On Sex, Love, and Addiction, Dr. Rob Weiss, sex therapist and author of a dozen books on sex and relationship healing, interviews global experts like Dr’s. Sue Johnson, Harville Hendrix, Dr. Stan Tatkin, and Helen Fisher, Dr. Kenneth Adams among others. This podcast features robust discussions focused on healing from chronic infidelity, cheating, porn, and sex addiction, along with the pain of relationship betrayal. Dr. Rob is Chief Clinical Officer for Seeking integrity Treatment Centers. He is a 30-year licensed therapist, a Ph.D. sexologist, and author Sex Addiction 101, Prodependence, and Out of the Doghouse, among other books. This podcast is dedicated to bringing information, advice, and direction from experts around the world to those seeking answers to some of life’s most challenging questions.
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Part 1: Porn, What’s The Big Deal? with Dr. Sandra Shachar
Sandra A. Shachar, Ph.D., is a Licensed Psychologist in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, and has over thirty years of clinical experience working with individuals, couples and families affected by Betrayal Trauma. She is also the author of The Porn Solution, which dives into the world of betrayal through porn use and what partners can do to navigate themselves through it. In this episode, Dr. Sandra talks about the definition of betrayal, why porn affects so many people, and why it’s okay to ask for your needs to be met.
TAKEAWAYS:
[3:20] Is porn cheating?
[3:55] Why did Dr. Sandra write the book, The Porn Solution?
[7:10] What is the definition of a betrayal?
[12:05] Porn, what’s the big deal? I’m not cheating on you!
[18:10] Why does porn betrayal affect women so deeply?
[22:35] How can we regain a partner’s trust after a betrayal?
[24:30] You have a right to ask for your needs to be met. It’s okay to have needs!
[29:15] What is a problem for one person, is a problem for both people.
[29:55] Porn isn’t the issue, it’s the trust!
RESOURCES:
Sex and Relationship Healing
@RobWeissMSW
Sex Addiction 101
Seeking Integrity
Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men
Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency
Out of the Doghouse by Robert Weiss
Drsandrashachar.com
Dr. Sandra on LinkedIn
The Porn Solution
QUOTES:
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“When I talk to spouses about their experience of whether porn felt like a betrayal to the relationship, we got up to 80%. We have a population of female spouses who say it’s a big deal.”
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“It’s not the act of what you’re doing specifically, it’s the deception. It’s what you’ve hidden me that constitutes as the betrayal.”
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“It makes absolute sense why you’re reacting the way you are. This is normal under these abnormal circumstances.”