Speaker 1: Hey, this is Annie and Samantha. We're welcome to stuff
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Speaker 1: we had done this one where I really gush about
Speaker 1: how much I love my mom, called mentors and Mom's stuff,
Speaker 1: and where we just talk about women in our lives
Speaker 1: that we looked up to or were mentors to us
Speaker 1: at some point. As always with this, shout out to
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Speaker 1: if it's infertility, bad relationships with mothers, loss. Also reminder,
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Speaker 1: classic episode. Hey, this is Annie and Samantha and welcome
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Speaker 1: that works. This episode all about mentors and strong women
Speaker 1: and role models.
Speaker 2: Goes out to my mom.
Speaker 1: Because her birthday is tomorrow as you record this, but
Speaker 1: it was new, it was soonish right whenever you hear it,
Speaker 1: And I did want to do a list of things
Speaker 1: I love about my mom because she's my favorite. The
Speaker 1: number one thing is she's kind love and kindness is
Speaker 1: one of my most valued traits in anybody.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 4: I haven't met her yet, but everything you've told of me,
Speaker 4: I'm like, she's the most patient, genuinely giving person.
Speaker 3: Yeah that just sounds like it.
Speaker 2: Wow.
Speaker 1: Yeah, she's very caring, she's empathetic. She calls me sweetness.
Speaker 1: She's strong and funny and fun and wants to make
Speaker 1: sure everyone else is having fun. She's handled a lot
Speaker 1: of tragedy with grace. She knows what your favorite meal
Speaker 1: is and we'll make it for you when you're sad
Speaker 1: or happy, or when she's just thinking of you. She
Speaker 1: has a Southern accent that makes it hard for drive
Speaker 1: through employees to understand her.
Speaker 3: Really.
Speaker 1: Yep, the infamous example is when we were at a
Speaker 1: Zaxby's and she wanted water, and they thought she was
Speaker 1: saying order, so they thought she wanted a second order,
Speaker 1: but she was saying water or waters?
Speaker 3: Is that southern thing? Or is that the more like?
Speaker 2: I feel like that's southern.
Speaker 4: I know there's a YouTube star who does that too,
Speaker 4: and he's from Atlanta, apparently in water water, and every
Speaker 4: time he does it, they make fun of him and
Speaker 4: put in translation.
Speaker 1: It was quite funny. It was one of those like
Speaker 1: who's on first?
Speaker 2: Just took forever.
Speaker 1: Eventually she was like, forget the water, It's fine. She
Speaker 1: she also gets a lot of modern things just slightly wrong.
Speaker 1: Back in my my chemical romance phase. She called them
Speaker 1: my potions addiction.
Speaker 4: I mean because I like Potter. She was combining the fantastic.
Speaker 4: Actually that sounds like a Harry Potter cover ban.
Speaker 2: It should be.
Speaker 3: Wow.
Speaker 2: She's easy to talk to you. She's a great listener.
Speaker 1: She used to take the longer way to my gymnastics
Speaker 1: class because it had a steep hill that I.
Speaker 2: Liked going up and down and pretending it was a
Speaker 2: roller coaster. Every year, she hides Easter eggs just for me.
Speaker 4: You make a lot of money off those I make
Speaker 4: a lot of money. That's amazing.
Speaker 2: I know.
Speaker 4: I feel like I want to come over and so
Speaker 4: fun and there's money to be getting all the money.
Speaker 1: My favorite part about Thanksgiving is cooking with her. Well,
Speaker 1: we drink Corse light out of silver goblets.
Speaker 2: Oh you fancy, We super fancy. She's brave.
Speaker 1: She's heacked alone in all kinds of isolated places you
Speaker 1: can't find online, and she draws maps of those areas
Speaker 1: that she is shared with coworkers in this office who've
Speaker 1: been curious. And she has this hand drawn map she'll
Speaker 1: give you if.
Speaker 3: I need that.
Speaker 2: It's awesome.
