Speaker 1: It's awkward.
Speaker 2: It's Tuesday.
Speaker 1: It's awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 3: Planning a wedding can be a pretty stressful thing to do.
Speaker 3: That's why Brook let her husband planned most of theirs.
Speaker 3: Brook just chose out the pies and that was it.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you know the only thing that has been cared
Speaker 4: about is that we got pizza delivered at eleven o'clock
Speaker 4: at night.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, wow, you were involved.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I did it all.
Speaker 1: Good for you, Brook.
Speaker 3: Most women don't get that intense and to their weddings,
Speaker 3: and one couple hasn't really even gotten to that stage
Speaker 3: of the planning yet, but already the groom is anxious
Speaker 3: and it has nothing to do with their actual wedding event,
Speaker 3: but it's a situation that's bad and awkward enough where
Speaker 3: he has to have a difficult conversation with his bride
Speaker 3: to be. So he's turning to us for a little
Speaker 3: bit of help. Let's welcome Travis to the show. Travis,
Speaker 3: how you doing?
Speaker 1: Man?
Speaker 5: Hey, guys, good morning, doing well? Thanks for having me going.
Speaker 4: God, I feel like if you're turning to us, like
Speaker 4: on a scale of one to ten of how scared
Speaker 4: you are of your fiance, it's going to be high.
Speaker 5: Yeah, man, this is a tough one.
Speaker 1: Okay, what's going on.
Speaker 5: Basically, my girlfriend and I we got engaged three months ago.
Speaker 1: Okay, well, now be called your fiance if you're engaged.
Speaker 2: Doesn't it sound so good?
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's awesome, congratulations.
Speaker 5: Thank you. So, I mean, we've been just really excited
Speaker 5: and we're kind of getting into the whole wedding planning thing,
Speaker 5: and we've been founding all of our family and friend However,
Speaker 5: there is a bit of an issue and I'm not
Speaker 5: sure how to go about it, and it has to
Speaker 5: do with like the last names.
Speaker 2: What do you mean, who's last names?
Speaker 5: Well, so I know that like typically the women takes
Speaker 5: the man's last name, right.
Speaker 2: It's kind of old fashion these days.
Speaker 1: But yeah, well you took your husband's last name broke.
Speaker 3: Oh no, you took my Okay, that's kind of an
Speaker 3: easy swap since you had the same lesson.
Speaker 2: The same last name. We're not cousins.
Speaker 4: You can't say that because people actually believe, I'm sorry,
Speaker 4: because we make.
Speaker 3: Fun of at least that's what she wants everybody. So
Speaker 3: traditionally women take the man's last name. Why is that
Speaker 3: a problem?
Speaker 5: Well, it's a problem you guys, because I hate my
Speaker 5: last name.
Speaker 4: Oh, are you thinking about taking her last name?
Speaker 5: Yeah? I would love to take her last name.
Speaker 1: Great, that's awesome, she's gonna like love that. Why do
Speaker 1: you hate your last name though? What's wrong with your now?
Speaker 5: Just because like growing up, it was just like super
Speaker 5: awkward in school, people always made fun of me for it.
Speaker 6: Oh?
Speaker 2: Interesting, Well you have to tell us now?
Speaker 1: Can we know what your last name is?
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's Hubbard?
Speaker 1: What like puberty fun of his name? He's self conscious
Speaker 1: about it. It's funny and you know it. Did we
Speaker 1: get it right? How do you spell it?
Speaker 5: Yeah? It's p U b b E r t y.
Speaker 2: Wow. She probably doesn't want it either.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 4: I mean it's interesting that they haven't had a conversation
Speaker 4: about it when it's such an easy name to make
Speaker 4: fun of.
Speaker 7: Right, But that's probably why she hasn't brought it up.
Speaker 1: I mean, it's probably in your day.
Speaker 2: I feel like i'd bring it up all the time.
Speaker 1: You discussed this at all with your fiance.
Speaker 5: Yet so I haven't yet. But you know, my last
Speaker 5: name is Palmer.
Speaker 1: H Yeah, sorry, I mean it's way different. That's more
Speaker 1: classic tradition.
Speaker 4: It may not be the fiance that has the issue.
Speaker 4: It may be your family that has the issue.
Speaker 1: Oh, I didn't think of it, Like, who.
Speaker 2: Are you worried about telling this to?
Speaker 5: Basically, I'm just worried about telling Jane and Jane's family
Speaker 5: family is very traditional.
