Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

We believe in looking to the future of relationships, not maintaining the status quo of the past. We value ethics over tradition, and we believe that a healthy world is one where everybody has agency in their relationships. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory...

This is one of our favorite communication tools, and this week we're revisiting it with much more knowledge and experience using it in our daily lives. Learn how to get what you want in conversations with your partner, and how to avoid common miscommunication pitfalls with this super simple tool. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory...

After a whole year of experimenting with applying agile scrum to relationships, the Multiamory crew is proud to present our new and improved relationship check-in model: RADAR! Learn about the benefits of establishing a regular monthly check-in for your relationships, plus follow our easy step-by-step process for creating a safe, supportive, and productive way to foster intimate communication...

Let's look at the fundamentals of boundaries. Boundaries are one of the most powerful and important tools for having healthy relationships, but it’s one that is often misunderstood and misused. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack...

This week, we discuss the differences between rules, agreements, and boundaries, and how sometimes they can hurt a relationship more than help one. We explore how to make informed, healthy decisions with your partner or partners regarding what everyone involved needs in the relationship. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory...

In this episode, we're getting back to our roots! The Multiamory crew was interviewed about the basics of polyamory and our personal experiences for a radio project. If you're a polyamory beginner, or if you need some inspiration for answering all the questions your family and friends are throwing at you, check out this episode. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory...

Have you gone to the repair SHOP? We've talked about how to disagree effectively and what to do during arguments, but what about afterwards, or with subjects that repeatedly come up in disagreements? Try the SHOP acronym: Stories, History, Ownership, and Prevention. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory...

This week we're taking a look at EFT creator Sue Johnson's concept of "demon dialogues," or the choreography we tend to fall in to when fighting or arguing with a partner. We'll cover some common dialogues, as well as methods on how to break out of the choreographic cycle and communicate better. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory...

We're joined by Jessica Fern, author of the upcoming book Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Non-monogamy. She is also a psychotherapist, public speaker, and relationship and trauma specialist, and this week she's talking with us about trauma and attachment theories, as well as strategies for gaining more secure attachments. Learn more about Jessica and her work at www.jessicafern.com, or email her at connect@jessicafern.com...

Whew, that's a lotta P's! After many discussions inspired by our solo polyamory episode a few weeks ago, we decided to revisit the topics of hierarchy and priority. Some people insist that a primary/secondary hierarchy is the only that works for long-term polyamory. After all, if you want a house, kids, and any other number of long-term relationship milestones, most people choose to do that with a single, primary partner...