Speaker 1: Hey, Fucker's what up? It's Christina Hutchinson and Karin Fisher.
Speaker 1: You're about to listen to an excerpt from Guys, We
Speaker 1: Fucked the Anti Slutch I Mean podcast. This week we
Speaker 1: have a very special guest comedian and actress from the
Speaker 1: new film on Netflix, The Wrong Missy, Lauren lab Kiss. Yeah.
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Speaker 1: I learned to guess I get older, that sometimes lust
Speaker 1: is not healthy, and I thought that that's what was
Speaker 1: required to like somebody. I was listening to a podcast
Speaker 1: from um I Guess we had on a couple of
Speaker 1: weeks ago, Mark Groves, and I mean, he says very clearly,
Speaker 1: like the two things you're looking for in love that
Speaker 1: you might not realize is what you're looking for a
Speaker 1: safety and safety and security like and trust. These are
Speaker 1: the things you're looking for and I think a lot
Speaker 1: of times, uh, we can flate uh love and lust
Speaker 1: because you think, like, oh, I should be feeling these butterflies,
Speaker 1: which is almost a sign of anxiety and this like
Speaker 1: and like manipulation and gas lighting and people and like
Speaker 1: you hanging onto every word or text message and you're like, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: that's not that's not how someone who loves you and
Speaker 1: cares about you, they wouldn't leave you hanging in that way.
Speaker 1: But so many of us, like even when you know,
Speaker 1: well into our thirties, uh, it gets excited by that.
Speaker 1: And I feel like especially artists, and we're all artists,
Speaker 1: and this this woman writing as an artist, So I
Speaker 1: feel like artists really do like drama, even a little
Speaker 1: bit more than non artists. Yeah, I do think you're
Speaker 1: totally right about that butterflies thing. That like people can
Speaker 1: equate that with like with like love, when really it's
Speaker 1: it can sometimes be that you're uncomfortable and you're like
Speaker 1: you're not yourself. Like I think there's like that feeling.
Speaker 1: It sounds like this woman with this guy, like it
Speaker 1: sounds like she's really comfortable, and that's really amazing to
Speaker 1: find somebody where like we can drive to look at
Speaker 1: the moon and lay in the thing and talk whatever,
Speaker 1: and it's like that's like what the goal is. But
Speaker 1: like if you're not feeling like nervous about it, it's
Speaker 1: like doing them like him, Like there's like that's such
Speaker 1: a real Yeah you grow up. Yeah, especially if that's
Speaker 1: the only thing you've experienced. You're like, well then this
Speaker 1: isn't it. And yeah, I think she should still try
Speaker 1: to keep seeing him. I haven't try to bone. I
Speaker 1: probably try to one more time, just to see the
Speaker 1: first I've never had bads, I've never slept with somebody
Speaker 1: a long term that the first time was bad. The
Speaker 1: first time is bad. I'm like I have, and because
Speaker 1: I've I've learned to give people a second chance because
Speaker 1: sometimes like like I can think of actually multiple times
Speaker 1: where the first time was not good and then it
Speaker 1: ended up being good. But guys, yeah, sometimes guys I
Speaker 1: feel like with you are are like they're not sure,
Speaker 1: they're they're timidated, and they're nervous more so because I mean, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm really not. But that's like the thing I'm I'm
Speaker 1: actually like probably like the nicest like as you are
Speaker 1: in the bedroom. Yeah, because just like all of our listeners.
Speaker 1: She feels like she answers her own question because in
Speaker 1: paragraph one she's like kind of in love with him quote,
Speaker 1: and then by the end she's like, I don't even
Speaker 1: know if I should see this guy again. He's like,
Speaker 1: what I wants a roller coaster. I do feel like
Speaker 1: I feel like, ultimately she's not gonna be able to
Speaker 1: convey my assumption. She's not going to be able to
Speaker 1: like rise to the occasion of like feeling all these
Speaker 1: things and whatever not that it's like a failure to
Speaker 1: not feel it, but like it's just not gonna happen here.
