On Sex, Love, and Addiction, Dr. Rob Weiss, sex therapist and author of a dozen books on sex and relationship healing, interviews global experts like Dr’s. Sue Johnson, Harville Hendrix, Dr. Stan Tatkin, and Helen Fisher, Dr. Kenneth Adams among others. This podcast features robust discussions focused on healing from chronic infidelity, cheating, porn, and sex addiction, along with the pain of relationship betrayal. Dr. Rob is Chief Clinical Officer for Seeking integrity Treatment Centers. He is a 30-year licensed therapist, a Ph.D. sexologist, and author Sex Addiction 101, Prodependence, and Out of the Doghouse, among other books. This podcast is dedicated to bringing information, advice, and direction from experts around the world to those seeking answers to some of life’s most challenging questions.
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Part 1: Dr. Jessica Higgins: How Do You Learn to Forgive?
After a huge betrayal, it can be nearly impossible to come back to the center and find forgiveness. Some couples are ready to move forward and to forgive, but they keep getting stuck in the negative patterns of their betrayal, hurt, and distrust. Is there a healthy way to move forward? Should you even forgive in the first place? Dr. Jessica Higgins is a licensed Psychologist with two graduate degrees in psychology. She explains how you can move through these emotions and reach a place of repair within your relationship in this week’s episode.
TAKEAWAYS:
[2:00] A little bit about Dr. Jessica.
[4:55] How do you help someone find peace after a deep betrayal?
[8:45] There is no guarantee around not being betrayed.
[10:35] It’s a different feeling when someone shows up to the relationship with intentionally vs. passivity.
[14:00] How do you move a couple forward from being stuck in a place of anger?
[18:45] Would it be helpful for the addict to explain their childhood to their partner?
[23:35] When will the betrayed spouse forgive me?
[25:40] Some people feel like if they remain resentful, they’re teaching the other person a lesson.
RESOURCES:
Sex and Relationship Healing
@RobWeissMSW
Sex Addiction 101
Seeking Integrity
Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men
Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency
Out of the Doghouse by Robert Weiss
Drjessicahiggins.com
QUOTES:
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“A lot of spouses are looking for a guarantee. What you’re doing [today] isn’t really real and I want you to prove it.”
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“There is a part of me that really wants to trust you and feel like I’m not managing you.”
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“There are 350 definitions of forgiveness. There are some nuances and it can be hard to pin down what you’re dealing with.”