Speaker 2: That's interesting. So I would think that you'd be worried
Speaker 2: about your family.
Speaker 5: Yeah, more so hers, because you know, they're just very traditional.
Speaker 5: And I don't want to have that awkward conversation. I
Speaker 5: was like, Oh, well, it's always happened where you know
Speaker 5: the wife takes the man's name.
Speaker 2: Okay, And I'm.
Speaker 4: Sure you're thinking of like kids and stuff too, like
Speaker 4: you don't want to put your kids through what you
Speaker 4: had to go through.
Speaker 2: I think they don't want.
Speaker 5: To, right, I mean, I still haved we can tell.
Speaker 3: Honestly, I don't think you sound bad at all. I
Speaker 3: think you sound like a stand up. Don't laugh at him,
Speaker 3: but he sounds like a great guy.
Speaker 4: He does sound like a great guy, but he sounds
Speaker 4: like he still has a lot of trauma from what
Speaker 4: the bullying that he endured because of his last name.
Speaker 1: I'm not picking up trauma vibes off of you at all.
Speaker 7: I still think you embraced him. Now name is Bologna,
Speaker 7: something called Jose Bloni my whole life, and I think
Speaker 7: it's hilarious.
Speaker 1: You just have fun with it.
Speaker 3: It's too late for that, yeah, I mean he doesn't
Speaker 3: want to perpetuate that name anymore, and that you bet.
Speaker 2: Okay, No, we're not doing it.
Speaker 1: It's his choice.
Speaker 3: Like, if you don't want to keep your last name,
Speaker 3: that's up to you. But you're worried that your fiance
Speaker 3: isn't going to be receptive. She wants your life.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean she loves me. I love her. It's
Speaker 5: all good. I got to figure out a way to
Speaker 5: bring it up, and I'm just really hesitanting.
Speaker 2: I mean, I just think that she's going to be relieved.
Speaker 1: Yeah, why would you say that?
Speaker 2: I don't think she wants that last.
Speaker 1: Year with his last name. I think it's great.
Speaker 4: Jeff, we've gone over what's wrong with his day and
Speaker 4: what he's had to endure because of it.
Speaker 3: I'm considering changing my last name to your last name,
Speaker 3: But if you want to do it your way, it's
Speaker 3: up to you. Man, we're going to call your fiance here.
Speaker 3: Is that what you want to do?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, we're going to call her and try and
Speaker 3: give you some advice on how to convince her to
Speaker 3: not take your name when you guys get married.
Speaker 5: Well, and don't forget I would like her last name too.
Speaker 3: Okay, we'll see if we can make that happen for
Speaker 3: you when we do your awkward Tuesday phone call next.
Speaker 1: It's awkward.
Speaker 2: It's Tuesday.
Speaker 1: It's an awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 3: We're in the middle of our awkward Tuesday phone call
Speaker 3: trying to help out our listener. Try Travis, who is
Speaker 3: engaged to be married. What a special time.
Speaker 1: In your life before it all goes downhill.
Speaker 3: But he doesn't want to do the traditional thing where
Speaker 3: the woman takes the man's last name. Why well, he
Speaker 3: doesn't like his last name because it's p u B
Speaker 3: b e r t y Puverty, one extra B away
Speaker 3: from puberty and he's had a lot of issues with
Speaker 3: that growing up, probably.
Speaker 2: Even getting like new to jobs and stuff. Last name
Speaker 2: on the back of jerseys.
Speaker 3: I didn't realize I was trying to defend you for
Speaker 3: a bit there to my co host earlier.
Speaker 2: But but you told our.
Speaker 3: Producer off the air. Look, Jeff doesn't have to defend
Speaker 3: me so much.
Speaker 1: I don't even like my name.
Speaker 3: So I guess the room has the green light to
Speaker 3: have fun with it and roast him alive.
Speaker 2: I don't know that that's what he meant either.
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, that's how I'm taking This isn't going to
Speaker 3: be his name forever.
Speaker 1: At least he hopes.
Speaker 3: He wants to take his bride's last name, which is Palmer,
Speaker 3: and he just needs our help to convince her to
Speaker 3: go along with that idea.
Speaker 1: So, Brooke, what do you have for him? What's your advice?
