Welcome to the only podcast exploring the messiness, awesomeness, of masculinity of being a gay man over 40. Each episode is about sparking idea, addressing challenges, and diving deep into what it looks like to be a vulnerable gay guy. We talk about the stuff us gay guys have a hard time talking about, man-to-man: masculinity, sex, careers, our bodies, parenting, sexuality, failures, success, and aging, relationships, coming out - nothing is off limits. 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk is the revamped version of 40 Plus: Real Men. Real Talk podcast and is a short format podcast that's easy to digest. We take deep dives - one topic at a time - digging up the truth of what it’s like to be a gay man, instead of some contrived expectation of masculinity. We’re reclaiming manhood and our masculinity by facing our fears, making bold moves, and living life without apologies. Join us, but you've got to drop your BS, forget posturing, and be ready to explore the comical dysfunctions of our lives as gay men 40+ years of age!
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Gesamtlänge aller Episoden: 5 days 2 hours 59 minutes
episode 12: Yeah that mind is meant to be mindful! – Will Schneider
Ok, I’m going to be honest. I met him on an island in Bermuda. I was drawn to him. I saw things in him that I wanted. And, no I wasn’t some gay guy crushing on a handsome straight guy…well maybe a little. Truth is, I was drawn to his mindfulness and masculinity.
His name is Will Schneider, and from that chance meeting at a men’s retreat in Bermuda, I’ve come to call him one of my peeps, my bros, my inner circle...
episode 11: Making Space For Men To Be Men - Rick Clemons
There are amazing things you learn when you get a group of men together to be vulnerable. They are either one, upping each other, or being very tight lipped about what they really want to be saying.
It's how we've been conditioned as men. But what happens when you make space for guys to be guys? Today I share a personal experience I recently had when I made space for 30 guys to show up, with no pressure to be anything other than themselves.
Here's what happened...
episode 10: Kindness and the Masculinity Factor – Rocco Cozza
He’s a Jersey boy, an attorney, and built pretty much like a tank. First thoughts? He’s an Alpha Male. In reality he does have a book with alpha in the name and he’s also a kindness kind of guy that makes you go, “WHOA!”. So, don’t judge this book by it’s cover, Rocco Cozza dishes out the truth about why kindness has paid off, just like his Italian Momma taught him.
Roll up your sleeves guys because we’re baring our kindness souls today...
episode 9: Just because you’ve got wisdom doesn’t make you old! – Brad Montgomery
“I look up to you because you are older and wiser! You have so much wisdom.” Ok! God, I feel old now. Or you could say, “Wow what a compliment!” Depending on perspective, some of us guys take that as a kick in the gut, and others of us take it as a badge of honor and respect...
episode 8: Gay, Black, White, Interracial Couple, and an Ex-pastor. Oh my! – Joel Barrett and David Seymour
Man #1 - He was married to a woman. Was a pastor. Then decided he could no longer, NOT live his truth as a gay man.
Man #2 – He was black, gay, and ready to mate. Then they met and the magic began.
When it seems all the cards are stacked against you because of race, interracial marriage, and a past fraught with religious persecution because you are gay, you gotta wonder, will this relationship survive...
episode 7: Get A Grip. Aging is just part of the equation! – Chris Guillebeau
God I can’t believe I’m aging and turning 30, 40, 50, 100! Yeah it happens guys and I know you know that is true, but what happens when it hits you like a ton of bricks? I know, because I’ve experienced it and it wasn’t pretty. Nor was it pretty for my buddy Chris!
At 40 he had his awakening...
episode 6: Men of Respect, RESPECT – Mike Domitriz
Aretha Franklin, just reading the word RESPECT, will start getting you all sassy in your heads. Some of you even started singing it out loud with the queen of soul. So why you are talking trash, not giving yourself and others the R-E-S-P-E-C-T that’s needed. Ok, maybe you are, but we could all do a little bit better job of it, some more than others.
Here to help us R-E-S-P-E-C-T, is my buddy and Mr. Respect – Mike Domitriz...
episode 5: Taking Ownership When You Screw Up – Gerson Sternstein
Let’s be honest. Being honest is tough for us guys. Then add admitting we’re wrong to the mix, or that we're a screw up, and that brings on a whole other set of masculinity pushback that we guys just aren’t good at doing.
Now imagine you get called out in your profession for screwing up and it means you basically lost everything you know. Eating that type of crow really makes you either man up or curl up in the fetal position...
episode 4: Spirituality Is Such A Guy Thing – Chris Tompkins
Yes, real men (whatever that means) get spirituality. It’s not some woo-woo, out of this world thing. It’s at the core of who you are as a man. Don’t’ believe me? Fine. Not going to twist your arm, but it is true. Spirituality makes the man.
Joining me to have this convo is one of my main men, Chris Tompkins, a guy who knows what it means to be spiritual and who never stops pursuing that journey toward is higher self...
episode 3: Divorcing with Dignity – Leo Cardenas
I plan to get divorced, said no guy, as he stands at the alter getting married. Yet, it happens and how we get through it is a very individual experience. This is a real. Raw, honest chat about divorce, with a guy who’s dove into the trenches of being a single Dad and discovering himself and his “What’s next?” after divorce...