Speaker 1: It's awkward. It's Tuesday. It's awkward Tuesday phone call. We're
Speaker 1: gonna get a little bit chill today. Okay, let's do
Speaker 1: the awkward Tuesday island style. So I like that wherever
Speaker 1: you are right now, picture yourself with palm trees all around,
Speaker 1: a coconut drink in your hand. Sitting right next to
Speaker 1: you in a reclined beach chair is a dude that
Speaker 1: you've been having a slowly deteriorating relationship. Okay, I am
Speaker 1: reading my book on Kindo right now. Isn't travel nice?
Speaker 1: Now that we're in the right headspace for this, let's
Speaker 1: talk with one of our listeners, Steph, who's a little
Speaker 1: bit worried about the status of her relationship right now. Steph,
Speaker 1: welcome to the show. Thank you, good morning. Doesn't sound
Speaker 1: like your ViBe's very chill right now, Steph. Yeah, well,
Speaker 1: I'm trying to imagine the palm trees and the coconut.
Speaker 1: Sit down the rest of that, my tie. And then
Speaker 1: tell us about the guy that you're seeing right now.
Speaker 1: What's his name, Graddy Gray Grady? Okay, and he's a
Speaker 1: boyfriend or what, Well, we've been dating for like around
Speaker 1: six months, Okay, and every overall it's been really good
Speaker 1: for me. We have a lot of fun when we
Speaker 1: hang out. We go on dates and trips and oh
Speaker 1: trips already just weekend trip. Oh not trips around the
Speaker 1: world or anything. Okay, some guys are more bold like that,
Speaker 1: they'll go on quick trips if any girls want to
Speaker 1: go on a trip. I mean, the six months point
Speaker 1: for me in relationships was always the point where I'm like,
Speaker 1: did we want to do this? Still? You know, it's
Speaker 1: like a real big defining moment. I feel like it's
Speaker 1: six months before that, right, Okay, it's like every like
Speaker 1: three months, six months months. It's a reevaluating period. So
Speaker 1: where are you at with your relationship stuff? Yeah, so,
Speaker 1: like eighty percent of the relationship is great, but like
Speaker 1: any percent is a little frustrating because it seems like
Speaker 1: he's hiding me with my friends. When I have something,
Speaker 1: you know, to do, and I invite him, he always
Speaker 1: seems to be busy or have some excuse. Wait, he
Speaker 1: doesn't want to hang out with your friends, is what
Speaker 1: you're saying. I mean, he hasn't said that directly, but
Speaker 1: it's implied when he seems to be busy every single time. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's implied when somebody comes to their door and he
Speaker 1: tosses a blanket over the closet. Then with his friends,
Speaker 1: he'll say, well, I'm going out, and I'll say, oh,
Speaker 1: that sounds like, why don't I want to come? But
Speaker 1: he doesn't. But then he'll make excuses why it's a
Speaker 1: guy's night, or you won't you won't have a good time,
Speaker 1: or have you. Yeah, I know, but I also know
Speaker 1: people like I have a good friend who literally didn't
Speaker 1: introduce me to his now husband for like two years years.
Speaker 1: He was like, it's not ready, not ready, We're not ready,
Speaker 1: We're not ready. I'm like, they're married. I mean, it
Speaker 1: was a bad step for him to do that, where
Speaker 1: for other people it's, you know, not that big of
Speaker 1: a deal. So maybe he's just coming from that standpoint possibly,
Speaker 1: you know, which is why I like, I'm calling you
Speaker 1: guys for a night and I'm not. And I didn't
Speaker 1: break up with him yet or anything. But go back
Speaker 1: to the family and the friends. He met, my mom
Speaker 1: and my older sister, but it wasn't planned, you know,
Speaker 1: it was almost like he came over and they happened
Speaker 1: to be there. Yeah, I'm just starting to wonder what's
Speaker 1: going on? You know, I don't think it's another girl.
