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Speaker 1: have a legendary guest. It's Margaret Show. Uh. So, if
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Speaker 1: a month. So how did you learn? So you learned
Speaker 1: about pickling? Did your parents go over sex with you
Speaker 1: as a Korean child? Um, they still have not my
Speaker 1: fifties and they still have not told me where babies
Speaker 1: come from. H I think that's really rude. And Um,
Speaker 1: so they as far as they know, I don't know. Wow.
Speaker 1: And so they just pretended like the subject didn't exist.
Speaker 1: Like that's pretty common unfortunately. Yeah. I mean I've come
Speaker 1: out to them. I've come ledge to them about three
Speaker 1: times too. I've come out to them as a lesbian,
Speaker 1: I've come out to them as bisexual. I've come out
Speaker 1: to them as straight. Um, and where do we get
Speaker 1: but yeah, and then I've came out backward, I came
Speaker 1: out backward. I've come out three times, but then come
Speaker 1: back in and then come back out, so over the
Speaker 1: over time, So where are we have somebody else? Oh?
Speaker 1: Where are we? I'm still I think I'm still at
Speaker 1: By back to By? Okay, and we're there? Were there
Speaker 1: like individual people or was it experiences or just like
Speaker 1: introspection that made you come to these different conclusions throughout
Speaker 1: your life? It's mostly been Um, it's mostly even people
Speaker 1: and mostly yeah, mostly people. I think, Okay, you need
Speaker 1: a person that you fall for, and then you're like, Okay,
Speaker 1: I guess this falls under the spectrum of bisexuality that
Speaker 1: kind of yeah, and then I think, oh, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: stay this way. And now I think I'm just kind
Speaker 1: of like, oh, I think I'm just gonna be I.
Speaker 1: But then I think I'll be buying single, which is
Speaker 1: the thing that my parents really hate the most. It's
Speaker 1: the single that's the scarlet letter out of everything you feel.
Speaker 1: Your single. Yeah, I love the most single. Honestly. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I've been I've been single the past few years, haven't
Speaker 1: had sex and eight months, um, don't even have a
Speaker 1: crush on anybody, and I gotta say, the most at
Speaker 1: piece I've ever been in my whole life. Um. So
Speaker 1: the ship is not being rocked at all, but it's
Speaker 1: kind of nice. Um yeah, because yeah, we've been thinking
Speaker 1: kind of like thinking about being a single and I
Speaker 1: often feel like I might be my own soul mate
Speaker 1: and then I am just someone who doesn't function well
Speaker 1: in relationships? Do you find I know, I know you
Speaker 1: you were married just once? Correct? Yes? Um? And so
Speaker 1: what do you see? What are like the different sides
Speaker 1: of yourself that you see between like single Margaret and
Speaker 1: and married or in a relationship Margaret, because I see
Speaker 1: drastic change in myself. Um, I'm in a relationship, but
Speaker 1: it's not um, it's uh, it's definitely well. I I
Speaker 1: live alone, I live um. And our relationship is very
Speaker 1: mature and it's also very much like it's adaptable and
Speaker 1: easy and it's and it's grown. It's like whatever I
Speaker 1: need to do, I can do. And if we want
Speaker 1: to come together, we can come together. And if we
Speaker 1: want to be apart, we can be part. It's fine.
Speaker 1: It's very mature and it's very grown, and I feel
Speaker 1: really good about it and comfortable about it, and um,
Speaker 1: it doesn't feel like um, anything I've been in before,
Speaker 1: and um it's with a man, and it feels really
Speaker 1: it feels really complete, but it's also uh really easy. Um.
Speaker 1: I feel like hormonally, I'm in a different place to
Speaker 1: I don't have the urgency that I had when I
Speaker 1: was saying my thirties or even my authorities. So there's
Speaker 1: a sense of kind of it's not I don't think.
Speaker 1: I'm not sure I can entirely believe in menopause either,
Speaker 1: because I do feel still sense a sense of sexual
Speaker 1: vibrancy and a sexual um excitement and fun and thrill,
Speaker 1: but there's a less of a sense of urgency and
Speaker 1: um alarm when things don't necessarily go my way right Like.
Speaker 1: It's an example of a situation where you would typically
Speaker 1: freak out or get really piste, or well say like, Okay,
Speaker 1: I don't get to see this person that I like,
Speaker 1: but I don't see them, but we have to not
Speaker 1: see each other for a couple of weeks or something.
Speaker 1: I don't go into an alarm spiral or I don't
Speaker 1: get upset. I'm like, Okay, wow, that's nice, whereas maybe
Speaker 1: five years ago it would be a complete disaster, yeah,
Speaker 1: whereas I would just be panicked about it or are
Speaker 1: really upset, Whereas now I'm like, oh, okay, it's not
Speaker 1: even something that I think about, and it's it's a
Speaker 1: real shift in kind of the dynamics of the way
Speaker 1: that my um I think that my hormones work with
Speaker 1: my emotions. My hormones seem to be much more detached
Speaker 1: from my emotions than they Well, as women get older,
Speaker 1: we get more testosterone, and as men get older, they
Speaker 1: get more estradin. So that actually makes a lot of sense,
Speaker 1: because I feel like estradin is tied to a more
Speaker 1: more attachment and a hyper awareness almost of your emotions,
Speaker 1: and it's like they're a little bit of a magnifying glass.