Speaker 1: She's happy to try new things like moonshine if you
Speaker 1: want to try a John Snow seemed to be here
Speaker 1: at a bar she's in, even though she doesn't know
Speaker 1: who John Snow. And one of my favorite pictures I've
Speaker 1: ever posted on Instagram. I was trying to show her
Speaker 1: what a selfie was and instead of looking at the camera,
Speaker 1: she kissed me on the cheek and it's one of
Speaker 1: my favorite pictures we've ever taken. Oh that's adorable. Yeah.
Speaker 1: She volunteers, She helps others. She remembers the little things
Speaker 1: that you mentioned and then brings them up years later,
Speaker 1: like remember how your favorite so when you were in
Speaker 1: seventh grade.
Speaker 2: Was that Matrix song for by Pod And I'm like, no,
Speaker 2: but I can't believe you remember.
Speaker 3: That's amazing.
Speaker 1: She indulges me in my silly quest, like going to
Speaker 1: every store to find a cheap PlayStation four, which we did.
Speaker 2: It took forever, but we did.
Speaker 1: She didn't laugh at me when I was nine and
Speaker 1: cried because I realized I would, in fact, never marry
Speaker 1: Ryan Gosling. It was out of the cards. It was
Speaker 1: a tough day for me. She's excited to learn new things.
Speaker 1: She'll watch a bad movie with me and listen to
Speaker 1: me talk about Harry Potter and Marvel all day. She
Speaker 1: encouraged me to travel. She forgives where I tried to forget.
Speaker 1: She never tries to change me and all my weirdness.
Speaker 1: She's my cheerleader and she's in my corner and I
Speaker 1: love her and she loves me, and I know that
Speaker 1: she does, and her actions and in her words, she
Speaker 1: has made it impossible for me to think otherwise, even
Speaker 1: on my lowest day. And I could go on and on,
Speaker 1: But if she's listening now, she's blushing. Oh, even though
Speaker 1: I'd like to do a whole podcast about her, probably
Speaker 1: shut it.
Speaker 2: We can, Oh, gosh, I would love to. Don't tempt me.
Speaker 2: And my mom and I look a lot of like.
Speaker 1: And sometimes people will come up to me and they'll
Speaker 1: think I'm her, And instead of being like angry because
Speaker 1: she's older than me, I'm.
Speaker 2: Like, always so flattered by.
Speaker 3: I love that.
Speaker 4: I'll love those pictures of the parent daughter group and
Speaker 4: they're like, are they sisters?
Speaker 2: Who is who?
Speaker 3: Who was the older?
Speaker 1: Yeah, she's we do look a lot like I see it.
Speaker 1: But yes, this episode is not all about my mom,
Speaker 1: but I wanted to talk about her because it's her birthday,
Speaker 1: and also she has been a really beneficial and powerful
Speaker 1: role model and mentor in my life, and we wanted
Speaker 1: to look into why that's so important. And one of
Speaker 1: the big things is if you can see it, you
Speaker 1: can be it. We've said it so many times on
Speaker 1: the show before. It's simplification, but it does open up
Speaker 1: so many doors. You may have thought we're closed to you.
Speaker 1: If you see someone that you can see yourself in
Speaker 1: doing something right. Studies have found this impacts men too.
Speaker 1: If men never see women doing a thing, whatever it
Speaker 1: might be, they might think women can't.
Speaker 2: Do it either.
Speaker 1: A study out of India found that when exposed to
Speaker 1: at least two female village leaders, men were more likely
Speaker 1: to vote for women. A recent theory suggests that role
Speaker 1: models are helpful in three ways behavioral, inspirational, and potential.
Speaker 1: One of the things that has come up a lot
Speaker 1: in our female first segments is these amazing women reporting
Speaker 1: how hard it was to do everything that they did
Speaker 1: without a role model or mentor someone they can look
Speaker 1: to to see because they're the first, there was no
Speaker 1: one like them to get advice from or to learn from.
Speaker 4: Right. A recent study found that eighty nine percent of
Speaker 4: women made more aspirational life goals when around a woman
Speaker 4: they admire and middlely. The study was in part sponsored
Speaker 4: by Linquisine, but also by NYU College.
Speaker 3: So there's that.
Speaker 4: It found that after a conversation with a woman that
Speaker 4: they found inspirational, women were more likely to think about
Speaker 4: the things they wanted as opposed to what they believe
Speaker 4: society expected of them.
