speaker 1: that you cannot have connection with certain people for certain
Speaker 1: parts of who you are. And so and then when
Speaker 1: you demanded the picture and you see all of those
Speaker 1: different connection points, and maybe it did not come from
Speaker 1: one person, but rather multiple people came together to fulfill
Speaker 1: needs socially, spiritually, you know, professionally that were important to you.
Speaker 1: If y'all cancel me over this, I said it the
Speaker 1: best way I knew to say it, and I'm open
Speaker 1: to being wrong and too from my perspective being you know, expanded,
Speaker 1: But I also said what I said, and it's out
Speaker 1: there on a podcast now, so I'll just log off
Speaker 1: if it becomes a thing. If y'all never hear from
Speaker 1: me again, this podcast is what.
Speaker 2: Did it evolved? I was having a conversation with who
Speaker 2: was I talking to? Oh?
Speaker 1: It was a part of the interview. And interviews can
Speaker 1: be very I guess, fast paced because the person is
Speaker 1: like looking at you, but they're also looking at the
Speaker 1: monitor to see the next question, to check out the time,
Speaker 1: so it's not as connected of a conversation. Sometimes even
Speaker 1: though this interview was absolutely great, but we stumbled onto
Speaker 1: something that I felt like was worthy of expansion, and
Speaker 1: so I'm gonna talk my thoughts out with you guys
Speaker 1: for a little bit. So we started talking about someone
Speaker 1: who's always there for others people and they're wondering, like,
Speaker 1: how do I get to a space where you know,
Speaker 1: people don't only rely on me anymore, or people see
Speaker 1: that I'm a person as well. And I was fascinated
Speaker 1: by this because this is a question I hear all
Speaker 1: of the time from people who are like, I'm the
Speaker 1: strong friend. I don't want to be the strong friend.
Speaker 1: And part of the reason why we have strong friends
Speaker 1: who don't always want to be the strong friend is
Speaker 1: that people have gotten into a rhythm of calling them
Speaker 1: when they need them, and that person that has gotten
Speaker 1: into the rhythm of delivering. And maybe they at the
Speaker 1: time they were able to deliver on those needs. And
Speaker 1: as time has changed, as their life has changed, their
Speaker 1: energy has changed, their values have changed, they're no longer
Speaker 1: able to continue delivering on that level. Or what could
Speaker 1: be even more honest is that they were never able
Speaker 1: to deliver, but they stretched themselves and either way, no
Speaker 1: matter how they got there. They're at a stage now
Speaker 1: where they want to change the way that they I've
Speaker 1: been showing up and she asks me what my response
Speaker 1: to those people would be. And my response to those
Speaker 1: people is, if you are in a position or you
Speaker 1: have become, we'll use the restaurant industry. I used to
Speaker 1: waitress at a strip club. So there's my take on
Speaker 1: outside working. I've seen them all. I used to waitress
Speaker 1: at this strip club. And imagine this. If you're the
Speaker 1: strong friend, Imagine that you're working in the restaurant industry
Speaker 1: and you're constantly checking on different tables. You need water, Okay,
Speaker 1: I'll go get your water. You need you know, food,
Speaker 1: I'll go get your food. Oh your order was wrong. Okay,
Speaker 1: I'll go fix your order, but instead of food items. Hey,
Speaker 1: you need some money, Okay, here, I'll give you the money.
Speaker 2: You need.
Speaker 1: Some emotional support, Okay, I'll be your emotional support.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: Oh something went wrong with the kids. Okay, here, let
Speaker 1: me call your kids and I'll fix it. Oh okay,
Speaker 1: you're tired, Okay, why don't I pick this up. You're
Speaker 1: going from person to person seeing exactly what they need,
Speaker 1: and sometimes you can sometimes you're overwhelmed, but that's your rhythm.
Speaker 1: If this were actually someone who was in the restaurant industry,
Speaker 1: just because they're serving people doesn't mean that they don't
Speaker 1: get hungry. At some point, their shift would have to end,
Speaker 1: They would have to sit down, and they would have
Speaker 1: to ask themselves, what do I want to eat? What's
Speaker 1: available for me to eat? What do I want to drink?