Speaker 4: Well, you said that your wife is really traditional, but
Speaker 4: I think that there is one thing that runs deep
Speaker 4: in women and all women, and that is the need
Speaker 4: to protect your babies or your future babies. Yeah, right,
Speaker 4: Like I think that that's how you pitch it to her.
Speaker 4: You're like, hey, listen, I really want to do something
Speaker 4: to protect them from going through what I had to
Speaker 4: go through.
Speaker 1: But if that's true, why did you name your daughter
Speaker 1: Nora and your son Adler?
Speaker 2: And those are beautiful days, Jeffrey. You don't think they
Speaker 2: get teas y.
Speaker 4: They don't get teased for that, They get teased for
Speaker 4: mommy's jobs.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Travis, what do you think of that? Bring your
Speaker 3: future children into the picture.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean, thank you. I can definitely work that in.
Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe give her.
Speaker 3: An example of how you would pre bully your future kids.
Speaker 1: But Jose, what do you think he should do?
Speaker 7: Well, we're all focused on the first part, but I
Speaker 7: think the hardest part of this is actually the second
Speaker 7: request of taking her family's name. So I just think
Speaker 7: be prepared for her to not be able to answer that.
Speaker 2: That's a huge ask.
Speaker 3: How do you think of that, Travis? I'm not really
Speaker 3: sure what the advice is, but be prepared for a bag.
Speaker 2: Okay, you have some other last names on deck, and
Speaker 2: well that's.
Speaker 3: Our advice for you, Travis. Hopefully you can choose to
Speaker 3: use it or not use it however you want. This
Speaker 3: is your call, but we're going to dial your fiance
Speaker 3: Jane and let you make your awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 1: Okay, good luck, my man. All right, we'll jump in
Speaker 1: and feel like a little help. Here we go.
Speaker 5: Hello, any babe, how's it going?
Speaker 6: Oh that's so weird.
Speaker 5: I don't know why you didn't pop up?
Speaker 6: Yeah, there's your day, freaking crazy. You know, Abby, that
Speaker 6: chick that I work with, she is pushing me, pushing
Speaker 6: me beyond I'm just okay, just pleading.
Speaker 5: How are you good? Good? Yeah, hopefully we can I
Speaker 5: don't know, go out grab some some Chinese tonight or something.
Speaker 6: Lease and why yeah, absolutely?
Speaker 5: But look, I actually, uh, I had something on my
Speaker 5: mind and I kind of wanted to talk to you
Speaker 5: about it.
Speaker 6: Okay, are you okay?
Speaker 5: Yeah? Yeah, okay. So I just have been thinking about
Speaker 5: like the issue of like co ass names, right.
Speaker 6: With our last names.
Speaker 5: So when we get married, were you thinking of taking
Speaker 5: my last name?
Speaker 6: Well, of course, but I mean, like, you know, that's
Speaker 6: what you do, That's what you do.
Speaker 5: Yeah, That's what I was worried about.
Speaker 6: I don't understand what the issue I'm looking.
Speaker 5: Forward to taking a name that well, yeah, you know
Speaker 5: how I told you when we were first dating, like
Speaker 5: about my childhood, the bullying and everything like from my
Speaker 5: last name.
Speaker 6: Well yeah, but like we all, like I got teased.
Speaker 6: I was freaking Jane Doe. That's what kids do. And
Speaker 6: so so what it's just I love your name.
Speaker 5: But it's poverty. Like I don't want our children to
Speaker 5: have to go through the same thing that I went through.
Speaker 6: I mean, I think it's a lovely last name. In fact,
Speaker 6: to me, it sounds like a bit British, like Jane Puverty.
Speaker 6: You know, it's it's it's elegant, you.
Speaker 5: Know, are you kidding? I mean it's it's one letter
Speaker 5: away from puberty. Nobody thinks that, I mean, but they do.
Speaker 5: I lived it. I mean, where's your name? I mean,
Speaker 5: it's just it's normal. You know, Palmer sounds boring.
Speaker 6: It's just boring.
Speaker 5: Well, I think, listen, I think we should take your
Speaker 5: last name. If I'm being serious.
Speaker 6: What yeah, Oh no, no, no, no, I no, okay.
Speaker 6: For one, there's a million Palmers out there. I like
Speaker 6: the idea of having a unique name.
Speaker 5: I like that your name is basic. That's the whole point.
Speaker 5: Like it's a name that nobody makes fun of. I mean,
Speaker 5: I've been made one of my whole life for the
Speaker 5: way that my name sounds.
Speaker 8: What your whole life like?
Speaker 6: I mean, seriously, when you're talking about what grade school
Speaker 6: or middle school or something, I mean that that's just
Speaker 6: and it probably made you stronger, right.
Speaker 5: No, you don't understand. By week, I'm very very stop it.
Speaker 5: Are you kidding me? It would crush me. I mean
Speaker 5: we're at the bar doing trivia night and they call
Speaker 5: our name and some people laugh. It's like I can't
Speaker 5: stand it. It's traumatized.
Speaker 6: Oh my god, Like, are you really this upset?
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean look, I really really really think we
Speaker 5: should consider your name.
Speaker 6: Well, okay, what if we What if we did like
Speaker 6: some hypenated thing like palmer pupperty or puberty Palmer, that
Speaker 6: would be kind of cool.
Speaker 5: That sounds like a perverted cartoon bear, Like.
Speaker 1: That's normal, kids, sounds.
Speaker 3: Like, Hey, Jane, I'm sorry to interrupt your conversation, but
Speaker 3: we need to let you know that you're on the
Speaker 3: radio right now with a show called Brook and Jeffrey
Speaker 3: in the Morning, and we.
Speaker 2: Just got to my god, yeah we did. Bubby Palmer
Speaker 2: is definitely the mascot.
Speaker 6: Wait, I'm on the radio this whole time.
Speaker 1: Yeah, don't worry.
Speaker 3: Your fiance called us for help because he wanted to
Speaker 3: have this conversation with you, but he was worried about
Speaker 3: how you might react to the name change idea.
Speaker 4: And you are like the sweetest, most encouraging fiance.
Speaker 2: You have a good partner.
Speaker 8: I love him so the last names part of him
Speaker 8: and that's how I met him. And I don't know
Speaker 8: it just it just has a nice I like multi
Speaker 8: syllabic things.
Speaker 1: Wow, what does that mean? But he really likes your
Speaker 1: name though, that's the issue.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I really do. I like your name better better.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and object actively. I know you're trying to compromise
Speaker 3: with like the hyphenation.
Speaker 1: I idea.
Speaker 3: I don't think those names should be near each other
Speaker 3: poem her Puverty. That's a terrible, terrible No. I think
Speaker 3: if you really want his name and he wants yours,
Speaker 3: maybe the best compromise is you guys just swap names
Speaker 3: at the wedding.
Speaker 2: So you're still Liberty and Palmer, they're just on different people.
Speaker 4: Yeah, one has already gone through poverty and the other
Speaker 4: one has it yet.
Speaker 1: Yeah, she'll get through it experience. I mean, I think
Speaker 1: that might be a fair compromise. Are you okay with
Speaker 1: that idea, Travis?
Speaker 5: I mean yeah, I mean, hey, like, if she's down
Speaker 5: with the swap, I'm down with the swap.
Speaker 1: Okay, we have Travis's vote of approval. All we need
Speaker 1: is you to sign off.
Speaker 5: On a James.
Speaker 1: Oh my god.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I'm thinking I'm I don't know, idea, like, talk
Speaker 6: to my parents about it, Like it's not just me,
Speaker 6: it's their name, and it's fIF the name of our children.
Speaker 3: But it sounds like you're open to the idea if
Speaker 3: you're willing to bring it.
Speaker 6: I just want him to be happy, and I want
Speaker 6: to like just have like a I just don't want
Speaker 6: to freaking complicate our lives.
Speaker 2: Okay, totally, you are so stinking cute.
Speaker 1: You're very understanding.
Speaker 3: You set out with a goal to just like try
Speaker 3: and help Travis here, who absolutely hated his last name.
Speaker 1: He would he was one of the digit for anything.
Speaker 2: Really.
Speaker 4: Maybe maybe now that this conversation is out in the open, Travis,
Speaker 4: she can teach you how to lean into being mister Pubbarty,
Speaker 4: mister and missus Pubbarty.
Speaker 5: Yeah me Pubbarty Palmer walking down the woods looking for Barry.
Speaker 2: You still think it sounds like a bear?
Speaker 1: I would watch that TV honestly.
Speaker 4: Do you think it's a bear that they bring in
Speaker 4: around sixth grade to teach kids about their bodies?
Speaker 1: Why is he not wearing any paints? It's brooking Jeffrey
Speaker 1: in the morning.
Speaker 2: Brooking Jeffrey in the morning.