Speaker 1: Having a female role model can help women deal with
Speaker 1: all the self doubt and self criticism that often plagues
Speaker 1: a lot of us, especially when we do something society
Speaker 1: tells us isn't really for women. Isn't a placed women
Speaker 1: can succeed in? Isn't a space for women?
Speaker 4: The National Science Foundation recently sponsored a study that found that,
Speaker 4: compared to male faculty tenured or tenured track, female faculty
Speaker 4: were more likely to have mentors. Female assistant professors with
Speaker 4: mentors were more likely to get grants than those without
Speaker 4: a mentor.
Speaker 1: A study from the Air Force Academy and two economists
Speaker 1: at the University of California Davis found, as reported by
Speaker 1: Ray Feisman over at Slate, quote, when a female instructor
Speaker 1: was put at the front of the classroom, nearly two
Speaker 1: thirds of the grade point gender gap evaporated. The study
Speaker 1: authors acknowledged the difficulty of isolating any one thing when
Speaker 1: it comes to improving grades, and that's one of the
Speaker 1: reasons they chose it was a military college for their study,
Speaker 1: with the hopes of minimizing as many of those factors
Speaker 1: as possible.
Speaker 4: A different study from KMPG found that women really want
Speaker 4: mentorship and really benefit from it. Sixty seven percent reported
Speaker 4: that they needed a support group to foster the confidence
Speaker 4: they needed to be leaders. The same number indicated they'd
Speaker 4: learned the most valuable leadership lessons from other women.
Speaker 1: Several studies have shown mentorship to be especially helpful when
Speaker 1: it comes to women in tech. Still, even with a mentor,
Speaker 1: the attrition rate for women in STEM fields is one
Speaker 1: out of four women compared to one out of ten men.
Speaker 4: The importance of mentoring our young folks can't be underestimated either.
Speaker 4: Negative stereotypes about women in STEM impacts girls as early
Speaker 4: as twelve and when they started reporting a declining interest.
Speaker 1: A twenty seventeen study found that black students were more
Speaker 1: likely to graduate if they had at least one black
Speaker 1: teacher between third and fifth grade. Other research found that
Speaker 1: women are more likely to enroll in upper level classes
Speaker 1: when they've had experience with a female role model in
Speaker 1: that field, even a minor one.
Speaker 4: And women can relate to issues faced by other women,
Speaker 4: being the only one in the boardroom, salary negotiations, or
Speaker 4: being spoken over.
Speaker 1: Men can totally be good mentors for both men and
Speaker 1: women too. However, one of the interesting side effects of
Speaker 1: the Me too movement is that, according to some studies,
Speaker 1: more than half of male managers are now nervous and
Speaker 1: avoidant when it comes to working closely with women.
Speaker 2: Mentorship is different from sponsorship.
Speaker 1: I just want to put that in there, which is
Speaker 1: sponsorship is valuable as well, and this is when someone
Speaker 1: in a position of power speaks for you, vouchers for you,
Speaker 1: actively helps.
Speaker 2: Advance your career. And I did read there aren't.
Speaker 1: That many pieces out there about this, but there are
Speaker 1: some about like stop looking from mentors, which you need
Speaker 1: as a sponsor, you could probably benefit from both.
Speaker 2: But you know mentor.
Speaker 1: When we say mentor, a lot of what we're talking
Speaker 1: about is informal, although companies do have formal programs. And
Speaker 1: if this is something you're interested in, totally.
Speaker 4: Checkingship is an involved process, which is a relationship beyond,
Speaker 4: then just let me help you with this one thing.
Speaker 4: And I know for my kids having a mentor it
Speaker 4: makes a vast difference. Someone that they can turn to,
Speaker 4: someone they trust, someone that they can help them in
Speaker 4: times of needs without feeling judged.
Speaker 3: And that's a lot of the mentorship. But it's not
Speaker 3: judging but helping.
