Speaker 1: We had a situation come up the other day, and
Speaker 1: as a show, we weren't really sure how to handle
Speaker 1: this because one of our listeners, Mia had written to
Speaker 1: us saying that she'd like to get some closure on
Speaker 1: something that happened with a person from her past. Okay,
Speaker 1: but she did not want to do an awkward Tuesday
Speaker 1: phone call with us to try and surprise them. Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm trying to remember this. I have a horrible memory. Sorry. Well,
Speaker 1: we didn't really can ask you about this because we
Speaker 1: didn't think that part. But Mia said that she's not
Speaker 1: even sure if she wants to necessarily speak with them
Speaker 1: right now. She just she wants answers so that she
Speaker 1: can move on. Wow. And I always feel like when
Speaker 1: you want answers, you're never going to get a Is
Speaker 1: that a pessimistic view? I'm sorry, a little bit more
Speaker 1: optimism in this segment, Brooks. So you started with a
Speaker 1: sad music. Okay, that's where right head. Okay, it's my fault,
Speaker 1: I get it. That's why today we're going to try
Speaker 1: something new called a closure call. You, my co host,
Speaker 1: like you're hearing, don't know what this is yet. It
Speaker 1: sounds like a sales pitch always be closing first one
Speaker 1: to my girlfriend a little bit later. But this is
Speaker 1: going to be a little bit more of a serious
Speaker 1: segment than probably what we're used to. So I'm going
Speaker 1: to go into what it is and a little bit.
Speaker 1: But first let's talk to Mia. Mia, welcome to the show. Hey,
Speaker 1: how are you doing today? How you feeling? I'm kind
Speaker 1: of nervous? Okay? Is that the worst feeling that you're
Speaker 1: having right now is nervous? Or is there something? I mean? Yeah,
Speaker 1: this has been on my mind forever, and honestly, I've
Speaker 1: tried every option and I can't even think of what
Speaker 1: else to do. So if you guys can help me
Speaker 1: in any way, shape or form, like, thank you. So
Speaker 1: you're trying to get over someone or something, we'll get
Speaker 1: into the second. Tell us a little bit about yourself first. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so I'm twenty eight years old, I'm single, like, I
Speaker 1: don't have any kids, and I'm a property manager. Your
Speaker 1: property manager? Okay, are you a Gemini? I feel Virgo?
Speaker 1: For her? I feel virgo. You are correct a Virgo? Yes? Okay,
Speaker 1: as long as you're not a Gemini, then we can
Speaker 1: actually move forward with I'm saying you can't have two
Speaker 1: geminis in the same room, right, So okay, now we
Speaker 1: know a little bit about you, tell us about the
Speaker 1: person that you need to get closure from. Okay, So
Speaker 1: this is with my friend Beth, and she was my
Speaker 1: best friend. This happened about seven years ago. Whoa, all
Speaker 1: these guys were twenty one when this happened. Yeah, we
Speaker 1: were very close and we did everything together. And then
Speaker 1: one day has a blue shoot emails and me saying
Speaker 1: I can't talk with you anymore emails. Yeah, that's like
Speaker 1: I don't want a relationship with you. I've been thinking
Speaker 1: about it for a while. I can't go into the specifics,
Speaker 1: but please don't try and contact me. I'm sorry. And
Speaker 1: when I went to go find her, I couldn't even
Speaker 1: find her in her dorm. WHOA, she's left by that time,
Speaker 1: Like she dropped out. Dude, that is so painful. I
Speaker 1: had a best friend in college and it turned out
Speaker 1: she was lying about her life and like, and our
Speaker 1: friendship ended and it still haunts me. Yeah, and it's
Speaker 1: only been three years since I graduated college. Yeah really yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I think really hard. We've all lost friends and like
Speaker 1: even a best friend, it's still a relationship. It feels
Speaker 1: like you've lost and it's like they go through a
Speaker 1: grieving process for sure. Well, it's especially weird to have
Speaker 1: an end through an email? How did it? How did
Speaker 1: reading that make you feel? Mia? Oh? Totally blindsided? Yeah?
Speaker 1: What did you do? Did you go find her? Did
Speaker 1: you make her talk to you? Well, of course I
Speaker 1: tried calling her, but she didn't take any of my
Speaker 1: college She didn't respond, and now we completely lost contact.
Speaker 1: You haven't like found her on social media and figured
Speaker 1: out where she's at in her life. Well, it's funny
Speaker 1: you say that because she blocked me on social media.
Speaker 1: But I'm still friends with her friends because we were tight. Okay,
Speaker 1: so I can see her to other people's stages. She
Speaker 1: looked happy, healthy, But you know it still bothers me. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean, what did you do to have her move away?
