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“Rule 4: Check In Regularly The best way to ensure that all parties are comfortable with any sexual activity is to talk about it, check in periodically, and make sure everyone involved consents before escalating or changing activities. Boundaries can change over time as you grow and experience new things. So what was okay recently, may not be okay today or tomorrow. You can withdraw consent at any point if you feel uncomfortable. One way to do this is to clearly communicate to your partner that you are no longer comfortable with this activity and wish to stop. Withdrawing consent can sometimes be challenging or difficult to do verbally, so non-verbal cues can also be used to convey this. That’s where the next rule becomes really important. Rule 5: Respect Each Other Respect is about honoring one another’s boundaries. Enthusiastic consent is a model for understanding consent that focuses on a positive expression of consent. Simply put, enthusiastic consent means looking for the presence of a “yes” rather than the absence of a “no.” Enthusiastic consent can be expressed verbally or through nonverbal cues, such as positive body language like smiling, maintaining eye contact, and nodding. These cues alone do not necessarily represent consent, but they are additional details that may reflect consent. It is necessary, however, to still seek verbal confirmation. The important part of consent, enthusiastic or otherwise, is checking in with your partner regularly to make sure that they are still on the same page. Enthusiastic consent can look like: Asking permission before you change the type or degree of sexual activity with phrases like “Is this OK?” Confirming that there is reciprocal interest before initiating any physical touch. Letting your partner know that it's okay to stop at any time. Periodically checking in with your partner, such as asking “Is this still okay?” Accepting an answer of “no” without asking again Providing positive feedback when you’re comfortable with an activity. Explicitly agreeing to certain activities, either by saying “yes” or another affirmative statement, like “I’m open to trying.” Using physical cues to let the other person know you’re comfortable taking things to the next level (see note below). Consent does NOT look like: Refusing to acknowledge “no” A partner who is disengaged, nonresponsive, or visibly upset Assuming that wearing certain clothes, flirting, or kissing is an invitation for anything more Someone being under the legal age of consent, as defined by the state Someone being incapacitated because of drugs or alcohol Pressuring someone into sexual activity by repeatedly asking or using fear, intimidation, or coercion. Assuming you have permission to engage in a sexual act because you’ve done it in the past Physiological responses like an erection, lubrication, arousal, or orgasm are involuntary, meaning your body might react one way even when you are not consenting to the activity. Sometimes perpetrators will use the fact that these physiological responses occur to maintain secrecy or minimize a survivor's experience by using phrases such as, "You know you liked it." In no way does a physiological response mean that you consented to what happened. If you have been sexually abused or assaulted, it is not your fault.” -RAINN Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network.) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/antonio-myers4/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/antonio-myers4/support