Speaker 1: Hey, fucker's what up? It's Christina Hutchinson and Karin Fisher.
Speaker 1: You're about to listen to a clip of Guys We Funck,
Speaker 1: the anti slut shaming podcast. On today's episode, we interview
Speaker 1: comedian Josh Wolf. We talk about how the fund do
Speaker 1: you make a marriage work? How do you know it's
Speaker 1: the one? If someone says you open a date and
Speaker 1: you don't go, how do you how do you fix?
Speaker 1: How do you come back from that? And it's our
Speaker 1: four hundredth episode of Guys We Fucked, So we want
Speaker 1: to thank you so much for being with us throughout
Speaker 1: this wild, goddamn ride. This is so cool. We're still
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Speaker 1: for the annual plan. My friend, you can't just put
Speaker 1: a fist in a You can't know. I thought you
Speaker 1: were talking about an asshole first of all, or an asshole. Okay,
Speaker 1: you keep switching side said I'm talking about both. Hold
Speaker 1: hold of Josh. I know you can't just jump, but
Speaker 1: you working and eventually you get right. But I don't
Speaker 1: think he ever eventually goes to be possible. I hate
Speaker 1: to interject, but I've seen people eat a whole bowl
Speaker 1: of cereal out of someone's ask true, thank you, Michael
Speaker 1: was not a same video went around, Hey look at this,
Speaker 1: but I don't see. I love that because there's so
Speaker 1: many audiences who can't believe the jokes we tell on stage,
Speaker 1: and then meanwhile in the green room we're watching people
Speaker 1: eat out of a gaping as. I have some of
Speaker 1: the worst videos on my like, oh, let's talk about
Speaker 1: that your phone or your computer on my phone that
Speaker 1: you took. No, no, no, no no. People people send
Speaker 1: it just people see you, Yeah, like terrible my friends
Speaker 1: or women friends both. I like weird, and so people
Speaker 1: send what kind of weird ship? I'm into anything besides injuries.
Speaker 1: I don't like seeing breaks and blood. And that's where
Speaker 1: he draws the line that no, I'm just like, I
Speaker 1: don't need that's not for me purposeful injury. Sometimes you
Speaker 1: accidentally get injured and you're like, didn't mean to do that,
Speaker 1: But thank god they seemed to enjoy it. In Two
Speaker 1: Girls in One Cup, you know what's the wildest video
Speaker 1: that you've enjoyed. Well, I enjoy them all. Okay, we're
Speaker 1: asking for some specifics. We need a review. Yeah. I
Speaker 1: think the very first, the very first, the one that
Speaker 1: really got me was the very first time I saw
Speaker 1: a giant pro lapsed asshole and then the dude just
Speaker 1: put it in his mouth. Didn't you like it? But
Speaker 1: I watched it like ten times. I was like, does
Speaker 1: that fit in his how does that get Asholes are
Speaker 1: very they can stretch, no idea, But then when you
Speaker 1: put it in the mouth without wiping it down, I
Speaker 1: was like, this, dude, well keep your pro last asshole
Speaker 1: of yourself, you know, please don't break that problem. No,
Speaker 1: I enjoyed. I enjoy it. Wow. Okay, there's a bunch
Speaker 1: of them. There's one that I have, Okay, and I
Speaker 1: like it because it takes you down there a different path.
Speaker 1: The product starts with a person backing out of a
Speaker 1: driveway and I was like, why is he sending me this?
Speaker 1: And then it just cuts to a giant man holding
Speaker 1: a smaller man in his arms. But and this is
Speaker 1: where I'm saying, fisting playing his asshole like a cello.
Speaker 1: And the small guy is so calm, He's just right,
Speaker 1: because he probably have had a series of butt plugs
Speaker 1: that have gotten eventually bigger overtime, that have been his
Speaker 1: asshole for like the last week for that. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: mean he didn't He didn't put down what he did. Right.
Speaker 1: They don't show you all the work it tipped together,
Speaker 1: the hard work, negotiations. You don't get any of that.
