Speaker 1: All right, Steve, this is from Amy and Harlem. Amy says,
Speaker 1: I'm in love with a man that makes less money
Speaker 1: than I do. We've been together for almost two years
Speaker 1: and he wants to move into my home and sell
Speaker 1: his house. But I recently found out his house belongs
Speaker 1: to his brother, so he won't get any money from
Speaker 1: the sale of the house. He also pays child support.
Speaker 1: I don't mind being the breadwinner or helping him out
Speaker 1: financially at times, but I need to know if he
Speaker 1: is truly in love or if he is using me
Speaker 1: as a lifeline. How can I tell the difference?
Speaker 2: Well, if you feel like you're being used as a lifeline,
Speaker 2: it's because that's what's happening.
Speaker 3: Now. Can he be in love with you because you're
Speaker 3: his lifeline? Of course?
Speaker 2: But there are other things too. Number one, how does
Speaker 2: he treat you? Number two? How does he make you feel?
Speaker 2: Number three? Do you feel safe and secure with him?
Speaker 2: Ask yourself those very very basic questions. How does he
Speaker 2: make you feel? And do you feel safe and secure
Speaker 2: with him? And outside of money, what does he have
Speaker 2: to offer you? What is the benefit if money weren't involved?
Speaker 3: Here? Tell me what's the upside of dating him.
Speaker 2: Okay, you should be able to fill out that form
Speaker 2: that I just gave it. If you can't put nothing
Speaker 2: in them blocks, it's because it ain't nothing.
Speaker 1: Now, wow, and he's gonna sell a house that he
Speaker 1: doesn't even own.
Speaker 3: Well, first of all, how you gonna sell a house?
Speaker 2: You know?
Speaker 3: That's that's that's gibber jabber? What what?
Speaker 1: What?
Speaker 3: What gibber jabber? Anybody? What look glad of that?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm gonna sell my brother's house out of own.
Speaker 2: I ain't gonna make no money off up what I'm
Speaker 2: gonna do, no more move here with you. Now.
Speaker 3: What didn't happen is his brother said he's selling the
Speaker 3: house and he ain't gonna have nowhere to stay.
Speaker 1: Oh okay, come on.
Speaker 2: Yeah, he's selling his brother's house. His brother came and said,
Speaker 2: hey man, I'm gonna sell this house. You need to
Speaker 2: start looking for somewhere because if his sales might be
Speaker 2: a quick sale. We're in Harlem, you know, those properties
Speaker 2: and skyrocketing.
Speaker 1: Now, yeah, brug.
Speaker 3: Gonna make a nice little profit. He gonna be out.
Speaker 1: So now he needs some place to stay. So he's
Speaker 1: looking at her.
Speaker 3: They gonna move in with you? Uh huh?
Speaker 1: He doesn't even own the house, so and he pays
Speaker 1: child support.
Speaker 3: So okay, yeah, that's good.
Speaker 1: So that's how she can tell the difference, which was
Speaker 1: what her question.
Speaker 2: Was, Well, just very simple. How does he make you feel?
Speaker 2: Do you feel safe and secure? What does he do
Speaker 2: for you outside of money? And just answer to those questions.
Speaker 2: It's very simple. Okay, all right, obviously she don't need
Speaker 2: his money.
Speaker 3: If you don't need his money, what is it that
Speaker 3: you get.
Speaker 2: From him besides him coming over, you know, sleeping with you?
Speaker 1: And they've been together almost two years.
Speaker 3: I'll stay with somebody only wait wait what I was
Speaker 3: just saying some jabber?
Speaker 1: All right, listen, we have time for another one. Steve.
Speaker 1: This is from Keana and Edistoe Island. Uh. My husband
Speaker 1: and I got really drunk on vacation and he asked
Speaker 1: me if he could have a threesome. I said no,
Speaker 1: and I meant no. It came up the other day
Speaker 1: and he said I was drunk and I don't remember that.
Speaker 1: I told him yes. We got into an argument and
Speaker 1: he said he's doing it with or without me? Was
Speaker 1: he bluffing or was he putting me out?
Speaker 3: I asked you, and you said yes. She was drunk.
Speaker 3: I did not say yes. I said no, you said yes.
Speaker 2: I'm doing it with you're without you.
Speaker 3: This is something he's already committed to.
Speaker 1: That's right. I've been wanting to do.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so he in it. Yeah. I need to quit
Speaker 3: drinking too, because they don't remember. Somebody need to be hey, y'all.
Speaker 2: Either y'all need to quit drinking or start recording when
Speaker 2: y'all start drinking.
Speaker 1: Both of those survival solutions. Steve all right, coming up
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