Speaker 1: It's awkward.
Speaker 2: It's Tuesday.
Speaker 1: It's awkward Tuesday phone call. How long should a normal
Speaker 1: couple go in their relationship before they have their first
Speaker 1: really big fight? What was it for you?
Speaker 3: Like?
Speaker 1: Six minutes?
Speaker 4: I actually don't remember our first fight. Yeah, I'm sure
Speaker 4: is that we're setting stupid though.
Speaker 1: A lot of times you're.
Speaker 5: Going so well the first month or two that you're like, oh,
Speaker 5: we haven't fought yet, and then all of a sudden
Speaker 5: you start fighting a lot.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean it's hard to know it. I guess
Speaker 1: it depends on the couple. But one of our listeners, Sammy,
Speaker 1: wants to have a difficult conversation with her boyfriend, and
Speaker 1: she's worried that this could lead to their first really
Speaker 1: big fight together.
Speaker 4: She's anticipating a fight, okay, she's hoping that she doesn't
Speaker 4: get into one.
Speaker 1: That's why she wants some advice. So, Sammy, are you
Speaker 1: sure you emailed the right radio station about this?
Speaker 2: I think?
Speaker 3: So?
Speaker 1: Okay, Well tell us about your boyfriend and the situation
Speaker 1: you got going on.
Speaker 2: Yeah. So I've been dating this guy, Cody. We were
Speaker 2: dating for three months and my old apartment lease ended
Speaker 2: and my roommate was going to move out, and so
Speaker 2: I couldn't afford the place on my own.
Speaker 4: Uh huh, okay, one of those romantic we moved in
Speaker 4: together stories.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, so I was skeptical because we you know,
Speaker 2: three months, like, but right then it really did seem
Speaker 2: like the best option financially. So I moved in and
Speaker 2: living together for three months now.
Speaker 4: And how's that? Because you really get to know somebody
Speaker 4: when you live with them, like way different.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, okay, so I really really like him. He's
Speaker 2: a great boyfriend.
Speaker 1: But but.
Speaker 4: And we're not even dropping that. We're not even saying love,
Speaker 4: you're saying light huh.
Speaker 2: Are you it's been six months, like okay anyway.
Speaker 1: Okay, so not quite the.
Speaker 2: No. So it's kind of a smaller space like my
Speaker 2: other place was bigger, and I don't know, it's just
Speaker 2: causing some friction.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you guys are sharing a bedroom too.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's not the problem now, Okay, like.
Speaker 1: You think that he would go sleep on the couch
Speaker 1: or something.
Speaker 4: I don't know. It's just nice to have like two
Speaker 4: bedrooms in an apartment if you're going to live with someone,
Speaker 4: even if you sleep in the same room. It's just
Speaker 4: like I'm just judging how much space, how much on
Speaker 4: top of each other they are her.
Speaker 1: What's causing the friction between you guys, Well.
Speaker 2: It's kind of what she's saying. It's the small space.
Speaker 2: And you know, he's just a typical guy, like little dirty.
Speaker 4: He has a different idea of clean than you do.
Speaker 2: Yeah. I mean, so he's not currently working right now,
Speaker 2: so it's not a his deal. But like he's just
Speaker 2: around a lot going home to someone already home.
Speaker 3: No.
Speaker 4: I get it though, Like you went from having your
Speaker 4: own time, your own in space, and now you get
Speaker 4: none of that.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: And so when I first moved in with him, it
Speaker 2: was like a total dump, like mattress on.
Speaker 4: The floor, yeah, milk crate for the bedstand.
Speaker 1: It's a typical bachelor path.
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah yeah.
Speaker 2: And so like I came in and I liked that
Speaker 2: my stilmy chair, and I put I made it into
Speaker 2: a real apartment of decorations and things and reorganized it.
Speaker 2: Now it's really cute.
Speaker 1: And I separated all the silverware in the drawers into
Speaker 1: like different containers.
Speaker 2: He had silverware, I think he had like a floor.
Speaker 4: So what's what's your specific issue?
Speaker 2: Well, I just I feel like this isn't great for
Speaker 2: our relationship, and we're losing that exciting dating feeling we
Speaker 2: had that I feel like should last a little bit
Speaker 2: longer than this. And I'm just feeling like we're an
Speaker 2: old married couple.
Speaker 5: And yeah, I mean that always happens.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I feel like it usually doesn't happen this fast.
Speaker 2: And it's partly to do with us sharing the shiny space.
Speaker 4: Absolutely, Yeah, you seem absolutely. I mean that's what you
Speaker 4: get when you move in with so unch.
