Speaker 1: It's awkward. It's Tuesday. It's looking Jubels awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 1: As I always say in the bedroom, right after stretching,
Speaker 1: it's time for daddy to lay down the law. That's
Speaker 1: exactly what's happening today with an awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 1: We don't get a lot of these where a parent
Speaker 1: wants to call their kids. But Richard is on the
Speaker 1: phone and apparently he wants to call one of his
Speaker 1: kids today. What's up, Richard? How are you? I've been
Speaker 1: better if I'm being totally honest. Is it because of
Speaker 1: what you want to talk about? Or now you're picturing
Speaker 1: me stretching in the bedroom saying it's time for daddy
Speaker 1: to lay down the law. A little bit of both. Okay,
Speaker 1: I like that about you, Richard. Thank you. Basically, I
Speaker 1: need a little bit of advice. I've got two kids, okay,
Speaker 1: a son and a daughter. You know both of them well,
Speaker 1: I know them both very well. Good job, dad, good job.
Speaker 1: And how old are these kids? They're both in their twenties. Oh,
Speaker 1: I thought for sure we'd be calling a five year old. No, no,
Speaker 1: my son Dylan. Who is the person I'm going to
Speaker 1: need a little bit of help, calling and talking to
Speaker 1: He recently met a nice young lady, well to do family.
Speaker 1: You know, he graduated top of this class, got hired
Speaker 1: by an awesome law firm. Okay, so what do you
Speaker 1: want to do? Tell him he's a disappointment, Like it
Speaker 1: sounds like he's killing it. Yeah, he is killing it.
Speaker 1: But my daughter has had a hard time, like holding
Speaker 1: down a job, kind of bounces from job to job.
Speaker 1: And I don't want to say she's to screw up.
Speaker 1: I mean, I love her, but she's just kind of
Speaker 1: a one could say she's a free spirit. Okay, Okay,
Speaker 1: so she's not necessarily as focused I guess as your
Speaker 1: son has been very much not. And this is why
Speaker 1: I need the help here is basically, my son is
Speaker 1: going to be okay, right, and so I'm thinking of
Speaker 1: making some changes to my will to where my daughter
Speaker 1: receives the majority of the inheritance only because my son
Speaker 1: is I mean, he's going to end up being a
Speaker 1: multi millionaire on his own. So you're safe. So you're
Speaker 1: not worried about him, but you're worried about your daughter.
Speaker 1: If you pass. You're like, she's going to need all
Speaker 1: the help she can get. Very much. So, Yeah, you're
Speaker 1: punishing him for being successful. I mean, I understand what
Speaker 1: you're saying about punishing him, and I can see why
Speaker 1: you would think that, but that's not the way I
Speaker 1: see it. She needs it more right, it's where your
Speaker 1: money can do the most good, is the way you
Speaker 1: see it. But so, what are we calling your son
Speaker 1: to say? Like, sorry, kid, you're out. I guess that's
Speaker 1: part of why I'm calling you guys. You know, I
Speaker 1: could definitely use advice on how to approach this. So
Speaker 1: you want to tell your son that you're going to
Speaker 1: change your will so that your daughter gets pretty much
Speaker 1: everything because you're not worried about him, And what do
Speaker 1: you think his reaction is going to be? Like I'd
Speaker 1: probably if I were at his ssues, I'd probably be like, Oh,
Speaker 1: that's kind of a cool vote of confidence. Well, I
Speaker 1: might not be too worried about it. I'm hoping he understands,
Speaker 1: and I feel like he will, but it is an
Speaker 1: odd conversation that it's going to be really hard for
Speaker 1: him not to feel like you're playing favorites here. Yeah,
Speaker 1: Like the other angle would be don't you love them equally?
Speaker 1: And then if he's going to help his sister. That's
Speaker 1: his decision later. That's a fair way to look at it.