Speaker 1: That's not a math problem. Don't show your work. So
Speaker 1: that's your wife on that first date and it was
Speaker 1: real cute and romantic, and then you is that after
Speaker 1: that you hid in the closet and said mom and dad,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna marry her. And they're like, I'm down. But
Speaker 1: why were you in the closet? You know what? I
Speaker 1: felt so nervous for whatever reason you Yeah, I felt
Speaker 1: so nervous telling him because I had been wrong before,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, like like this we've got
Speaker 1: I've been wrong, but the first time you told your parents. Okay,
Speaker 1: so that's the difference. So I was gonna ask you,
Speaker 1: what's the difference because when you've been wrong before, what
Speaker 1: is the difference between this time and the other times?
Speaker 1: For me personally, is that I and this is speaks
Speaker 1: a lot to my age and speaks a lot to
Speaker 1: who I had been with before. But I had the
Speaker 1: most important thing. I had so much respect for her
Speaker 1: as a person that I was so attracted to how
Speaker 1: confident she was. That it was the matrix yea, and
Speaker 1: I never heard of mana. I was so attracted that's
Speaker 1: wonderful to how confident she was and how she did
Speaker 1: her own thing, and that we liked each other and
Speaker 1: we got it along together. But she would tell me, hey,
Speaker 1: I'm I need some time by myself, and I'd be like, cool, yeah,
Speaker 1: go do whatever you like. When you were dating, She's
Speaker 1: like you, yeah, Well, she didn't want to make this
Speaker 1: a codependent like yeah, And so I had so much
Speaker 1: respect for her Outside of that, I just liked being
Speaker 1: with her and I she was had she had healthy
Speaker 1: relationships up until you know, it was like obviously until
Speaker 1: you you know, when she talked because makes them right
Speaker 1: in the wrong comment. In my head, people can have
Speaker 1: fun up partners, partners, suck up partners, and then meet
Speaker 1: another person who's also sucked up partners and it clicks. Yeah,
Speaker 1: just making sure that that's possible. Yeah, yeah, that's exactly
Speaker 1: what happened. She had She had just come off a relationship.
Speaker 1: But but I mean that's the whole, Like it's so
Speaker 1: it's luck of the draw well, because yeah, because there's
Speaker 1: so much that drives why you are attracted to a person,
Speaker 1: Like any of your unhealthy relationships, I don't care which one,
Speaker 1: but like, what about it was keeping you in there?
Speaker 1: Like what what was the unhealthy factor in you? And
Speaker 1: how you felt about yourself because it's usually always a
Speaker 1: reflection of how we feel about ourselves if our romantic
Speaker 1: life isn't shambles, because I feel like that's where it
Speaker 1: shows up the most is in romance and in sex.
Speaker 1: So like, what was it about you that you either
Speaker 1: had to figure out or it just wasn't meshing and
Speaker 1: you finally met someone where oh this is healthy. I was,
Speaker 1: um a fixer? Uh yeah, sounding like an involuntary noise
Speaker 1: came out of you touched his soul would have been
Speaker 1: that noise. That man as hard as prolas you prolapsed
Speaker 1: my heart? Man? So what was the Like how unhealthy
Speaker 1: was your ship before her? Like how unhealthy? Like what
Speaker 1: ti the people were you trying to fix? Like what
Speaker 1: were the scenarios with these fixings? Well? Like were you
Speaker 1: really oblivious and everyone was like, Josh, come on, yes,
Speaker 1: so what did that look like? But you didn't see
Speaker 1: in the moment, Like like I was told the guy
Speaker 1: that was just a real bummer for seven years and
Speaker 1: then everyone told me like we never liked him for
Speaker 1: one second, and I was like, oh, really it did
Speaker 1: shock me. Let me say, let me take that back.