Speaker 1: So what do you look at you? Are you thinking
Speaker 1: that maybe it's time that you get your own place?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think we should live apart again. But here's
Speaker 2: the thing. I really love this apartment. It's a great location,
Speaker 2: it's perfect leat, and I kind of want to stay.
Speaker 4: It was his first he invited you in, and now
Speaker 4: you want to kick him out of the spot.
Speaker 1: Kick him out of his own apartment.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean he's not really pain for it.
Speaker 1: Really.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like I've sort of made it into
Speaker 2: a real place.
Speaker 1: And Okay, so that's what this call is all about.
Speaker 1: You actually want to call your boyfriend and tell him
Speaker 1: I think you should move out to kick him out.
Speaker 2: I just think we should have space away from each other.
Speaker 2: And I'm not sure how to ask him to do
Speaker 2: this without causing a big fight.
Speaker 4: I mean, this could honestly, like it's a big question.
Speaker 4: It could end your relationship. I mean, do you have
Speaker 4: an idea for him because he's not working, Like, where
Speaker 4: is he going to go?
Speaker 2: Well, so recently one of his buddies that he needed
Speaker 2: a roommate. Oh and so I think that would be
Speaker 2: a good alternative.
Speaker 1: And if that guy doesn't want to take him, there's
Speaker 1: always his car. I'm sure.
Speaker 5: I just I'm scared because you always see people moving in.
Speaker 5: I've never seen people move out unless they were breaking up.
Speaker 2: Well, I don't want to break up with him. I
Speaker 2: just I think this would be better for me and
Speaker 2: better for us to have Tuesday.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, it sounds healthy.
Speaker 5: It's probably not gonna work.
Speaker 1: Yeah, this is going to be definitely an awkward one.
Speaker 1: We're going to play a song, we'll come back, we'll
Speaker 1: give you a little bit of advice, and then we'll
Speaker 1: let you call your boyfriend and tell him you gotta go.
Speaker 5: Yeah, but I'm gonna stay.
Speaker 1: Yeah, all right, we'll do it next. Hold on, it's awkward.
Speaker 2: It's Tuesday.
Speaker 1: It's awkward Tuesday. I'm curious. Has anybody here actually asked
Speaker 1: somebody that they were living with to move out before?
Speaker 1: To move out? Yeah? I know I did it once.
Speaker 1: You did yeah to my parents back when I was nine.
Speaker 1: I was like, this is okay, but it's not really
Speaker 1: working for me. You guys gotta go.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: That did not work out so well for me. I
Speaker 1: had to go live out in the guest house next
Speaker 1: to the tennis courts for a while, and the TV
Speaker 1: in there was only forty two inches So really slummed
Speaker 1: it a long time to not go the way I
Speaker 1: want tennis. All the courts you have, they really were
Speaker 1: It was one of our listeners. Sammy is about to
Speaker 1: call her boyfriend to tell him, I know that you
Speaker 1: asked me to move in, but I think you should
Speaker 1: be the one to move out and we should continue
Speaker 1: dating still. Yeah, so she's hoping to get a little
Speaker 1: bit of advice. Brook, What do you think I mean?
Speaker 4: Have you thought about making this just a breakup call instead?
Speaker 1: Come on, I'm just asking her.
Speaker 2: No, I really like him, I just you know, it's
Speaker 2: too little space.
Speaker 4: Okay, all right, Jose, Hopefully it's something better than consider
Speaker 4: breaking up with him.
Speaker 1: What do you think I was going to say, murdering?
Speaker 1: Oh like that more, no's messy.
Speaker 5: I think that if you frame it to make it
Speaker 5: sound like a great fun opportunity for him, then it'll
Speaker 5: be better. So, like you mentioned, his friend needs a roommate,
Speaker 5: I would say, you know, we're all getting older. This
Speaker 5: could be the last opportunity that you have to live
Speaker 5: with one of your best friends.
Speaker 1: Okay, because once you're married, you're never going to have
Speaker 1: a friend again.
Speaker 4: I think he's saying, speak to his inner child, Yeah
Speaker 4: to the thirteen year old immature boy that it sounds
Speaker 4: like is really close to the surface.
Speaker 2: What do you think, Sammy, Yeah, I think that's a
Speaker 2: good tactic.
Speaker 1: I did good mind, Hey, you earned your paycheck for
Speaker 1: the year work.
Speaker 4: I still worked. Yet I still think mine is not
Speaker 4: a bad option.