Speaker 1: But at the same time, it's you know, things happen
Speaker 1: between people. I have two siblings, and over the years,
Speaker 1: one of my siblings and I, you know, for reasons
Speaker 1: I don't want to go into don't really talk very
Speaker 1: much anymore. You know, if my parents had put me
Speaker 1: in that position, I mean, I would do the right thing,
Speaker 1: but I don't know if that would have gone the
Speaker 1: other way. You never know, So you don't want him
Speaker 1: to become like resentful that you exactly, And so I'm
Speaker 1: trying to avoid that right now, and some up in
Speaker 1: a little bit outside the box, I'm asking for your
Speaker 1: guys help. Oh my god, this is I mean, there's
Speaker 1: a lot on the line because not only could it
Speaker 1: potentially ruin your relationship with your son, but you could
Speaker 1: also be ruining your son and your daughter's relationship together.
Speaker 1: Now I'm trying to avoid that. All right, Well, we'll
Speaker 1: try to figure out some advice. We'll play a song,
Speaker 1: and then we'll come back give you a little bit
Speaker 1: of advice, and then you can make your awkward Tuesday
Speaker 1: phone call. Okay, sounds great, All right, hang on Daddy.
Speaker 1: I mean sorry, it's awkward. It's Tuesday. It's frooking Jubels.
Speaker 1: Awkward Tuesday phone call. Were been in a car ride
Speaker 1: like when you were a kid with your friend's family,
Speaker 1: and then your friend gets in trouble and the parents
Speaker 1: are just kind of scolding them the whole time, and
Speaker 1: you're sitting there like trying to look at something else,
Speaker 1: like I don't know what to say here. Yeah, well
Speaker 1: that's about to be us in a few minutes because
Speaker 1: Richard is on the phone and he wants to call
Speaker 1: his son Dylan in an awkward Tuesday phone call. Richard
Speaker 1: just told us about how his son is basically crushing
Speaker 1: life right now. He's got a law degree, he's got
Speaker 1: a job at a law firm, dating somebody who's from
Speaker 1: like a rich family too. And then Richard's daughter is
Speaker 1: not doing as well. You can't really hold a job,
Speaker 1: doesn't really know what to do with her life. And
Speaker 1: Richard wants to call and tell his son that he's
Speaker 1: planning on changing his will to give most of the
Speaker 1: inheritance to the daughter because Richard feels like his son
Speaker 1: is going to be okay, and he's worried that this
Speaker 1: conversation might make his kid mad at him, are resentful?
Speaker 1: All right, Richard, are you about ready to make your
Speaker 1: phone call? I just I mean, do any of you
Speaker 1: have any advice? Do you have any advice? I mean,
Speaker 1: I just think you need to start the conversation with
Speaker 1: a lot of compliments. Don't go right into the will
Speaker 1: at first. First you got to really talk up how
Speaker 1: well he's doing and how proud you are of him,
Speaker 1: how you know he'll always be okay, And then you
Speaker 1: drop the bomb. Yeah that, and like jose said, like
Speaker 1: emphasize that this isn't about like picking favorite, It's about
Speaker 1: making the best use of your money, right, And in
Speaker 1: a way, you're picking him to be the favorite because
Speaker 1: you're like, dude, you're so good, I don't even have
Speaker 1: to worry about you. You're my favorite kid. You should
Speaker 1: actually say that you're my favorite kid. She's like, you know,
Speaker 1: she's there, so I have to make sure she's okay.
Speaker 1: You should say that those exact words. Who's why I
Speaker 1: asked for Brooks advice. Right, well, I'm gonna die the
Speaker 1: phone number right now and you can make your phone call. Okay,
Speaker 1: sounds great, Thank you so much? All right, good luck, Hello, Hey,
Speaker 1: Dylan is your father? Hey Dad, let's come on another
Speaker 1: much then. How's it going. How's uh? How, I'm good.
Speaker 1: I'm just still work right now. What's up? You know,
Speaker 1: just deal one with some stuff kind of hanging out. Um,
Speaker 1: you have a you have a minute to dark? Yeah,
Speaker 1: of course, what's going on? Cool? Um? So, you know,
Speaker 1: I've been doing a little bit of thinking and I
Speaker 1: just want to start off by saying I am really
Speaker 1: proud of how you are just doing in life right now.