Speaker 4: And I know according to one study, one very important
Speaker 4: study about adolescence, the likelihood of them reoffending or going
Speaker 4: down a negative path is lessened if they have one
Speaker 4: positive influence or mentor in their life and it makes
Speaker 4: a vast amount of difference in their future.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so pretty important stuff. And we have some more
Speaker 1: important stuff to talk about. But first we have a
Speaker 1: quick break for words from a sponsor, and we're back,
Speaker 1: Thank you sponsor. So now we want to talk about
Speaker 1: If you're hearing this and you're hanging, oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: I gotta go out and get me a mentor finding one,
Speaker 1: let's talk about that. Like we said, many companies do
Speaker 1: offer a formal mentorship program, so be sure to see
Speaker 1: if that's an option where you work. However, we could
Speaker 1: definitely do better. Overall, a program is valuable because it
Speaker 1: normalizes a work culture that promotes learning, growing and asking
Speaker 1: for help and just having that structure in place, like
Speaker 1: knowing that this person is available or interested, very very helpful.
Speaker 1: Of note, you can get a mentor for non work
Speaker 1: stuff too, like just somebody in your life, Like my
Speaker 1: mom wasn't my mentor for work or anything.
Speaker 2: She's more my role model but also kind of a mentor, right.
Speaker 4: And that's the whole idea that I was saying previously
Speaker 4: before the ad is this mentoring is just beyond this
Speaker 4: one thing it's a whole life changing process it hopefully yeah,
Speaker 4: in a good way.
Speaker 2: Yeah. It comes to choosing a mentor a couple things.
Speaker 1: Know what you want out of the relationship and be
Speaker 1: able to communicate that. Do communicate that, and don't be
Speaker 1: afraid to be selective, be open to hearing constructive criticism,
Speaker 1: and to actually heeding advice. Look for someone who has
Speaker 1: the experience you want, is qualified and passionate in your field,
Speaker 1: and has the bandwidth and desire to be a mentor,
Speaker 1: and is generally nice. I would say it will be
Speaker 1: a positive influence in your life. And this is more
Speaker 1: work stuff, and for me, I had a mentor for
Speaker 1: this job, although it was more back when I was
Speaker 1: a producer. My old boss, Roxanne, whose voice a lot
Speaker 1: of you may recognize as the one that has long
Speaker 1: introduced our fellow podcast stuff you should know and stuff
Speaker 1: you missed in history class. She was a great listener.
Speaker 1: She had your back, she had everyone's back. She made
Speaker 1: time out of her day for me, gave me advice
Speaker 1: and constructive criticism and praise. She gave me ideas and
Speaker 1: also was very straightforward with me about the pros and
Speaker 1: cons of like pursuing certain positions at the company and
Speaker 1: work home life balance, and to this day we still
Speaker 1: meet up.
Speaker 2: Very valuable relationship to me.
Speaker 4: I think when it comes to this shop technically you
Speaker 4: large from Savor as well as Caroline with a lady
Speaker 4: like are my mentors of what the hell am I doing?
Speaker 3: And checking in I'm like, is this good? Is this bad?
Speaker 4: Am I just completely off the chart and trying to
Speaker 4: do what I'm doing and all of that. And it's
Speaker 4: been really nice to have because I could not imagine
Speaker 4: trying to do this and being like, yeah, I don't
Speaker 4: know I'm doing because I don't.
Speaker 1: And it's That's another good point is it doesn't have
Speaker 1: to be I think when people think of mentors, they
Speaker 1: think of someone fifty years older than you, way older
Speaker 1: and like, way more qualified. And it doesn't have to
Speaker 1: be that way at all. And we'll come back to
Speaker 1: that too.
Speaker 4: Surveys and studies show plenty of women are willing to
Speaker 4: be mentors. So why is mentoring among women so relatively rare.
Speaker 4: The consensus seems to be women are afraid to ask,
Speaker 4: or for some reason or another aren't asking. Well. Of course,
Speaker 4: time commitment is a big thing as well. If you
Speaker 4: want to be a mentor or. If you want a mentor,
Speaker 4: don't be afraid. You probably know a woman in your
Speaker 4: life happy to step in to fill that role.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's it's one of those things. It doesn't have
Speaker 1: to be a super formal it can be. It doesn't
Speaker 1: have to be.
