Note: This is an OG episode of BFTB. For some of my older episodes, I’ve decided to archive them and make them available only for Premium Submarines. Enjoy this throwback episode.Original episode description: If you identify with the symptoms of borderline personality disorder (also known as BPD or EUPD), it’s likely you’ve heard of “splitting.” Splitting is a defense mechanism that causes a person to view something or someone in ‘black and white’ terms (i.e., “all good” or “all bad.) This episode is part one in a three-part deep dive series on BPD splitting behaviors. If you identify with BPD, it’s likely you’re not conscious of when you’re splitting or why it happens. This can be a very painful and isolating experience. By listening to this series, you'll finally become aware of these self-sabotaging patterns and become better connected to yourself and those around you...
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shame series part 2: when toxic shame becomes who you are
What is this sneaky, yet destructive thing called toxic shame, and could it be the root cause of our continued suffering and emotional dysregulation? Toxic shame lies at the heart of most self-sabotaging behaviors that keep us feeling empty, unfulfilled, and disconnected from others. Signs of internalized toxic shame can manifest in various ways and differ from person to person. Persistent feelings of unworthiness, negative self-talk, perfectionism, fear of vulnerability and intimacy, difficulty setting boundaries, chronic self-consciousness, avoidant behaviors, negative body image, and emotional instability can all be indicators of toxic shame.
This is part two in a multi-episode series aimed at helping you alchemize and transmute your toxic shame. Check out the time stamps below for a more detailed description of the topics covered in this episode.
00:00 – 05:56: Reflections from part one
05:56 – 11:06: Why discuss toxic shame?
11:06 – 16:50: Shame and guilt in neurosis
16:50 – 28:52: How childhood shame shapes adult identity
28:52 – 33:03: Understanding traumatic shame and abandonment
33:03 – 37:47: How toxic shame disconnects and freezes you out from your own needs and desires
37:47 – 46:42: How self-shaming = self-alienation
46:42 – 49:02: Toxic shame as the core of codependency
49:02 – 52:18: Toxic shame as related to BPD or ‘borderline personality disorder’
52:18 – 59:19: The role of toxic shame in addiction
59:19 – 01:10:11: How are guilt and toxic shame related?
PREMIUM | 01:10:19 – 01:37:32: My Stupid Walk for My Stupid Mental Health – “Out of My Head and Into My Body”
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