Speaker 1: You know, you're you're doing so well for yourself. You've
Speaker 1: met this wonderful girl and her awesome family, and you
Speaker 1: know you're doing great at your job. You killed it
Speaker 1: in college. I'm very very proud of you. Well that
Speaker 1: I really appreciate it. Is that the only reason you
Speaker 1: call it um. No, So the this is a little
Speaker 1: bit of an awkward thing. But I didn't know how
Speaker 1: to talk to you about this, but because you are
Speaker 1: doing so well in life, I have had to. I
Speaker 1: don't even know how to explain this. Uh, it's okay.
Speaker 1: So I've made a decision that I am modifying my will,
Speaker 1: and I'm modifying my will for the majority of the
Speaker 1: inheritance to go to your sister. Wait what, let me explain.
Speaker 1: You are going to be just fine. I'm not worried
Speaker 1: about you. You have my full confidence. Whereas as you know,
Speaker 1: your sister is and always has been a little bit
Speaker 1: more of a free spirit. Yeah, she's she's doing all
Speaker 1: right now though she's she's getting better, is she? Though, Like,
Speaker 1: let's be honest here, I think you were in way
Speaker 1: too much. You know, she's got a job, she's seeing
Speaker 1: a guy, like, she's doing better than she's done a
Speaker 1: long time. I think you gotta give her a little credit.
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm hoping it works out. I'm hoping everything
Speaker 1: works out just great. But you know, I mean, she's
Speaker 1: she's gonna be fine. I mean maybe, but maybe not.
Speaker 1: So what I what I would prefer to do is
Speaker 1: she's going to get the majority of the inheritance, because
Speaker 1: God forbid, if something happened to me, she is going
Speaker 1: to need the help more than you would. Wow. Uh,
Speaker 1: no offense, Dad, But you don't have any money. Well,
Speaker 1: will may not be money per se, but I do
Speaker 1: have assets and assets. Yes, what assets are you talking about? Well,
Speaker 1: you know, first of all, I don't know if you're
Speaker 1: aware of this, but I for many, many years collective
Speaker 1: baseball cards, and I have a couple collections from the sixties,
Speaker 1: seventies and eighties. Basebo Yeah, baseball cards, Dad, nobody five
Speaker 1: baseball cards anymore. No, no, no, no, no. These are
Speaker 1: the good ones. These are these are the classics. I've
Speaker 1: got this Otis Nixon carts got a praise a couple
Speaker 1: of years ago. No, daddad, honestly, baseball cards aren't gonna
Speaker 1: sing anymore. Kids don't even play with them. Nobody has
Speaker 1: them like I mean, honestly, Dad, how much do you
Speaker 1: even think that these are worth well? I had the
Speaker 1: whole collection appraised a couple of years ago, and the
Speaker 1: guy told me five hundred dollars. What was that? Hello?
Speaker 1: What's up, Dylan? How are you man? This is Jewel
Speaker 1: from Brooke and Jewel in the Morning. Who are you, guys,
Speaker 1: Brooke and Jeble in the Morning. It's a radio show.
Speaker 1: Why your dad? Your dad listens to it. He has
Speaker 1: some big news to drop on you. I'm sorry, I'll
Speaker 1: rent understand. Dad. Can you tell me what's going on?
Speaker 1: Is there a radio show on the phone right now?
Speaker 1: I needed a little bit of advice, and you know,
Speaker 1: I listen to Brook and jewbl a lot and uh jel,
Speaker 1: that's me here, Richard. I'll explain real quick for Dylan.
Speaker 1: Maybe that'll help Dylan. We do a segment on our
Speaker 1: show called the Awkward Tuesday Phone Call, okay, and that's
Speaker 1: where you have kind of a tough situation and you
Speaker 1: want to talk to somebody about it. You can email us.
Speaker 1: We'll give you advice on how to handle that conversation,
Speaker 1: but you have to make the phone call on the
Speaker 1: air with us, okay. And so your dad emailed us
Speaker 1: because he wanted to break the news to you that
Speaker 1: he was going to shuffle things around in his will
Speaker 1: and give your sister most of his assets and not you,
Speaker 1: because he thinks you're doing fine. And apparently your sister
Speaker 1: could use five hundred bucks. I don't know. I mean,
Speaker 1: no offense, but if it's only five hundred bucks, I
Speaker 1: am doing fine telling us all this, and he never
Speaker 1: told us what his assets were. I was picturing like
Speaker 1: hundreds of thousands of dollars, like I thought you guys
Speaker 1: were like trust fund kids. Guys. I am not just
Speaker 1: talking about baseball cards here, though. I mean, obviously I
Speaker 1: did not have a chance to go into all of it.