Speaker 4: Sometimes it does feel like it's kind of stalk creation.
Speaker 4: I'm like, hey, I really like what you're doing. You
Speaker 4: wouldn't be my mentor.
Speaker 2: Well, you just did you say anything in that voice?
Speaker 2: It feels a little starrish.
Speaker 3: You didn't like that voice.
Speaker 1: I'm just saying, maybe your approach needs all I'm staring
Speaker 1: at you like this.
Speaker 2: Yeah, there's like an eyebrow thing.
Speaker 3: Which is funny because my eyebrows really can't move.
Speaker 2: Well, they're doing something right now.
Speaker 3: They're doing sound creepy. Way to go, Samantha.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, well we'll discuss this after the podcast. And
Speaker 1: this brings us to how to be a mentor. According
Speaker 1: to a DDI World study, women shy away from being
Speaker 1: mentors for three main reasons. Women don't ask other women
Speaker 1: to be mentors, a lack of time on the part
Speaker 1: of the mentor. Women don't feel they have an appropriate
Speaker 1: level of expertise, to mentor, which is that damn imposter
Speaker 1: syndrome again. And mentoring it's not a one way street.
Speaker 1: It's not only helpful for the mentee, but for the
Speaker 1: mentor as well. It's a mutually beneficial relationship, or it
Speaker 1: should be. As a mentor, you'll improve your listening skills,
Speaker 1: you'll learn, you'll become more compassionate and empathetic, you'll push
Speaker 1: yourself to do better. I was a mentor in college
Speaker 1: and on and off informally in my career.
Speaker 2: And I found it to be super rewarding.
Speaker 1: And I know I felt some anxiety and being a mentor,
Speaker 1: that I wasn't good enough, didn't know enough, And yeah,
Speaker 1: I know I'm not the only one that.
Speaker 2: Feels like that.
Speaker 1: But the value of just having someone there listening, a
Speaker 1: person you can talk to. Don't underestimate that. Like, if
Speaker 1: you can do at least those things right, that's a
Speaker 1: pretty good foundation.
Speaker 2: I remember once, and I hope no one judges me
Speaker 2: for this, but.
Speaker 1: I jokingly told a menti of mine, I guess, in
Speaker 1: what was a very serious tone, there is no fate,
Speaker 1: no fate, but what make And I was exhausted and
Speaker 1: advice is hard and retired and I'm a nerd, and
Speaker 1: I really just I was kidding. But weeks later she
Speaker 1: came up to me so grateful for my great advice
Speaker 1: and yeah that was a quote from T two Judgment Day,
Speaker 1: but it helped her.
Speaker 3: You know, Terminator, she never like sees.
Speaker 1: That movie feels such crushing betrayal.
Speaker 3: She stole that lie.
Speaker 1: Well, I didn't know what she was talking about it first, like, well,
Speaker 1: what advice? And then later I was like, oh no,
Speaker 1: and yes, yes, you should do better than that, better
Speaker 1: than spouting quotes from James Cameron movies. But don't let
Speaker 1: yourself be too scared away from being a mentor because
Speaker 1: you're not perfect.
Speaker 4: I mean, to be fair, you may be and you
Speaker 4: just don't know it. That's true when you form some
Speaker 4: types of relationships, it becomes kind of that way, when
Speaker 4: you're there to help and you could just be I'm
Speaker 4: your good friend, but I'm coming in and checking in.
Speaker 4: Of course, there's a balance, but you may be mentoring
Speaker 4: someone without knowing you're mentoring someone.
Speaker 2: That's totally true.
Speaker 1: There's so many people in my life that I don't
Speaker 1: know if they realized the huge impact they had. Ely
Speaker 1: and one of them, someone I met in China.
Speaker 2: I was so sad I had to leave.
Speaker 1: I was so sad, and she said, like, very simply,
Speaker 1: sometimes people come into your life exactly when you need them,
Speaker 1: and then they have to leave.
Speaker 2: And I still think about it to this day. I
Speaker 2: was like, does she knew? She knew, but she probably
Speaker 2: has no idea. I still think about that.