Speaker 1: And then as you get more estrogen, we just chill
Speaker 1: the funk out, but then also get horn near. I've
Speaker 1: I've been told, and I'm like, that's exciting. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: never want to not be horny. It's good, it's good,
Speaker 1: but it's less emotionally bound up in a kind of
Speaker 1: feeling of urgency, and you know, uh, there's like less
Speaker 1: sort of a need attached to it. So it's it's
Speaker 1: very different, but good. A calm and you can both
Speaker 1: itself is like in your relationship now you can be
Speaker 1: both independent and while you're together. That's that's like the
Speaker 1: golden mixture of factors that I that I think exists
Speaker 1: somewhere in the distance that I'm glad to know it
Speaker 1: actually does exist because the idea of we've really been exploring.
Speaker 1: I was in a relationship for seven years that that
Speaker 1: ended like a year or two ago, and just exploring
Speaker 1: what does it mean to be in a relationship, what
Speaker 1: our relationships and then realizing you can make your own rules.
Speaker 1: You can make your own rules about who you date.
Speaker 1: You could change those rules to your own comfort levels
Speaker 1: as long as the person that you're you're with is
Speaker 1: is okay with that. And so realizing that you can
Speaker 1: make your own rules has been a huge thing for me.
Speaker 1: How when did you know that? When did you realize
Speaker 1: that you can you don't have to put yourself in
Speaker 1: a box. Well, I've been trying to do. I've been
Speaker 1: trying to explore that, I think really for the last
Speaker 1: um really intensely for the last five years, really try
Speaker 1: to free my mind as to relationship. Also, I never
Speaker 1: dated on apps before starting I started and that was
Speaker 1: crazy too, because there was such a variety of people
Speaker 1: and I really am attracted to lots of different kinds
Speaker 1: of people, but I set my range too wide, um,
Speaker 1: because it was like three to seventy one and it
Speaker 1: was men in with and non binary, yes, and it
Speaker 1: was very it was too many. It's too many choices. Yea, yeah,
Speaker 1: that's that seems paralyzing almost. It was so many connecting
Speaker 1: on an app isode strange because some of the people
Speaker 1: are just so horny, and it's like you can tell,
Speaker 1: like I know what you mean to say and how
Speaker 1: you're trying you mean to communicate, but the way you're
Speaker 1: coming off is just way too horny for your own
Speaker 1: good and you can't even get your thoughts straight. Did
Speaker 1: you experience any of that with the messages? Yes? Yes?
Speaker 1: And then some people are so um me eady. And
Speaker 1: then some people are so flaky, and then it's like
Speaker 1: what the funk is happening like? And then some people
Speaker 1: are a combination of the two needy and flaky at
Speaker 1: the same time. What the fun all of you? And
Speaker 1: then the people that I connected most with, which is
Speaker 1: so funny, are like the twenty three year old, twenty
Speaker 1: four year old non binary uh people who uh. We
Speaker 1: didn't even talk about sex. We talked about communism and
Speaker 1: we talked about the posilar socialist anarchy and that you know,
Speaker 1: government and an army of loverage and like all this
Speaker 1: weird ship that has nothing and gentlemen square, I have
Speaker 1: nothing to do sex and then makeup. And it was
Speaker 1: really funny because it was like, Wow, this is what
Speaker 1: I'm connecting with, is it? But it was like with
Speaker 1: the youth of Paula Ticks and like society, and it
Speaker 1: made me feel really good because it was like really
Speaker 1: like young people. But it was also not about sex.
Speaker 1: It was really about this sort of anarchist spirit that
Speaker 1: I was getting into. But it was very it was
Speaker 1: very interesting. Um. I feel like comedians always like no
Speaker 1: matter how old we as comedians get, we always end
Speaker 1: up connecting with like the youngest generation. And that's and
Speaker 1: that's like the key to staying relevant as a comedian
Speaker 1: because a lot of my favorites you and Sarah Silverman
Speaker 1: will always see on Twitter just really like kind of
Speaker 1: like almost re emerging as a twenty two year old
Speaker 1: woman again and again. Oh I know I love that.
Speaker 1: I love that. Yeah, she um, I love Sarah. She's so,
Speaker 1: she's so great and she's so um to me, she's
Speaker 1: still nineteen, and I'm like, are you ninety? Like she's
Speaker 1: just like she is such a young spirit. She's like
Speaker 1: a fairy, a wood sprite. Yeah, yeah, she's so, she's
Speaker 1: so beautiful. I think that that's that's the key those
Speaker 1: to stay young and to hang out with young people
Speaker 1: and to um really listen to what they're saying because
Speaker 1: they have the right idea all the time. Um. But
Speaker 1: it's always like, really, I think it's really important. I definitely,
Speaker 1: but I'm never really attracted to younger people. And I
Speaker 1: had sex a one guy who was I think it
Speaker 1: was like twenty seven, and it was weird because I
Speaker 1: felt weird because it was like very like this is
Speaker 1: so young. Like I was like this, yeah he felt young.
Speaker 1: Yeah one, So I like, this is really too young.
Speaker 1: And he was really into it, but I was like,
Speaker 1: this is so. There's so many guys that I know
Speaker 1: all throughout my life that are that their sexual demographic
Speaker 1: is older women. They are they like and why don't know? Who?
Speaker 1: Do we just talk? Cindy Gallup we talked. She's in
Speaker 1: her sixties and she exclusively fox men in their twenties
Speaker 1: and she's like, they're so sweet and kind, and I'm
Speaker 1: like an attentive and good in bed, and I'm like, damn,
Speaker 1: that's good to know. I've never been attracted to the
Speaker 1: younger guy because I don't yeah, I don't know. I
Speaker 1: like that older show me something daddy kind of vibe.
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