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Speaker 1: with subject lines like my boyfriend's new adult child, um
Speaker 1: boyfriend and I dirty talk about my ex fun buddy
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Speaker 1: some help help, Yeah, I mean it's not like I'm doing,
Speaker 1: you know, mentally great based on my Instagram stories, but
Speaker 1: I'm feeling good on the inside. Hey, we projected different
Speaker 1: reality on our social media. Um okay. Email number one.
Speaker 1: The subject line is bf's new adult child. Oh hey, ladies,
Speaker 1: loyal fucker here. I've been listening to your show for years.
Speaker 1: I've never thought i'd be emailing in, but here we
Speaker 1: are really drastically wrong. Kevin's upset. I was hoping to
Speaker 1: get some advice on my current situation. I'll try to
Speaker 1: keep this as short as possible. Don't worry, girl. My
Speaker 1: boyfriend and I have been dating for almost three years.
Speaker 1: I'm twenty five, he's thirty eight. About a year ago
Speaker 1: his roommate's daughter. Let's call her Ashley. So you give
Speaker 1: a name to a girl you hate, although at one
Speaker 1: close friend actually is one of the best. So let's
Speaker 1: call her Ashley. All right, let's moved in with them? Uh.
Speaker 1: He has known Ashley almost her entire life and a
Speaker 1: senior grow up. She's now twenty years old but looks fourteen.
Speaker 1: Where's this going? She has had a fucked up life,
Speaker 1: has fucked up parents, and had to beg her dad.
Speaker 1: My boyfriend's roommate, who is a scumbag to live there
Speaker 1: because she had nowhere else to go. They set up
Speaker 1: a bed in uh for her in their living room. Ah,
Speaker 1: there goes your sets life. Quick info. I've always said
Speaker 1: I have no interest in dating someone with a kid.
Speaker 1: My boyfriend knows this. I'm not sure if this makes
Speaker 1: me sound terrible, but I'm not interested in sharing my
Speaker 1: time with my partner with a kid. That's not That's
Speaker 1: completely reasonable. Ye. Back to the story. So my boyfriend
Speaker 1: has taken on a father role with Ashley. Someone's gonna
Speaker 1: do it. He cares for her, does things for her
Speaker 1: that her own father doesn't like, takes her to work,
Speaker 1: grocery shopping, anywhere she needs. Are they in love? Just kidding? Um?
Speaker 1: And she and said he he loves the feeling of
Speaker 1: playing the dad role because it makes him feel good
Speaker 1: and needed. That's great for him. Cool. When I go
Speaker 1: to his slash their placed, which isn't very often because
Speaker 1: one I'm busy with work and school and forty five
Speaker 1: minute away, and too, I feel uncomfortable there with the
Speaker 1: shitty roommate and Ashley, like I'm invading their space. I'm
Speaker 1: cordial with Ashley your bitch. I say hello and goodbye
Speaker 1: if she looks up from her phone. Oh, man, but
Speaker 1: I don't feel like going out of my way to
Speaker 1: be super chatty. I'm there to spend time with my boyfriend.
Speaker 1: That's it. You should tell her that I've tried my
Speaker 1: best to give him advice on how to quote parent her,
Speaker 1: but he keeps babying her, doing whatever she needs, paying
Speaker 1: for groceries, etcetera dad's ship. Yeah, he finally got her
Speaker 1: an apartment key, but she doesn't even use it. Last
Speaker 1: week we were literally in the middle of fucking and
Speaker 1: right before finishing the damn doorbell rings. It was Ashley
Speaker 1: who apparently couldn't be bothered to use her key to
Speaker 1: get in. I love this girl style. Now I'm Manny's
Speaker 1: helping the door for me. Any advice I give him
Speaker 1: about her goes in one ear and out the other.
Speaker 1: I've given her job advice, school advice. I always mentioned
Speaker 1: that she could get her driver's license and save up
Speaker 1: for a car. I bet you in a real nice
Speaker 1: stone too. Yeah, you know, some people have licenses because
Speaker 1: they're not losers. Actually, this girl does nothing all day. Well,
Speaker 1: she had a ship life and she probably doesn't have
Speaker 1: a good female role model, sleeps all day and goes
Speaker 1: out at night. It's called being twenty. Yeah, exactly, works
Speaker 1: a couple shifts a week, and spends her money on
Speaker 1: clothes and makeup. Again, this all twenty year old ship. Recently,
Speaker 1: my boyfriend told me he would like to be a
Speaker 1: friend and sort of mentor to her. Oh my god.
