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“Harriet B. Braiker identified the following ways that manipulators control their victims:[32] Positive reinforcement: includes praise, superficial charm, superficial sympathy (crocodile tears), excessive apologizing, money, approval, gifts, attention, facial expressions such as a forced laugh or smile, and public recognition. Negative reinforcement: involves removing one from a negative situation as a reward. Gaslighting. Intermittent or partial reinforcement: Partial or intermittent negative reinforcement can create an effective climate of fear and doubt. Partial or intermittent positive reinforcement can encourage the victim to persist. Punishment: includes nagging, yelling, the silent treatment, intimidation, threats, swearing, emotional blackmail, guilt trips, sulking, crying, and playing the victim. Traumatic one-trial learning: using verbal abuse, explosive anger, or other intimidating behavior to establish dominance or superiority; even one incident of such behavior can condition or train victims to avoid upsetting, confronting or contradicting the manipulator. According to Braiker, manipulators exploit the following vulnerabilities (buttons) that may exist in victims:[32] the desire to please addiction to earning the approval and acceptance of others emotophobia (fear of negative emotion; i.e. a fear of expressing anger, frustration or disapproval) lack of assertiveness and ability to say no blurry sense of identity (with soft personal boundaries) low self-reliance external locus of control Manipulators can have various possible motivations, including but not limited to:[32] the need to advance their own purposes and personal gain at (virtually any) cost to others a strong need to attain feelings of power and superiority in relationships with others - compare megalomania (associated with, for example, narcissistic personality disorder)[33] a want and need to feel in control a desire to gain a feeling of power over others in order to raise their perception of self-esteem furtherance of cult dynamics in recruiting or retaining followers[34] boredom, or growing tired of one's surroundings; seeing manipulation as a game more than hurting others covert agendas, criminal or otherwise, including financial manipulation (often seen when intentionally targeting the elderly or unsuspecting, unprotected wealthy for the sole purpose of obtaining victims' financial assets) not identifying with underlying emotions (including experiencing commitment phobia), and subsequent rationalization (offenders do not manipulate consciously, but rather try to convince themselves of the invalidity of their own emotions) lack of self-control over impulsive and anti-social behaviour - leading to pre-emptive or reactionary manipulation to maintain image.” --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/antonio-myers4/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/antonio-myers4/support