Speaker 1: I honestly have no idea. And so you reached out
Speaker 1: to us because you've been looking to get some closure
Speaker 1: on this, and you said you didn't want to do
Speaker 1: it through an awkward Tuesday phone call. If you don't
Speaker 1: know or surprise her or anything, I don't know. I
Speaker 1: just yeah, So that's why I need to explain, not
Speaker 1: only to our listeners, but even to my co host
Speaker 1: what we're about to do here in this particular closure call.
Speaker 1: So we already reached out to her friend Beth. Oh, wait,
Speaker 1: we had her, you found her phone number. We emailed her, oh,
Speaker 1: and we asked if she'd be willing to come on
Speaker 1: the show and be on the phone with us. We
Speaker 1: told her what the deal was, that Mia has been
Speaker 1: trying to talk to her and we'd like to reconnect them,
Speaker 1: and Beth said that she did not want to talk
Speaker 1: to me directly. So I asked if I could send
Speaker 1: her a few questions from Mia, okay, and if she'd
Speaker 1: answer them just to help her move forward with her life. Okay,
Speaker 1: so you send her a survey. Well, and I was surprised,
Speaker 1: but Beth actually agreed to do this, and over the
Speaker 1: last week me and I have been going back and
Speaker 1: forth on what specific questions she wants to have answered. Wait,
Speaker 1: you let Jeffrey help you with a question? You talk
Speaker 1: to us first and back. Yeah, I'm not completely helpless
Speaker 1: when it comes to technology and when it comes to
Speaker 1: communicating with people like I guess maybe face to face
Speaker 1: is where you're more. Yeah, Okay, I will admit producer
Speaker 1: boy did help me a little bit professional on the job.
Speaker 1: He showed me where the composed email. Yeah, that is
Speaker 1: really important. But look, okay, I believe that now Beth
Speaker 1: has responded to all four questions, including why she suddenly
Speaker 1: broke off their relationship, which is really the big one.
Speaker 1: So Mia, dude, are you sure you want this? Mia?
Speaker 1: It could make it I don't even ask her what
Speaker 1: it could make it worse. Do you want to wonder
Speaker 1: for the rest of your life now or do you
Speaker 1: want to actually hear this? No, I definitely want to
Speaker 1: hear it because I'm new closure. Okay, So there's no
Speaker 1: like deep dark secret you're keeping from us that may
Speaker 1: come out next. No, not that I don't know, Not
Speaker 1: that we're gonna find out. We're gonna play a song.
Speaker 1: We'll come back and we'll read the emails to find
Speaker 1: out why Miya's best friends suddenly left. Good? Can we
Speaker 1: play a short song? Because that's really I'm excited. We're
Speaker 1: gonna do a closure call coming up next. For once
Speaker 1: we might actually do something helpful on this shows one
Speaker 1: of those like chickens before they hatched that moment, so
Speaker 1: I'd slow down there. It was like the time in
Speaker 1: twenty eighteen where Brooke almost stopped to help someone change
Speaker 1: their tire on the side of the road, but then
Speaker 1: she realized there were kids in the back of the
Speaker 1: car and didn't want to deal with all the crying,
Speaker 1: so she sped off. But she thought about it, and
Speaker 1: I did call yeah, Slash see, but it's the thought
Speaker 1: that counts. And you realized as a show that we
Speaker 1: need to maybe grow a little bit more and stop
Speaker 1: thinking about helping and actually start doing it. Okay, So
Speaker 1: today we're gonna try help a listener who needs a
Speaker 1: little bit of closure. Her name's Mia in a new
Speaker 1: segment that we're trying out called Closure Call. So Mia
Speaker 1: is looking for answers after her best friend Beth suddenly
Speaker 1: dropped out of her life seven years ago. And I
Speaker 1: really feel for you on that one, mea, I do. Yeah, thanks, Broke.
Speaker 1: I'm sure that was really helpful. But I just think
Speaker 1: it is helpful to know that people are with you
Speaker 1: and understand your feeling. So there, Jeff, doesn't make you
Speaker 1: feel better that we're here with you? Oh, I mean,
Speaker 1: I just yeah, okay, great. But the thing is all
Speaker 1: that Mia got at the time was an email from
Speaker 1: her friend Beth basically saying I'm leaving, I need to
Speaker 1: end our friendship, but please do not contact me was
Speaker 1: so wild and so ever since for seven years, Mi
Speaker 1: has been clueless wondering why that happened, And so we
Speaker 1: actually reached out to her friend Beth with four questions
Speaker 1: that were crafted by myself, Mia and producer Boyd because
Speaker 1: we didn't want to give her like a list of
Speaker 1: twenty things to answer, yeah, the giant survey. So just
Speaker 1: so our listeners know, here's the four questions that we
Speaker 1: came up with. We said, first, can you tell me
Speaker 1: anything about why you stopped talking to me seven years ago?