Speaker 1: Like I feel like she's had it's been months, they've
Speaker 1: been close, they've been hanging out, they've had sex, they've kissed,
Speaker 1: all these things. Like it feels like you kind of
Speaker 1: can tell whether it's worth pursuing at that point. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I agree, it sucks to that guy, thoways, sounds cool. Yeah,
Speaker 1: a lot of varying skill. The second one is called
Speaker 1: um clip blocked by COVID twenty five and a virgin.
Speaker 1: Oh oh gosh, hey Karen and Christina, I love you too.
Speaker 1: I'm twenty five years old and a virgin. I don't
Speaker 1: mean to stay one so long. I didn't need to
Speaker 1: stay one so long. But I'm from a small town
Speaker 1: and didn't want to sleep with anyone I went to
Speaker 1: high school with. I felt the same way. I lived
Speaker 1: at home while I went to college, so there wasn't
Speaker 1: much opportunity for fucking while living with my parents. In January,
Speaker 1: I got my full time big kid job. I packed
Speaker 1: up and moved to Salt Lake City. I'm guessing we're
Speaker 1: just a salty lake I was hoping, hoping with a
Speaker 1: place of my own, i'd get the chance to lose
Speaker 1: my virginity. But is the worst place to go to
Speaker 1: lose your new apartment my my Mormon zone. Um, now
Speaker 1: I'm in a new city, stuck working from home even
Speaker 1: when things open up again. How will I go about
Speaker 1: telling a guy that I'm a virgin? If I don't
Speaker 1: tell them, will they will they notice? I want to
Speaker 1: get it over with, But the only guys I know
Speaker 1: here are comedians, and my female comedian friend would be
Speaker 1: grossed out if I showed any interest in them. What
Speaker 1: do you think I should do? Can't wait to see
Speaker 1: you in Salt Lake City again? Oh my, disclose your
Speaker 1: virginity question. I love the specific specificity of like being
Speaker 1: a comedian too. We get a lot of like comedians
Speaker 1: writing in because we're always like, don't take comedians, and
Speaker 1: then I'll always go and day a comedian and I'm like,
Speaker 1: well I did. I'm I'm like, I'm a comedian, so
Speaker 1: it's fine, But I know I want to do the
Speaker 1: same thing. I'm like everyone, I'm like thrilled for any
Speaker 1: of my friends who married someone who's not a comedian.
Speaker 1: But I'm married a comedian, Like I don't know. It's
Speaker 1: like and I don't think he's great, um, but I'm
Speaker 1: like that you do fund there are some diamonds in
Speaker 1: the rough, but you have to look really hard. I
Speaker 1: found one, but don't I don't recommend it for everyone.
Speaker 1: I feel like she this is the worst, Like I
Speaker 1: feel like if I feel like the situation when right
Speaker 1: now with COVID is a nightmare for being single and
Speaker 1: for and wanting a relationship, especially if you she had
Speaker 1: this goal of like losing her virginity, which feels like
Speaker 1: absolutely impossible, Like I don't do that happen for her
Speaker 1: until yeah, I don't know. I mean, I feel like
Speaker 1: you got to kind of accept that's not going to
Speaker 1: happen just based on the way the world is right now,
Speaker 1: although I'm sure many people are still having sex with strangers,
Speaker 1: are yeah behind you? Yeah, I don't know. I feel
Speaker 1: like it's just such a rough time for that. But
Speaker 1: I um, I think also, you don't necessarily have to
Speaker 1: tell someone. I don't think. Yeah, I can't want to tell.
Speaker 1: The first when I lost my virginity, I was so young,
Speaker 1: and I my boyfriend knew, so I I needed to
Speaker 1: hit somebody to hold my hand through it, which was him,
Speaker 1: and so I needed that person to know because I
Speaker 1: was younger. But yeah, I don't know. I can't you tell.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know because I don't know
Speaker 1: because some people, I think they might be able to
Speaker 1: tell that you're not experienced, but I don't know that
Speaker 1: they'd be able to tell you've never had sex. I
Speaker 1: mean unless you the guy and then afterwards he was like,
Speaker 1: I just lost my virginity. I would have probably wished
Speaker 1: that he said something, but of course that's his storice,
Speaker 1: so whatever. But I would have been like, I don't know,
Speaker 1: it would have done fancier ship or something, you know. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean, I think someone's just gonna assume that you
Speaker 1: already had lost your virginity, so exactly, like unless you bleed,
Speaker 1: like Lauren said, and I can't imagine that by five
Speaker 1: you haven't you know, popped your cherry for lack of
Speaker 1: a better phrase, Yeah, I mean I lost my virginity
Speaker 1: at eighteen and I did not. I did not bleed,
Speaker 1: So yeah, I don't think. I think that's something that
Speaker 1: we think of more as like from TV and movies.