Speaker 1: As easy as this is to understand in the restaurant industry,
Speaker 1: it's a little more challenging for us to comprehend when
Speaker 1: it comes to our emotional health and wealth and how
Speaker 1: we are in relationship with other people. You cannot constantly
Speaker 1: wait on all of the tables and peoples and people
Speaker 1: in your life without taking the opportunity to say, you
Speaker 1: know what, I'm hungry too, and so I need you
Speaker 1: all who are people pleasers who are need fillers to
Speaker 1: begin and to ask yourself what do I need, even
Speaker 1: if you're doing it while busting tables. Right. There were
Speaker 1: times when I would be waitressing and I would be like, oh,
Speaker 1: when I get off, I'm gonna have I need some
Speaker 1: of that stick. When I get off, I'm gonna do
Speaker 1: this when I get off. I want you to include
Speaker 1: as a part of your rhythm a plan for what
Speaker 1: you need. Man, I wish somebody would help me with
Speaker 1: my kids. Man, I wish that I could get rest.
Speaker 1: Because we get so caught up and being the strong
Speaker 1: friend and taking care of everyone else's need that we
Speaker 1: don't even ask ourselves what we need. Maybe you're shifting
Speaker 1: and ending yet maybe there's no capacity in the world
Speaker 1: for you to have it right now. But get in
Speaker 1: the practice of knowing at the tip of your tongue.
Speaker 2: What it is that you need.
Speaker 1: I need a break, I need rest, I need a vacation,
Speaker 1: I need a good cry. You know what I mean, Like,
Speaker 1: what is it that you need? And be willing to
Speaker 1: rap embrace, be willing to embrace the reality that you
Speaker 1: always have a need. So if I take a minute
Speaker 1: right now, you take a minute with me, cause we
Speaker 1: in it together. If I take a minute right now
Speaker 1: and I tell myself, oh, and I ask for my
Speaker 1: needs to rise to the surface, I can tell you
Speaker 1: that right now I need rest. I'm tired. I'll be honest,
Speaker 1: I'm tired, And right now I'll tell you I don't
Speaker 1: have time to rest. I gotta go pick up my kids.
Speaker 1: In five minutes. This podcast is gone too long. I
Speaker 1: gotta go pick up my kids, but I am tired.
Speaker 1: I'd like to sleep, and I'm the only one who
Speaker 1: can pick them up. So I'm not even gonna talk
Speaker 1: myself out of it. But I'm acknowledging that it is
Speaker 1: in need I need. I can't see past rest. And
Speaker 1: maybe that's because the need is so big that I
Speaker 1: can't see past it. So because I'm in a position
Speaker 1: right now where I can't necessarily get rest in the
Speaker 1: way that I need it, God, I need you to
Speaker 1: give me rest and my spirit. To let my spirit
Speaker 1: not be anxious or worried or doubtful. Holy Spirit, allow
Speaker 1: me to have rest in my spirit, and also give
Speaker 1: me strength physical strength to carry out what's left. And
Speaker 1: so what I know now because I know I need rest,
Speaker 1: because I know I need strength. If someone calls me
Speaker 1: and they asks me to do something, I'm going to
Speaker 1: have to exercise a boundary because I know I need rest,
Speaker 1: that I'm running on fumes. Acknowledging your need, even when
Speaker 1: it cannot be immediately fulfilled, is not tormenting yourself with
Speaker 1: a reality that cannot be cured or changed. It is
Speaker 1: allowing yourself to better plan for the future. It's allowing
Speaker 1: yourself to know more quickly what you need the next
Speaker 1: time someone says, is there anything I can do for you?
Speaker 1: It is allowing yourself to not just be the strong friend,
Speaker 1: but the friend who also gets hungry as well. And
Speaker 1: what's beautiful is when my need is met, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: be up there, pump up my chest doing what needs
Speaker 1: to be done, because that's just the kind of girl
Speaker 1: that I am. I can be strong again, but right
Speaker 1: now I need to be empty. And that is power moves.