Speaker 1: Okay, we'll call breakup option B. I'm going to dial
Speaker 1: his number right now and let you make your awkward
Speaker 1: Tuesday phone call. All right, good luck, we'll be here
Speaker 1: if you need us, we go, Thank you?
Speaker 3: All right? Could you please take me after calls? Please you?
Speaker 2: No? No, please, Dave, it's me, It's me. What see
Speaker 2: I mean?
Speaker 3: Yeah, the numbers the numbers has blocked.
Speaker 2: Oh weird, I don't know.
Speaker 3: Let's yeah, okay, that's up.
Speaker 2: Nothing, Where do your drink?
Speaker 3: I'll just waved up to the bagel bites and I
Speaker 3: am watching Succession?
Speaker 2: Oh again, Yeah, it's good.
Speaker 3: You should watch it with me. It's incredible.
Speaker 2: Well, I'm pretty the hindsight, I don't know, but I uh,
Speaker 2: I sort of need to ask you something.
Speaker 3: Yeah, sure, what's up?
Speaker 2: Okay? Do I like ever get on your nerves?
Speaker 3: I'm sorry, this's a Dirk question.
Speaker 2: No, I'm just wondering.
Speaker 3: Mm no, No, I love kicking with you. It's awesome. No,
Speaker 3: but why why would you ask me?
Speaker 2: Yeah? Yeah, okay, but do you ever wish you had
Speaker 2: more space, like so you could have more privacy or
Speaker 2: have your buddies over or whatever.
Speaker 3: I mean, you go out to work, so I get
Speaker 3: more than enough space there, so it's not a big deal. Yeah,
Speaker 3: let's go on.
Speaker 2: Well, okay, look, first of all, don't get me wrong.
Speaker 2: I still I love you. I love being your girlfriend.
Speaker 2: I love hanging out and having fun and laughing with you,
Speaker 2: like I don't want any of that to change. Okay,
Speaker 2: but but I need a space to myself at least
Speaker 2: right now.
Speaker 3: Oh, okay, are you bringing up with me? No?
Speaker 2: No, no, no, I just think my money situation isn't
Speaker 2: the greatest. And your buddy Chad he was he was
Speaker 2: talking about he needs a roommate and maybe you could
Speaker 2: move them with him and I could make this my
Speaker 2: personal spot.
Speaker 3: Oh wait, what you want to kick me out?
Speaker 2: No? No, I I want you to leave by your
Speaker 2: own choice.
Speaker 3: What? No? No? Are you joking? Like I lived here
Speaker 3: first and then invited you in?
Speaker 1: What?
Speaker 3: What is that happen?
Speaker 2: Okay? At this point, most of the stuff in there
Speaker 2: is mine and I basically remodeled the whole thing. Yes,
Speaker 2: and I like it. Well, you know, it is not
Speaker 2: it is not a big space. It's a really really
Speaker 2: small space. So I just I think it'd be best
Speaker 2: not just for me, but for us.
Speaker 3: But this, okay, this really feels like a break of
Speaker 3: Sammy Not it's not.
Speaker 2: Can you just please consider it? It would mean a
Speaker 2: lot and really help.
Speaker 3: Look, I can't like what all right? How do I
Speaker 3: say this? I I never told you this before, but
Speaker 3: before we met, I got an inheritance from my grandmother
Speaker 3: and it was a good chunk of change, and I
Speaker 3: ended up buying this place and a few other properties.
Speaker 3: What yeah, so you can't really kick me out of
Speaker 3: my own house? O? Lord, Oh my god, what's what
Speaker 3: was that? Yeah?
Speaker 1: That was the sound effect that we played. Because you're
Speaker 1: on the radio right now, Cody.
Speaker 3: Sorry, who are you?
Speaker 4: What the hell is having where we congratulate homeowners?
Speaker 1: You're You're on with Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning,
Speaker 1: that's the show, and we're doing something called an awkward
Speaker 1: Tuesday phone call with you and your girlfriend Sammy.
Speaker 3: Okay, what the hell is going on? Tommy?
Speaker 5: That's what I want to know?
Speaker 3: What?
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I just didn't know how to have this conversation, and.
Speaker 3: So you go to the radio station.
Speaker 4: Well we're helpful sometimes, are you.
Speaker 3: I'm not sure if this is helping. What's what's going on?
Speaker 4: Well?
Speaker 2: Okay, so what do you mean you own the place?
Speaker 3: It's not okay, it's not an apartment unit. It's technically
Speaker 3: a condo. I bought it a while back, so I'm
Speaker 3: still paying a monst of mortgage and I don't like
Speaker 3: five other places as well.