Speaker 1: But you know, the assets all together are worth a
Speaker 1: good amount. You know, well, Dad, what assets are even
Speaker 1: talking about? You don't even own anything. You rent a house, sure,
Speaker 1: you know, But I mean, first of all, we've got
Speaker 1: our car. It's been well taken care of, well maintained.
Speaker 1: It's been garaged. It's been garaged because that car hasn't
Speaker 1: been able to drive in over ten years. That's why
Speaker 1: it's ruged. That car is a classic, I'll have you know.
Speaker 1: And then, of course he can't call a ninety two
Speaker 1: Chrysler a classic. It's worth absolutely nothing yet but no, no,
Speaker 1: you see, it's garage and so it hasn't been wet
Speaker 1: because it hasn't been warmed by the weather. It's gonna
Speaker 1: be worth a lot more. Drop a new engine in
Speaker 1: that thing and it'll be right and rint all right, right,
Speaker 1: maybe some doors, Richard. It doesn't sound like no offense here,
Speaker 1: But it doesn't sound like you have like a huge
Speaker 1: inheritance to give to your kids. Well, you know, we
Speaker 1: also have his mother's oil painting, you know, whose coffects
Speaker 1: are pretty penny. I'm sure Dad, nobody wants mom's oil
Speaker 1: paintings that she painted herself. Guys, Richard, you are a
Speaker 1: very good father trying to take care of your kids,
Speaker 1: and it's very sweet. It sounds like your son's gonna
Speaker 1: be okay. You thought, yeah, your son will be fine.
Speaker 1: I have a feeling your daughter may have gotten her
Speaker 1: money management skills from you. You know that these are
Speaker 1: these are real assets, you know. I don't understand why
Speaker 1: it's so funny that everybody, but you know that these
Speaker 1: are these things are an investment. Yeah, not for I mean, look,
Speaker 1: if it's five hundred bucks's five hundred bucks. We just
Speaker 1: the reason that people are laughing, Richard, is because when
Speaker 1: you set it up, it sounded like you had a
Speaker 1: ton of like stocks and but you know, all that
Speaker 1: kind of stuff. Yeah, and so that's what we were thinking.
Speaker 1: And then come to find out you got ninety two
Speaker 1: Chrysler and five hundred dollars for the baseball cards. I'm
Speaker 1: sure your daughter could use that to sell or whatever.
Speaker 1: But it's just the expectation was a lot bigger. That's
Speaker 1: why people think it's funny. Yeah, it's very sweet that
Speaker 1: you want to do this for her, and I think
Speaker 1: your heart's in the right place and this is really
Speaker 1: kind of you, you know, Dylan, you're just happy because
Speaker 1: you don't have to try to sell a night into Chrysler.
Speaker 1: Your sister does. Now, I'm not gonna lie. I won't
Speaker 1: have to worry about it, and she'll be happy to
Speaker 1: deal with it. Honestly, I think my dad's doing the
Speaker 1: right to sit here. I'm an agree with him. He's
Speaker 1: doing the great jobs. I think this is really sweet.
Speaker 1: I thought that this phone call Richard was going to
Speaker 1: destroy a family. And you know what, you raise your
Speaker 1: kids right, and they seem like very kind people. They're
Speaker 1: great kids. They're really really great kids. So Dylan, you're
Speaker 1: you're okay if she gets the majority of this, You're
Speaker 1: okay with this. Dad, I'm not just okay. I'm great
Speaker 1: with it. You could give her everything. Congratulations, successful awkward
Speaker 1: Tuesday phone call. You got your problem solved. Thanks guys.
Speaker 1: Dylan off see your dinner ob Sunday. Yes you will, Dad,
Speaker 1: and Dylan's paying obviously broken jewel in the morning.