Speaker 1: He now him playing dad has me and has been
Speaker 1: an ongoing argument for us. So so him wanting to
Speaker 1: be more involved is really pissing me off. He says,
Speaker 1: I'm being possessive and jealous. Yeah, you're being an old
Speaker 1: stick in the mud. Yeah you're not twenty. Get out
Speaker 1: of here. But I just don't have an interest in
Speaker 1: dating a dad or someone who's playing the dad role.
Speaker 1: I have no and I have no in and sharing
Speaker 1: my time with him with someone else. I feel like
Speaker 1: I'm going insane. He is being a dad to this
Speaker 1: twenty year old girl. I'm seeing him less because I
Speaker 1: go over there less because I don't want to spend
Speaker 1: time with her too. Does she smell or something? He
Speaker 1: always talks she's probably really hot. He always talks to
Speaker 1: me about how quote life doesn't always give you exactly
Speaker 1: what you want, but he wanted Actually he got a
Speaker 1: right except and then and that I need to make
Speaker 1: adjustments to be okay with his situation, and then I
Speaker 1: need to grow up? Should I be okay with this? Am? I?
Speaker 1: Am I an asshole for not wanting to be this
Speaker 1: girl's friend slash mentor when she has had a shitty life?
Speaker 1: Am I possessive slash jealous for not wanting to share
Speaker 1: the time I get with my boyfriend with his new
Speaker 1: kid slash adult kid? Am I being crazy? This ended
Speaker 1: up being a long email? My apologies, don't stop it
Speaker 1: this This just gets me so mad. I appreciate brutal honesty.
Speaker 1: He wants to She wrote it like a longer email
Speaker 1: because she didn't want to spend time with Ashley. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's funny. Hey, you know you do. We get to
Speaker 1: do it and you can tell me if I'm being childish.
Speaker 1: I don't know. Maybe that'll work. Maybe your boyfriend wanted
Speaker 1: some more spend work. God, I wish we had a
Speaker 1: picture of this woman and a picture of actually I really,
Speaker 1: because then I could really give you an honest assessment.
Speaker 1: Because if Ashley's hot, that's a different answer. I don't
Speaker 1: know if this is worth mentioning, but my boyfriend is
Speaker 1: the type of person that if I were to ghost
Speaker 1: him or just stop going to see him, he wouldn't
Speaker 1: really care or be faced. Well, I will call that
Speaker 1: a red flag. What do we argue? It's always me
Speaker 1: who fixes it? Oh? God, wow, he really doesn't give
Speaker 1: a shit about you and gives a lot of shit
Speaker 1: about Actually, yeah, this is not good girl. It's always
Speaker 1: me who fixes it. If I didn't, he probably wouldn't
Speaker 1: try to work on anything or even reach out to me.
Speaker 1: How did he take it? Ashley to them all? Isn't
Speaker 1: he actually a cool dad? It's not your kid. He
Speaker 1: comes to me as a septum piercing actually asked me
Speaker 1: to do it your thirty it's always me reaching out
Speaker 1: and making an effort. I'm over it. But the idea
Speaker 1: of breaking up hurts my fucking chest. And that's just
Speaker 1: your aging. Yeah. Thanks, it's your old, old heart. It's
Speaker 1: your hearts. You're so old. Thanks, and I hope your
Speaker 1: quarantine isn't too terrible. Oh, it's great. About to listen
Speaker 1: to your Memorial Day episode as I get ready for
Speaker 1: a day of avoiding my boyfriend don't say you have
Speaker 1: to try too hard to avoid your boyfriend. I think
Speaker 1: the main problem here there's a weird obsession he has
Speaker 1: with Ashley, and it doesn't necessarily it's not necessarily sexual.