Speaker 1: Because it was very unexpected and honestly a little hurtful. Okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: I was definitely That was question one. Question two, did
Speaker 1: you leave in college early have anything to do with me?
Speaker 1: The third one was are you happy with your life
Speaker 1: right now? Important questions? You know you have to show
Speaker 1: that it's not all about me. It's not just selfish.
Speaker 1: It's kind of though, asking do you regret letting me
Speaker 1: out of your life? But I want you to say no. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Then the fourth final question is do you miss me
Speaker 1: at all? Oh? That's gonna be that's gonna be hard
Speaker 1: if she answers no. I okay. I feel like if
Speaker 1: she does say no, that's how she's feeling already, So
Speaker 1: it would just raiterate the fact O'm not going to
Speaker 1: be let down. It's just refusing to talk to you.
Speaker 1: I guess it's a good sign. Yeah, I know you
Speaker 1: must be feeling all sorts of emotions and you probably
Speaker 1: don't want to wait any longer. Let's just start reading
Speaker 1: some of your best friend's responses. All right, yeah, it's good.
Speaker 1: All right, here we go. So now let's move forward.
Speaker 1: The first question that we ask, can you tell me
Speaker 1: anything about why you stopped talking to me seven years ago?
Speaker 1: Beth's response was, so, we were both at carry Ann's
Speaker 1: party and you left early to go help your sister
Speaker 1: with something. Does does that ring a bell? Carry Ann's Party? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean I vaguely remember leaving that party to help
Speaker 1: my sister. Yeah, dude, it's crazy that she's talking about
Speaker 1: us ccific event and it was college, so vaguely remembering
Speaker 1: things does check out? Yeah, I mean seven years ago. Yeah,
Speaker 1: So she keeps going. She says, I stayed behind, and
Speaker 1: I'm ashamed to admit this, but I hooked up with
Speaker 1: your boyfriend at the time. Oh my god, wow, I
Speaker 1: had a feeling. I did you know what to say? No?
Speaker 1: But was it a serious relationship? Yes? And no we're
Speaker 1: not still together. But oh okay, and you didn't know
Speaker 1: he was cheating on you. I had no idea, so
Speaker 1: she keeps going. Afterwards, he begged me not to tell you,
Speaker 1: And because I cared about you in your happiness, I
Speaker 1: didn't want to screw up your relationship. I wasn't sure
Speaker 1: what to do with myself, but I couldn't look you
Speaker 1: in the face again. I felt so embarrassed and guilty
Speaker 1: that I broke your trust. So I removed myself because
Speaker 1: I figured you'd never forgive me. I'm ever get out
Speaker 1: of my life, my kiddy, What do you think about that?
Speaker 1: I'm just, I'm just I'm still flored. Are you angry floored?
Speaker 1: Or are you like gosh? I wish she would have
Speaker 1: just told me, yes, I do. I wish you would
Speaker 1: have said something. We were like I said, we were
Speaker 1: so tight. Do you think you could have worked through
Speaker 1: it like with a three person? I mean, I mean
Speaker 1: it was seven years ago. I'm more mature now. I
Speaker 1: would hope I'd be open to it, but it makes
Speaker 1: me really upset with Mike. Like I dated and seriously
Speaker 1: for a few years. What a waste of a few
Speaker 1: years even after that. But you should never continue to
Speaker 1: date college boyfriends. Just leave them after you leave college. Right,
Speaker 1: I'm so hung up my ex, so I would not
Speaker 1: ask me. But you know, we're trying to help the
Speaker 1: person on the phone not break up the hundreds of
Speaker 1: other people who are listening in their college dorms right
Speaker 1: now with their boyfriends. I'm just saying, oh, you're in
Speaker 1: a college dorm with your boyfriend, you better check who
Speaker 1: you slept with last Oh. Oh right, let's just let's
Speaker 1: just on from the boyfriend talk and go to the
Speaker 1: second question. Okay, yea. Your second question that we sent
Speaker 1: to your friend Beth was did you leave in college early?
Speaker 1: Have anything to do with me? I feel like we
Speaker 1: already answered that from the first question, didn't well at
Speaker 1: the time, we didn't know that. We just sent all
Speaker 1: these at the same in one giant email. She gave another,
Speaker 1: but she gave another answer. She wrote back, Well, it's
Speaker 1: not your fault, but after what I did, I couldn't
Speaker 1: be in the same school as you. And see you
Speaker 1: every day, and I didn't want to try to avoid
Speaker 1: you the whole time, so it was just easier to
Speaker 1: start new. Oh so she did finish school somewhere else, Mike,
Speaker 1: She says, my cousin lived in a different area, so
Speaker 1: I transferred to a school near them. And I know
Speaker 1: it may have been an extreme thing, but I just
Speaker 1: couldn't handle the conflict in the idea of breaking your heart.