Speaker 1: Were making some big assumptions, like how did it go
Speaker 1: when he met your mom and your sister? What was
Speaker 1: that experience? Like? I mean he was respectful, he was friendly,
Speaker 1: but it wasn't like over the top perfect meeting. You know,
Speaker 1: it wasn't your ideal first meeting kind of Okay, I'm
Speaker 1: just so con you it feels like maybe, I don't know,
Speaker 1: could he be ashamed of me? Or would you consider
Speaker 1: yourself like a fun person to hang out with? Oh?
Speaker 1: What is she boring? You know, like some people they
Speaker 1: want to go out and they want to have a
Speaker 1: good time, and if their significant other is there, it's
Speaker 1: it's not quite as good of a time. You don't
Speaker 1: want to bring someone that makes it like awkward. Why
Speaker 1: would be dating that person? Then? If they are fun
Speaker 1: to hang out with, but in a public setting. But
Speaker 1: I don't know, what what do you think? What do
Speaker 1: you think is going on? Steff? She's like everything under
Speaker 1: the subject. Yeah, I mean she's named everything from he's
Speaker 1: ashamed to her he's dating somebody else. But the most
Speaker 1: important thing here is how it makes you feel. Exactly
Speaker 1: have you told him how you feel. You know, I
Speaker 1: try to sell conversations about it, but I don't want
Speaker 1: to attack him, you know what I mean. There's like
Speaker 1: a fine line. So you think and Bush didn't want
Speaker 1: a radio show, you go on attack. I mean, I
Speaker 1: assume that's who we're calling. I don't know. Well, I's
Speaker 1: calling because I want you know, I'm hoping you guys
Speaker 1: could help me in terms of tell me what I
Speaker 1: should say to him. You can start with hello, That's
Speaker 1: a good way to start it, and then we'll have
Speaker 1: to think of more after there. Who it is? Yeah,
Speaker 1: well that's getting pretty complicated. I don't know, but I
Speaker 1: know Brooke is thinking that six months and not introducing
Speaker 1: you to people is not really a red flag, but
Speaker 1: for some people a day, I think, I think it's
Speaker 1: pretty sketch. Yeah, I think it could be either way.
Speaker 1: I mean, it could be anything at this point, right.
Speaker 1: It could be successful. Yeah, it could be something where
Speaker 1: he is just not ready for that move in the relationship.
Speaker 1: Or it could be that all of your fears are
Speaker 1: true and he's absolutely ashamed. And yeah, I'm saying that
Speaker 1: the options are open. I used the ODER and I
Speaker 1: have Well, either way, we're going to try and have
Speaker 1: a healthy conversation about this. When we play a song,
Speaker 1: we'll come back give you a little bit of advice,
Speaker 1: and then we'll call your boyfriend for you, and then
Speaker 1: we'll let you make your awkward Tuesday phone call. Okay,
Speaker 1: step must you know, send my healthy conversation. The best
Speaker 1: we can do here, we'll do it next. It's awkward,
Speaker 1: it's Tuesday. It's awkward Tuesday phone call. We don't like
Speaker 1: to believe it, but it does happen. Some guys are
Speaker 1: just shady and they'll go out of their way to
Speaker 1: hide a girl from their friends and family so they
Speaker 1: won't find out. I'll be honest, I do it with
Speaker 1: this show. I don't tell my family that I work
Speaker 1: with you guys. They think I'm on a different, much
Speaker 1: more successful radio. Trust me, trust me, it's just easier
Speaker 1: that way. That way happy. You guys are happy. We're
Speaker 1: all happy. It's all about you. It's about me and
Speaker 1: my family. Well, one of our listeners, Steph, is worried
Speaker 1: because her boyfriend of six months is kind of hiding
Speaker 1: her away. That's how she feels, and she wants to
Speaker 1: know is that really what's happening or why is it happening, Steph,
Speaker 1: how you feeling before we do this? Call? Um? I
Speaker 1: don't feel great about that aspects of our relationship. You know.
