Speaker 1: Hey, this is Annie and Samantha and welcome to Steph.
Speaker 1: I never told you production of I Heart Radio. Hey Annie, Yes,
Speaker 1: Happy Pride Month. Thank you to you as well. Samantha.
Speaker 1: I've seen you so many times this month and I
Speaker 1: don't think or talk to you so many times with month,
Speaker 1: and I can't believe I haven't said that to you already.
Speaker 1: I could sense it, Okay, I can just always tell
Speaker 1: I haven't said it either, So we're making amends right now. Um. Yeah, Yeah,
Speaker 1: it is Pride Month as we record this and as
Speaker 1: it comes out. But again we can't control when you're
Speaker 1: listening to it. True, So if it is Pride month
Speaker 1: when you listen, happy Pride month, and you know what,
Speaker 1: Happy Pride month anyway, hugs, Happy Pride months everyone. Yes, Yes,
Speaker 1: And because of that, I thought i'd do a brief
Speaker 1: check in and update all my a sexuality with with
Speaker 1: some other news the items thrown in because yes, Also,
Speaker 1: as we record this, there are a lot of protests
Speaker 1: in the United States and around the world around black
Speaker 1: Lives Matter and police brutality, and as a part of that,
Speaker 1: we have seen a lot of conversations around not leaving
Speaker 1: the black l g B t Q plus community out
Speaker 1: of that conversation, and specifically Black chance Lives Matter, um,
Speaker 1: also Black Women's Lives Matter, which isn't necessarily l g
Speaker 1: b t Q plus, but a part of this conversation.
Speaker 1: And we've seen the Stonewall riots come up a lot,
Speaker 1: which was sort of the impetus for what is now
Speaker 1: Pride Month um in association with or in in the
Speaker 1: kind of similarities that the stone All riots had with
Speaker 1: what is going on right now right and the Supreme
Speaker 1: Court just ruled that civil rights extends to the lgbt
Speaker 1: Q plus community e a surprisingly by an overwhelming amount
Speaker 1: of votes from the justices. I honestly, I was surprised
Speaker 1: that it was six to three. And by the way,
Speaker 1: Q Kavanaugh just to put that out there, because he
Speaker 1: did exactly what we thought he would do, even though
Speaker 1: he wouldn't admit it during his confirmation hearing. Um. And
Speaker 1: there has also and we're not gonna get too much
Speaker 1: into it, but then there's a big conversation about the
Speaker 1: fact that the way that the opinion was read in
Speaker 1: our argument for the civil rights extension actually left out
Speaker 1: the bisexual community in its language, and there a lot
Speaker 1: of the bisexual community were really upset even though this
Speaker 1: was a victory, because there was a type of rature
Speaker 1: that they've had to deal with, as we've talked about
Speaker 1: previously for many, many years, and within the LGBTQ community
Speaker 1: in itself. So it was really interesting to see what
Speaker 1: that take and that probably something that we should revisit,
Speaker 1: even though yes, it is still overall victory because we
Speaker 1: know many states did not have any of these rulings
Speaker 1: and were allowed to discriminate against that community and being
Speaker 1: able to fire. But there's also that conversation of the
Speaker 1: will state. When we heard this news, my entire body
Speaker 1: and brain was like good news. Wait what Yeah? I
Speaker 1: think the day before the decision, because there are several
Speaker 1: decisions that were supposed to happen that day. Um, everybody
Speaker 1: was just in a ball of anxiety and just assumed
Speaker 1: and I think this is the one actually tweeted one
Speaker 1: of the people that we follow, Oh, well, tomorrow is
Speaker 1: gonna be a bad day. It's going to be the
Speaker 1: worst thing. Might as well go to bed. Yeah yeah, No,
Speaker 1: I I struggled to process it, to be honest. Uh
Speaker 1: so yeah, there is that. Um. On a personal level,
Speaker 1: I've been navigating what being a sexual and by romantic
Speaker 1: means for me and what it means for my future,
Speaker 1: because as I've discussed before, I have a lot of
Speaker 1: trust issues, So it would take so so, so, so
Speaker 1: so much for me to believe that I could be
Speaker 1: in a relationship and a healthy relationship with someone who
Speaker 1: was okay with not having sex and not like feeling
Speaker 1: guilty about it myself. So there is that. And I
Speaker 1: have been looking back on my life and all this
Speaker 1: pressure that I felt to date and to be as
Speaker 1: into sex and having sex as my friends were and
Speaker 1: just absolutely not feeling it and thinking something was wrong
Speaker 1: with me or just needed more time or or whatever
Speaker 1: the reason, and how many things I've done that I
Speaker 1: didn't want to do because of it. And of course
Speaker 1: all my history of sexual trauma and lack of trust
Speaker 1: myself has complicated all of that too. And I still
Speaker 1: feel a little uncomfortable saying I'm part of the community
Speaker 1: since I can pass that straight. Um. I'm so so
Speaker 1: confident that I'm queer like above all else, but I
Speaker 1: am hesitant to claim it, um, just because I haven't
Speaker 1: faced any public discrimination. Um. And that's kind of that
Speaker 1: conversation about Racher anyway, that even though you can identify
Speaker 1: as that that people do easily a race, that community
Speaker 1: in general, and I actually I told you an acquaintance
Speaker 1: of mine came out as a son. The first thing
Speaker 1: I was like, Oh, let me tell you about my
Speaker 1: you knows like we did a podcast because my We
Speaker 1: did an episode because my co host is as and
Speaker 1: here's something to know. And it was really nice to
Speaker 1: be able to like, hey, you're not alone, and I
Speaker 1: love that you're coming out now, and here are some
Speaker 1: more people within our community who can relate to you
Speaker 1: and you can relate to Yeah. That's probably been the
Speaker 1: most rewarding thing about going through this on a podcast
Speaker 1: is going through figuring out what I identify as um is.