Speaker 4: Oh so you have options, I'm hearing he's rich. So wait,
Speaker 4: why didn't you tell her that before?
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 3: I didn't want her to think I'm some I don't
Speaker 3: know the rich trust on douche novels. So I was like,
Speaker 3: I just wanted to wanted her to like me for me.
Speaker 4: So that's why you've been able to like not work.
Speaker 3: I mean partially. Yeah. Yeah, so like and now she
Speaker 3: wants to kick me out of my own place.
Speaker 1: That's no, that's not what she said. She said she
Speaker 1: wants you to choose to leave on her own core.
Speaker 3: Oh, I see, I see, never mind, I take it back.
Speaker 4: I do think you're concentrating on the wrong thing. Like,
Speaker 4: she definitely wants a relationship with you. I even had
Speaker 4: suggested maybe you guys break up at the beginning, and
Speaker 4: she was very adamant that that is not what she wanted,
Speaker 4: right Sammy.
Speaker 2: Yeah, no, I don't want to break that.
Speaker 1: But she is saying to you that she feels like
Speaker 1: you guys are kind of on top of each other
Speaker 1: in this small place and it might be hurting your relationship.
Speaker 3: A little bit. I mean, I don't deny that, but like,
Speaker 3: at the same time too, I'm looking at this as
Speaker 3: a long term thing, so I figured, why not see
Speaker 3: if we are compatible together in a situation like that, yeah,
Speaker 3: but you.
Speaker 4: Guys have only been together for three months. I mean,
Speaker 4: like when you moved in only three months together, that's
Speaker 4: really quick, really soon.
Speaker 3: Yeah. I agree, that's not conventional and it's it is
Speaker 3: a bit fast. But at the same one two, I
Speaker 3: also really like her. And you know, if you know
Speaker 3: what you like and you go.
Speaker 1: After it, well, she knows what she likes, and it's
Speaker 1: your place and she's going after it right now and
Speaker 1: hopefully you'll leave.
Speaker 3: Okay, let's think about this. This is my place and
Speaker 3: I own it. I can't really move out. She needs
Speaker 3: more space, so I don't know, maybe you could move
Speaker 3: in with Chad.
Speaker 2: Yeah, think no, no, your friend. I don't I don't want.
Speaker 2: I mean like it was more the idea of, like,
Speaker 2: you get to live with your friend and do the
Speaker 2: things guys want to do when they hang out, and
Speaker 2: you know.
Speaker 3: Okay, look, look Sammy, I really like you. Okay, but
Speaker 3: if you feel this strongly that we need to you know,
Speaker 3: not be around each other, or I need to move
Speaker 3: out and whatnot, and then not like that you set
Speaker 3: me up for a phone call with the radio station,
Speaker 3: then maybe I was wrong. Maybe this isn't a long
Speaker 3: term thing.
Speaker 2: Okay, on friends, we can maybe I overreacted, and you know,
Speaker 2: we can probably live together a little more and just
Speaker 2: see how it goes. I don't know, I mean, and.
Speaker 4: Maybe Cody, you could just spend more time out of
Speaker 4: the apartment because it sounds like you never leave right
Speaker 4: now bes place. I've just tried to come up with
Speaker 4: a compromise. She just needs a little alone time.
Speaker 1: Yeah, what if you split custody of the apartment. He
Speaker 1: gets to live there Monday through Wednesday and you get
Speaker 1: to live there like Thursday through Sunday.
Speaker 3: Sure, sure, Why don't we just put a piece of
Speaker 3: tape down in the middle of the living room.
Speaker 4: You're a logical guy, like, you know, you could work
Speaker 4: harder on like the romance angle, since it feels like
Speaker 4: maybe she also feels like she's missing out on that
Speaker 4: newness right.
Speaker 3: All right, Okay, I'm done with that. I didn't think
Speaker 3: that I was being unromantic, I mean, but this is
Speaker 3: news to me.
Speaker 1: Just get used to being wrong in your relationship a lot.
Speaker 3: I'm biting that out now. Does the radio station call
Speaker 3: every time we can do an argument or.
Speaker 1: Will be there for the big arguments whenever you need it? Okay?
Speaker 1: It sounds like you guys are good though, you guys
Speaker 1: are going to stick together.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I just need to get used to it more.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 4: That didn't sound like defeat.
Speaker 1: That sounds like love Brooks and I'm just I'm just
Speaker 1: gonna deal with it.
Speaker 3: Yeah. I apologize for living in my own home.
Speaker 1: Yeah, now you're sounding like a real boyfriend.
Speaker 4: Job.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
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