Speaker 1: That is power moves. That is how power moves. The
Speaker 1: most powerful thing that I can give myself today is
Speaker 1: the acknowledgement of my need. The most powerful thing that
Speaker 1: I can give myself today is the acknowledgement of my
Speaker 1: need for strength and tomorrow. The most powerful thing that
Speaker 1: I can do might be sharing the gospel. It might
Speaker 1: be showing up as a sister. I give myself permission
Speaker 1: to let power move. Can you say that with me?
Speaker 1: You're already repeating after me about this podcast being an
Speaker 1: unhinged I give myself permission to let power move. I'm
Speaker 1: so excited to serve y'all with this, but please preorder
Speaker 1: this book. Just do me a solid, just like do
Speaker 1: me a solid because you love me. If you love me,
Speaker 1: or you like me, or you stumbled across this podcast,
Speaker 1: take a step of faith to dive into this book.
Speaker 2: I believe that it's going to help you.
Speaker 1: I am contractually obligated to make sure that this podcast
Speaker 1: is at least thirty minutes long, or to not do
Speaker 1: one and allow it to be picked up on the
Speaker 1: other end. But I just feel like coming on here
Speaker 1: running my mouth. So I hope that I haven't stressed
Speaker 1: your nerves out too bad. You know what I should
Speaker 1: have made y'all? Okay, last thing and then I'm late.
Speaker 1: I gotta go pick up my kids. Where is Kate Middleton?
Speaker 1: I know y'all don't care about the royal family, and
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be honest, neither did I. But I something
Speaker 1: came up on my for you page and I'm in
Speaker 1: there like swim Where now?
Speaker 2: Baby?
Speaker 1: They didn't photoshop these photos. They didn't give it this
Speaker 1: picture in the car, and I don't care. I got
Speaker 1: other things to worry about, y'all not the only mature
Speaker 1: people on the phone call. I have other things to
Speaker 1: worry about as well, but also I don't have anything
Speaker 1: else to worry about. I don't, I'm I'm this is
Speaker 1: adulting these days. I am both fully consumed with a
Speaker 1: to do list I cannot accomplish, and also I have
Speaker 1: nothing to do. If you don't understand that, that's not
Speaker 1: on me to break down, that is on you to
Speaker 1: take to the Lord in prayer.
Speaker 2: So rescue, rescue, Kate, period. I love you. We'll see
Speaker 2: how long this episode was.
Speaker 1: If it was thirty minutes, I can't even because I
Speaker 1: had to break it up. So I'm gonna say a prayer.
Speaker 1: If it's not thirty minutes, we're going to tack on
Speaker 1: something to the end of this, and it's gonna be
Speaker 1: as it'll be three minutes if it ain't, because I
Speaker 1: gotta be close. Okay, here we go. Oh God, thank
Speaker 1: you the power to be unhinged, the power to not
Speaker 1: hold it all together or to hang on, but to
Speaker 1: let everything go and see how we flow. It's not
Speaker 1: something that we can do all of the time, cause
Speaker 1: let's be for real, we got responsibilities, we have things
Speaker 1: we need to do, and we need to be very
Speaker 1: well hinged to show up in our life. But thank
Speaker 1: you God for the sweet moments where we can just
Speaker 1: exhale and let it all out and let it all go,
Speaker 1: knowing that we're gonna have to in hell again. And
Speaker 1: when we in hell, God, I pray that you would
Speaker 1: give us strength, wisdom, insight, peace, courage, love. Sending special
Speaker 1: love to everyone listening. God, May they feel your presence,
Speaker 1: May they know you. Oh my goodness, I wish y'all
Speaker 1: could remember. Help me to remember, Holy Spirit, I may
Speaker 1: remember it later. I pray, though, God, that as this
Speaker 1: podcast comes to the end, that they feel a little
Speaker 1: less alone, a lot more known and almost grown. What
Speaker 1: is it?
Speaker 2: What is it? Somebody helped me? I gotta write it down,
Speaker 2: all right? I love you.
Speaker 1: I will see you next week with Top Tier. Tomorrow's
Speaker 1: Tuesday I'm Batch recording podcast. We have amazing guests, Doctor
Speaker 1: Nita Phillips, tammeron Hall like I'm gonna be back in
Speaker 1: my bag, but right now I am in my sack
Speaker 1: and that's all right.