Speaker 1: Another thing, A lot of the key things a mentee
Speaker 1: wants to learn from a mentor isn't so much technical
Speaker 1: but more kind of personal. Not personal, but like communication, skills, negotiation, leadership.
Speaker 1: So if you're thinking, oh, I can barely do this
Speaker 1: job myself, right.
Speaker 2: That was me.
Speaker 1: I'm not putting that on anyone else. But when I
Speaker 1: first started editing, I thought that A lot a lot
Speaker 1: of people are more like, how do I talk to
Speaker 1: my boss? Or how do I sell these skills that
Speaker 1: I have? How do I communicate better? How can I
Speaker 1: be a better leader? How can I delegate things that
Speaker 1: aren't necessarily so skills slash job based.
Speaker 4: I will say, I just used you for that literally
Speaker 4: ten minutes ago she did.
Speaker 2: She did.
Speaker 4: So advertise your willingness to mentor if you're in STEM
Speaker 4: volunteers speak to schools volunteer working with students.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, I think there's a lot to be said.
Speaker 4: I know in colleges they offer older students with younger
Speaker 4: students to help in different types of fields or whatnot,
Speaker 4: So that's always good to do as well.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I had that program in my school when
Speaker 1: I was in elementary school.
Speaker 2: And Zoe, if you're.
Speaker 1: Listening, Zoe, I remember you, and you really inspired me.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so I.
Speaker 1: Very much see the benefit and things like that. Some tips,
Speaker 1: once you find a mentor mentee, have structured meetings with
Speaker 1: set times frequencies.
Speaker 2: This is more for the formal stuff.
Speaker 1: Come prepared with goals and objectives as the mentee and
Speaker 1: homework as the mentor. And that doesn't have to be
Speaker 1: like write this thing out, but more like maybe the
Speaker 1: little focus on this and you can work on this
Speaker 1: or read this thing or whatever it might be.
Speaker 3: You like the homework, huh do?
Speaker 2: I used to.
Speaker 3: Ask for extra homework.
Speaker 2: I was a nerd, not you were, but you were.
Speaker 1: I was just were I Ohmantha, I race it.
Speaker 2: Now you are.
Speaker 3: Typically I'm too, just in different ways.
Speaker 2: Yes.
Speaker 4: And visibility of how women work, which for a variety
Speaker 4: of reasons like children or elder care may be different
Speaker 4: than men is really really really really really important.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And my most recent.
Speaker 1: Meeting with someone who I wouldn't say she's my mentee,
Speaker 1: but she kind of reached out to me and was like, Hey,
Speaker 1: I'm interested in doing pursuing kind of what you're doing,
Speaker 1: and can we sit down and talk? And I was
Speaker 1: very upfront with like, I love my job, but it
Speaker 1: means X, Y and Z, it's for my home life,
Speaker 1: it means this, and like just being open about what
Speaker 1: it really takes for you to do what, especially in
Speaker 1: a job like this where there's kind of a public
Speaker 1: aspect to it, Like what does it take to get
Speaker 1: to where we are right now?
Speaker 4: And that's honestly exactly why I come to you, and
Speaker 4: come to people who have been in this field for
Speaker 4: a very long time. I'm not gonna pretend like I
Speaker 4: know what's going on.
Speaker 3: You know, and it's okay.
Speaker 4: You know your weaknesses, you know your strengths, improve your weaknesses,
Speaker 4: and this is how you do it. You seek it
Speaker 4: out and it's better to know, yes, obviously, than not know.
Speaker 4: And it's better to mint that you don't know. So
Speaker 4: how do I find help? And kind of like how
Speaker 4: I'm doing. I don't necessarily have an individual mentor. I
Speaker 4: literally seek people out in their specialties and or in
Speaker 4: their expertise because I know I can get this from
Speaker 4: you just kind of how you people come in seasons.
Speaker 4: They have attributes and things that you don't know, which
Speaker 4: makes it an amazing thing, which is what I love
Speaker 4: about meeting new people. You find different things that you're like,
Speaker 4: oh wow, I can learn from that, right, do it?
Speaker 2: Oh? Absolutely?