Speaker 1: At first, I was like, you should just ask him why,
Speaker 1: you know, that's all you need to find out. But
Speaker 1: then if he is secretly hiding you away, is he
Speaker 1: going to give you a straight answer? Now, you know, right?
Speaker 1: Straight answer? I mean I still think you should ask why,
Speaker 1: but I think you just need to be really careful.
Speaker 1: If he starts to direct you in other ways and
Speaker 1: not answer the question, you need to bring him back. Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 1: How do your friends feel about it? Do they feel
Speaker 1: like they're being hidden a way? Um? Well, I showed
Speaker 1: them a picture of him, and they said he was cute,
Speaker 1: but they also kind of said that they think I'm
Speaker 1: out of his league. Oh wait, you're you're better than him, right,
Speaker 1: not that you're Yeah? Okay good? Oh yeah, the way
Speaker 1: true friends would say that to each other. Let's just
Speaker 1: do this. Where are your friends here? Step So, We're
Speaker 1: gonna dial your boyfriend's number and we'll jump in when
Speaker 1: we feel like you need a little bit of help. Okay, okay, okay,
Speaker 1: good luck. Hello, Hey babe, how are you? Uh? Steph. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's said number of block. Is everything okay with your phone? Um,
Speaker 1: I don't know. I wasn't paying attention or anything. I
Speaker 1: think it's okay. How are you doing? Ah? Pretty good?
Speaker 1: Pretty good? Just uh sa? How about you? Um? Oh good?
Speaker 1: Are you still hanging out with your friend Adam this Friday? Why? Well,
Speaker 1: I'm free this Friday. It would be cool if I
Speaker 1: could come with you and hang out with you guys. Yeah,
Speaker 1: almost any other night that'd be cool. But it's like
Speaker 1: his birthday and it's just gonna be about to dude,
Speaker 1: but definitely another night. Well what about tonight? Oh well,
Speaker 1: tonight's my night with you? So just you need time
Speaker 1: thinking back on the last few months. It's always just
Speaker 1: you and me time. Yeah, it is okay. No, I
Speaker 1: mean I've never really met any of your friends. We
Speaker 1: haven't even discussed your parents or anything, your family or anything. Well,
Speaker 1: I've discussed you with them, and next year they're having
Speaker 1: a big anniversary party, so we might want to go
Speaker 1: next year. Yeah. Well, it really feels like you're trying
Speaker 1: to keep me away from your friends and family, like
Speaker 1: I'm just a booty call. Come on day Like, no,
Speaker 1: come on, I'm serious, I'm like your backstairs girl or something. Um,
Speaker 1: you know, I don't want to give you a key
Speaker 1: to my place. It's because my ex lives in the
Speaker 1: building and I wanted to freak out. So it's just
Speaker 1: it's just safer to let you use them in the backstairs. Honestly,
Speaker 1: at this point, who cares if she sees me. We've
Speaker 1: been together for half a year. He's gonna find out. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I just don't want to ruffle on each other's You know,
Speaker 1: we're like, we're chill, you know, like no problems, everything's cool.
Speaker 1: Well I'm telling you we're not chill. Why not? Oh
Speaker 1: my god, guys, are you are you all hearing this right?
Speaker 1: It is not cool. It's not chill. Who are you talking? Hello?
Speaker 1: Can someone hit the sound effect? I'm sorry, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: because happening right now? You tell us he sneaks you
Speaker 1: in the back stude? Yeah, Grady, what's up? Man? You're
Speaker 1: on the radio right now with Brooke and Jeffrey in
Speaker 1: the morning. We're her friends and we're not scared to
Speaker 1: tell everyone she's our friends. Okay, Yeah, we're doing something
Speaker 1: with you called an awkward Tuesday phone call right now,
Speaker 1: Steph reached out because she's feeling a little frustrated with
Speaker 1: how you're really relationship is going, and she's looking for
Speaker 1: a little bit of clarity because she feels like you've
Speaker 1: been hiding her. Obviously you have. Yeah, I was like, Oh,
Speaker 1: maybe he's just not ready for that step in the relationship, dude, yea,
Speaker 1: why do you care if your X knows that you're
Speaker 1: dating her? Okay, well, if we're really going to do
Speaker 1: this and be honest, I'm not one sure yet about
Speaker 1: our relationship. I'm not. I'm not. I sometimes feel like
Speaker 1: I'm kind of out of her league. I don't think
Speaker 1: we need to react. This feels like a cover up.