Speaker 1: That right, And I only know one person who actually
Speaker 1: bled uh then I know too. But yeah, I was like,
Speaker 1: I was like, I was twirling and doing gymnastics like
Speaker 1: that that are like when you're doing stuff like that
Speaker 1: already happens. Yeah, you were twirling. This is fascinating. Yes,
Speaker 1: I'm a varge I'm a varsity baton twirler, Lauren, Is
Speaker 1: that a third hand for your Yeah, that's that's why
Speaker 1: I have. It's nothing more ebarrassing than having varsity letters
Speaker 1: from baton to every It's cool, that's cool, it's so unique.
Speaker 1: I like it. I really enjoyed twirling. It's super fun.
Speaker 1: But yeah, I think I think if she could say beforehand,
Speaker 1: maybe thinking about what you're saying, that you kind of
Speaker 1: wish that if if you did have sex with the
Speaker 1: guy who was a virgin, and you would have wanted
Speaker 1: to tell you beforehand. I feel like there's the feeling
Speaker 1: that she could say beforehand, Hey, I just want you
Speaker 1: to know I'm a virgin. But like I'm not gonna,
Speaker 1: like I want to marry you, you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: Like I think that's not that scary. Guys, now I'm
Speaker 1: gonna you're gonna want to like obsessed with me. Don't
Speaker 1: catch feelings. Yeah, just make sure the person is nice,
Speaker 1: Like it doesn't have to be you're so made, you
Speaker 1: don't like at this point, like you don't have to
Speaker 1: wait for and the and that's like so much pressure
Speaker 1: to put on yourself and someone else. But just like
Speaker 1: make sure it's like a kind human being. Yeah, And
Speaker 1: I mean you could get started on a dating app
Speaker 1: or I don't know, because you can't there's no where
Speaker 1: to meet people yet, so dating app, but then like
Speaker 1: go so slow and then make you know, I think
Speaker 1: it's good. Nobody looks kind of good. Like I think
Speaker 1: it's a good to meet on an app at this
Speaker 1: point because you can't skip ahead and just like hook
Speaker 1: up with somebody and potentially miss out getting on getting
Speaker 1: to know them, Like you can get to know someone
Speaker 1: talk on FaceTime for like months, and then I think
Speaker 1: it'd be perfect for losing your virginity because you're like
Speaker 1: trusting this person, you've taught them for all, you know
Speaker 1: a lot about them, and whether or not you date.
Speaker 1: In real life, it's not the end of the world
Speaker 1: if you if you don't date past that moment. But yeah,
Speaker 1: I think it's a fun COVID story too. I mean,
Speaker 1: it's at least you can't, you know, it's it now
Speaker 1: is the time that we have the time to get
Speaker 1: to know people. So I know, I wonder if a
Speaker 1: lot of people, I don't know, what if your friends
Speaker 1: are going through this, Like are people like getting to
Speaker 1: know people better through this time with like Tinder or whatever,
Speaker 1: I mean themselves And a lot of people seem to
Speaker 1: not like it for them. Gotta be honest, I think
Speaker 1: that's so true, just with people getting so mad about
Speaker 1: quarantine and I'm like, you can't. Yeah, I think it's
Speaker 1: I think it has a lot to do with like
Speaker 1: not being able to sit with yourself exactly. I couldn't
Speaker 1: you remore because I live by my cred and I
Speaker 1: both live alone in our apartments and with our dogs.
Speaker 1: But truly, I but I'm the healthy, healthy and happiest
Speaker 1: mentally that I've ever been. So because and because I like,
Speaker 1: I don't have a crush on anybody, I'm not really
Speaker 1: that interested in anybody, so I can really just calm
Speaker 1: down and hang out with myself and be silly and stupid. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but I think if I wanted a relationship and then
Speaker 1: Quarantine hit, that would probably make me suffer emotionally. Yeah,
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