Speaker 1: And I think one article I read kind of going
Speaker 1: off of that said you shouldn't be looking for mentors
Speaker 1: but friend tours exactly. And so that's another way of
Speaker 1: looking at it. If you're not into this whole idea
Speaker 1: of like a more structured mentorship, or you're just I
Speaker 1: don't want to stay embarrassed, but maybe like a friend
Speaker 1: towards an easier thing right for you to pursue.
Speaker 3: I mean, for me, I trust it.
Speaker 4: I have a huge trust issue in general, and I'm
Speaker 4: so much better now, But that was part of the thing,
Speaker 4: is like, how do I trust you in all these
Speaker 4: aspects and I don't want to be disappointed or I
Speaker 4: don't want to disappoint you all of those levels and
Speaker 4: being able to kind of bring people in your groups
Speaker 4: and lovingly do these things and then come up with
Speaker 4: a fact like I don't know this aspect again, let's
Speaker 4: talk and you teach me about this. Yeah, and then
Speaker 4: kind of the same thing with you know, mikex or
Speaker 4: takes to social work, so I do get the hey
Speaker 4: you're a social worker.
Speaker 3: So yeah, and annoying as that can be.
Speaker 4: Sure, I understand why, and it's actually very appropriate and smart. Yeah,
Speaker 4: unless you're asking for a session, then that's weird.
Speaker 2: Right, Yeah, don't.
Speaker 1: I feel like a lot of my friends who your
Speaker 1: nurses get the hate right like.
Speaker 3: Hey, oh yeah, weird mo.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, we're off what.
Speaker 3: And you start brandowly pointing at scars.
Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, that's a different episode. We're going off track.
Speaker 3: Cool. Sorry.
Speaker 1: Also, you can have more than one mentor, and you
Speaker 1: can have more than one mentee. You can be both
Speaker 1: a mentor and a mentee. Your mentor can be your
Speaker 1: age or younger, can be older. It can be formal
Speaker 1: or informal. No labels as they say these days also
Speaker 1: also not quite the same. But seeing it being it
Speaker 1: is important when it comes to our media, especially the
Speaker 1: media children consume as well. That's something We've talked about
Speaker 1: a lot, but worth worth restating. We do have just
Speaker 1: a little bit more for you listeners. But first we
Speaker 1: have one more quick break forward from our sponsor, and
Speaker 1: we're back.
Speaker 2: Thank you sponsor. I wanted to touch.
Speaker 1: Briefly on why this matters, even though I think it's
Speaker 1: been sprinkled throughout this episode.
Speaker 2: Ready one, there.
Speaker 1: Are more men named Dave than there are women total
Speaker 1: on the list of CEOs of the ftse one hundred companies.
Speaker 2: Really more men named Dave. Also, I think Dave too, Like.
Speaker 1: There are a bunch of names I saw on different websites.
Speaker 1: No Roberts, I don't remember if I saw Robert, but
Speaker 1: I Dave stuck out Dave.
Speaker 2: Dave.
Speaker 3: Damn it, Dave.
Speaker 2: What is the quote from two thousand and one? I'm sorry, Dave.
Speaker 2: I just can't do that.
Speaker 1: Oh I'm afraid I can't do that, Dave.
Speaker 3: Thank you.
Speaker 2: Andrew, Yes, thank you. Andrew.
Speaker 4: Care reports that although women do sixty percent of the
Speaker 4: world's work, we make a measly ten percent of global
Speaker 4: income and own less than one percent of the world's property.
Speaker 2: That's that's not my stomach does not like that.
Speaker 3: My whole party of the global income.
Speaker 2: Yeah, wow, one percent of the world's property.
Speaker 3: That's that's absurd.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it is.
Speaker 1: Study after study has found that our companies and our
Speaker 1: economy as a whole benefits from diversity. Think of how
Speaker 1: many ideas we're missing out on by not having women
Speaker 1: and other marginalized groups at the table, whatever table that
Speaker 1: might be. Think of how many ideas we would have
Speaker 1: missed out on if not for women breaking barriers and
Speaker 1: overcoming obstacles.
Speaker 4: You know, one of the things I think about social media.
