Note: This is an OG episode of BFTB. For some of my older episodes, I’ve decided to archive them and make them available only for Premium Submarines. Enjoy this throwback episode.Original episode description: If you identify with the symptoms of borderline personality disorder (also known as BPD or EUPD), it’s likely you’ve heard of “splitting.” Splitting is a defense mechanism that causes a person to view something or someone in ‘black and white’ terms (i.e., “all good” or “all bad.) This episode is part one in a three-part deep dive series on BPD splitting behaviors. If you identify with BPD, it’s likely you’re not conscious of when you’re splitting or why it happens. This can be a very painful and isolating experience. By listening to this series, you'll finally become aware of these self-sabotaging patterns and become better connected to yourself and those around you...
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the hidden toll: carrying the mental load in relationships [preview]
Join me for an exclusive preview of another premiun episode of Back from the Borderline, as we delve into the often invisible world of 'mental load' in relationships. Listener Geneva shares her decade-long journey with a partner, revealing a common yet seldom discussed challenge: the burden of silently managing everything. Her story is not unique but reflects a deeper, more pervasive issue many face. We explore the depths of why we sometimes take on more than our share, leading to a cycle of overextension, passive-aggressiveness, and resentment. This isn't just about dividing chores; it's about the unseen emotional labor and mental gymnastics that can quietly erode relationships and well-being.
Geneva's experience raises essential questions about emotional boundaries and the complex dynamics in relationships, especially for those dealing with intense emotions and fears of abandonment. How does this overextension serve as a mask, hiding deeper issues of self-worth and relational stability? In addressing these themes, we also introduce the 'Fair Play' method – a potential game-changer in rebalancing the scales of relationship responsibilities and emotional labor. This approach is about more than just fairness; it’s a journey towards mutual understanding, respect, and deeper emotional connections.
Join me in this thought-provoking episode as we navigate the realms of psychology and personal relationships, offering insights and tools for anyone who's felt the weight of doing it all. This is more than just a discussion; it's a path to emotional alchemy and transformative healing.
RESOURCES:
✧ Fair Play by Eve Rodsky
✧ Time Out: A Fair Play Podcast
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