Speaker 1: People have reached out and said thank you so much.
Speaker 1: You've encouraged me to talk to people about how I
Speaker 1: identify or you've helped me figure out how I identify,
Speaker 1: and that is so rewarding. So I'm glad to be
Speaker 1: a part of that. It's really funny because I generally
Speaker 1: don't get upset when people and I'm thinking in one
Speaker 1: instance in particular, but when we could still hang out
Speaker 1: with people where I was hanging out with kind of
Speaker 1: an older couple and they were discussing like past relationships
Speaker 1: and how they had broken up with people who didn't
Speaker 1: want to have sex because something was clearly wrong with
Speaker 1: them and it was hurtful. But I'm able to navigate
Speaker 1: those situations kind of get away from them or or
Speaker 1: have that conversation. It's fine. But because social media has
Speaker 1: become such a mind field, a couple of days ago,
Speaker 1: a sexual was turning on Twitter and I was like, nope,
Speaker 1: getting off Twitter for all day. And I think it
Speaker 1: was because SpongeBob so Nickelodeon announced he was like Happy
Speaker 1: Pride and he was part of the Pride LGBTQ plus community.
Speaker 1: Everyone was like, SpongeBob is guy or he's bisexual, and
Speaker 1: then they found an old comment from the creator it
Speaker 1: was now dead, but he said I always thought of
Speaker 1: him as a sexual. I think that's why it was
Speaker 1: uh yeah, I think like inviting him to the community,
Speaker 1: as well as the fact that the cartoon character was
Speaker 1: representing an l g b t Q I plus, you know,
Speaker 1: there was the big point of that. But probably I
Speaker 1: didn't make too much in that either other than oh yeah,
Speaker 1: of course, of course, um yeah, And it's been funny
Speaker 1: because I suppose that's a it's a really good distraction
Speaker 1: right now. But I've been writing my fan fiction and
Speaker 1: thinking a lot about my past fictional crushes, and people
Speaker 1: are like, but you have so many crushes. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: can crush man crush. That's completely different. Yes, it is,
Speaker 1: it is, um, And I did want to put in
Speaker 1: here because I thought it was hilarious. I recently have
Speaker 1: gotten not one, not too that's three, but four because
Speaker 1: I just got another one from dudes saying I've been
Speaker 1: avoiding them, and I thought that was very, very funny
Speaker 1: because it's a pandemic. You're like, I don't know what
Speaker 1: that means, but yes, I'm staying in the house and
Speaker 1: avoiding most people but everyone. Actually it's not just to you,
Speaker 1: but yes, yes, uh yeah, that was just a very
Speaker 1: funny thing that happened. UM. And something else I wanted
Speaker 1: to touch on because I thought it was really funny. Um.
Speaker 1: That doesn't necessarily have to do with pride, but just
Speaker 1: hilarious is the New York City Health Department sex guidelines
Speaker 1: have been updated. Now, we talked about these already, UM,
Speaker 1: but they've expanded on it, and I just I've got
Speaker 1: to share some of their tips. Okay, so number one,
Speaker 1: this is a quote. These are quotes. You are your
Speaker 1: safest sex partner. Number two, and I think this is
Speaker 1: my favorite. Be creative with sexual positions and physical barriers
Speaker 1: like walls. Oh lord, that just makes me think of
Speaker 1: all the cleanup you're going to have to do. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean we're cleaning up more in general. So you
Speaker 1: just add that to the pile um masturbate together. Um.
Speaker 1: Large gatherings are not advised. Limit the size of your
Speaker 1: guest list. Keep it intimate, so keep your orgies small.
Speaker 1: Is no longer orgies? Is it umber? So I love
Speaker 1: that large gatherings are not advised avoid kissing. And they
Speaker 1: do advise that you wear a mask during sex, so
Speaker 1: you know you can get creative with that, I suppose.
Speaker 1: And they are offering free home delivery of condoms and lup.
Speaker 1: Well that's super nice. I'm still trying to figure out
Speaker 1: the wear a mask thing. I guess that could be
Speaker 1: a new form of you know, some people like in
Speaker 1: the b DSM community like a new form of kink
Speaker 1: or is an insult to say that. I'm trying to
Speaker 1: think of it, but I don't. I think it's you know,
Speaker 1: people some people like wear a mask, right right? Some
Speaker 1: people Yeah, Okay, I mean I guess there's so many
Speaker 1: days going through my head right now that I'm like, huh,
Speaker 1: what does that look like? Yeah? Yeah, yeah, anyway, so
Speaker 1: yeah that I just wanted to touch on that again. Um,
Speaker 1: And we would love to hear from you listeners. How
Speaker 1: has pride been for you? If you've been doing anything
Speaker 1: special or not, We're just like hearing from you. You
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