Speaker 4: My coworker and I talk about when we were talking
Speaker 4: about different issues that are happening and just kind of
Speaker 4: catching up and when I'm a coworker at my other
Speaker 4: job and she is a very strong black woman and
Speaker 4: I love her to death, and one of the things
Speaker 4: we're talking about was how she sees Twitter and how
Speaker 4: we see Twitter and the differences. And she's like, as
Speaker 4: she calls it, black Twitter, I.
Speaker 3: Already knew this. And then white people.
Speaker 4: Are saying, right, bringing this along, Like that's been fifteen years,
Speaker 4: and the dynamic of the split is more noticeable now
Speaker 4: that we have that social media content of and even
Speaker 4: though it's still separated unfortunately and not as consumed or
Speaker 4: interchangeably consumed. I guess that's such a dynamic thing. It's like,
Speaker 4: what are we missing out on? Yeah, you know, and
Speaker 4: then you start realizing because now you have ability to
Speaker 4: see that content, which is really really important.
Speaker 2: Absolutely it is.
Speaker 1: And I one thing and I know we've talked about
Speaker 1: this before too, but like having that friend who is
Speaker 1: the strong person always worth like because sometimes people who
Speaker 1: are strong have their their days that are where they're
Speaker 1: down to or they are feeling down about themselves as well.
Speaker 2: And I in a.
Speaker 1: Mentor mentee relationship, which can be it doesn't have to be,
Speaker 1: but can be more of a like personal friendship relationship.
Speaker 2: Just good to keep that in mind, you.
Speaker 3: Know, check in, check in, right, always check.
Speaker 2: In on people.
Speaker 1: So that's about what we have to say about mentors
Speaker 1: and role models today. But we are introducing a new
Speaker 1: thing at the end of our episodes.
Speaker 4: We wanted to make sure that, as we had previously
Speaker 4: had episodes about supporting women and supporting women in podcasting,
Speaker 4: specifically in our field, because we know the statistics, that
Speaker 4: we continue to actually emphasize that. And so as I
Speaker 4: am learning this whole world of social media, I've been
Speaker 4: checking out different Twitter sites, and different podcasts Twitter sites.
Speaker 3: Is that a word?
Speaker 2: Look up to date?
Speaker 4: You are good at this all read what is this?
Speaker 4: I was on the Twitter site on the Twitter site,
Speaker 4: it told me it tweeted at me. There are so
Speaker 4: many people who are asking for suggestions, like female, what
Speaker 4: are your favorite female podcasts? Female led podcasts? And so
Speaker 4: I'm going through every single one of them, clicking. I'm like, oh,
Speaker 4: I like this one and not like this one. So
Speaker 4: a few that I saw was Shenangan's with Friends hilarious content.
Speaker 3: I was just like, oh, yeah, I want to be
Speaker 3: your friend. Just her.
Speaker 4: She was interviewing a specific person. It was the you
Speaker 4: need to go check it out, okay, nerdy bitches, it
Speaker 4: would be up your alley. Yeah, it sounds like you know,
Speaker 4: and black girls do stuff too. And I enjoyed every
Speaker 4: bit of all of those things. And it's really good content.
Speaker 4: So if you love listening to our stuff, go check
Speaker 4: their stuff out.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And we would love to hear your suggestions for podcasts.
Speaker 2: We should be shouting out.
Speaker 1: If you do a podcast we've heard for some people,
Speaker 1: let us know.
Speaker 2: And one of the ways you can do that.
Speaker 1: Is through email what yep on the email site says.
Speaker 4: They call email thing does a tweet at YouTube?
Speaker 2: I think so okay, cool cool.
Speaker 1: I think so Our email is stuff Media mom Stuff
Speaker 1: at iHeartMedia dot Com, our Twitter is at mom Stuff podcast,
Speaker 1: and Instagram is stuff I've Never told you.
Speaker 2: Thanks is all wait to our super producer Andrew Howard.
Speaker 2: He's there, he was there moments ago.
Speaker 4: He decided to leave me because he doesn't like my songs.
Speaker 2: Oh, he loves your songs. And thanks to you for listening.
Speaker 3: Thank you.
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