Speaker 1: But maybe it's like he was never treated by his
Speaker 1: parents the way that he's treating this kid, and he
Speaker 1: sees that his roommates a piece of ship, so he
Speaker 1: can see a way to improve this child's life. Maybe
Speaker 1: that has to deal with the fact that he wasn't
Speaker 1: raised the way he thought he should be. He just
Speaker 1: wants to funck this kid. Old woman. I went back
Speaker 1: because I wanted to see the ages his girlfriend and
Speaker 1: she and so she doesn't feel she's like she's you're
Speaker 1: you're five years older than she's your exactly. She feels
Speaker 1: a colleague level competitiveness. It's basically like, your boyfriend got
Speaker 1: another girlfriend and her name is Ashley. Yeah, that's kind
Speaker 1: of what happened. Yeah, that's how I would assess the situation.
Speaker 1: I really need to see a picture of Ashley. But
Speaker 1: you know, girl writing us if she's hot or not,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? Like women know, and then
Speaker 1: all guys are like I can't tell they're good looking
Speaker 1: because you can. But women, my guess is, my guess
Speaker 1: is like your boyfriend wouldn't want to help an ugly
Speaker 1: person so much. And also because men are pretty people
Speaker 1: don't get as much help as pretty people. Yeah, men
Speaker 1: are very transparent like that. I don't think he's like
Speaker 1: driving an ugly girl to them all and like feeling
Speaker 1: like awesome about it. And then also, you know she
Speaker 1: is hot and that's making you feel insecure because you
Speaker 1: wouldn't be as mad about it, like, yeah, if it's
Speaker 1: actually it's actually had a lazy eye or was a
Speaker 1: little you know, dumpy looking, you wouldn't give a ship.
Speaker 1: You'd feel bad for Ashley too, But because Ashley is
Speaker 1: hot and five years younger, it gets in your skin
Speaker 1: and I would be I would feel the same way.
Speaker 1: Especially the double blow here is that you have to
Speaker 1: put all the effort into the relationship and then he's
Speaker 1: putting all this effort not you in the Ashley. Yeah,
Speaker 1: this is weird as fuck, I would say. And this
Speaker 1: is not a situation where I would say I have
Speaker 1: a conversation about it. I mean, it's always worth having
Speaker 1: a conversation to see if you can get somewhere. I
Speaker 1: doubt this is really this is really weird, and like
Speaker 1: this is a living arrangement that's like so deep. I
Speaker 1: don't know how you get out of this. And also
Speaker 1: like the fact that you wrote all this stuff about
Speaker 1: Ashley and it seems like maybe Ashley just put a
Speaker 1: spotlight on ship that was already bothering you, because then
Speaker 1: in the last paragraph you kind of doesn't pay attention
Speaker 1: to me, like as an afterthought you said that to us,
Speaker 1: but it's like that's a huge problem. And also just
Speaker 1: being honest with you and thirty eight and that doesn't
Speaker 1: really work. I got it, doesn't It just I it doesn't.
Speaker 1: That's work for me. Those are very different, different different
Speaker 1: places in life. Your your boyfriend's obviously like trying to
Speaker 1: fill some void uh well, you know, in his heart
Speaker 1: and then also in Ashley's vagina, yeah, your vaginal connect um.
Speaker 1: But and you're traveling forty five minutes. It's like it's
Speaker 1: like your twenty five, you're young. You should be having
Speaker 1: relationships that really aren't even close to this much work
Speaker 1: because you're gonna have so much time in your life
Speaker 1: for really exhausting relationships when your tips are sagging. So
Speaker 1: like justin you you deserve better always, but certainly better. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we don't need to mean if we start making adjustments
Speaker 1: when we're twenty five years old. Okay. Also for a
Speaker 1: thirty eight year old man who has a roommate and
Speaker 1: then a couch daughter like you, and then Ashley don't
Speaker 1: look like she sleeps on a couch, and that's probably
Speaker 1: another thing. Yeah, yeah, it's like ever go over real early.
Speaker 1: Just oh yeah, it's just like you know, bring up,
Speaker 1: bring them some scrambled eggs in the morning and see
Speaker 1: if actually has pillow prints from the couch on her face,
Speaker 1: because maybe she's bunking with your bow. And also you
Speaker 1: said she's now twenty in parentheses but looks fourteen. Yeah
Speaker 1: that's like a literally a whole tab on porn hub. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: twenty but looks fourteen. Ashley, I wish Yeah, you're fucked. Well,
Speaker 1: you're not fucked you you say in this relationship? Actually
Speaker 1: getting did that help? I so definitely did. That was
Speaker 1: a real dose of reality girl. All right, thanks and
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