Speaker 1: I saw. I was scared. I thought the devil that
Speaker 1: I knew was better than the one that I didn't,
Speaker 1: And and um, I knew that I was going to
Speaker 1: have the kids and I had to be ready for that,
Speaker 1: and I just kind of had you just put your adults. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but look, man, you don't. I don't want to say
Speaker 1: also because it's wrong and I for people to think
Speaker 1: that she was the only one who did wrong things
Speaker 1: in the relationship right away, everything only getting your side
Speaker 1: and that and so, but my side is the right one.
Speaker 1: But but uh, yeah, so I was. I didn't. I
Speaker 1: just didn't think that I was going to find anything else.
Speaker 1: And what was I gonna do single with three kids
Speaker 1: and all that stuff? Look at, so much of it
Speaker 1: is just age and experience. And because I think in
Speaker 1: your twenties you're pretty fucking dumb. You know what I mean, like,
Speaker 1: and we all all but my I have a therapist
Speaker 1: that I worked with who's like a specializes in in trauma,
Speaker 1: and she's like, your brain is not fully developed until
Speaker 1: you at least twenty five, twenty five. Your brain is
Speaker 1: not fully developed. So these decisions that you're making are
Speaker 1: fucking not And a lot of times you making decisions
Speaker 1: on experiences, especially early in your life, that you've ever
Speaker 1: had before. And so as you get older, you have
Speaker 1: like a list. So when I say they're dumb, I
Speaker 1: don't mean they're dumb like intelligent, they're uninformed, right, and yeah,
Speaker 1: and that's just it's part of the beauty of being
Speaker 1: twenty and part of the pain that you will realize
Speaker 1: later of being twenty. But also too, it's the fact
Speaker 1: that like no one has shown unconditional love ever once
Speaker 1: in their life except by a dog or an animal.
Speaker 1: I'm serious, Like, whose parents can love them unconditionally conditional?
Speaker 1: The same guy who grunt you did raise your hand
Speaker 1: as that your parents loves so good for fucking you know,
Speaker 1: do they want another kid? Maybe your parents eat up
Speaker 1: their standards, um unconditional relax But I mean, you know,
Speaker 1: I think, but I think because of that, we're just
Speaker 1: all walking wound and it's hard to theory is that.
Speaker 1: My theory is that kids are born as good as
Speaker 1: they're going to be, and it's your parents job not
Speaker 1: to suck you up. And every parent time you can't
Speaker 1: help you right totally, and and it's it's rarely with
Speaker 1: bad intentions of like I'm gonna sunk my kid up.
Speaker 1: No one. Everyone does the best that they know how
Speaker 1: to do. If they weren't shown what love is, how
Speaker 1: could they teach you what love is? They can only
Speaker 1: teach you what they know. And knowing that, how do
Speaker 1: you why why? Like how why do you want to?
Speaker 1: Like why would you want to be a parent? Knowing that?
Speaker 1: Because for me that I don't want to be a
Speaker 1: No, no no, I'm asking Josh, Yeah, we don't want that's
Speaker 1: a big pant. You know what, I'm gonna adopt a
Speaker 1: seventeen year old when I'm like, I'll adop like an
Speaker 1: older kid. Every year adopted seventeen year old. They can
Speaker 1: help you on the house, you can clean open ship,
Speaker 1: and then you sign him to college and you're good. No,
Speaker 1: But like I feel like I'm like, I know trauma.
Speaker 1: I can fucking whatever your ship is, I can handle
Speaker 1: it him not. This is like when you call nine
Speaker 1: one one too frequently you think this is a way
Speaker 1: better idea. You're gonna have murdered in your own bed, Christina.
Speaker 1: That might happen, but at least I didn't. With an
Speaker 1: open heart, I'm laughing and cron at the same time,
Speaker 1: an open heart and open skull from that stab, Christina.
Speaker 1: She's gonna wake up whatever in the heart. What a metaphor.
Speaker 1: Christina wakes up like the horse and the Godfather, and
Speaker 1: she's looking down at herself, but like you could. You
Speaker 1: did a good girlfriend. It's beautiful and happy at the
Speaker 1: same time. But I hope you enjoyed that. Excerpt from
Speaker 1: our interview with Josh Wolfe episode four hundred of Guys
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