Speaker 1: Oh sad, are you okay? Here? I was thinking that
Speaker 1: it was like something I did, and I'm just deva stay.
Speaker 1: So I mean, does hearing that make you feel a
Speaker 1: little bit better that it wasn't something that you did?
Speaker 1: I guess. So yeah, I mean, your best friend obviously
Speaker 1: had a really high moral compass. Like, it sucks that
Speaker 1: she made that mistake and that she did it, but
Speaker 1: like to like went to that extreme though, I feel bad, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I feel bad that she like a rooted her life
Speaker 1: and had to start all over. She would also that
Speaker 1: she did, but like, but why couldn't she have come
Speaker 1: to you and talk to you? Like it was just
Speaker 1: too scary? I mean, she felt like she wronged you
Speaker 1: really bad. But it is now making a little bit
Speaker 1: more sense why your boyfriend kept taking a monthly trip
Speaker 1: over to that other call. But if you're just joining
Speaker 1: us wondering, am I listening to Brooke and Jeffrey right now?
Speaker 1: Yes you are. But we're trying something new called a
Speaker 1: closure call, trying to help out our listener, mea get
Speaker 1: closure after her best friend from seven years ago just
Speaker 1: suddenly dropped out of her life with no explanation. Her
Speaker 1: friend wouldn't be on the radio with us. Mia said
Speaker 1: she didn't want to surprise her with an awkward Tuesday
Speaker 1: phone call, so we sent her four questions asking if
Speaker 1: she would answer them. She did agree, and so we're
Speaker 1: going through each one trying to see if it helps
Speaker 1: me to get a little bit of closure on what
Speaker 1: actually went down. I think so helpful. Yeah, so we've
Speaker 1: answered too. We're onto the third question that we sent,
Speaker 1: which was, Beth, are you happy with your life? Now?
Speaker 1: I know you're hoping that it's a no. I just
Speaker 1: like I don't know that you can drop any other
Speaker 1: bombs like. Well, here's what she says. She says, I
Speaker 1: wasn't happy for a long time, but honestly, I did
Speaker 1: feel better when I heard you broke up with Mike
Speaker 1: four years ago. I don't know if you cheated on
Speaker 1: you with someone else, but I've heard that guys who
Speaker 1: do that don't just do it once. Is that what happened? Mia?
Speaker 1: Did Mike end up cheating on you again? Do you know?
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm not trying to make it about something else,
Speaker 1: but yeah, like he did. Yeah, I mean, like if
Speaker 1: he's gonna if he's gonna sleep with your best friend,
Speaker 1: he's gonna se man. That guy sucks. I don't want
Speaker 1: to focus on Mike anymore, right, right, he's trash. We've
Speaker 1: we've put him in the recycling then, and we'd emptied
Speaker 1: the folder. But it just sucks. He's someone ruined your
Speaker 1: guys's relationship. I mean, I know she made the choice too.
Speaker 1: So we're running out of time here. We do have
Speaker 1: the answer to the fourth and final question that we sent,
Speaker 1: which was do you miss me at all? Which we
Speaker 1: were thinking was a no, but now I feel like
Speaker 1: it's a yes. Okay, and so Mia, your friend wrote
Speaker 1: back yes terribly, Oh she said, but I'm ashamed, and
Speaker 1: I understand if you never want to speak with me again.
Speaker 1: If you do, I'll be back in town next month
Speaker 1: to visit my parents. I'd love to get a drink
Speaker 1: and cry with you. Oh my god, what do you
Speaker 1: think me as is that something that you'd be open
Speaker 1: to at least like we could get a coffee, you know.
Speaker 1: Oh I would go with something a little stronger than Hey,
Speaker 1: will you update us and tell us how it goes? Yes? Okay, okay.
Speaker 1: You feel like he actually had a little bit of
Speaker 1: closure after hearing all this, Mia, Yeah, you know what
Speaker 1: I do. I'm in shock. I'm just it's like watching
Speaker 1: a movie from my life I didn't know happen years ago. Yeah,
Speaker 1: well it was a good movie. Yeah, yeah, for sure, drama.
Speaker 1: I'm glad that we could give you just a little
Speaker 1: bit of peace of mind with this, Mia, even if
Speaker 1: it's not totally closed yet, it's going to help you
Speaker 1: a little bit. But text into seven eight, five to
Speaker 1: nine two if you're listening, tells what do you think
Speaker 1: should we keep doing these closure calls? Or has Brooke
Speaker 1: cried enough on the show? I just thought it was
Speaker 1: really kind. Let us know. Brooke and Jeffrey in the
Speaker 1: morning