Speaker 1: That's no. Quite interesting because I've literally shown your picture
Speaker 1: to my friends and they all say, I'm out of
Speaker 1: your league? Are you too? Actually arguing over who's out
Speaker 1: of who's league? Right now? Yeah? I mean it's literally
Speaker 1: like I talked to someone my body's too, and they're like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean, why great, We're just listening to what you're saying,
Speaker 1: and it sounds like you're just looking for somebody else
Speaker 1: to be your front stairs girl while Steph is the backstairs.
Speaker 1: Really okay, maybe I have an elevator in your bail,
Speaker 1: and that's where you take the front stairs. Oh maybe
Speaker 1: we need to use the stairs to get through to
Speaker 1: him here. I don't know. Yeah, I get, but it's
Speaker 1: all true. Like I said, I mean, like like, I
Speaker 1: don't know, maybe you just just clean up a little
Speaker 1: bit more and maybe clean up a little What does
Speaker 1: that mean? Oh? Great? Why are you dating her for
Speaker 1: six months? You know what? That's a good question. Why
Speaker 1: have I been dating her for six months? Oh? It's
Speaker 1: probably a question you should have asked five months ago
Speaker 1: this point. It's if you're so attractive and you can
Speaker 1: have any woman you want. Thank you? Yeah, jeez, I
Speaker 1: guess I'm to start going to a few more events
Speaker 1: and stuff and like hanging out and seeing who I
Speaker 1: can talk to and stuff. I don't think that was
Speaker 1: your opportunity. He jumps ship pretty quickly, don't you, guys.
Speaker 1: I don't think. I don't think you guys had a ship.
Speaker 1: I think it's a small rowboat. Yeah, or like a
Speaker 1: raft that was like deflating. I don't know, it sounds hot, yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean to raft? Yeah, step, how are you feeling
Speaker 1: about all this? Um? Obviously I should have said something
Speaker 1: before because he doesn't seem like he's in this to
Speaker 1: win this with me. And I know I'm a catch,
Speaker 1: you know, and he can think he's a catch whatever,
Speaker 1: But plenty of other fish in the seat where the
Speaker 1: raft is. You're not. You're not super sad to lose him.
Speaker 1: It sounds like, oh, well I am, but like I
Speaker 1: wasn't feeling great about the whole thing, and you want
Speaker 1: to be with someone to feel great, not to feel bad.
Speaker 1: That's true. Well, staff, if you want to wait till
Speaker 1: next year, like I said, there is the anniversary party,
Speaker 1: if you just past it and maybe, like you said,
Speaker 1: clean up a little bit more. I don't know, maybe
Speaker 1: some highlights or something, just the hair. Just leave it. Man,
Speaker 1: at this point, hearing what we're hearing stuff, you need
Speaker 1: to break up with him right now. Don't you dare
Speaker 1: be a bat stairwell again, bad news for you. No
Speaker 1: one should ever talk to you like that stuff. Just
Speaker 1: let him go, yeah, right now, don't wait you think
Speaker 1: about it. I would just do it. Yeah, listen, that's it.
Speaker 1: You said you You just said you didn't like my
Speaker 1: hair or whatever I highlights? You know what? If enough? Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: coming with a right, we'll go over that response off
Speaker 1: the air, well, yeah, you know, but yeah, I think
Speaker 1: it's over. And if you need a hug, feel free
Speaker 1: to come to the station. I'm gonna go clean myself
Speaker 1: up quote unquote and get out to the club tonight.
Speaker 1: After you're done, I'll meet you at the backstairs at eleven.
Speaker 1: Look at the ego on this guy. I really say no.
Speaker 1: Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning,